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daily nebraskan
friclay, march 20, 1981
Speaker: Women must learn to accept power
By Beth I lead rick
The fears and insecurities, as well as the advantages of
accepting personal power as a tool was the topic of a
speech delivered Thursday to about 1 00 women at the Ne
braska Center for Continuing Education.
As part of a program sponsored by UNL's Small
Business Center. Marge Rossman, president of Women's
Inc. said the National Association of Women Business
Owners, said her personal experiences led her to be con
sultant for women in managerial positions.
Women may be assertive and they may be talented,
Rossman said, but women won't be successful until they
learn to accept the personal power that comes with
success.
Part of the reason women are frightened of personal
power is that their upbringings haven't prepared them to
take risks, to compete and to demand more, she said.
Nine years ago, Rossman said, she hit the corporate
trail with a liberal arts degree in hand. After trying to sell
herself as managerial material with great potential, she
said, the inevitable question was asked: "I low fast can
you type?"
Rossman 's theory follows along the lines of "nothing
Food stamps . . .
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Stillman and Raines said that having cars helped them
to shop for food bargains al several grocery stores, but
that poor people wouldn't be able to shop.
"I also found I couldn't shop in bulk." Stillman said,
because she didn't have enough to buy the large quantities
that are usually cheaper.
"You can't take advantage of the sales." she said. "I
thought of how often people look in people's food basket
when they know they receive food stamps."
risked, nothing gained."
"Anytime you take a risk, you build confidence, and
the only way you'll build confidence is from taking risks."
she said.
This cycle. Rossman said, provides a woman with the
personal power she needs to be effective.
Rossman defined personal power as the ability to with
hold something someone else wants or needs. Power
can only be given, she said, it can't be taken.
If women don't strike out into the unknown of risk
taking, they can't get ahead in the business world, she
said. Unfortunately, as girls growing up, they are not
expected to take risks or be rewarded for doing so.
When women aren't rewarded for competing, for testing
themselves, this breeds fear. Rossman said.
The fear that women feel entering the business world is
not the fear of failure, Rossman said, but the fear ot
success.
Women experience conflict if they stand to gain per
sonal power or success, .he said. The conflict lies between
the need for success and the need to be accepted in the
traditional feminine role. Rossman said.
When a woman is personally powerful she may not gain
approval. Rossman said. This is an anathema to most
Raines said she spent $60 to $65 a week on food. Still
man said she usually spent $55 a week on food for her
family. The Stillinans have two young children at home.
"I was getting further and further behind." Stillman
said. "The next week I would be back in the same rut."
They said their families ate less meal, fresh fruits and
vegetables.
"We will have a good dinner tonight," Raines said. Her
daughter wants to have steak, she said.
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women, who are generally raised to seek approval and to
be liked, she said.
When men demonstrate personal power they are
called incisive, decisive a leader, she said. Women are
called argumentative, bracn a broad, Rossman added.
"Having personal power doesn't mean you're going to
be loved," she said.
One of the ways women can accept personal power
more easily is to get used to not having everybody like
them. Rossman said.
Because of the ways women are socialized, they start
out at a disadvantage, she said. But these are starting-line
differences only. As more women get into the game the
rules will change and there will be more successful role
models for other women, Rossman added.
Organizations were made by men for men. she said,
and it's hard for women to be accepted as equals. But the
alternative to striving for power is passivity, which she
called a greater hardship.
The politics of organizations arc neutral. Rossman said.
Politics aren't good or bad. but are a system made up by
people. When more women get off the sidelines and parti
cipate. Rossman said, they'll have more power to change
things for other women.
Food, said the proposed food stamp budget cuts would
hurt poor people.
Hangar said he disputed whether President Reagan
was actually leaving a safety net for the "truly needy"
when he proposes to cut food stamps, aid for dependent
children and other programs to help poor people.
"The poor are not going to be saved by that net," he
said. "It's kicking people who don't need to be kicked
any more."
Charges dropped
in trespass case
Charges have been dropped against a I'NL student
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accused ol iirst-ucjiec cinniiu
Bocshai t . deputy couni attorney.
Boeshart said (ireg Downing is being considered for the
county's pretrial diversion program, lie said the charges
have been dismissed pending a final decision to admit
Downing to the program.
Boeshart said a decision should he made in about three
to lour weeks.
DowniiiL' and .uilion k.'lk weix
passing at Abel Hall on Jan. 31
innocent at their arraignment on I eb.5.
Boeshart said il Downing is admitted
the charges would not be re 11 led. lie said they probably
would be re Hied if Downing was not admitted to the pro
gram. The pretrial diversion program would involve about six
to eight months of some community service, he said.
Boeshart said a decision has not yet been made on
Kellev 's case.
accused ol nes
. Both pleaded
to the program.
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