friday, febniary 29, 1980
daily nebraskan
page 5
Is. there hyphenation after marriage?
ound names are nothing new, women say
Comp
By Mary Jo Pitzl
If one is to believe the modern poets, marriage is the
start of a new adventure-a new life for the couple
involved. v
Traditionally for American women, that new life has
included a new name as "Mary Smith' dropped out of
existence in deference to "Mrs, John Doe."
But pride in one's maiden name and a sense of losing
identity-be it personal or professional -has led to the
hyphenated name, that compound moniker that often
takes more than one breath to spit out, won't fit on many
conventional forms and raises eyebrows among
traditionalists.
But several Lincoln women contacted said they see
nothing revolutionary about their new" names and said
any hassles they may have encountered because of it are
worth the trouble.
Retaining one's maiden name in other countries is not
as unusual a practice as it is in America, according to
Violet Kalyan-Masih, associate", professor of human
development and the family,
Women recognized
If she had been married in her native India, for
example, there wouldn't have been any problem keeping
her maiden name, Kalyan-Masih said.
"Educated women there are professionally recognized
and they have no problem,'' she said. "Educated women
have to struggle for recognition in America."
Dalia Katilius-Boydstun, who was born in Lithuania,
agreed, saying northern European women do not sacrifice
, their professional identities when they marry,
; A blend of . feminist, family and ethnic reasons
motivated the assistant professor of psychology to retain
her maiden name (Katilius) when she married in 1975.
Her hyphenated surname carries her family name -she is
an only child-reflects her Lithuanian heritage and shows
her married status as well.
Katilius-Boydstun didn't make the shift to
hyphenation alone. Her husband Marvin, an English
instructor, had his name legally changed before their
marriage and now carries his wife's maiden name as well.
No banner-waving
"It's just something we wanted to do," she said,
explaining that no banner-waving was intended by
compounding their names.
However, questions do arise and their students are
among the most inquisitive, she said.
"It's more common for students or other friends to use
one or the other halves of the name when addressing us,"
she said. - -
But Mrs. Katilius-Boydstun said she insists on using her
full name,
"How would you like to be named Johnson and have
people call you 'John'?" she asked,
- Re-adopted maiden name
Being called a name other than her given one bothered
Mary Ann Cassatt-Dunn to the point that she finally re
adopted her maiden name. h
A rehabilitation coordinator who works locally on a
consulting basis, Cassatt-Dunn said she had . already
established a strong professional identity when she
married.
After living 13 years as "Mrs. Dunn" and not Working
for a couple of years, "I had lost a lot of my own
identity "she said,
Fey: more students report vandalism
Students increasingly are reporting vandalism when
they see it, according to Bob Fey, UNL Police
investigator. '
'Teople are getting tired of having to pay for senseless
damages," Fey said.
He said 300. cases of vandalism were reported in 1979
and total damage was estimated at $22,000, Nearly half
of that amount resulted in direct loss to students, faculty
and staff. The other half was a loss to UNL itself, Fey
Said.' ; . .' V ; '
"We end up paying for it all anyway," Fey said, adding
that there were 24 reported cases of vandalism in the first
three weeks of February. -
Fey said much vandalism could be prevented because
most occurs when several people are present or are gather
ed in a group,
"If even one person would tell the potential offender
not to do it, or try to suggest an alternative way to vent
his anger and frustrations, the crime might be stopped,"
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Fey also said that if anyone knows who might be
responsible for a particular crime, he or she is welcome
to come to the police station and discuss it,
He explained that many cases, whether they are theft,
burglary, arson or vandalism, are solved through
information obtained from members of the community.
Fey commented that "no law enforcement agency is so
effective that it can successfully reduce crime without the
active assistance of the community."
According to Capt. Bob Edmunds, students have a
higher tendency to report incidents of vandalism than do
other members of the community.
"Students don't have all kinds of money," Edmunds
said, 'They realize that their tuition and tax dollars all go
into the cost of replacing or fixing the damaged items,"
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A move to Lincoln several years ago provided a
convenient' opportunity to change her name, a change she
made so subtly that her husband didn't even know for
awhile.
"It came as quite a shock to him the first time he saw
it (her hyphenated name) in print," Cassatt-Dunn said.
She said reactions to her name change have ranged
from delight on the part of her parents to bewilderment
among professional colleagues.
Getting divorce?
Since both she and her husband Dennis are counselors,
they often share the same friends and activities. Once,
while attending a national convention, Mrs. Cassett-Dunn
said friends asked if she was getting a divorce.
The changed name, plus the fact she no longer wears a
wedding band-it had to be tut off-made it hard to con.
vince others she and her husband were not splitting, she
said.
Cindy Steinhoff-Drake, assistant librarian at the
Nebraska State Historical Society, had a different reason
than the others for keeping her maiden name . -
"I thought it would be better for myself to keep my
maiden name because I didn't have a middle name," she
said. "I've always regretted it. Since my father only has
two daughters, I've decided to keep my maiden name."
Steinhoff-Drake said her husband was not too happy
at first with her name change, but eventually accepted it.
No technical problems
Kathy Brzezinski-Stein, a counselor with the Counsel
ing Center, said adding her husband's name to hers at
marriage posed no technical problems. There is no legal
process involved, she said. She simply had to notify the
Social Security administration of her new name and apply
for a new driver's license.
Brzezinski-Stein said her husband had no objection to
her decision and reaction from her relatives was pleasantly
surprising.
She said she often introduces herself simply as "Mrs.
Stein" because "Brzezinski is a bit unmanageable for some
people."
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