thursday, October 5, 1978 daily nebraskan page 11 Speaker: women executives cut their own throats By Mary Jo Howe It's a managerial meeting at a large corporation. Six men and one woman, all managers of equal rank, sit around a conference table with their briefcases before them. One of the men turns to the woman manager and sweetly says, "Kathy, as long as you're here, why don't you take notes?" The "assistant" or "secretary" role is just one that women managers often are pushed into, according to Dalia Katilius-Boydstun, a psychology department in structor and former personnel manager for Armour-Dial, Co. in Chicago. Katilius-Boydstun discussed pitfalls for women execu tives in large corporations Wednesday in the Nebraska Union. Her talk was third in the WomenSpeak series sponsored by the Student Y. Corporations still are male-oriented but women execu tives shouldn't place all the blame for their problems there, Katilius-Boydstun said. In fact, she said, "Women often cut their own throats." Perpetuate sex roles During her years as a woman manager she said she has observed many women perpetuating sex roles. 'The woman manager is unique. She is often the only one in her organization, so she feels lonely. She has no camaradene with the filists or the typists or the book keepers. Neither is she totally accepted by her peers." The woman manager still wants to be considered attractive and receive attention, but she often gets the wrong kind of attention, Katilius-Boydstun said. Some women try to become one of the boys, she said. Male executives make many decisions on the golf course, in the bathroom and over drinks in a bar. But if the woman insists on joining in those situa tions, she is risking gossip, Kotilius-Boysdstun said. Men are even more sensitive to gossip and won't try to include the woman for fear of angering their wives, she said . So the woman not only misses out on vital informa tion and decision -making, but also the feeling of camaradie with her peers. "I have no solution to this problem," Katilius-Boydstun said. But it is possible for a woman to be a good manager and maintain her feminity. Labels are common Some common pitfalls for a woman include becoming labeled as a militant, sexy broad, little girl, kook, mother, or castrated female. The woman manager needs to be rational, decisive, directive, able to control and lead. FREE ADMISSION with this COUPON Good thru Oct. 15, 1978 Void On Special Nights 72 & Pacific Omaha j M'T , 4 r. 4 PI V 1' v i , nF 'ruff i V 1, A ' 4 J. - mm' - WNfi V rfc ' J . Photo by Bob Pearson 1 Dahlia Katilius-Boydstun, psychology department professor, discussed pitfalls for woman executives in large corporations Wednesday in the Nebraska Union in the third part of the Student Y Women Speak series. But sometimes, young women especially, can rarry these qualities too far and become militant' , Ka ilius Boydstun said. They are socially -aware woine-i .iware of the injustices of the male-oriented society, and tend to lay blanket accusations on the entire male sex rather than singling out one person. This forces the men to band together and defend each other, hurting office inter personal relations, she said. On the other hand, Katilius-Boydstun said women will go along with sex roles just because its easier than resist ing. The "sexy broad" is often an inevitable development, she said, adding that while flirtation appears whenever men and women get together, women should not yield to it. Branded in role "The office is a great place for gossip and once a woman gives into the role, she is branded" Some women fall into the 'little girl" role, playing up their helplessness, so men will help her, she continued, criticizing such manipulation of emotions. "Kooks" will even dress strangely, and make bizarre comments to gain attention, she said. Older women managers easily slip into the role of "mother" of the office. They are kind and supportive, and men come to them with their problems. But they won't follow "mothers" orders when she tries to exert her managerial powers, Katilius-Boydstun explained. The "castrated woman" becomes manlike, she said. She is rational, tough and refuses to be pushed around. She has completely rejected the woman stereotype in order to be a manager, she said. mwmm Quality of Product Quality of Life The TOTAL Fluke Package Engineering design excellence at John Fluke Company means more to us than providing an environment of recognized pro fessionalism. Our major asset is our people, like you, that want and get immediate "Hands-On" design responsibility - people that are expected to make significant contributions to our continued rapid growth. 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