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Assertivenei
Wednesday, march 15, 1978
Steve loaned his typewriter to a friend.
When it was returned broken, he did not
know how to tactfully ask for reimburse
ment. Sue's roommate was not doing her share
of the cleaning and housework. But Sue
was afraid to approach her about it.
Steve and Sue (not their real names) are
two people who have participated in asscr
tiveness training groups at the University
Counseling Center during the past three
years.
Being assertive, according to Sue
Bukacek, a counselor and leader of a group
this semester, is "being as direct and as
open as possible, while at the same time
taking the other person's rights into
account."
Bukacek said aggressiveness, as opposed
to asscrtiveness, is acting without consider
ation of others and their rights.
Awareness of this difference is the first
step of the eight-week training session,
Bukacek said. The group meets for about
two hours each week.
During the first several sessions, the
groups discuss these differences and iden
tify people's rights.
Many people do not realize that they
have "a right to say 4no"' or a "right to ask
for help," she said.
After these intial discussions, the group
works on individual problems. In
Three seminars to feature
pointers on the job market
Three seminars titled "How to Market
Yourself-Facts or Fantasies" are being
offered March 22 and 29 and April 5 by
the Division of Continuing Studies for
people looking for self-improvement or
help in entering the job market.
The first seminar, "Personal Assess
ment," will deal with resume preparation.
The second seminar, "Written Communi
cation," will describe techniques for
writing the application letter which accom
panies the resume. Other types of letters
also will be discussed.
"The Job Interview" is scheduled for
April 5. Depending on attendance, it will
offer mock interviews, videotaped inter
views and interview evaluations.
Lecturers include Frank Hallgren, direc
tor of Career Planning and Placement;
Anne Johnson, coordinator of the College
of Agriculture employment seminar and
Al Witte, associate professor of electrical
engineering.
Hallgren said, "It's important how a
person presents himself in a job inter
view. All along the way, people are going
to have to renegotiate themselves when
changing jobs."
He added that the seminars are inter
related. A person "needs to attend all
three to find it productive," he said.
The seminars will be from 7 to 9 p.m.
each night in the Hastings Room of the
Nebraska Center for Continuing Education.
The cost is $20.
Those wishing to preregister should
contact the Nebraska Center for Contin
uing Education, 472-1744.
Fire station awaits approval
A proposed fire station in the South
west Lincoln area has an even chance of re
ceiving city council approval, accord
ing to Lincoln's fire chief.
Dallas Johnson said the proposed
station, to be located on city property
on Coddington Street between A
Street and West Arlington Avenue, is
needed because the area is more than
two miles from the nearest fire station.
txisting stations at 17th and Van
Dorn streets and Second and M streets
are more than the "reasonable run dis
tance" of two miles, Johnson said. The
area also is building up quickly, Johnson
said, necessitating increased fire protection.
Johnson also said increasing traffic on
north-south railroad tracks presents the
possibility of fire units being held up by
passing trains.
"We are addressing the problem before
it occurs," Johnson said of the railroad
corssings, explaining that units have not
yet been delayed by trains.
The plans also call for a mini-park and a
city library to be built on the site. John
son said.
A request for $202,000, the estimated
construction cost of the building, was
made March 1 before the City-County
Planning Commission. If included in Mayor
Helen Boosalis' budget, the Lincoln City
Council will make a final decision on the
request later this year.
Johnson said he expects no opposition
from the council.
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Bukacek 's group, each person develops a
contract for the entire session and a con
tract for each week.
For example, a shy person might resolve
to become involved in two new organiza
tions. A one-week goal might be to meet
and initiate a conversation with three
new people.
Every week, the person reports to the
group any problems, difficulties or
rewards.
Often after setting a goal and before at
tempting to fulfill it, an individual prac
tices before a videotape machine. Fellow
members, play the role of the strangers the
shy person tries to talk with.
Although the machine is-scary at first,
Bukacek said, the results are helpful.
They see themselves and say, "Hey, I
didn't look so bad," or "I didn't know that
I wring my hands like that."
The fear also subsides, she said, because
the members "start supporting each
other."
"You realize that the others are not
going to laugh at you. You realize that you
really aren't so terrible," Bukacek
explained.
Bukacek said the result of the AT
groups have been good. The groups have
been organized every semester for the past
three years. Evaluations by members after
the groups have ended have been suppor
tive and encouraging, said Bukacek.
Some members have been disappointed
in the past, she said, because they find they
are unable to discuss such things as how to
talk intimately with a boyfriend.
Bukacek said it is important to "start
small and build." The members have to
"set priorities and realize the limits to what
they can do."
Besides realizing immediate goals,
Bukacek said the training can generalize
to everyday life.
"It is something that they can take and
use as long as they want to," she said.
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