The Omaha guide. (Omaha, Neb.) 1927-19??, March 24, 1945, Page 2, Image 2
A HUMAN RELATION COLUMN WHEREIN THE TROUBLED IN MIND AND HEART CAN SEEK COUNSEL AND GUIDANCE Not*:—Don't worry needlessly . . . when your mind is weighted down with worry and you feel the need of guidance, and the counsel of an understanding friend please write. Your problem will be analyzed in the paper free . . . just include a dipping of the column with your letter. For a “private reply" send 25c for ABBE’S 1944 INSPIRATIONAL READING. With each Reading, you will receive free a personal letter of sound and constructive advice analyzing three (9) ques tions. Please send a stamped (3c) envelope for your confidential reply, and sign your full name, address and birthdate to all letters. Explain your case fully confine your problems within the realm of reason. Writ* to . . . THE ABBE* WALLACE SERVICE POST OFFICE BOX II —» ATLANTA. GEORGIA ABBE’S NEW IMS READINGS ARE NOW READY M. M. B.—Through a relative of{ mine in the Pacific a soldier whom I have never seen started writing me. That was nearly 8 months a go. He has sent 2 nice photographs of himself. Recently 1 read in a magazine how bad it was for a girl to correspond with a stranger and I am ready to stop corresponding with him if it is the thing to do. Must I write and tell him why 1 refuse to answer his letters which are awful nice or just refuse to answer without his knowing why? Ans: Whether you realize it or not, your letters have been a great source of inspiration to this young man and to stop them suddenly would be very depressing to him. A correspondence of this nature, should never, under any circum stances, be taken too seriously by either party. The only motive should be to boost morale, and to give as much pleasure as possible without committing yourself one way or the other. After all your relative respected him, else he would not have given him your ad dress. There can be nothing wrong with your writing this boy as long as you keep your letters on a friend ly basis provided it meets with the approval of your parents. Ret this be the exception rather than the rule.don’t encourage correspond ence of this kind in the future, but since you are already writing this young man, continue on and do not let him down while he is out of the country. MSW—I am 18 years old and have been married for two years. ] don’t love my husband. I am in love with someone else. The pers on I love is very lazy and he does not like to work. But I love him very much. Please write and tell me what to do in the column. Ans: If yon give up your present husband for an irresponsible, shiftless man who tells you frankly that he dislikes work and all It stands for you would be letting yourself in for untold misery. How llliiiiiiimtiimiiiiniiuimaii ... >— ■■ ■ • " ■ ■ —-— long do you think you could hold his love if your pay check were to suddenly stop? His love would cease at the same time. Its unfor tunate that you have become involv ed in an affair of this kind during your husband's absence. Be the woman tlmt your husband believes you to be—loyal, true and able to resist such cheap temptations. MMH.—I see where you have help ed many people. I am a young widow and I don't like to stay long in any one place. I have planned a trip to Chicago. Do you think I could go there and settle and would 1 be able to make it allright? Ans: The recent tragedy which made you a widow is forcing you into a period of readjustment and unrest. That alone is reason for you not feeling satisfied and con tented in any one place. Go to the city ifyou feel you can find your place in life there. The excitement and activities of the city will prob ably fill this gap quicker than the solitude of your present environ ment. CM.—Please put my problem in the paper right away as I am very anxious to know the answer. X met a fellow and he has a good job. He claims that he has saved a good bit of money too. He is talking of getting married. I wish to know if 1 should marry him and would every day be like Sunday if I did marry him? Ans: No.there would be an old blue Monday in every week follow ed by five more ordinary days. No marriage is a perpetual honeymoon and you shouldn’t go Into It w'lth this thought in mind. It's the ob stacles and upsets in marriage that tends to adds zest to life and brings couples closer- together. If you are sufficiently in love with this boy to consider marriage, there is no reason why you shouldn’t look forward to a happy life with him. iiiiiiiiimiiitiiiiiiiiiiiaiiiiiiiiiiiiiianiiki A News Lettei _from WAVERLY ROOT _ One Month to San Francisco I suppose readers get awfully tired of finding little except crit icism in this News Letter week after week. I know I get awfully tired of writing it. I sometimes wonder if the fact that I see many more clouds than silver linings is not due to a natural pessimism, to aii innate tendency to "view with alarm." But analysis convinces me that, unfortunately, there are more clouds than silver linings. Moreover, what silver linings there are have been perceived so long ago by those of any vision that there doesn't seem to be much point in cheering them when they finally arrive, long overdue. Take the Yalta communique. It would be possible, of course, to give the major part of the limited amount of space available to discuss it, to praising its indisputable achievements--closer military coop eration among the three powers, the terms established for the peace with Germany, the calling of a United Natians conference. But all of these things, the press had been demand ing for three years. They should have been accomplished in, say, 1942 instead of 1945. I could even make out a good case for the thesis that the calling of the United Nat ions conference now, particularly because of some Of the circumstan ces (Insistence on acceptance of the Dumbarton Oaks principles and the admission of countries which have not earned their seats at the council table) is too late to serve the purpose for which such a meet ing has been desired in the past three years. Not only is the tendency to put emphasis on the achievements of the Big Three conference combated ty the realization that those ach ievements were so long in coming that the reluctant "leaders" on whom they were forced hardly de deserve laurels for sapience or vis ion, but the urgencies of the mo ment obviously make it more im portant to concentrate on what is not yet satisfactory instead of what is. Given, let us say, one column of space, what is more important for the commentator to do with it--be stow praise upon the finished work of the past (which has, perhaps* beenfinished precisely because he and others had hammered away at its necessity before it was complet ed) or turn his energies to attack ing what is still unsatisfactory and urgently demands rectification? Sometimes the difference between the politicians and the critics who are so rarely able to find anything very good to say about the former seems to be chiefly a matter of tint ing. The critic gets the answer first, and by the time the politic ians has come up with it too, the critic is again a few jnmps ahead of him and again belaboring him for lack of foresight. Political solut ions are more or less imposed by events. The difference between good and bad political strategy may often be nothing more than a funct ion of the length of time it takes a given statesman, or a given admin istration, or a given nation, to dis cover which way events are tending It is no fun being right first. Cas sandra, as you recall, was both dis disbelieved and disliked. She was also right. To see a solution, or to describe correctly a situation, be fore the politicans have seen or un derstood means friction withoffic ialdom; and when it turns out that the critic has been right and offic ialdom has to accept his solution or his view, it is not usual for the politicians to remember that their critics were right. They remember only that they were irritating. Perhaps they recall, inwardly, that they were right also, and that only increases the irritation. I remember irritating a good many people at the time of Munich when I called it a sell-out and they called it the salvation of the peace , of the world. None of them have since admitted any error. In fact, they refer to Munich as a sell out themselves now and imply that they never felt otherwise about it. I was so unpopular with administration circles (though I was not anti- ad ministration myself) in the days when I was fighting Americ's anti de Gaulle policy on the grounds that he would inevitably win out. and that therefore America's wisest , policy would be to cooperate with him, not buck him, that my news ! paper column was thrown out of my best paper as a direct result of pressure from Washington. Today de Gaulle is, as predicted, running France, but the fact thet my advise ! was good has not impelled anyone in Washington to suggest to this paper, and one or two others which j acted similarly, that perhaps they ! should reconsider. Of course today I don't see precisely eye to eye with the official theses concerning the results likely to be attained by Dumbarton Oaks or the Yalta Con ference, which could account for that. It's a curious thing: politic ians are apt to be more hostile to criticism in their own camp than when it comes from with out. I hap pen to agree with the administrat ion on its announced goals. I just don't think it is heading towards them. But a suggestion that it get the magnet out of it's compass is resented much more bitterly than j the action of slipping one in. Holly- j wood isn't the only place that likes yes men. There is a meagre satisfaction to.! be gained from noting on minor points that one's suggestions, after being originally combated, are later quietly adopted. I forget how far back it weis that I nanoyed UNRRA officials after they had set to work to make plans for the repatriation of French prisoners and workmen on the basis of the necessity for taking three years to return them to their homes by saying that they might as well toss that program overboard because the French would walk home before they would wait three years. Remembering the way the French had provided road side feeding points and overnight shelters for the refugees who pour ed out of Belgium in 1940, I sug gested that if transportation was't going to be available for so long a period, UNRRA had better figure on walking the immigrants home and concentrate on handling them in this fashion on the w'ay. Last week the papers announced that UNRRA expected one-third of the deportees to walk home and would establish wayside canteens to accomodate them. The Army was a little tart also about suggestions that its feeding of German prisoners in France with such luxuries as chocolate and oranges which were not available for undernourished French children had serioue inconveniences. The ar gument was that the Geneva Con vention permitted nothing else. My suggestion was that German pris oners in France be transfered to French custody, when they would receive French rations instead of American ones, in complete com pliance with the Geneva Convent ion. I see now that is being done. The Uses of Criticism It is only sometimes by looking backward at the accumulation o* small and large issues, consistently resisted by officialdom, and consis tently proved right, that I succeed in resisting the tendency to close my eyes to the palpable errors of men of good intentions, and praise them for their intentions, refrain ing from criticizing the imperfect means selected to carry them out on the often accepted theory of giv ing them a chance to work out their ideas. The trouble is that the matters with which we are con cerned today are too important and eoo urgent to permit benevolence to stand in the way of giving warn ings. When examples of history shriek out that a certain course of action is dangerous because, often tried before, it has invariably given the same result and must therefore be expected to produce It again (as coalitions, of Big Threes or any athernumber, have invariably pro duced new wars,) how is It possiblei to remain silent? In my view, ac quiescence in an error made by those whose objectives are the same as your own is not “supporting” those men, in any real sense fo the word. Itis support to combat them when their errors are certain to lose their objectives and yours. If, therefore, some of my readers may think that I harp to constantly on the errors of the present Allied leaders, 1 can only answer that my convictions and my consciousness of the urgency of the moment do not permit me to do otherwise. Their tendencies have been consistent, and I have been consistent too. It would be pleasanter and more profitable not to be so, and if I renounced looking for the flaws, 1 should re main in more congenial company than I do when I find myself crit icizing the Big Three plans along with men like Burton Wheeler, with quite different motives. I am interested in getting rid of the bugs so that the objectives of establish ing universal democracy and inter national peace can be attained. Wheeler is interested in defeating the objectives. He may have noth ing against peace, except that he doesn't believe it can be attained, but he certainly doesn't want any genuine democracy even if, for political reasons, he does have to mouth the word very often. As I think it over, I am convin- i ced that what may appear my own j pessimistic attitude is actually the product of considerable optimism. I am fighting fora genuine world, government because I believe it ears be attained. The Big Three are shooting short of that mark because they don't believe it will work. I am in favor of going the whole hog in establishing democratic gov ernments because I trust peoples. | In Greece, Italy, France and else where, the democracies have shown that they don't. Their first concern has been to disarm the people— that is, the resistance movements— to end the direct exercise of the power by the people themselves. So I think I will remain a “per fectionist.” After all, there is re spectable precedent for it. One rea son why I believe in aiming now (if it is not already too late) for the maxium possible achievement is that I doubt if the nations will ever be convinced, except by the preas ure of immediate danger, of the necessity for pooling the national sovereignties whose clashes are a basic cause of war. Unfortunately, since international organization re mains largely a European question, Asia being in a lower stage of politicol development, the approach ing end of the European war has reduced the urgency and with it the likelihood that international unity can be achieved. It was exact ly this belief that inspired another perfectionist to oppose an imper fect solution at a time or urgency He argued that if the moment were permitted to pass without a com plete solution, if an imperfect an swer were allowed to crowd the perfect answer out, the passing of the urgency would end the oppor tunity for finding the right solut ion—an argument commended to the attention of those who say that we should be content to take Dumbar ton Oaks in its present form with the idea of amending it later. Ob viously, if there is not sufficient realization of peril in wartime to urge us to get it right now, there will not be enough in the laxer times of temporary peace to procure its amendment. But let me quote that other per fectionist, speaking in circumstan ces much like these: “Danger may spring from delay,” this perfectionist said to those who j wanted to let well enough alone. “The present temper of the states is friendly to the establishment of a lasting union: the moment should be improved; if suffered to pass away it may never return; and, after gloriously and successfuly contending against the usurpations of Britain, we may fall prey to our follies and disputes...A nominal head which at present is but another name for Congress, will no longer do. That honorable body must dictate, and not merely recommend." The author of those words was George Washington; and the result of the perfectionist attitude which . he expressed was the decision to re i place the 'Articles of Confederal ion and Perpetual Union”—the Dumbar ton Oaks plan of their day, a coali tion—with the Constitution of the Uunited States—a government. To day also the demand of interne* ional unity is for a body which will dictate and not merely recommend a government and not a coalition. A Suggestion I might point out that my var ious criticsm of governmental perr ies have not boen restricted to sair' 1 “Let's not do this/* but have alweys ; contained, either directly, or b"' im plication, the suggestion, “Let's do this.” Thus I didn't simply advocate getting rid of Darlan and, later, of Giraud, but of cooperating with de \ Gaulle. And in discussing the man ner in which both Dumbarton Oaks ind Yalta seemed to me to fall ■ short of what is needed, I have made it clear, I hope, sometimes by implication, in what direction they seem to require amendment to ful fill their aims. I have therefore never advocated simply rejecting Dumbarton Oaks> and leaving a vacuum where an in ternational organization should be I doubt, however, whether this would even be the result of a sim ple rejection of the Dumbarton Oaks formula and its consequent abandonment. For then there yvould still remain an international organ ization--the League of Nations. It is my personal opinion that the Dumbarton Oaks plan is a back ward step from the League of Nat- j ions. Even if their merits were equal, I believe ie would be prefer able to keep the League of Nations rather than to replace it by some thingelse, for this reason: if Ger many's attack is allowed to succed in one of its objectives, the distruct ion of this international body, giv ing up the League and trying an" otherform of organization means starting from scratch again. Re asserting the inviolability of the League and amending and restoring it as experience may have dictated would, on the contrary, constitute a positive gain. I have written in this News Letter before that I thou ght the best we could do would be to make this war, not the last war, but the next to the last war, since one war to test the invulnerability of the American Union, would be necessary to establish the principle. But this might not be true if the League survived, for then this war could be the one which had attempt ed to substitute one-nation domin ation for international cooperation and had failed. The enier disatisfaction expressed with the Dumbarton Oaks plan, and with the Big Three agreements which seem to carry on its spirit, is that it is in essence a directorate of the world by the big powers which took it upon themselves to establish its statutes without consultation with others. Its adminstration in practice will rest on too narrow a base. The League of Nations is also open to objection along this line, but at least Its foundation Is broad er than that of the Dumbarton Oaks plan. The defects found in the League of Nations organization were: lack of any machinery for automatic en forcing of the peace; lack of any permanent police force at the direct service of the League for immed iate employment without the neces sity of securing agreement among j the powers which would supply armed forces and their individual provision of those forces after the crisis arose. These same defects are also contained in the Dumbarton Oaks plan. In both cases, the machinery only works if there is a will to utilize it at the t'n e of ti e crisis. The League did not ace be cause not enough of - '• ’ members were willing to implement its provisions. The Dumbarton Oaks security organization will not act either unless aH its directing mem bers have the will to use force against one of their own group-for only a world power can make a world war. If this will existed un der the Dumbarton Oaks plan, it could also be made to work under the League of Nations plan. Finally for the addition of the present set up at a later date of the necessary police fore and automatic action, it would be easier to amend the League than the Dumbarton Oaks plan as at present drafted. There ermains one more chief rea son why the League did not work The United States was not a mem ber. Obiviously, that defect is very easy to remedy. If the Dumbarton Oaks plan is ac cepted at San Francisco, the logical next step would be for the League to wind up its affairs. So far it is still technically in existance, and many of the member nations are still paying their dues. If opposit ion to Dumbarton Oaks should be so strong at San Francisco as to block agreement, however, it is less likely the the nations would secede from the League in the absence of any organization to replace it. Agreement to be Expected However there is practically no chance that no new organization will emerg from the San Francisco meeting. Diplomats frequently fail* but they rarely admit failure. Hav ing commited themselves to meet at San Francisco, they will un doubtedly adjourn with the accept ance of some sort of an organization even though it may be evidently very for from what is desired. It is almost unthinkable that they should say “This is not what we want, so we will take nothing.” At the very* worst, they will postpone the settlement of details on which agreement is not reached untill a later date. It is to be expected, then, that the San Francisco conference will mark the death of the League of Nations. Yet there is a very simple means by which it could be convert ed into a meeting to revive the League of Nations. The American Senate could take the initiative from the executive, and, in fact, from the whole world, by a very simple act- It could recon sider the action it took on the League of Nations and vote Ameri can adherence to it. without reser vations. Of course, it is practically impos ible that this should happen. But there is no reason why it should not work. If the United States should suddenly join the League of Nations the present members certainly would not resign. And with the fu ture life of one international league assured, certainly the project to set up another would be side-tracked. The San Francisco conference would be converted into a meeting for the rehabilitation of the League of Nations. And international cooper ation would continue from that point which it had reached before the war, instead of retreating before makeing a fresh start. There are many good points about the Dumbarton Oaks plan which are not likely to be accepted easily by several nations--even though the invitations to neutral nations to declare war on Germany by March 1 and win a vote will have the effect of packing the vote against the formerly occupied nat ions whose experiences have made them desirous of a much tighter world government than is provided by the Dumbarton Oaks plan. This reduction of the comparative in fluence at the conference of the real United Nations by its dilution with spurious after-the-danger is over members makes it likelier that the plan will be railroaded through without essential mod ification, but if it is, there will re main much biter feeling among the smaller countries. But there is noth ing about the League of Nations j ’ ,"°nant which cannot be accepted j by all the countries concerned, for all of them except the United States had already accepted it. As for the possibility of putting t““»h into the League, it should be remembered that the only reason why it was not barn with them is that Europe watered down its own version of what it thought was needed because President Wilson said the Senate would never accept a real security system. So the League was ham strung to please the Senate--and then the Senate turned it down leaving Europe with an insufficient instrument. Having sabotage peace after the last war, the Senate could redeem itself by preventing the Big Three (with the best of intentions) from sabotaging it again. Unfortunately, it won't do it. Words of Praise After having expressed my dis taste at the necessity tor being so often in the opposition, I may allow myself the luxury now of a couple of approving comments. The Siret concerns the speeches of Messrs. Churchill and Kooseve:i to Parlia ment and gress. It is true •tmt "cj pro • Idt • little inf . motion v^n ch had •'•it i lready os-ci printed in the pao,s (the Fresi l-n: )os ti-an the Pi-n.' Minis:* c> not ih. ir speeches were so obvious.y those of sincere men .striving t • do their L-re- in a d.if *ult situ -in r •»' mi cso at least dismiss the irm li lations of sinister motives sometimes made for some of their actions. The President s report to Congress also set a good precedent. Voluntary rendering of accounts to the legis lature and the people by the Chief Executive would go a long way to remedy the defect in the American governmental machinery which re sides in the fact tha the executives is not responsible to the legislature as it is in practically every other ^ •1 1 r— i democratic country. The second development which may be noted with satisfaction oc curred at Mexico City meeting. Preparation for it was inept and early developments showed the Lat in American countrie’s taking the ball from the United States, justi fying the criticisms made recently of Americas western hemisphere policy. But after being surprised by the proposal to guarantee all frontiers from attack by western hemisphere as well as outside na tions, the United States delegation rallied nobly, and produced a scheme for geting over the immed iate difficulty of securing Senate ratification of a treaty to this ef fect before the San Francisco meet ing by splitting the application of the agreement into two parts, tak ing advantage of the fact that the President’s wartime powers would permit him to implement such an a greement without express Senate consent now, and preparing to get Senate ratification later for a perm anent arrangement. The American draft is over-cautious and lacks such important features as a perm anent police force and automatic ac -tlon, but it represents a consider able advance on the past, particul arly as an example of genuine co operation with other nations. For that reason it deserves hearty com mendation. WAVEHLY L. HOOT. ■ ¥#*U CHECKED I ivil VS.^T&k For quick relief from itching caused by eczema, athlete's foot, scabies, pimples and other itching conditions, use pure, cooling, medicated, liquid D.D. D. PRESCRIPTION. A doctor's formula. Greaseless and stainless. Soothes, comforts and quickly calms intense itching. 35c trial bottle provesit, or money back. Don't suffer. Ask your druggist today for D. D. D. PRESCRIPTION. Get Your 150-watt Gift Bulb Today Yes, folks, this is your last chance to take advantage of your dealer’s gen erous offer of a 150-watt lamp bulb— at no extra charge—with every dollar’s worth of bulbs you buy. Don’t put it off another day—check every socket now! 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The bride, who is a well known concert soloist and member of the Zeta Phi Beta sorority, chose that organization’s “Finer Womanhood Week” as the time for her wedding. The showers, the pre-wedding parties and most of the events were interwoven with Zeta affairs. Sold iers from Scott field were a part of the wedding party. (AKP) S H'H'H'H Don’t talk —don’t spread rumors. Don't cough—don’t spread germs. Smith Bros. Cough Drops, Black or Meet Sol, are still as soothing and delicious as ever—and they still cost only a nickel. , SMITH BROS. COUGH DROPS F BLACK OR MENTHOL—5t J RICHARD WRIGHT Whose new book, “Clack Boy,” is being published Feb. 28 by Harper Brothers and is a book of The Month Cclub selection. The vol ume portrays the noted author’s life in the south until he was 15. Mr. Wright’s most noted book is "Native Son,” published in 1940_ (ANP Photo) NARRATOR Gordon Heath, noted Negro actor, was narrator on the “Ten nessee Valley Authority* telecast recently over CBS television sta tion WCBM-N.Y. 0 lANPt - , Famous to relieve MONTHLY FEMALE J MISERY H (Also Fine Stomachic Tonic!) Lydia E. Pinkhnm's Vegetable Com pound is famous to relieve not only monthly pain but also accompanying nervous, tired, highstrung feelings— v.hen clue to functional periodic dis turbances. Taken regularly—it helps build up resistance against such dis tress. Pinkham'o Compound hcips na ture/ Follow label directions. Trj ill cfiycUtl (5. ffiOnkhaArCd compound saafliARKf A bill to abolish Lincoln univers ity was introduced in the Missouri House of Representatives last Tues day by Rep. Frank Mashak (D., of ! St. Louis). Mashak said the bill was introduc ed at the request of David Grant, | St. Louis attorney and president of 1 the St. Louis NAACP branch, which j has indorsed the bill. Mashak is quoted as saying that several Negro organizations feel that they do not get enough priv ileges undei* the new constitution and are using the legislative meth od in an effort to attain them. Under a U. S. Supreme Court de cision rendered in 1938 in the Lloyd Gains case, Missuri is required to furnish equal facilities” for higher education of Negroes or admit them to white institutions. 70 YEARS TOO LATE “The bill to abolish Lincoln U is about 70 years too late,” stated the Jefferson City Post-Tribune in an editorial paragraph last Wednes day. "The state has a huge invest ment in the college which is one of the best Negro educational institu tions in the United States.”