Unpleasant Mess the Belgian Ambassa dor’s Wife Stirred Up by Refusing to Sit Beside a German *v:v:&£y.y.vit ■ > ' 'v Dr. Otto Ludwig Wiedfeldt, German Ambassador to the United States, with his wife and their son, Hermann CHE dinner given at the White House the other evening to the members of the diplomatic corps was not the completely harmonious af fair it might have been. It was marred by acrimonious feelings that rankled in the breasts of a number of those pres ent, and if spiteful looks and commenjts could have killed it is believed that this important function would have ended in several fatalities. The trouble was all due to the fact that Baroness de Cartier de Marchienne, the wife of the Belgian Ambassador to the United States, seems unable to for get or forgive the enmities brought by the late war. In spite of the fact that a treaty at peace was signed some years ago, the bareness is, as it were, still in the trenches—ready and eager to take a shot at anything resembling a German. Baroness de Cartier is an American boom and bred and she feels she can best shear her loyalty to the country she adopted when she married the Belgian diplomat by regarding all Germans as her personal enemies. She scorns to rub shoulders with them, to take them by the arm or even to sit beside one of them through the courses of a formal dinner. Some time in advance of the recent White House dinner the Baroness man aged to find oat that it had been planned for her to have for an escort into the dining room and for a table companion Dr. Otto Wiedfeldt, the German Ambas sador. This information brought from her an outburst which seems to make it plain that diplomats’ wives can be quite as temperamental as any grand opera prima donna. “I will never walk into the White House dining room on the arm of Dr. Wiedfeldt—-or any other German," is said to have been the substanee of the Baroness’s protest. "I refuse even to sit beside him. If I cannot have some other escort then I cannot be present at the diplomatic dinner.” Through the same mysterious channels which had brought the Baroness her ad vance information was carried the news that the White House would have to get along without her distinguished presence unless it could rearrange its plans as to her escort and her place at the table. ims ultimatum brought perplexity and dismay to the ofiidals of the State Department, who had been charged with the always perplexing duty of arrang ing the diplomatic dinner. These faith ful servants of the Republic, whose sala ries are very largely paid by men who sometimes dine in their shirtsleeves and whp are never worried how the guests range themselves about the dining table, so long as they get there, were faced with a new and grave problem. Untfl they heard the Baroness de Car tier’s protest they had supposed that their worries concerning this the first diplomatic dinner given since President and Mr*. Coolidge entered the White House, were over. For weeks they had been arranging and rearranging the names of the dis tinguished guests who were to sit down to dinner with President and Mrs. Cool idge. They thought they had everything arranged in strict accordance with the time-honored traditions that govern func tions of this kind. According to these traditions, the Ger man Ambassador must take his place in the grand entry into the dining room just where they had him placed and he must escort just the woman who had been assigned to him, the wife of tho Belgian Ambassador. There were to be seventy-nine guests at the dinner. They were to be seated at a great oblong table, with the Presi dent and his wife facing each other in the middle. The seating of the distin guished guests had been planned accord ing to precedents which never before had been questioned. And so the offi cials of the State Department who had worked so hard and conscientiously to have everything strictly according to the nest international etiquette were grreatly upset to hear that the Baroness did not care at all for the plan and just would not come un less it was altered. Probably the public will never know exactly what wires were pulled to bring about a change in the seating arrangements for the White House dinner. But that they were changed there is no doubt. The haughty Baron ess de Cartier who had caused all the trouble was among those pres ent, but she did not walk into the dining room on the arm of Dr. Wiedfeldt, nor did she sit at his side during the fiinner. No, the German Ambassador escorted and had for a din ner companion Mme. Hanihara, the wife of the Japanese Ambas sador. And the curi ous thing about this is that Mme. Hanihara’s nation was as firmly linked with the cause of England, France and the other allies as Belgium. According to the gossip of some of those who were at the dinner, the lady from Japan seemed to en joy herself very much, in deed. To judge from the smiles that wreathed her face, she found Dr. Wied ieiat a very acceptable escopt and an exceedingly pleasant dinner companion. According to the gossip with which Washington has been hamming ever since, that diplomatic dinner was not a particularly pleasant affair for moat of the guests. Nearly everybody present knew what Baroness de Cartier had done and much doubt was expressed as to whether the stand she had taken was either ladylike or diplomatic or respectful to the coun try to which her husband is accredited. Some cast look* of sympathy at the Ger man Ambassador and others shot at the wife of the Belgian Ambassador glances which made it seem as if the disarma ment conference had been very unfruit ful of results. To judge from the proud glint in her eye. Baroness de Cartier felt extremely proud of the way she had forced the hard-working employees of the American State Department to alter the dinner arrangements to suit her whims. But many are wondering if perhaps this pride of hers was not the sort that goes before a fail. It is suspected that she may lie, and very probably already is, extremely sorry for huving l>een so snippy to the Ger man Ambassador and turned the hospi tality of President and Mrs. Coolidge into a means for opening up the ugly old wounds of the war. And there is every likelihood that she may be htill more re gretful. Her husband Is said to have been The Japanese Ambassador’s wife and chQdraa. Although her country also has been at war with Germany, Mme. Hanihara took the place beside Dr. Wiedfeldt which Baroness Cartier scorned » strongly opposed to tho attitude she took. If be had known how much publicity was to be given the incident it is believed that he would have insisted on her going in to dinner on the arm of the German Ambassador—or else remaining at home He knows too well how carefully an incident of this kind will be weighed by the Belgian Foreign Office The Baron is experienced enough in diplomacy to understand that a diplomat’s wife most be as tactful and discreet as he himself if he is to achieve the greatest success. Whatever one’s personal feelings re garding the Germans may be, the fact remains that a state of war no longer exists. The United States has resumed diplomatic relations with Germany and hjs duly welcomed Dr. Wiedfeldt as the representative of that country. He is therefore entitled to at least formal cour tesy—particularly on the occasion when the President of the United States is his host. But the Baroness de Cartier seems to have been heedless alike of her husband’s diplomatic future and of her courteous duty to Dr. Wiedfeldt and to President and Mrs. Coolidgc. Also, she was heed less of her own social future, which, as ulmost everybody thinks, is seriously jeopardized by her dictation of the ar rangement of tho seats at tho Whito House dinner table. This is tho Baroness’s third marriage, but never before has she achieved any thing like the social distinction which she enjoys as tho wife of the Belgian Mrs. Calvin Coolidge, the hostess at the dinner h ich was marked by a revival of the war s hatreds on the part of some of the guests Ambassador. And now it seems likely that she has kukvd the fat of her noriul aspirations into the fire by her foolish determination to snub Dr. Wiedfeldt. Not so many years ago the woman who now holds her head so high as the Barones* de Cartier was called Miss Marie Dow a name quite as unknown to the Social Register as that of Jack Dempsey. Her first husband was Klihu R. Frost. He Was a multi-millionaire, but nil his millions were unable to push bis young Baroness de Cartier de Marchienne, the once divorced and once widowed wife of Belgium’s Ambassador, ' who upset the plans for the recent White House dinner by refusing to accept the German Am- . bassador as her escort Mmnm wife into the position in the smart set which she coveted. So Mrs. Frost, after a few disappointing years of struggiing for social recognition, went to Reno and got a divorce. Iler next husband was Hamilton Wilkes Cary, and everybody thought that through him she at last had found a sure and speedy way to the innermost circles of New York and Newport society. For Mr.*Cary was none other than a nephew of the powerful Mrs. William Astor and himself a man of the best social status. But, alas for Mrs. Cary’s ambitions, this husband of hers died before society could get its lorgnettes focussed on her long enough to decide whether or not she had any right to "belong.” Then came the war. Like so many other high-spirited American women, the once divorced and onee widowed Mrs. Cary went abroad to nurse the sick and wounded soldiers and to cheer up the disgracefully healthy statesmen and dip lomats who crowded Paris almost as much as an invading German army would have done. w Mrs. Cary found her war work not too arduous to prevent her playing about a bit With the rather stern-looking but very jovial Baron de Cartier. Almost before anybody realized that it was any thing more than a pleasant wartime flirtntion they were married. When the Baron was appointed am bassador to Washington his wife saw a glorious opportunity to achieve the so cial distinction in he/ native land which had been denied her with her first two husbands. But now even some of her warmest frifnds and admirers are fearful that she herself has ruined her chances of any such thing. Some of the gossips have hinted that the Baroness thought, by showing her utter contempt for Germany, she would make herself n great popular heroine. As far as America is concerned, she already must haw experienced a rude awakening from any such dream. Tho Perhaps Baron de Cartier can explain why his charming wife refuses to un derstand that the war is over people of the United States are quite •trreed that the war is over and they are ready and eager to lot it remain so,