EVERY MOTHER HER DAUGHTER’S MATCHMAKER. LET YOUR CHILDREN OO THE/R OWN COURTING. SAY HOST PARENTS. WITH RESERVAT/ONS WftEN FATHERS AND FI OTHERS FEEL THEY OUGHT TO INTERFERE. HICAGO —-Certainly not. ■ay the city mothers. Kill they all agree that their first thought ween the tittle daughter mas laid la their arms mas. "I wonder what little bey in this great world will become her hus band" Tes. every one at them owns she has hopsd from the first mo ment at her child's existence that somewhere a sweet tempered little tefiew at good parentage and some ; mean* was being reared to be a fit nampaeios for the little daughter just born to her Mrs Charles H. Conover says nice girls mill marry only nice men. "The girls mho are brought np in the right • ay need no interference in regard to their matrimonial ventures." says Mrs. Conover “There is no necessity | >r par.nt* interesting ihenu-lres in t b- Uaracter or financial Carding of < imag men who sisipir call upon their daughters. Such a proceeding aa in testigaiiog on the part cf parents mould be entirely too premature. "A father need not assume that -eery young man is interested to the point at matrimony, and unless he —es that matters are reaching a n»i*. he should let *be young people alone. When, however, he finds mat rimony Impending, he should satisfy himself that all is well and If char a -ter ia found to he moral, personal objections should not stand in the way at his daughter s happiness The chll- i dr-n should be the choosers, not the parent* i heartily disapprove of watchmaking ~ Careen Should Watch Associates. Mrs Alice Bradford Wiles thinks parent* should guide the associations at their children. “Parents need not t* matchmakers to order the pathway at their sons and daughters." she says The first duty of a parent is to exercise ail possible care with re gard to the associate* at their chil dren from infancy They should put desirable companions within reach 1 and hot.Id encourage eligible young people a, this way their children will make no undesirable acquaint ance* If they have always had the best they will always demand the - beat “Their children's happiness and well teing should be (he principal thought i a# parents, and as marriage is the j natural sequence to agreeable and In timate acquaintances. It will come of itself without any urging from the par cats Never give a child the idea that marriage enters into your calcu lations It would be most unwise and would scarcely have the desired ef fect Let the sows seek their wires J and the daughters their husbands without your aid. You may be as sored yoe hare dote your full duty whew yoe here brought proper com pantons into your home and encour aged your children to know only the moraMy and physically perfect." Mrs. Waiter Ferrier declares a child should be influenced by its parents to marry only capable helpmeets. “A man need not be wealthy to be the proper one for daughter’s life com-1 panion.” she said. “Wealth is one of | the really unnecessary attributes in a i husband. Rather let him be a man capable of making his way in the world. A man of good judgment and | moral standing, but he must be of good disposition as well, for a man's ! nature more than his ability is worth i considering. No one desires to see j 'he loved daughter of the household i ncfjzrij rro torrPS copgrjiup lvtvij ja&r aritos.var given to a man, be he ever so capa ble. If he has an unkindly nature, rhe (treat trouble with our American marriage question today is that nine ’tnths of the girls marry for wealth and position Th^lr parents urge them (o se«»k riches rather than love and It usually fails.” Let Children Do Own Courting. Mrs. Henry Clay Carpenter, whose daughter. Miss Reatrlce Carpenter, was one of the season's debutantes, has decided ideas on courtship and marriage “Don't do your children's courting," says Mrs. Carpenter. “Re member you did you own. and my, but didn't yon enjoy It? Then let your children do the same. When you argue that children should profit by 'he parents' example, you cast a re flection on your child's father which always is a bad policy whether he is deserving of It or not. ■ Never let your children feel that ou are anxious to have them marry. This attitude on the part of parents >tten causes a daughter needlessly to Hasten her matrimonial plans. She • an be made to feel that father h^is !>een putting up for such a long time, ;hat he has paid cut such sums for her education, and has fitted her for mar riage at a suitable age. Then when she arrives at that age. and does not leave the home roof or show any in clination to do so, parents should be exceedingly careful not to give the impres.fon that they wish her mar riage. "The moment a girl feels that her par- nts desire her marriage, she be comes reckless and may foolishly ac ' pt the first opportunity that pre sents itself, notwithstanding she has refused numerous and better offers prior to the discovery that father and mother think ‘it is time daughter had a home of her own.' Marriage of sons and daughters is something in ■yhich parents have no rights or privileges. Howrver, should daughter give her heart to a young man of whom the family knows little, it becomes the duty of the father to make a thor ough investigation. Then If he finds him to be of immoral character, he should confide his discovery to his daughter. Arranging Marriage Never a Duty. “The girl who has been reared In an atmosphere of love, obedience and respect for her parents will prove herself the dutiful daughter and will give up the undesirable young man. She will listen to her parents In re gard to her marriage as she has list ened to them during all her life in re gard to her minor affairs. While it is the duty of parents to prevent the marriage of their children in such ex treme cases. It is never their duty or privilege to arrange marriages for them. The mother who has her daughter’s confidence will never need to find a husband for her. That kind of a girl is sought for by the right kind of man and need not 'look for a husband.’ ” Mrs. Frank R. McMullin of High land Park expressed the opinion that where the question of money enters in, all the sanctity of matrimony is lost. “Parents who desire moneyed matches for their children should force themselves to do nothing more than hope," she said. ‘They should never barter their sons and daughters. This idea of selling your child into a family of wealth in order to gain for her position in society and riches to keep up a splendid establishment with no thought or care for her affections Is all wrong. If parents find their daughters ready to sell themselves to the titled foreigner simply for the po sition they will acquire, it Is the duty of the parents to stop the affair at once. On no account should a girl marry for anything but love. “Parents cannot live their children's lives. A mother would be willing to offer herself a sacrifice for either son or daughter, but this is impossible. Each must live for himself alone, and children should be taught early in life that character counts for more than wealth or position. If wealthy par ents find their 9on in love with a working girl there should be no ob jection raised because of social in equality. Today we are living in an age when every one works in one way or another. No one who really amounts to anything is idle. If we do not take up manual labor we are working with our brains or using our talents to the best possible advantage along some other line. "It is perfectly proper for parents to offer suggestions along matrimo nial lines, but they should go no fur ther. A suggestion should be suffi cient for the properly reared son or daughter who realizes that the one de sire of the parents' hearts is to see their child happy, so if the moral char acter of the young person chosen as the life partner is unimpeachable, all interference on the part of parents is wrong.” Wrong Ideas of Present Generation. Mrs. Thomas B. Hoops said: “There is one great trouble with matrimony today. The young people want to be gin where their parents leave off. When we were young we were willing to live on a small income at first and gradually rise to a more exalted es tate, but it is not so with the girls of today. They must have the best of everything in the beginning. Parents are too extravagant with their girls— they allow them too much spending money and they are permitted to dress too luxuriantly. A man natural ly thinks he cannot ask the girl he loves to become his wife unless he Las enough wealth to give her every luxury to which she has been accus tomed. “Fortunately, American girls are sensible and are more independent than the girls of any other race, so when they find themselves in love with an obscure young man of small means they rarely hesitate to accept him when he does get up the courage to propose. If it were not for Ameri can money, there would be no foreign marriages and we could keep our American girls in America, where they belong. “The money is made here in Amer ica and yet parents allow their daugh ters to marry these titled foreigners and carry away their riches to the foreign shores. There Is no love or courtship in this sort of thing. It does not enter into the question at all. It simply is a bargain, and in such cases parents should most certainly interfere and not allow their daugh ters to be bought and sold as they are. The wealthy marriage is not al ways the happy one. and parents should be absolutely sure, before giv ing their consent to a daughter’s mar riage, that she truly Is in love with her suitor, and equally sure that it is the girl and not the dollars he is after. American Men Best Husbands. “The American man makes the best husband in the world. Nowhere in the universe are there as true men as our American boys, reared by good American mothers and sensible Amer ican fathers. Then we should see to it that American girls marry Amer ican men if we value their happiness.’’ METHODIST WORK FOR POOR Church Divided New York City Into Seven Wains ter Locking After the Unfortunate. New York Methodists started their first organized charity a little more than n hundred years ego. its record i> preserved in s manuscript volume brows with age. now preserved in the library of the Methodist Historical so cXy. of that city. On Saturday evening. November 12. IdM. a group met in a schoolroom at Anthony (no* Worth) and Hudson streets to form a charitable organiza tion. The name adopted as given in the interior cover of the book was the Assistance Society for Relieving and Advising Sick and Poor Persons in the City of New York. Thirty-four were gmsrnT and were recognized as the original members of the society. Into districts knosn as walks the ,orlr» city was divided. At first, says the Christian City, there were four, than Sen. noon six and finally seven. A« the outset the first walk included the whole of lower New York, as fol lows: Beginning at the East River on ■ the lower side of Peck slip, up the lower side of Peck slip, of Ferry street. of Georges street, across the park, to and along the lower side of Murray street to the North River, and all below these boundaries. The third walk apparently covered the northeastern part of the city, its visitor being given in part the sec tion “up the east side of Bowery Lane"'; the fourth walk included "Greenwich” on the west. With 1809 the distribution of food, clothing and fuel began. The first beneficiary mentioned was one Cath erine Graham of 81 Church street, it being ordered that she "receive one dollar." At the next meeting two were recommended respectively to the almshouse and the poorhouse. In October, 1813, the stringency of the times—it was during the war with England—led the society to discuss “the propriety of resorting to the manufacture of soup and bread.” Later it ordered the purchase of some 800 soup tickets from the "Humane So ciety," at $3 per hundred. But the largest benevolence seems to have been In the distribution of wood. In October, 1812, SO loads were bought, at an average of 16 shillings per load. The next April John Mur ray. Jr., donates 13 loads and prom ises 8200 for purchasing more. In June, 1814, the purchase of a hundred loads is reported. In March, 1816, 150 loads are ordered. In October. 1S21, 97 loads have been bought, at the cost of 11 shillings per load, plus the cartage. For convenience this wood seems at times to have been stored in such cen ters as vthe meeting-house yard in Second street” and “the yard of the Duane Street Meeting-house, free of expense." A certain number of loads was allotted each walk for distribu tion. On March 4, 1812, it was reported that 1,087 had been aided since Janu ary 29; the next month 934 had been helped. In December. 1812, 3,49* “suf fering individuals” were reported as aided the previous year. On January 6, 1814, 364 individuals, comprising 92 families, had been helped within a month. PEDIGREED STOCK BREEDING PLEASANT AND PROFITABLE Of All Pursuits That City Business or Professional Mao With Country Home Can Indulge in* Live Stock Heads List. ——_ ord Knollys at his private residence. These entertainments were of the most informal character and were scarcely known to the gen eral public, and not even chronicled in the press. Lord Knollys combines in his personality every attribute which should belong to an important official and to a cultured English gentleman, and on no occasion during his long public career has his discretion been at fault or the soundness of his counsel at all called in question. “TRUST BUSTER”IN SENATE \V. S. Kenyon, known as a “trust buster" when he was assistant to the attorney general of the United States, was elected United States senator to fill the vacancy caused by the death of the late J. P. Dolliver. Mr. Kenyon will be one of the youngest members of the senate. He was born in Elyria, O., June 10, 1869. His father was a Congregational min ister. He was educated at Grinnell, and later was graduated from the law department of the University of Iowa. His public career started almost immediately with his election, soon after graduation, as public prosecutor of Webster county, a position he held for two terms. He was elected cir cuit judge when he was barely 30 ^ years old, but left the bench after one ' year, declaring that It was too quiet § and sedate. He became the general £ counsel, for the Illinois Central rail road, and though his official duties required his presence in Chicago he kept his established residence in Fort Dodge, where he practiced law with Sena tor Dolliver. Asked whether he may net attempt the revision of the present Sherman anti trust law when he enters the senate Mr. Kenyon admitted that such a step may appear necessary. He should not say, however, that he has con sidered any definite lines for such action. Kenyon was the original “trust-buster” under the Taft administration. He has had much the same position under this administration that was oc cupied by Wade Ellis when Roosevelt was president. He was appointed as sistant to Attorney General Wickersham in March, 1910. At the time of his appointment Mr. Kenyon was general counsel for the Illinois Central railroad. Although he had lived three years in Chicago, he had kept his voting residence at Fort Dodge, Iowa. HEADS MOTHERS* CONGRESS Airs, rreuenc scnotr, now compiet ing her ninth year of leadership as president of the National Congress of Mothers, is a philanthropist who gives freely, not only of her means but herself to the cause of child welfare. Having compiled the laws of every state in the union concerning depend ent and delinquent children, and hav ing led the severak movements to es tablish courts for children in Pennsyl vania, Alabama, Idaho and Connecti cut, she is a recognized authority the world over. She received the unique honor of an invitation to address sthe Canadian parliament on this subject, and is the only woman who has ever been thus honored. The amount ol her daily work is tremendous, and she could not have persevered through these years of service were it not fot her superb physique and a certain sustaining spiritual force. Mrs. Scoffs versatility is as astonishing as her ac cumulation of facts. Neither pessim ist ,or optimist, she looks upon exist . . . «__x _ t_tl_ mg con a ill on s wun unDiasea eyes, ana ner » —* — preventive and corrective policies. As an impressive public speaker Mrs Schoff is unexcelled, having an exhaustive knowledge of her subject and the power to clothe her thought in clear, forcible and felicitous phrasing. She also has a delightful voice which is easily understood in the largest assembly Among the elements which make up Mrs. Schott's intrinsic greatness are her earnestness, her sincerity and her deep-rooted conviction that the most important work in the world is the conservation of childhood. Though mas terful and a bora leader, she is wholly effeminate, independent and full ol initiative, yet conservative to a degree in all matters of social usage. She is uncompromising where principle is at stake, yet tolerant and yielding in non essentials. Thus it is that she wins the devotion of her co-workers. HETTY GREEN TO OWN BANK Mrs. Hetty Green, with the assist- r ance of her son. Colonel E. H. R. Green, has decided to have her for tune managed through a $10,000,000 private bank with branches in other states, and will retire from all active participation in her financial affairs. Her realty and financial interests are now in the bands of the son she sent into Texas as a youth and educated along the lines o( sound, business common sense. Colonel Green pictures his mother as grossly misrepresented In the past. Although she conducts her business on careful and conservative lines, he says she has made it an invariable * rule to re-invest her profits in the ter- g ritory from which they were drawn f for the upbuilding of that territory. ? “Her argument has been.” he ex- j plained, 'that every community is en- 3 titled to the benefits of Its own pros- ' perity. _ “Since my mother began her bust ness Career sue uas ucaa&cu uiuiw iu»u v fvi -vmv. - --- bulk of her loans have been made at considerably lower rates, lou may aet It down that the ratio of Income diminishes as the size of the estate grows. Because of this attitude and widely known liberality to her customers in pan ic times my mother has been able to skim the cream of the borrowers."