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thing to be de
cided only by those
who have tried it. and
I am no feminine Don
Quixote, tilting against
windmills. 1 am simply an observer,
seeing happy marriages, and unhappy,
and sometimes finding what is evident
to ail except the p .sons most concerned, "the
little rift within tlx lute," which has made its
music mute.
it might be said at the outset that the fact of
asking all over the world if marriage is a failure
Is rsot proof that it is a success, nor is the excel
lence of an institution proved by the few cases
but by the many. The few but prove the possi
bility of success where there is more often but
slight measure of it.
No one who has considered the matter thought
fully can doubt that marriage at its best is the
perfect life, ideal in its relations and in its devel
opment of the best type of man and woman, but,
unfortunately, that a thing may be is not the same
as that it is.
To an outsider, or.e of the strongest arguments
against matrimony is the number of those who try
to get cut of it. Being tied is in itself a condi
tion trying to an erratic temperament, for you are
never so eager to get away as when you know
you can't.
1 have watched devoted lovers grow into in
different partners, and also have seen most beau
tiful marriages grow from rather commonplace
wooings, so the advance stage seems not much
of an indication what the future will give.
One of my girl friends said to me of her fiance:
“I am not one of the silly girls who cannot see
faults in those they care for. I can see them all
the plainer because I love, and though I have hunt
ed very hard for them, I can't see a fault in Joe,
and so I know he hasn’t got any.” She and Joe
got married and went their loving way. Some
years later I met her, and in the course of con
versation she surprised me by saying: “No, of
course, I don’t tell Joe everything, the way I used
to. Men are so stupid they never understand,
so it is foolish to tell them and get into a fuss.”
“Do they grow stupid after marriage?”
“Well, they may not. but they seem to. Why,
Joe nearly went wild over the most innocent
letter that a man sent me, and he happened to
find. I've told the maid again and again never to
bring my letters to the table, but to put them in
my bureau drawer, but she is so careless. One
often has letters she doesn't wish her husband to
see, bills and things of that sort."
Now, it is hard for me to imagine marriage a
success in which one party to the contract has
such a feeling as that. Marriage, it seems to
me, is one of two things, either a business con
tract, or a union founded upon sentiment, and if
deceit enters into it one party or the other is not
living up to the agreement, however smoothly
things may seem to go. If it is a business con
cern, each partner has a right to the confidence of
the other, and so long as sentiment enters into
it there will be the same interchange of interests
between married couples as between the engaged.
The rule holds as good whether applied to man
or to woman.
Another of my friends loves her. husband de
votedly, she says. She has no secrets from him—
nor from anybody else—not even those she ought
to have, for perfect faith does not -necessitate
telling a man every foolish little thing, nor pass
ing on to him something some girl friend has told
her. When of an evening her husband puts on
his coat to go out this wife begins: “Why, Harry,
are you going out this evening? Where are you
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going for? Who else is
going? What makes you go? You can think of
me waiting here alone until you get back. 1 shall
sit up until you get home.”
Ihink of a self-respecting, able-bodied and mind
ed man being subjected to that every time he goes
out of the house. Could you bear it. oh. sister
woman, if he put you through like questioning?
W hy should a man or a woman be required to
give an account of ail the moments as they fly?
Speaking of human beings from my own stand
point. I should say there is nothing dearer than
freedom of the individual, and nothing much hard
er to bear than any infringement upon it. I con
sider being questioned almost the unpardonable
offense cn the part of a friend, yet, left to myself,
probably I should tell him or her all I knew; but
quizzing me always results in my telling nothing,
and there must be others like that.
Something of this kind I said to Elia, and that
to ask a man 30 much seemed to me like an in
dignity. She replied: “How funny you are! Why
should be object to telling me if he isn’t going
where he is ashamed to have it known? Am I
not his wife and entitled to know all he does?"
He probably might tell you without your ask
ing if you gave him a chance, but anybody with
an atom of sense would object to being forced to
tell every time he turned around and why."
"If he loves me he ought to be willing to tell
me so little a thing as that.”
hat are you going to do with a woman like
that to live with every day—love her? Yes, but
you will come to the conclusion that dumbness
is not without some compensations.
Once I was visiting a friend who had been the
most romantic and sentimental of girls. When
she was fust married she wept bitterly because
her husband said another woman was the hand
somest one he had ever seen.
"No other woman ought to be so handsome to
a man as his wife, however she looks,” sobbed
she. as it a man lost his eyesight when he mar
ried. Wouldn't you suppose a woman would lose
confidence in her husband's judgment if lie
thought she was the most beautiful of women
when her mirror told her she was not?
While I was at this friend’s home her husband
told at dinner of something funny that had hap
pened that day in the office, addressing bis re
marks directly to her. She made no pretense of
listening, arid evidently did not hear a word.
V ou don t seem to see anything funny in that?”
"Oh, i never listened to it at all. I thought
likely it was as stupid as the stories you usually
tell ruderrss in her manner as in her words.
She often sighs because marriage is so different
from the girl's dream, yet she never blames her-1
seif for any part of the failure. Still, es she could I
speak la fore me and her children w'th this lack i
of courtesy to the man whom she had sworn be
fore God to love and honor, she may not he wholly |
free front fault. Should you. present lovers, call
the marriage in which such as tlr's was a com
men occurrence, a success or a failure?
hi the course of my wanderings to and fro I i
have often spent some time at a house where !
there never has been a meal finished without
some fault finding by the master thereof. This
is not due to ill-cooked food, for the wife pre
pares good dishes and sees that the cook does
likewise. If the chicken is broiled. "Why didn't
you fry ,this?" If it is fried, "Why wasn’t it
broiled?" Or perhaps the complaint will be that
chicken was cooked at all when he wanted fish.
The vegetables were always over or under done;
something that he wanted and had not spoken
about had not been prepared. Maybe it would be;
"I’ve been trying ever since 1 was married tc
teach Polly to make
bread, but it seems im
possible for her to get
it into her head,” and
the bread is as light
and sweet as bread
ought to be. Heaven
help the woman whose
husband thinks he can
cook, and help her
doubly if at the same
time he has the grum
bling habit!
If you sat at the
table three times daily
to such remarks, you
dear little bride of the
future, what would life
be worth to you? Yet
this man has been
much loved of women
and has made three
wives happy—or miser
able?—well, conscious
of a few of their de
fects, let us say. But
to some women it
- would be bluer bread
that had that flavor; one would be as comfort
able walking on tacks as living with a man who
is never suited, never praising, but always find
ing fault.
I have never seen an instance of a very happy
marriage when the woman was the bread win
ner, if the husband were a strong, well man. If
a woman makes a home and cares properly for
the husband and children who should be in it,
slie has business enough within the walls of her
house. Whatever she does outside is just so much
taken from the strength and thought that belong
rightly to the home and its inmates. From the
beginning it has been woman's part to care for
what the man provided, and this instinct is
rooted back many centuries, and is a part of the
human race to-day. So surely as it is violated
for anything but the greatest need the woman
and the man suffer for the violation. She grows
to despise the man who does not provide for
her—and he loses his self-respect.
The woman who works with all her might to
help a man make money, makes a great mis
take if she is seeking happiness, for the money
is bought at the cost of the ciiaracter develop
ment in tenderness and unselfishness that the
man needs and gets when he looks after his
wife as he wants to when he marries. It should
be some very strong cause that leads her to take
from him this right to an unselfish manhood. The
woman who makes a true home does more for
the man than she does by going into the labor
mart, and she cannot do both.
It is true that ,the happiness of married life
depends a good deal upon the woman—more, I
think, than upon the man—because her strength
lies in just and proper using of the powers of
heart and spirit. Of course, men sometimes are
trying and dense, but I have seen most unprom
ising material made into husbands who were de
lightful and the envy of women who had not
known or cared how to use what was theirs to
build with.
One cannot he happy with an unbearably jeal
ous man who suspects his wife at every turn,
but the man with minor faults, such as asking
“What did you do with the 50 cents I gave you
last week?” may lie cured by the right handling.
It may be hard to be happy if you have black
eyes and hair, when your husband takes pleasure
in calling your attention to beauties with blue
eyes and golden hair, and tells you how he al
ways admired that style of beauty, but think i
what a compliment he paid you in preferring you j
in spite of his fancy for another type of come
liness. (Copyright, by Joseph IS. Bowles.)
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WIFE AS A COMPANION
A distinguished author says that a
woman who cannot read or write, but
who makes her home and husband
comfortable, is a far better wife than
a girl who can speak six languages
and does not know how to cook a
oianer and keep a house clean, says
a writer. Unless a bride's brains are
turned to domestic account they are of
very little practical use to a husband.
The fact that she Is a brilliant mu
sician and a mistress of French and
Italian is poor consolation for burnt
chop3 and muddy coffee. Talent, like
charity, should begin at home, and
no woman can be called clever who
does not use her wits first toward
achieving home comtort and skilled
housekeeping. At the same time 1
know many a bride who is iguoraut
of “book learning," shaky in her >
spelling and a shocking housewife,
too! After all, to be clever and to
cultivate one’s mind—without neglect
ing cookery and the domestic arts—
makes a wife a more charming com
panion to her husband.
Character.
Character is consolidated liabiL
and habit forms itself by repeated- ac
tion. Habits are like paths, beaten
hard by the multitude of light foot
steps which go to aud fro. The daily
restraint or indulgence o: the nature
in the business, in the home, in the
imagination, which is the inner labora
tory of life, creates the character,
which, whether it be here or there,
settles the destiny. Men forget what
life is for. Their consciousness take3
in only the flimsy, transient, passing
show. They forget that experience
is the only all important factor. That
character is worth more than all else
the world can possibly yield—the very
object of all materials, of circum
stances.—Western Catholh
AS TO THE TEETH OF A HORSE
By Them You Can Tell Its Age.
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INCISORS OF
LOWER JAW.
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Teeth of a Y ear-Old Horse.
In the domestic animals the teeth
change in shape, appearance and char
acter as age advances and these
changes being fairly regular furnish a
means of determining age. The horse,
like other animals, has two successive
dentitions The first are called the
temporary or milk teeth, because they
are soon shed, and give place to others
that are stronger and more solid. It is
from the front or incisor teeth that !
age is judged. At one year old the |
horse has the full number of incisors,
six above and six below, though the
corner ones have not yet reached their
full length. The lower nippers (cen
ter teeth) are considerably worn upon
their two borders and will be nearly
level. The upper nippers will not be
found to be so much worn. There will
be noticed near the outer edge a yel
low line, surrounded by the whiter
dentine. This is known as the “dent
al siar.”
WHY CREAM IS OF POOR FLAVOR
By Prof. Otto F. Hunziker, Purdue University.
Some Forms cf Milk Pails Used in Certified Dairies.
There are many causes that lead to
Mie production of poor flavored cream,
such as the feed given to the animals,
inattention to cleanliness in the opera
tion of milking, the care and handling
Df the milk and cream, and, after it
is cfeawn. the method of creaming it
self. The buttermaker that has abso
lute control over the cream from the
time it leaves the separator has also
control over the separating itself, can
give it the attention which is neces
sary if the best quality of butter is to
be produced. Many, if not most, of our
hand separator or gathered cream
plants produce butter that does not
grade as high as that produced by the
whole milk plants, and while that is
true the fault is not with the separa
tor itself. There is no reason why
the hand separator cannot produce as
good cream, as good butter, as the
cream that is separated at the cream
ery if the cream is properly taken care
of; but the trouble is the separator
is not taken proper care of in many
cases, and the cream is not cooled
;lown to the proper temperature.
Where the hand separator receives
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proper care, where it is cleaned after
every separation (which should be
done), and where the cream is cooled
down immediately after separation to
as low a temperature as possible, say
60 degrees or lower, and where the
cream is held at that temperature un
til it leaves the farm, is shipped to the
creamery in clean, sweet cans at least
three times In the summer and twuce
in the winter, there is r.a reason why
good butter cannot be made front
hand separated cream.
When you come to the gravity sys
tem the proposition is a different one.
Take the deep setting system, for in
stance. the cream is 30 hours old
to start with, usually is not in the
best condition, often it is sour and
sometimes tainted; the same in the
case of the shallow pans, and to a
greater extent because the creaming
was done at a temperature at which
the action of the bacteria in it was
not checked, and that cream is
usually fermented to some extent
and also sour; in case of the water
Metal Frame on Which Milk Pails Are j
Set in Stable to Keep Them Out of
the Dirt.
dilution system it is worse yet. The
temperature is usually high, the water
used for diluting the milk usually
pollutes the cream as well as dilutes
it, and the germs will get in the
butter and help to deteriorate it
very rapidly.
Sell Unprofitable Poultry.—There is
a limit to the profit-earning of a chick
en, and it must be sold when the limit
is reached, or before. Unless a bird
is growing into money or laying eggs
or hatching chickens, it is a dead ex
pense. Therefore, sell your hens after
they have Quit laying; sell your young
cockerels while they are in the frying
stage at about two pounds in weight;
and sell all the breeding stock that
you do not want for next season as
soon as possible.
Haying Tools.—If the harvest and '
haying tools were not put in repair
last fall it will be a pretty good plan
to look them over and order new parts
now.
Bees on the Farm.—Bees help to
make the crop and pay the farmer for
the privilege. They are little trouble
and may be the source of a good in
come.
Burning Straw.—The burning of
straw and stalks, except in special
cases, is a wasteful practice and has
no place In judicious farming.
Don’t Overfeed.—If the two-vear-old
hen is to be kept for laying this com
ing winter, she should not be permit
ted to become fat.
Pick Best Layers.—The chief value
of the hen is for egg production. Find
out which hens are the best layers.
Take Heed.— "Whatsoever a man
soweth, that shall he also reap.” Take
heed to this old proverb.
Go Slow.—Do not try to keep too
many varieties of fowls just for farm
poultry work.
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NO. BUT HE USEO TO BE.
"Are you Interested in things
psychical, Mr. Dubbs?
"No, Miss Culchaw; I haven't
wheeled any since the chainless-geared
safety came in.”
A Subtle Difference.
Mrs. I31ank, wife of a prominent min
ister near Iloston, l.ad in her employ a
recently engaged colored cook as black
as the proverbial ace of spades. One
day Mrs. Blank said to her:
"Matilda, I wish that you would have
oat meal quite often for breakfast My
husband is very fond of it. He is
Scotch, and you know that the Scotch
eat a great deal of oatmeal.”
“Oh, he's Scotch, is he?” said Ma
tilda. “Well, now do you know. I was
thinkin’ all along dat he wasn't dea
like us.”—Woman's Home Companion.
“Mrs. Pinkham, of the Lydia E.
Pinkham Medicine Company of Lynn,
Mass., together with her son, Arthur
W. Pinkham, and the younger mem
bers of her family, sailed for Naples
on May 20th for a three months’ tour
throughout Europe and a much needed
vacation.”
The Very Way.
“I don't understand an expression
in the book 1 have been reading, pa;
how do you get ‘over the bay?' '
“By taking a schooner, my daugh
ter.”
YOU’RE TOO THIN.
Even Slight Catarrhal Derangements
of the Stomach Produce Acid Fer
mentation of the Food.
li’s Stomach Catarrh
Some people are thin and al-.vays re
main thin, from temperamental rea
son-. Probably in such ca«es nothing
can be done to change this personal
peculiarity.
But there are a large number of peo
ple who get triin, or remain thin, who
naturally would be plump anil fleshy
but for some digestive derangement.
Thin people lack in adipose tissue.
Adipose tissue is chiefly composed of
fat.
Fat is derived from the oily constit
uents of food.
The fat-making foods are called by
the physiologist, hydrocarbons. This
class of foods are not digested in the
stomach at all. They are digested in
the duodenum, the division of the ali
mentary canal just below the stomach.
The digestion of fat is mainly, if not
wholly, the work of the pancreatic
juice. This juice is of alkaline reac
tion, and is rendered inert by the addi
tion of acid. A hyperacidity of the
digestive fluids of the stomach passing
down into the duodenum, destroys
the pancreatic fluid for digestive pur
poses. Therefore, the fats are not di
gested or emulsified, and the system is
deprived of its due proportion of oily
constituents, lienee, the patient grows
thin.
The beginning of the trouble is a ca
tarrhal condition of the stomach which
causes hyperacidity of the gastric
juices. This hyperacidity is caused by
fermentation of food in the stomach.
When the food is taken into the stom
ach, if the process of digestion does
not begin immediately, acid fermenta
tion will take place. This creaks a
hyperacidity of the stomach juices
which in their turn prevent the pan
creatic digestion of tiio oils, and the
emaciation results.
A dose of Peruna before each meal
hastens the Btomach digestion. By
hurrying digestion, Peruna prevents
fermentation of the contents of the
stomach, and the pancreatic juice is thus
preserved in its normal state. It then
only remains for the patient to eat a
sufficient amount of fat-forming foods,
and the thinness disappears and plump
ness takes its place.
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