The Plattsmouth daily herald. (Plattsmouth, Nebraska) 1883-19??, June 26, 1888, Image 3
THE DAILY HERALD: PLATYSMfW rrt, WiCfTKASK A, TUESDAY, JUNE 26. 1S88. WOMAN AND HOME. THE RESULTS OF TOO CLOSE CON TACT WITH THE WORLD. CI :m-U ! "Clutter ria-r ItadeocK of the I'ttlr Kx Care of tha tick lloin Couvenlrncc Tab! Adornment Vari ous llntafor tlo Household. Leaving out the question of equal compen sation with mnn for her services, 1 would nvk, la the feminine organization and naturo as well lilll to work on man (works in any calling! I it good for a sc usitive, refined gil l to bo jiluccd in any position where she muM corno in contact am! deal with all nmn- or of men, thocoarso, rudeaul overlearing, as well as the gent lemun I Do wo not free wornii who have long filleil sm.-h positions covered us to manner, U-aring and even sen nwiiit, with a hfi-t of masculine armor which t fcti-ikcH one somewhat unpleasantly f Such covering bwomee for them a necessity, a DwitU-r of self protection. It is often uncon- . sciuuhly acquired. J'erhnps you say "a lady can Le a lady anywhere un.l josaosi ail the jeeuliar charm of femininity und womanliness." I beg leave todiiTur. Place a rellncd girl in a iosition where she mu.it, mouth in uud month out, iltl an.l como in contact with courser na tartu nine-tritMia of the time ami one of tlio two results will follow: She will either bo uiiiit'lo to eu.luro tiio position, or she will uucoiutcioii.-Iy acquire and tako on soma of the coarseness by which bho is surround.tL We are all auVtcd and influenced by our closest surrounding of everyday association. If you are compiled to live for mouths in a coal mine und among miners and see, hear and sjx-uk with only that class, you might lie surprised on emerging and going into a different nociul order ' Und how much, of coal mine thought, idea and phraseology you had uncon.viou.sly acquired. On the other hand, a refined woman's pres ence in store, ofllce, or any place where men mostly congregate, has a softening and ro fuiiiiK inhuenee. It checks tho coarse word and vulvar jest It puts men on their good Ix-Iiavior. lint is this always gained with out a certain loss to the woman! Where course thought has long beei. ramiant, it is only suppressed, not destroyed, and the woim-.u'a more sen<ive nature will feci 'such thought, am feel it ' oppressively, and such fefiing either becomes in time an injurious fcbat-Uo or she will to sorao extent give way to it and unconsciously become a part of it. 1 do not think that woman is well lilted, physically or mentally, to go into the rough And tumble of the world's business and flglit it out alongside of the man. I mean by -rough and tumble" any occupation she may engage in, I it teaching, clerking, book keeping, anything where she labors as long und as arduously as the inais That does not seem to mo her plaoe, for she lias a place and a "sphere" as man has his place and sphere. Mao did not make this place for her. Na ture did. As man's "helpmate" Bho should lo man's rest. If the two man and wife era loth iarticipants in what we call "the struggle for existence," tbey both arc equally tired with tho struggle. If both are weary, they can only give each other weariness. If cue is rested, that ono can give the other icat. Tic rested one should bo the woman tfie wifm Ifsliiib-a wife," a rea 'fe, she Will, through such rest, give her companion ctrongth, cheer, oourage and inspiration for he next day's effort. If she has been in the ofilco working at the deslc all day, sho can not. Thero is a groat factor in socia matters known as tho home, and it is woman only y who can mako tho homo. At present thero ' ore relatively few homes,' though many houses, whore men and women eat and drink together. A rea homo, with a bright, cheer ful, rested woman iu it, is worth far more to a man, even in dollars and cents, than any thing the woman may earn by any other effort. Now, you say, "But what are you going to do with all tho single women who must eurn their brcadi" I don't know. I think it is a Very unhealthy ivid unnatural state of affairs that there should be &i many single women. I find in all nature where man has not med dled that birds and animals aro generally found in pairs, and they pair off at an early age, too. With us it Is different. Many never do pair at alL I cannot look upon a woman as a whole woman, or a man as a whole man, until they aro paired really paired, I mean alike in sentiment, taste, aims, motive and inspiration. Then tho men and (rjmen find their "respective spheres" of Action as naturally and easily as you find air to breathe!' Perhaps you say:' "But this is p ot dealing with J ho present situation." 1 thiuk it id. I think the present is always dealt with best by indicating the certain pos sibilities of the future. yhpn you know a possibility, when it strikes the chord of truth within you and you know it for a truth, you are on tho road and are making your path toward such possibility. There is a "place"' and a "sphere" for tho feminine nature and feminine mind which have thus far been little roqpgnized. Sho is the source, and only source, of inau'3 Inspira tion. By "inspiration" I mean plan, idea, Gorice,' schema and invention in any 'calling. Man cannot live without the feminine spirit ual element about him. When you put hordus of men together, as they are sorao times placed in armies or settlements anJ peparatod from the other sex, they grow not pnly conrse, bat stupid ' and'dulled in intel Joct. Where you find women best cared for, best shielded from tho world's roughness, and at tho same time most respected, you find the most masculine power and the most rounded out masculine natures. Whyl Bo cause tho feminine nature belonging to that man, and that man only, when so protected as vou would protect any delicate instru ment, is then in the position to give him that streugtb which he uses as his rougher plane of effort. Ii entice "Mulford in New York I Closets and "Clatter Places. Can we not slightly modify an old and, wise odasra and find t!at ''woman U known by tha closet she keeps!" for a closet indi cates to a greater or less extent soma traits in the averazo woman s character. Have we not seen all kinds? Look into this one we do not need to open tho door, lis never shut not a hook is risible, each one beiiig covered ' with a double or triple layer of garments; skirts hung byrtheir bind ir.cra: waists suspended by their collars ruinous" to' the' fit wipter and summer clothes promiscuously mingled; soiled aprons, all go to make up a part of the general con fusion. On tho Coor boots and shoes; cast oil pairs; old, new, krftjeking about uny y.ay; tho shelves, if there, aro any, crowded vith empty or useless bcttka, or piled high with boxes or baskets. Terhaps our own closets may contain ono or more of these evils. How shall we remedy them? In the first place, keep the closet door shut during the day, for an open door is one thing that gives an air of untfdiresa to th wuolo room. On tho other hand, always leave tho door "open tt bight That Is the proper time to air the closet; tis then that the chamber U the coolest, and the daily or rather nightly change of "air prevents a;;y musti- ness clincr-ns: to tt-9 carmenis uu.ng vaev. Do not bang your winter and summer gar ments la tho same cfooot. In the fall put away tho summer dnx.es the cotton ones washed and rough dried folded In an empty trunk or box or bung In a disused closet kept for the purpose. In tho spring, do the same with tho winter garments. One will find it refreshing, after a putting away of this kind. to be ablo to cutch sight of a hook or two that has nothing on it. Hang up waists and skirts by loops prop erly attached. Tis not always as convenient. but it repays in the end Keep soiled clothes from tho closet, unless In a laundry bag. It is a great d-al moro convenient to take a pair of khocs, polished and clean from a slioo bag of linen or ticking, bung on tho in side of the door, than it is to strain one's buck sloopiug over and picking among half a dozen dusty pairs to find tho mates on the floor. If ono has a shoo bag sho will in tuitively keep cast off shoes out of it. Borne of these bags are made to cover nearly the whole door; then tho lipiier pockets, made any sizo convenient, aro used for soiled col lars, cults and handkerchiefs, and tho score of littlo necessaries. Keep only tho bottles and boxee needful on tho shelves. This pre vents one of tho dUngrecablo features of house cleaning, overhauling tho closets. In a houso recently built, the linen closet had three or four immense drawers, each largo enough to hold two jairs of blankets or tho same number of quilts, pluced on rollers; so thero U no back breaking strain in open ing tho heaviest of tbein. My mother told mo she learned when she was first married never to put anything away without a purposo; for, by a littlo thought und a little careful engineering at tho proper time, sho wns saved tho horror of tbo annual clearing out of a "clutter place." "IL T. W." in Good Housekeeping. Iludcncsa of tlie Fair Sex. No one will deny that most men treat pleasantly the clerks who wait upon them. 1 think for tho most itai t men deal with clerks on a basis of equality for the time being, listening to what they say, treating their remarks with respect, asking their ail- vice and iuterjecting in the business conver sation more or less of pleasant chat about the weather, tho news of the day, tho state of business, or whatever. It docs not matter who tho men are, whether they are million aires, ofiicials, potted clergymen, would ba aristocrats or hu; thus' mtu treat men when busim4 brings them together, i ho main exceptions to the rule are thoso in which we find tho male customer familiar, Jocular and even coni'ldeutial iu his manner to whoever is serving him, man or woman. With women tho case is different very markedly, and I think strangely different. Your Lady customer, your woman making purchases, "puts on an air," as the phroio goes, when she confronts her eeryitor. Bhe may have boen at the instant smiling ana mirthful with ber companion; perhaps it is her nature to bo frank and lively and ensu ing with every ono of her fiends and ac quaintances, yc-t une is almost certain to adopt either a cold and haughty or tit least what is called a thoroughly practical busi- ness like manner as sho prepares to address tho clerk, always if tho clerk is a female; seven times in ten in ray cxjierino if the j clerk bo a male, ' Bhe permits iio polite exchange of pertinent comment, no familiarity or departure of any sort from a fixed adherence to the mechanical duty of serving her on tho ai t of the cleric If she has what humble folk call the "mark of the quality" that is, the fashionable man ner sho will bo able to remind the clerk of her place with a sentenco or a look or a gf-s-ture in which will bo found the venneraent of coldness, of rudeness and of assumed superiority. Antl how many men are tliere who will not recall that when they have whispered "Why make that pc?r cyciitu.'e pull dovn all thav stuff if you don't mean to buyP the answer has been something like this: "Why should she Jnot do what I askl" "Why should I not see things if Iwanttof or, "What else is she iaid forF' This unwarranted behavior toward a large class of humanity is a conspicuous feature of what is called shopping, and women, tell us though perhaps they don't need ton that they prefer shopping to almost every other joy on earth. Julian Ralph in The Epochs Tbo Core of the Sick. Most young women think that to smooth tho pillow poetically, to carry cooling drinks to the lips, to arrange flowers on the table with the vials at the head of the bed, to sit beside the bod and read verses in a gentle voice, to move about the room in, flowing robes with noiseless gT&pe, is the sum total of nursing the sick; and they are quite ready to begin a life jn" which they undertake all womanly duties, when they cannot make a cup of gruel so that it shall not bp lumpy. The care of tho sick in in the real expef WHj something 4mm&ifaely different; life and death hang in the balance, and all the ven tures of life, all the interests and loves of life, the sufferings of tho dying, the hopes and fears and terrible sorrows of the living. Any serious illness is a fight all tho way through between doctors and nurses on the one side and death and dissolution on the other. It is, then, one of the shameful things, of our civilisation that' our daughters are brought up to chatter French, to take tho last new dancing step, to talk critical jargon concerning the merits of this and t,bat stylo of painting, to, discuss theories and philoso phies, mathematics and metaphysics, and to remain ' utterly igucrant of those things which are tho most vital to every wQman. to every one also with, whom they are con nected, the things cf which both they and others aro tho surest to have need. And we venture to predict that in days to ccme no girl will be thought to have finished her edu cation in its chiefest ioint who has not spent the nights and days of some months at least in hospital duty, learning how to make a p tieat as pcmfortable as. fate permits,' nqt'to leave one in discomfort' a moment, as, un learned in hospital' arts, she must, and to keep the sick alive in some other way tbaq that which might bo adopted by a savage, by sheer force, pf vis4li7 and letting alone. Harper's Bazar. ' Conveniences In Small Hoo.es. In small houses, where closets are not abundant, many convenient receptacles for certain things can be made to answer other purposes as welL An ottoman, for instance, tall enough to serve for a eaat, may have a top provided with hingeswhich 'on' being raised "discloses' a 'partitioned "box for hats and bonnets. A' long Window seat made from a pine box and covered with figure jute makes an admirable, paco. o lay a,yay clean shect and epyeads; in4 fenpas long and only "half as Tvide is a great convenience in a dining room for tho table cloths and napkins in use for the day. Hanging shelves such as are used for books, when furnished with cur tains, may be appropriated to coster, tumblers and other appointments. A bachelor friend might be tempted to tako ve of his' slippers whin tbere was a certainty that there was an appointed place where they would be found when wanted. A slipper case is not a difficult thing to, make. Tho prettiest ones are made like a huge bath slippor, that is, with a vamp, but uo sides, The shape i$ 'cut in pasteboard and covered with closely quilted satin. The too, which makes the pocket for the slippers, is lined with thick linen of the cams color, If poastblo, as tbo satin. The slipper Is hung to the wall by the heel, at the buck of which a loop should be made for that purpose. "W. W." in Detroit Free frees. Adornment of the Table. For the ordinary dovotoeof modern life the tablo adornment becomes an element more Important than even the selection or management of the materials of the meaL Scrupulous cleanliness and neatness are of tho first consequence. No attention to these details can be considered unnecessary or un important Flowers, of course, are the ready suggestion and resource of the house keeper who purveys for worn apjictites. Cut the brightest flowers of 3-our conservatory with unsparing band. Better to snip tho stems which support the pride of tho green houses thun to daily see the richer and moro precious growth of a beloved life starving, withering and falling under tho shears of fata. Don't bo chary of tho best china and the company glassware. lx.t it appear not at stated intervals, or on Ejiecial occasions, but ut such odd and freaky times that it may, pcrlutps, give unconscious zest to some older member of the family, or may provoke a smile from some child who bus temporarily fallen out with his appetite. 1 f you recognize tho need for a cheerful and tempting table do tho best you can with your resources. Iluth Beechcr in Good Housekeeping. M'lieu Papering a Ituoui. A small room can be made to apjwar large by being covered with a paper of sulxlued color, and without any delluite design. A sitting room can bear a shade that has a cooling effect, delicate gray, with a spatter ing of red or pink. In almost any case soft shades of, olive are restful to the eye and farni a good background for pictures. For thin, also, there is the plain gray pa per which is neutral enough to show off almost auy picture to advantage. Blue tints with yel low or black aro hard to handle, and it re quires much more artistic placing to harmon ize carpets and curtains and walls. A frieze of small Japanese fans on a white wall makes a pleasant relief from the "frozen" ones we are often supplied with. S. Lcuis. Repub lic. A Lemonade for Invalids. Such a lemonade is prepared by cutting four lemons into halves, squeezing the juice into three pints of boiling water, then taking half a pound of sugar in pieces, and rubbing the peel till the sugar is yellow, so as to get at the essential oil of tbo peel, and then pour the whole into a jug, cover, let it cool, ail,l then strain. It also may bp iocd. When the patient is not very ill, or Is recovering, it is well to add thewtiiteof an egg, and then froth up. " Bo prepared, a uutrifcive drink is furnished to the patient Herald of Health. To Wawh fcllk nandkercltu Put an iron on to 40t, and when ready to use wash tue handkerchiefs through a Very warm soap suds. If they are ranch soiled pass them through A aeoond suds. Do not rub the snap directly on the handker oV.icf Then pass through another warm water without soap and thoroughly rinse, squeeze dry and iron immediately to pi-event the colors from running. "Agues" in Do troit Free Prai Do not leave anything standing in a sick room that can vitiate tho air. Milk must not stand in a room. It is a bad custom of burn ing coffee, rags and pastiles. Open dishes with evaporating solutions, such as carbolic acid, etc., do no good. Did you ever go Into a small room where a perso-i had been sleeping for even a short time without detecting bad airf How much more important to a sick person, who cannot leave his quarters, that the air should be thoroughly changed. Ventilation cannot bo accomplished by simply letting the pure air in; the bad must be let out. If rooms, especially sleeping rooin3, ae not constructed on this plan, a littlo contriving will find a way. Do not eat too much. Each person can best determine, for himself when that amount i3 reached. Dio Lewis 6ays: "After all, it is not so much the quality as the quantity." Drink at closo of meals, not too strong nor too hot; never a full glass of very bet or very cold liquid tq wash. dov-n food, as the saliva is wasted and the stomach flooded. Keep, the body scrupulously clean; change t-lothing often worn next the skin, and do net economize in was!) bills. Eat something within an hour after rising, if obliged to labor or study, or exposed to malaria or contagion. If possible eat in pure air, and not too fast. Nothing is gained by bolting food, and much harm may follow. Fresh air Is no$ necasarijv cold. ar. You can bring air in 'through another room and warm' H therel" Absolutely fresh air in a sick rcm $ as necessary as food and. taediciua, and often more scy Do, Dot wear tight clothing; the Qb,Yious reason every intelligent mind, can sea, Haw shall air be changed I "Doors are made to shut, windows are made to open." Do not eat hot food, especially bread, and do not eat late at night. Never sleep in clothing worn during the day. ' " - fascination pf the Pool Room. There is a fascination in the poo) roam and the betting stand that few young men can resist. At the races during the week 1 have seen dozens of boys whom 1 know can ill afford to honestly risk their money in tins way putting up $3 and $3 and fo on races, and almost invariably losing the amount they wager. During the week some of them have lost (100 or more, and their salaries do not average more than $12 a week. asked several of them how they began this bigness." The answer was nsarly always ' the same: They went hatba'poSl room one day. bought a twenty-five. cent ticket, and won 0 or !&1, or perhaps more, on a combination one of them won nearly f the very first day he jripd his. luck '4'h'e result of the winning In each case was the same. The lucky individual thought he could do the same thing over again, and kept on buying tickets until he got so deep ir.ty. the game that he couldn't let go, tiiarly oJ'. of them are in debt wtU no hope of paying off their ptigeikins unless they should strike i, iaeky day and a big stake. - But lucky days and big stakes are rare, so they must beg and borrow and worry themselves until the oc casion comes, if ever does. When a young man anything, he has to pay it out im mediately and begin borrowing over again to play for a new stake. ' I never saw anybody yet get rich by patronizing pool rooms; on the contrary, I could name many citizens who would be quite well off if tbey had let the pools and combinations alone. A. 1m alo Cord in Globe-Democrat. POISONOUS COSMETICS. RISKS RUN BY WOMEN IN TRYING TO BE PRETTY. Many Device Iteaortea to oj tlie Pair Sex Bleaching tho Hair to Give It a t'aatiioiiabla 8 hade Making Up Terri ble CoiuMqu.iicc. "Can 1 get my hair bleached hereT I asked on entering a well known Chicago hair dresser's establishment. "Certainly," said the smiling attendant. "What color do you wish f "I am rather undecided between a blonde and tho new auburn fchade," I replied un blushingly. "Vou had l-tter decide in favor of the red. That is the shade just now, and your hair would take it splendidly. I wouldn't have to touch tho end at all, jiut here nextthescalp, where it's so dark." "Don't you consider it dangerous?" "Well, I've had my hair reddened for six years now, and it hasn't hurt mo," sho said, smilingly. "There's not so much risk with tho red dye as with tho extreme blonde." "Can dark hair bo bleached white!" "i'ot ou the head at least not in this country. I have heard it could bo done in Paris, and a lady buyer for ono of our larue dry goods firms is going to try and discover the fcecret for me when neit she goes abroad." I said I would thiuk it over ana would call again. QUITE BUSINESS LIKE. J Whilo I sat in another fashionable hair dresser's shop, waiting fur rtr lu::r in .: , I idly watched a lUlio v.uman through a glass partition us sho made up her face. Hhe rubbed her entire face with some fine w(tite powder uutil she looked like a clowa at the pantotnine; then she took a, chamois skiu and carefully rubbed and smoothed it until onlv the suspicion ol the powder va3 visible Next uhe tcok a small hare foot brush and, dipping it daintily into a box of rouge, proceeded to redden her cheeks. This was then carefully toucd dowu with another dash of white. Then tho eyes. She penciled her brows and drew black lines close up to tho under lash. Then dai:Uily wetting her finger she drew it over her eye brows, tho moisture emphasising as it were tho blackening process. Then sho took a hand gla and regarded herself from all poiuta of tho compass. The result evidently wns satisfactory, for she came out wtu a gratified Kuile. Bhe had gone in the littlo room a dark skinned, raU'.r tallow faced person; she emerged w"Jn tho pink anj wllite coniptex'ton tb fcuonij belong to a radiant blond t tiis process had been gone through with in plain view of the rest of the people in the room, and with a serious and business like air that was quito astonishing. "Do jou make up many society ladiesT I asked. "Yes, indeed, though not here. We are sent for aud go to their houses to dress their hitir and then make up their faces for them afterward Ob, yes, we havo a great many regular customers in the mako up line." "I suppose you have actresses, too?" "Well, not so many. You see, they know how to do their own make up. That's a part of their business just as much as line dress ing; but ladies generally mako a liotch of it either get too much or too little, so they save themsel ves tho bother and fuss by having it done, for them just as much as hair dressing or manicuring. Thero, your hair's done now better let ma touch your face up a little you've no idea how nice you'd loolc No? Well good day." My Turkish bath attendant tells mo that she has seen tho frightful ravage which cos metics and dj"es have produced. "I wish ladies would see the results of such follies as 1 have," sho said, "they would not try every vile cosmetic and hair wash in the market." Hair dressers say that the yellow bleach is not much in demand now. The lemon haired blondes are not in voguo. The red haired girl is tho rago. The hair that looks brown in the dark and turns red in the sun is also very desirable. POISOXOC3 COSMETICS. I know a lady who had such hair, or, at least, her back hair was that color. Her bangs were much darker than her back hair, and the contrast wa3 not pretty. Her hair dresser suggested doctoring them a bit. "1 don't dare," she said. "I have stuff which will do It positively harmless," he urged. "Drink some of it and I'll believe you," she said, and he complied. Sho argued that if it couldn't hurt bis stomach it ought not her head, and allowed transformation to take place. Kcr has she ever experienced any ill results. But it is generally very unsafe to tamper with ono'3 hair. Blindness and, in sanity are often brought about by this, folly This has been, toid. women again and again, but they pay no beed and rush madyf in where angels would fear to tread- There is no risk a woman will na run, no pain sho will not suffer, if she thinks thereby she oau be made more beautiful. 1 know a woman who haa used cosmetics all her life, and those, too, of the rankest and most poisonous kinds. Now she is paying for it Her skin is something terrible to see. Physicians tell her it's her stomach, but thoso who have seen her daubing on lotions, pastiles and powders know better. She was a hand some woman, too she had no need of these accessories. Her friends often remonstrated with her, but to no avail. Now she is reap ing the whirlwind, I know of another lovely woman who was sensitive about her freckles. She took some powerful cosmetic and removed them. She never seemod strong after that, and died be fore she was SO. 1 knew another who would Jtake infinitesimal dosss of arsenic. She died with some unknown stomach disease. Bat the saddest case 1 know of was one of a most beautiful, dashing society woman. 1 remember seeing her one night in her sump tuous, glowing beauty, the queen of ax ice carnival, surrounded by flatterers, and ad mirers. 1 did not seo hr again until thre years aft&rardj and then she was Ving k4 along the street by an attendant totally blind" from the excessive use of cosmetics and, worse thai tha?, continually subject to terrible epileptic fits. These are "awful examples," but true ones, and still in the face of these and kindred warnings women will insist upon tainting, and powdering and dyeing tliemselves. Edith Sessions Tupper ia Chicago Herald. Tlio Victory Gained, Gunnington (appearing suddenly) Once for all, Clara, will you forgive mef 1 can't bear to give you up for so trivial a reason. Clara No, Henry, nothing but a very strong will power a power stronger than my own would make me change my deter mination, and (as Henry turns away) heaven knows you've got it, Henry 1 Tid Bits. After the wedding breakfast of Prince Henry and the Princess Irene at Berlin, while the bride was dressing for the journey her garter was cut up and the pieces distributed ' among her maids of Loner, in accordance with an old German custom. The Plattsmouth Herald Is on-joying cl EDITION S. Tear lie Will he one iluriii"; which the subjects f national interest and importance will le strongly agitated ami the election of a President will take place. Ihe people of Cass County who would like to learn of Political, Commercial and Social of this year and would keep apace with the times should -ran Daily or Weekly Herald Now while we have the subject before the people we will venture to speak of our yl Jp Which is first-class in all respects and from which our job printers are turning out iimch satisfactory work. PLATTSMOTJTK, Bo'jm in "both. itG AND WEEKLY 1888 Transactions EE kitiiku tiik NEBRASKA.