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CHPITHL CITY COURIBR,
M. ItAlMiiXII, . ,
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J. SiMnrr, K K. iiniwi, h' II MM,
SYMPATHY AS AN Alt'!
MRS. FRANK LCSLIC SUGaE9T3 A so
funifHim, (I. II' rfiwwilmiii
f. K, 7uimmum
German National Bank
LINCOLN, Nit II.
lph nochmer, Prcftldcnt,
Hirmoit H. Sclmlierir, Vice I'reit.
Ch i. 1'. Wnlto, Chlf r.
lieo. II. bchunke, Al. Canlilcr.
Thn Fidlnw IVcllntt Thnt I'ri-norn-. (Inlilcn
Hlli-hrn Hiirnitta Morn ('mid Than
Drulli Tim lliurllluli lint (lint U l.o.
A llrllllntil Wiiiimti'ii .1ugi'tliiii.
.Gop) rUtht. Iwrt, liy AiiiiTliuti Fk-m An-wx-bv
tlou. All rluliti rononrd.
The Eirst National Bank
0 and Tenth Sts.
Capita), $400,000 Surplus, $100,000
. 8. JMHirOOD, ViitUltnt.
OUA8.A. IIANXA, Vlte-Prtriiltnl.
F. M COOK, Ctithttr.
0, 8. liU'lUSCOTT. An't Cathltr
11 s 'K:;.lf.l.v, .im'f TimfifiT
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Lincoln, : Nebraska
Capital, - $250,000
OJpetrs ami D$rirtcrs:
Ukm B. Wright, I'rc. T. K. Hnmlers, V.-l.
J. II. MoClny, Umdilor.
rBJohnion, II 1' I.nu. Tho Cnclirnn. E
RBIier, TWUMorjr, W I. Dayton
Central Hanking Hiulneu TrniM.ictcd
Collection n Specialty.
LOMBARD INVESTMENT CO.,
Farm and City Loans
AT LOW RATES.
yy Money furnUhed promptly on p
E. C.JONES, Manager
iy O Street, Lincoln, Neb
DON'T know imy circuinitnnoo
f social lifo ho "trying to iiiiiu'h
houIh" on lioth Hides as tlio oir
utmiHttiiico demanding Hy input liy.
Death is bail enough, but it Is
hy no moans tliu worst. Most of tit havo
boon through Hint dark anil terrible hour
when that which seemed our nil has boon
laid nwny from our sight i.inl from
among lnt'ii, mid our friends hnvo cimiui
d rowed in somber clothes, nnd with soni-
her nnd nut countenances liuvo ono hy
ono Insisted upon laying h.iro tho wound
wo would fain lildo under our mourning
gnrb nnd expressing mom or lens erudo
ly, more or loss dollcatoly, tho Myinpathy
of which thoy huvo cotuu to ussuro uh.
It is n social necessity that thoy should
como. Wo should fool HurprlHod and
nllghtod if thoy did not, and wo do not
dromnof shirking tho painful duty either
of receiving or of paying visits of condo
lence nnd yet I often wonder If it would
not Ito woll to induce a nodal revolution
whoroin this and several other time hon
ored customs should ho swept away,
Timo honored indeed, for speaking of
this matter tho other day to a friend 1
was told that when .)oh fell into atllio
tion his throe friends at ouco mudo an
apiointui(nt to moot and mako a collect
wriggles nnd pniitingsof their victim as
linlpless ns n frog under a crotchod stick,
with n cruel hoy at Iho other end, or,
mora appropriately, a frog In tho clutched
of a vlvlsootlonlst, wV.o Ih determined to
lay open tho throbbing of xor frogglo's
heart" In tho intcrcstsof humanltyl This
sympathizer hides her time. Hlio waits
until sho can jvuii her victim in n corner,
or penetrate to her bedroom, or get her
Into it victoria or a buggy when) no In
terruption 1m possible, and then sho 1m
fcins: "My dear child, I wnnt to toll you
how dreadfully sorry I ant for your dls
nppolnttumit, but how eaino you to sup
poso Mr. Hinlth was surious in his nttvn
tions? Toll mo nil about it, dear. It
will comfort your oor heart to speak
out. Did tho man over really ask you to
marry liltnT" And so on until the de
serted damsel Is ready to lling herself
out of tho vohlclo under tho horso's feet
and fools thnt tho loss of her lovor Is as
nothing compared with tho shamoof bo
tug pitied and Myui)iithized with.
Or take tho case of a man who has
been horsowhlppcd or kicked or slapped
In tho fnco by another man stronger and
bigger nnd therefore braver than him
Holf. Ho doesn't want to know that hli
frlonds aro rorry for him! Ho would
inueh rather bo suffered to imagine ttint
thov hadn't heard of It. and yot thoro nro
i plenty of thick skinned idiotii who will
I on tho (lrst opportunity rush up to him
with outstretched hand:
"My dear follow, I want to toll you
how Indignant I m:i nt tho way that
i hruto treated youl Fairly kicked you
down tho stops of the clubhouse, thoy
I tell inol Just like these great hulking
I lioastH who think, becauso they aro big
mil strong, a littlo follow llko you or mo
must glvo in to all their Insoloncol"
I Probably tho man thus apostrophized
I nt ouco measures tho other "littlo fel
! low" with his ovo and mentally decides
that ho can thrash him at least and will
' do so on tho llrst opportunity.
Among my acquaintances on onosldo
or tho other of tho water I am proud to
Include a lady whoso father was hung,
nnd justly so. for murder. Of courso tho
most of her friends painfully avoided
wiy subjoct within rlllo shot of tho
ubjoct. but I heard that inoro than ono
well meaning person had attempted to
lumtmtltixc with her ami thereby nearly
drovo tho poor woman to madness.
Or think of a mother whoso Hon lion
committed soino Hbamuful crimu and la
either a fugitive from justico or Is suffer
ing her penalties. Fancy iiy sympathy,
von tho most dolicato being anything
but an ollonso to such a sufferer. In
fact, thero is no lovo upon whoso death
It Is not safer to count than upon that of
n mother. It Is positively indestructible,
and 1 havo novor found any other class
of Afllcacy or n sensitive organization
will recognize such cases for thomsolvci,
and to those who nro not delicate nnd
sensitive in their own iwrsonnllty no
amount of teaching will effect tho ob
ject. You cannot train u rhlnoceron into
a thin skinned Arab steed, nor it cactus
Into a sensitive plant. Most people and
most thimii dio very much what thoy
are born, and tho clumsy sympathizers no
doubt will oslst when tho world censes,
just as it did when it In-gati to 1k
Dut there nro cases, and plenty of
thorn, where true und tender sympathy
Is llko tho very dow of heaven upon the
parched and drooping (lowers. Thero
nro tender fouls that long for sympathy,
just as a littlo child holds up Us hurt
linger for every ono to "klsH and mnko
well." To such persons, and to sorrow
of tho ordinary outspoken sort, with no
tinge of shame about it, lot us give sym
pathy with n free and generous hand.
Uut, above nil, let it bo the right kind
of sympathy. It is in many cases, if not
In all, more bler.ied to give than to re
ceive, nnd this npplio.t to jlfti of sympa
thy iulto ut much us to more tangible
I once know n lady who r,aid b!io had
been to church till her lifo, but had not
been nblo to acquire grace fiUlncicnt to
enjoy being pitied by anybody for nny
thing. Of courso this was pride, and
prido Is naughty, but very universal,
Sometimes it tukcH tho form of r.mour
propre, which ia something a littlo dif
ferent from self love, although that li
the only English equivalent for tho
phrase. Hut iimour propre is a very doli
cato thing to handle Sometimes it ii
hurt by being touched; fcomctiuiis it is
still more hurt by being let nlono: sor.io
timi'H such a perMin as this wanti to bo
sympathized with, and yet it irritably
watchful lest tho sympathy they do-
maud should seem to place them at fault
for their misfortune.
You Kiy to i.uch a ono, "How could
you trust that man when everyone wild
ho was dishonest?" and tho sufferer near
ly llles in your face with tho assertion
that hIio is no more credulous than other
It Is, inouo word, n very dangerous and
delicate matter cither to glvo or receive
sympathy, and all 1 enn miy Is, remem
ber, llko fire, water and gunpowder, It ii
a good thing so long as you know how to
manage It, but If you don't-f or heaven's
sake, let it alone.
A Moment's Examination
$i oo Per Kushc-1.
SEE ouu Potatoes
try our Coffees
The Newest and
in the City.
Miller & Gifford,
1211 0 street. phone. 744.
'ulile Etik I live tun akirg lir
and several thousand others.
I advise all who would save
time to io at once to
Ivocall of condolence. Hut and hero
plenso observe the superiority of disoro-1 f . . , , , th,lt woni Woulil apply.
tion in the days of .lob compared with , Cortaiiv H0111l, wWll havo loved some
oura,-naving arrtvci wun .ioi tnoy sai ,,,,;. Momo IimIli.
REAL ESTATE MASS
Oa nuroi In eastern Nolirnkn niul tinprnred
property In Mnoolii foru torn, of yesr.
Lowest Current Rates
R. E. & J. MOORE.
Ooraer llth A O StrcoU, I.lnooln.
S per cent on Deposits Pali) at the
AND SAFE DEPOSIT COMPAHY
Corner V ami Kloventh Sin.
Only Safe Deposit Vaults in Lincoln
X H Ilnrwooil,
N u o roc k,
'D T llii,
O V WfhulPr,
11 t llnthawny.
j l. urlHoee,
11 J Kriml,
II W ItmwH,
K H Slier,
llonry K l.owl,
husbands, souio maidens havo loved somo
lovora. somo women have loved some
men "not wisely, but too well," through
good report nnd ill. through fortuno and
misfortune, cruelty und kindness, faith
fulness und unfaithfulness, even to the
bitter end, but this unreasoning con
stancy cannot bo predicted of wives or
fiancees or mistresses as a rule. Much
depends upon the individual.
Hut in the case of mothers It is tho
rule, (.'specially ns regards her sons. Tho
. I shall noyer rorgot n dear little , b d devol ,uto tho Umlt.
.ventional widow whom I wont to a aun t,J0 , t , vlUllin
ust lifter tho su.ldon and shocking B in,,,, ,mt tmnBu Rho mav be
upon tlio ground, and ror seven
days und nlghtH nobody spoko n wordl
Now, we don't have timo in this era to
sit in silence seven days and nights in
tho presence of our friends, but 1 often
think If our custom was to go and sit
seven minutes, more or less, beside our
friend nnd thou go nwny with a mute
caress or clasp of tho hand, how much
bettor it would he than to try to say
mnnethma, and that generally tho wrong
death of her young husband
'It was so good of you to come, hut,
oh, don't say n word not ono wordl".
gasped sho, and 1 almost literally com
pllod. Yes, boroavomcut is bad enough, and
to very few, if to any, is it given to speak
tho words of comfort or reassuranco.
But there aro sorrows far more cruel
than death; thoro aro bereavements sud
den nnd more hopeless than those of tho
grave, ami it is in these that sympathy
may Indeed despair of fitly expressing
itself, oven by sitting silent seven days
and nights in its presence.
A man in some prominent position of
trust becomes a defaulter and runs
away, leaving nia w .o ami launiy to , , f Wi
boar the shamo and notoriety of his .1, i,i.ri. '
H. W. BROWNS,
127 SOUTH ELEVENTH STREET
CIllrilKi.'i, I'lrnt Child.
In wlnterless southern California n
pleasant faced old lady, Mrs. Susan Wi
nans. Is restfully passing tho clo-o of
lifo. Children and grandchildren attend
her, nor blizzards nor cyclones nor bit
ing cold nor bcorching heat annoy.
Yet midst wars, massacres and priva
tions of every kind her lifo began. At
tho Fort Dearborn massacre of 1812 her
baby cars honrd terrible sounds, nnd her
innocent eyes may havo seen father and
brother murdered. At a mother's breast
she clung close that no savage club
1 Liabilities, f.VM 000.
I'ays lnlcri't on hiwIiiuh iireountH niul lliuo
ilvpoblls. KnrulKticiiuxcliiuiKi) Cico
- to eiwtoniHrs,
John Taylor, I'n-lilont
Jaiuc Kllburn. Vice 1'rcMilonl.
T. C IORN, D. D. S.
Room 25 and :6, llurr Hlock,
lln at ureiit ex-l-iiv
(11 I) lii'lrniie-nl
Willi u now l'nl'
myor.dlrrct from t.nmlnn, hiuIIh now ln'itor
prepnrwl than over to do Mho MorU, from
locket up li llfi Uc. npon fro 1 -n in. tiH
p. t. HUllllHVN, lll'l"', i .1 ii - r"W
PLANS FOR 25 CTS.
Send for tho National Hcii-D;
w n mmithlv ir.iirnnl dovotiHl
r"Tii.n" "'l.... UM.
nnmtwr coatulnn a coroplcto
... nf nl.nd M..U in Itnllil f rotll. lrlO(,. ij
1 "! ii'"'" 'r.fJ.TV- OTn. OnJ l Jiit. nm
(Unl lloniM," conUilnlug 80 plani iln colore. Bend
or catalomie of plan, I no. TllS N AXIOM XU
Uuiiokb, Adiitu. ExproM Uulldlot;, t uIcbbo.
crlmo. perhaps leaving them in poverty
and debt as well, for very few criminals
commit but one kind of sin. A defaulter
is usually intensely selfish and considers
his own desires so exclusively thut ho
not only appropriates moneys not his
own. but his neighbor's wife as well, and
is utterly callous as to tho suffering of
all sorts to which ho condemns tho wom
an lawfully his own
Now, what sympathy can ono express
to such a mourner as that wife? What
word would seem other than prcsumi
tuoii8 und intrusive to such bereave
ment? And yot wo all do fool sorry for
her; wo nil do long to lot her know It
und to comfort her
Some of us who have htruggled In deep
waters ouiMilves shrink from the at
tempt nnd contrive some other mode of
showing tho true sympathy wo feel, and
yet there Is grief so deeply dyed with
shamo that positively no notice should
bo taken of it even a box of (lowers,
even n now book or a card, would wrve
to hint at condolence too strongly, and
wo remember that though hpeech is sil- j
vorn bilenco Is often golden.
lint yet again thoro are griefs even
deeper and more toi)Mtivo than that of t
tlo Insulted and deserted wife; there b
an agony of shamo not to bo shifted to
other shoulders than one's very own; ,
thero is a bereavement known to all tho
world.nnd yet which tho MilToror would
fain hide from even her own eyes, and
this is when a woman has too readily
yielded up her affections to ono who blm-
ply amused himself with her easy cro-
dullty, und when her devotion began to
pall "ho kissed and rodo away." Every
one In her littlo world knows tho whole
story. Tho malicious whisper: "Well,
sho throw herbolt at his Head. lint could
sho expect?" Tho kinder hearted ones
murmur: "Poor thing! I was afraid ho
didn't mean anything." And tho shurih
est Rtiti'g of her mortification is that uho
knows that they all know and aro scorn
ing at her or pitying her. Still she can
bear it so long as nobody says anything.
but they will!
Thero aro suro to bo nt least two or
threo well meaning fools who want "to
express their sympathy," who lu fact in
sist upou doing bo lu spite of all tho
tho jailbird, but though she may bo
driven to discard him, to banish him
from her fight, to declare that she no
longer calls him son. thero is always at
tho core of her hoart nn undying llnmo of
lovo, a divine forgiveness and pity and
longing that she could not if sho would
quench or destroy. Let the sinner but
reach his mother's feet, let him never so
clumsily plead, "Mother, 1 have sinned
oh, forgive mo!" and his pardon is as
sured. Even though her judgment, her
reason, her conscience, sternly condomn
him. that mother lovo of hors will Vise up
and drown them ull in tho torrent of its
In tho Scripture story it is sot forth ns
a nioinornblo thing that tho father of
It is not
oven mentioned that his mother did, for,
not to bo irreverent, "that goes without
saving." Doubtless sho dad forgiven him
long before ho set out for home, nnd
indeed it is probablo enough that it was
tho telepathy of her lovo and forgiveness
that induced him to relinquish his foul
living and return.
Woll, then, is It not obvious that with
such lovo as this In tho background no
mother, .y,ill patiently accept sympathy
for her son's misdeeds? It will only anger
her and rouso her to defend him oven
thouuh no dofenso bo possible. If sho is
a womanish sort of woman, she will prob
ably adopt tho "tu quoquo" form of re
sentment nnd say: "Yes. I know Harry
has done a foolish thing, but it aroso en
tirely from his desire to help and shield
a friend. You must remember all young
men aro not like your .John, always con
sidering what is best for his own inter
ests," If sho is not womanish, but womanly,
the best you can expect is, "Thank you,
but this is a subject upon which 1 do not
wish to talk."
I was ouco speaking with a lady in
London whose mhi had just been pursued
and brought luck from tho continent
tinder a charge of aggravated breach of
trust when nnother lady camo up and
took her hand with a murmur of "Dear
Mrs. Hlank, I want to tell you how sorry
am" "What! You havo heard of it
already!" exclaimed Mrs. Hlank, with a
smilo like tho Hash of a bayonet. Then
I half turning to mo she continued: "1
havo lost my coachman, you know. Ac
' tuully tho iKor fellow dropped dead in
' tho stables this morning, and I am iter
' fectly heartbroken. Tho best old soul
' that over held a whip. lie was my
father's coachman and actually put mo
on tho llrst pony 1 ever rode. Hut I
can't think how you heard of it so w)on,
I my dear, except that 1 beliovo you make
I It n point to gather over)' bit of nows
that is stirring, don't you?" And with
this neat littlo blow in tho firco Mrs.
I Hlank sailed away, leaving her would be
I Hut thero Is no need of swelling tho
list of cases whero tho truest sympathy
U expressod by apparent ignornnco of
any cause fo sympathy. Every pcrsou
Finest in the City
, it iii
HAVING just assumed pcttomd ccntrol of n 1 1 1 c'u u e i w i 1 1
my nlm to conduct a firht-cla.n vstabllshmvp, ghlng hot of caie nnd
liorscb entrusted to our keeping.
Single or double, and
fine line of well-trnltud 1 ones for licn
nUliecl, day'or night.
DAVE FITZGERALD, Prop.
FRANK RAMSEY, Foreman.
Stables 1639 and 1641 O Street.
MRS. SUSAN WINANB.
micht brolso her tender frame. Then
camo wigwam lifo nnd weary marching
from Indian camp to Indian camp. Thus
tho first year of her lifo passed away,
nnd tho fair haired child littlo dreamed,
when nt hist safe in her grandfather's
house, that where her eyes first saw tho
light somo timo would stretch n monster
city, somo timo bo held an exposition on
so magnificent a scale as to astonish the
world, and this bo her renown that sho
was tho first white child bom where
now tower Chicago's myriad blocks.
But having felt all of life's vicissitudes
In western wilderness now, in Iter rose
covered cottage in southern California,
sho peacefully waits tho end.
You will always find 11 full supply of
fresh fruits und vegiitnblcs ut W. A.
Collin - Co.'s store, ll.'l South Kloventh
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Inn lost iiri-xtiiio In or in wild pu-iiil-.oiiraiiy i
purl lliorol, nnd rot uoli oiuoruiui luruior re
lief nsimo lio just niul oiiiiiuino.
You mo rriiitu-d Iimuihwoi Mild pollllouou
orlM-foru Mondiiy, tin-Him diiyiii Muj I Mil.
liy round A. Ilurr, his Attorney, . It
Sewing Machine and Gun Repairing
We have just employed a skillful wotkman from the East, vho is fully competent
to m.iko all icpatrs In the above Unci. T. J. THORP & CO.,
3:0 -South Eleventh ftreet
In iho DUtilut Court of I.niiuiutor Count),
i.ri y r Mii.r.Yi
t,,. I ill 111 W. Mllcv. nonresident dofondniit
You nre hojeby nolllli-d Hint on iho oth I'ny
ol Mnren, low, i.npy r .Miiuy ini-n n i-i ion
nanlnst ynuhi tho Iillrlct inuii or Lunon
lor ooiinly. N bicHkn, Ihoiihiicl niul pmwr
,.r.i in nliliiln it dlvoioo Iiiiiii ou on Iho
urniiud thnl .miu hnvo ullfully nbuiidontd
Mild plnllltlll without inudriillM- Inrtho toliu
of tui wurs hut past, mid Hint Iii'Ihk ol mitll-i-li-nt
nfilll ' mi todo jou Iiiino M'niilonl) und
eriiolly Kiliiiii'il niul noulootid lo pio bin still
nblo liinliiuiiimieo lor Mild nlnlnllll. .Mill mo
rioulri-d lo miKut-r Mild peihluu on or holoio
Monday, tlio l rst da "f.M"..'-..,, ....
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1 MM.3ISrLHvlM2lKV-.fim mix nJsoMytU XJ Sr 1
Moving Household Goods and Pianos
None but 1 xpcrloncod men oinptoji ,V. I nioi ih Ii-ok
ti ml oilier heavy uiiU-li-s,
for nioMne n m-hlnery, mfot
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