CAPITAL CITY COURIER, SATURDAY, AUGUST ao, 1892
WOMAN AND HOME.
SOME OF THE
THE "EASY
MISTAKES MADE BY
GOING" MOTHER.
Keeping Up Appearance! The tlane 01
the Sympathetic Woman llrrkfl
Appetite Karljr Kiluratlon of Chil
drenThe Beet Adviser.
Is the easy going tho Ideal mother!
After n prolonged study of thorn who on
in other ways and unconsciously, often
with tho purest motives, work great harm
In tho bahy lives Intrusted to their cure,
one U almost rendy to bellevo that the
ability to "let alone" Is the most valuable
trait In a mother. Yet on looking closolj
Into her ways and noting tho results of hei
course that belief In sadly shaken. Ict ut
observe her a little.
Tho home of tho ensy going Is overrun
by babies, that being the easiest way to
get along. Now nothing is sweeter than n
wholesonio baby, but who besides Its
mother wants It nlwaya In thu fore
ground, Its dressing tho most Important
erent of the family life, thu details of its
breakfast occupying tho whole, household
and its imp throwing it spell of enforced si-
Ienco on every one within thu walls.
Out of tho crndlu thu children Iwcomc
even moro pervasive; nothing is forbidden
them and no tare in taken to teach them
tho difference, between use and abuse. In
consequence, there Is not a clean or whole
book on tho premises, not a chair that la
firm, not a tablo untuutllated. Hoys ride
the spring furniture and harness tho
chairs If they do not hack and destroy to
tho top of their bent. Girls bang thu
piano, "tako tea" In the parlor, scatter
cake and doll rag at will.
They think they havu a, good time; so
docs their mother, who consoles herself for
E resent discomfort and thu alienation of
er friends by thu belief that they will out
grow nil this lawlessness. "Hoys will Ihj
boys" Is ono of thu first articles in her
creed. It is as If a gardener should let the
weeds grow up among tho flowers In thu
belief that they can bo more easily disponed
of when of full slzo and well rooted, for
getting that tho strong growing weeds will
long. before that tlino havu crushed tho life
out of the flowers, and that even If by great
labor they aro pulled up and eradicated
then they will leave a scarred and seamed
surface.
Think of tho martyrdom of it guest in
the homo of the easy golngl Not only aro
the children always under foot, all thu
chairs sticky and bread and butter on thu
sofa, but tho small tyrants themselves,
with their noise and unrestrained wild
ness, Insist on seeing her, probably soil
her gown with greasy Augers, handle her
parasol and fan, run oil with her umbrella
and often go so far us to demand any little
thing in her possession that pleases their
fancy.
Ami how Is thu untrained child in other
people's houses? Is ho not thu terror of
tho hostess, who dreads his encroachments,
his violence among tho pretty things which
her own children have been taught to re
spect? Is not such a child tho true "infant
terrible" for which America is famous?
Tho effect upon tho children themselves
Is tho greatest. Left to their own devices,
with their wills untrained, tho seeds of
carelessness and bullishness rapldlv grow
Into weeds which may tako a lifetime to
root out. A sad wrong Is done to children
who are defrauded of the necessary disci
pline, who aru not taught to respect thu
rights of others and to restrain their own
lawlessness. Uecauso of this neglect they
are dreaded and feared by evury onu who
knows them, when with n little control
they might havu Iteen n credit to parents,
a Joy to friends and a welcome guest every
where. Olive Thorno Miller in Washing
ton Star.
that their lives mluht nvo lieen o differ
ent If they had had inch a friend; that
they aro lonely mid hnvu so lit tin to live
for, that they have many acquaintances
but none to whom they can go In confidence,
and no one to taku an Interest In them; no
onu to save them from enlltlon, and a lot
of other things, afl thu tWun with a pa
thetic look In their cres that goes to the
heart of any woman. Thu- woman navtji
thinking that If a man has not tho friends
that ho craves, and plenty of them, that It U
hWown fault, and his only to satisfy her
own conscience-of right ami wrong feuli
that she must do all that she can to keer.
that man from becoming a wreck.
Shu gives him her liest sympathy, truest
friendship her love. Sometimes she mar
ries htm. Sometimes she does not. What
ever sho does she gives honestly all that I
best of herself. Heglves hut nothing, but
thu satisfaction of thinking she Is reform
ing him. Poor fool, shol How many wom
en there are who go through life keeping n
reform school. He tears her heartstrings
out with anxiety for him, and his sympa
thy, his most agreeable, charming self govt
out to some onu whom ho cannot impost
upon. Teresa Dean In Chicago Intel
Ocean.
Ilrcakfnit Appetites.
Some people aru never hungry at break
fast time, and others maku breakfast the
heaviest and best meal of thu day.
It often happens, howuvcr, especially
with persons who hnvu n light lunch at
noon, that thu late dinner is madu an un
duly hearty meal, resulting In lack of ap
petite for thu morning repast.
This condition of things Is not an un
mixed evil. Tho number of peoplu who
can roll out of lied and consume a hearty
meal at once must always be limited to
those, of exceedingly robust digestion.
Many must havu breakfast at so early an
hour that no opportunity Is given for pre
liminary exercise sufllcient to start thu
dormant secretions, and a hearty meal
with the stomach full of tho night's mucus
results in serious Indigestion. Conse
quently tho average Individual swallows u
cup or colleo and a roll and sallies out.
Under thu circumstances probably this
Is better than thu hearty meal. Hut thu
tmublo lies In tho long Interval between
breakfast and dinner. If a glass of milk
or n small sandwich could lie supplied nt
thu time when real hunger and subsequent
ilntn she lets fall from lips nct!Usn....c
usually to only wordsof endearment lathit
than nrartlcal, common sense talk. Phil
adelphia Pros.
He ItPMtljr at Meal Time.
Thero Is nothing that upsets the housc
hobuaehliiery like keeping meals wait Inn
oncii they aro ready to I hi served. If there
Is an hour set, for. breakfast It Is the duty
of every'ono to I hi on hand promptly when
tho time arrives. It not only fosters n
habit of regularity, but It Is an net ol
Justice to the efforts of tho cook to par
take of tho viands when they aro In prlim
condition, Just from thu oven and not
spoiled through ten or fifteen minutes'
waiting on thu back of tho range or a cool
Ing off nfter they have- been set on tin
table.
Promptness Insures a Itetter tuenl ever
time, and tho latu comer should nevei
growl over chops dried out, coffee cold 01
biscuits soggy, for they aro largely due It
his own tardiness. Hotel life spoils nu
for the regularity ami system necessary !n
n privatu family, and tho man or womar
who has hoarded many years prior tt
their marriage will have to materially al
ter their mode of procedure If they mean
to keep their servants and have their liou-o
run systematically, and, as a natural con
sequence, smoothly. Onu cannot blame h
cook for leaving a place when the mem
burs of tho family straggle down onu by
oihv anil thu dishes aro on the table from
onu to two hours. It Is no encouragement
toward devising hew and dainty things tc
ent when they can never lw Judged prop
crly, and many a fault found with the
cooking is directly traceablu to thu Irregu
larity of tho household that prevents the
serving of meals when they aru ready.
Philadelphia Times.
Olyci-rlu Improves I'lnsters.
Ily mixing powdered gum arable with
glycerin, in thu proportions of four of the
latter to one of thu former, Cap and (Jarot
succeeded In making a compound which,
when spread upon linen, forms excellent
plasters, firmly adhesive, yet nt tho same
time retaining their flexibility. Any of
the numerous substnuces soluble In glyc
erin can be Introduced Into these plas
ters. Colhsllou may be much improved by
adding a small proportion of glycerin to
tho common colhsllou, two to 100 parts;
CHI MM EN'S COLUMN.
A Itrave I.lttle tllrl.
Edith Drill, of Woolwich, Kngland,
though only ten years' old, has been hon
ored as a ho-olno by no less distinguished
a liody than thu humane society of that
country Thu society's bronco medal and
certllleato were publicly presented to her
In tho town hall of Woolwich a few days
ago. Sho saved ono little boy from drown
ing and attempted to save another, In both
cases under ulruumstnnces of great risk to
her own life
Thollttlu girl was playing with mem
ber of children In Woolwich dooiyanl,
when two of thu children fell Into lbs King
William dock. A boy standing nt the tor
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happens between 0 and 11 o'clock (forthosu I collodion, and to prevent Its cracking and
who havu hail all o'clock lircukfust). onu , "'"" "I1 '"'"
would hardly care If breakfast did consist
chiefly of tho traditional cup of coffee.
For those who can control their meal
hours, ami who are not obliged to retire ho
Into as to maku latu rising imperative, at
tention) two or tlirvo apparently trilling
things will almost Invariably Insure n
good breakfast appetite.
Do not ent heartily very Into in tho even
ing, lilso half an hour or moro before thu
breakfast hour and drink a glass of cold
water. This helps to dissolve and wash
away thu mucus, and by distending thu
stomach prepares it to receive) food later
on. Kngagu if possible in some light work
In tho fow minutes before tho meal Is
ready. Observing these simple things you
will find yourself in u condition to digest
breakfast unless your system is radically
out of gear. Fond.
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Keeping Up Appearance!.
Keeping up appearances is always n dis
astrous mistake. It Is often a wonder to
the student of social life why middle class
folks hasten with such Joyous alacrity to
pass tho dividing line between themselves
and thu wealthy. What possible good can
it do to hnvu your neighbors think you aru
richer than you are?
Perhaps owing to church connection a
couple living iinostenslbly on $3,000 a year
receive an Invitation to n reception from n
family living in nllluenco on a largu in
come. In reality this is not a matter for
congratulation, for thu misery resulting
from such n common incident lsoften great.
To accept it means perhaps n new evening
gown, which, when finished, culls for long
wristed gloves mid slippers. A carriage U
another expense which was not thought.of
at first. Circumstances may bo such that
all this outlay just ut this time, when an
insurance premium or the bill for thu
winter coal is due, cripples tho prosperity
for some months. The effect may be felt
in many ways, and all for what?
An hour's mingling with peoplu out of
one's sphere and the satisfaction of reading
one's name in tho social column next day.
But tiio trouble does not end here. The
mlddlo class wife, anxious to show her ap
preciation of thu favor, culls soon nfter. If
her call is never returned she feels bitter.
If It is, very likely It hnppens on a Tliurs
day, when herone domestic Is out and when
nothing Is Just as It should be. Tears of
vexation lire in her eyes as shu throws her
self into a chair nfter her wealthy caller
has driven away, us shu recalls thu sound
of tho basement bell and other irritating
disturbances of thu call.
Sometimes such an Invitation is only thv
beginning of many others, for our middle
class couple are bright and their company
is agreeable. If this is followed up not
only do they spend every cent of their in
come, but perhaps are led into debt. Money
which should go for children and music
lessons, for repairs on thu house or for new
llternturo is spent In thu struggle to make
as good an appearaucu in society as others
with far more Income.
What could be more Idiotic? Drooklyn
Eagle.
The llane of the Sympathetic Wumau,
It Is not tho mendicant who comes to you
to beg for money and for life's necessities,
that eats Into your very vitals. It Is uot
the unfortunate victim of poverty and sick
ness whom you run across occasionally or
take the trouble to hunt up that wears
and tears your nervous system and keeps
Karly Kiluciitlon of Children.
Tho care of tho early education of tho
child is considered ono of tho mother's
duties; it is ono which belongs equally to
the father. Kadi can contribute something
that tho other docs not possess, and thus a
more perfect foundation is laid.
It Is a pity that children should be sent
to school at so curly un age. They learn
much that is undesirable mid little that
might not be taught ut home, with less
extemlituro of tho nerve forcu needed to
make them physically strong. It is n fact,
proven by more than ono mother, that n
child tuny be taught moro nt homo during
thu first ten years of his life, devoting two
hours n day to study, than he can learn at
school, glving.the hours-required there.
"Whoever educates his children well,"
says Xchophou, "gives them much, even
though he should leave them little." There
are few parents, who if they could know
that, by giving two hours a day to onu
duty, they could leave a fortune for their
child, would hesitate to assume tho respon
sibility. Do thoy regnrd education as less
than money? If ho, their children can
never havu tho best of that to which they
aro entitled.
Some parents complain that their chil
dren do not "take to books," Aru they
sure they aru blamuk-ss? No child, unless
he Is an Idiot, Is born without curiosity.
That means a desire to know. Have the
parents tried to discover what ho wonted
to know, and to help him find out, or hnvu
they ignored his preferences? It is folly
to wnstu time in pounding into a child's
head Information on subjects for which no
interest has been awakened. You might
as well command thu bnlio who cries for
the moon to turn his attention to tho dic
tionary.
It has been wisely said that self culture
Is the only means of sound, mental devel
opment. Hut self culture must be begun
In babyhood; It must he Inspired by tho
pnrents and directed by their love, which
gives a key to the character of the child
that can never lie transferred to a stranger.
Housekeeper.
The Heat Ailvlier. ,
Thoso men who have learned to under
stand the value of n woman's advice arc
indeed wisu In their day and generation.
There Is no man in the world who can in
Home matters give such sound practical
counsel as thu woman who has your Inter
est nt heart anil who discovers more by In
stinct and profound course of reasoning the
best thing to do. It Is n rare advantage In
a man, In whatever pursuit ho is engaged,
to have as an adviser a sensible, practica
ble woman. In her is found that rare com
bination of subtle delicacy of fact and plain
soundness of judgment that you ho seldom
find in an equal degree in n man. A wom
an friend is a wise counselor. Shu looks
at all sides, has a fine regard for a man's
honor In nny affair, and will never give
him any advice that will injure his char
acter or reputation.
She is ho anxious to be proud of him that
she will never urge him to any action that
will ciujsu her to think otherwise. Ilesldes
Another useful purpose to which glyc
erin may be applied Is to prevent the dry
ing and hardening of poultices, a small
quantity of glycerin added to tho paste of
which they aru composed having the ef
fect of keening' them moist for n long time.
A mustard K)iiltlce, superior In Its action
to any prepared In tho ordinary way, may
be inado by mixing together three drams
of glycerin, two drams and u half of
starch and ten drops of essence of mustard.
This may bo spread on n fold of linen, and
when applied acts very quickly. Hygiene.
Display of Temper.
My dear girl, what earthly good does It
do you to losu your temper, to wiy silly
words and very often to show your abso
lute ignnrnucu by allowing yourself to be
drawn into u heated discussion about re
ligion or politics? One never makes con
verts by showing that one cannot control
one's own temper. And onu Is very much
npter to maku enemies by making so called
smart speeches In defense of n cause than
to gain friends. Do uot let anybody Induce
you to get into an argument unless it
Should lie ft very quiet one, and ono of
which you are sure you have all thu knowl
edge that will enable you to come out us
victor, and then do not let the subject ills-cu.-.sed
bo elt her of the two I have men
tioned, for they are the best breeders of
dissension and tho best subjects for upset
ting a household Imaginable. As the
brightest girl in thu house you can easily
convince thu rest that discussions nliout
them hud better hu reserved for some other
time, and as thu- brightest girl you can
easily manage that this other time shall
never come. Mrs. Ashmoro in Iridic'
Pictorial.
llasklu on Girl Hearing;.
"You bring up your girls," says Huskln,
"as if they were meant for sideboard orna
ments, and then complain of their frivol
ity. Give them uot only noble teaching,
but noblu teachers, and glvu them the help
which alone has sometimes done more than
all other Influences tho help of wild and
fair nature. You cannot baptize them
rightly in inch deep church fonts, unless
you baptize them also In thu sweet waters
which tho great Lawgiver strikes forth
from the rocks of yournativu laud."
of tho stops overbalanced hlmsolf, nnd lu
falling caught hold of tho frock of a little
hoy '2yi years old, who was standing with
him, nud both tumbled down thu steps
into thu water. No onu was near them nt
thu time. Kdlth Drill ran to thu edge nud
saw them In thu water. Shu climbed down
the steps and went up to her neck In tho
water and caught hold of thu smaller boy.
Shu got him out nud placed hint on tho
steps, nnd then caught hold of the other
boy's hand, but ho let go and tried to catch
hold of her leg and was drowned. Tho
story of thu rescue wns obtained from thu
little girl herself nnd other witnesses nt
tho Inquest, and tho coroner brought her
bravery under tho notice of tho Royal Hu
mnno society.
Mrs. I.ucit' l'nti.
Ono cold day lu tho llrst part of tho win
ter Mrs. Lueus found two caterpillars lu
her sheil. She carried them into thu kitch
en and put them on the hearth. Sho
poured onu drop of milk down beside them
for their dinner; they nto It, and then
crawled away In thu cracks by thu chimney.
Kvery day, all winter long, .Mrs. liUcns
noil red out milk for thu two cnterplllars,
and they always canio and ate It all. Some
times they would lie on the hearth In front
of thu liru for n long time to get warm.
Mrs. Lucas said sho thought a great deal
of her pets.
When spring came tho caterpillars
crawled out of doors, and they wero never
seen again.
Mrs. Lucas says caterpillars know ns
much ns cats or dogs, but I think a cat or
a dog would have liecn moro grateful thnn
they were. Don't you? Ruth Prcscott In
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Falne Klmlneii.
The softest llltlo llufT or furl
The gentlest, most pcrstinslve purrl
Oh. overvtsMly told mo thnt
She whs thu "loveliest lllllu cntl"
Bo when shu on tho tablo sprung
Ami hipped thucrenm.wlth small, rod tongue,
I only neatly put her down
And biiIiI, "No, no!" and tried to frown;
Hut If 1 hnd been truly kind,
I should havu made that kitten mind!
Now, large mid quick nnd strong of will.
She'll spring iiihiii thu table still,
And, Hpllu nf all uiy watchful care,
Will siiutch thu choicest dainties there;
And over) body snys: "ricatl scat!
Hho's such a dreadful, dreadful cntl"
Iliit I, who hear them, know with shame
I only nm tho one to blame;
For In tho lnys when she wns young
Ami lapne1 tho cream with email red tongas,
Had I to her been truly kind
I should luivo uiado thnt kitten tnlnd.
Marian Douglas In Harper's Young People.
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Feathers are prepared by exposing them
tothe Hiiiishlneor in n stove until perfectly
dry nud then beating them to remove dust
ami loose dirt. When carelessly collected
and dirty they limy bu cleansed with lime
water or, still better, with a weak solution
of carbonate of soda, or with water con
taining a little solution of chloride of lime,
aftur which they aru rinsed lu clean water
nnd dried as before Old feathers are puri
fied and cleansed in the same way. Kx
change. We are Jnst lieginuing to appreciate the
use of borax in tie household. In many
parts of our country the water is bo hard
that It Is necessary to use some softening
agent, and few things aro better for this
purpose and less exenstve than borax.
Queen Lllluoknlnnl has a stipend as
queen of Hawaii of JM ,000 a year. To this
is added tho Income from crown lauds of
15,000 more per annum. Her standing
army consists of sixty-four men all told,
three of whom lank as generals.
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The Society of Lady Artists in Horlln has
under Its charge the only art sclusil in all
Germany where women can obtain ad
vantages for thu thorough study of nrt.
Thero are free scholarships for talentod
pupils.
An old liookcase may be furnished up or
n very common new one made to look very
hundMimo by using bamboo for decoration.
Wiiatever thu wood the shelves should bu
i varnished nnd thoroughly dried licfore
using.
Itnther Kxpemlve.
Little Miss Isnbel has a weekly allow
ance, the a ount of which depends on her
good liehalor, for when she is rude or
naughty sin is fined a small sum for each
olTense. A few mornings ago sho trans
gressed and her mamma fined her a cnny.
She erred again nnd a second flue was im
posed. A third time the same rule was
broken and her mamma said:
"Now, 1st ul, I shall flue you two cents
this time, nud if you disobey ugaln I shall
double it and maku it four cents."
"Oh, dear met" sighed Isabel. "I think
this a pretty expensive place to live in."
Wide Awake.
Two Definitions.
The Jtroug but Indirect value of educa
tion suggests a child's view of It In regard
to drawing. Her estimate of It was the
natural outcome of childish Imagination.
She wrote of herself: "Drawing is my fa
vorite play. When I wns littler I'd go off
by myself nnd make up n story and illus
trate It as I went along, carrying it for
several weeks, rememlierlng it Uy tho pic
tures which I kept, I never told any oue."
Another child defined drawing us "think
ing and drawing round the think." Bos
ton Herald.
A Hotly Contested dame.
Little Dot Mamma, Dick wants you to
go to the playground with your work-basket.
Mamma Dear mel Why?
Little Dot Tho Novermuff nine and
DIck',1 Oetthere nine has been playln a
game, and the Gettheres won. Dick wants
you to mend his clothes so he cau come
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all this, her womanly timidity makes her What is known as "goose llesh" usually
sufficiently cautious to not pusu nun nun
without welg ilng well eacli
discovers your capacity for extending truu
sympathy. lie Is constantly making de
mands upon your heartstrings. Hu takes
everything from you and never sees thut
you are lu troublu of any kind unless told
of It In the plainest words, nnd thnn he
will not listen until he Is fully relieved of
his own grievances. He Is always in deep
trouble, and will shift his burdens to you
if ho can, or otherwise Is being continually
offended because you do discover for your
self that hu is lu need of your sympathy.
Thu world is full of such people and they
are thu worst, kinds of frauds. Men will
come to women nud tell them how much
they uved a truenud sincere woman friend',
would find himself very wide of the mark,
owing to his lack of premeditation. Mnny
a woman, however, who forms a vt I sc coun
selor jumps at conclusions from her huart'n
standpoint rather than the severer tests of
worldly Judgment, niill.lt only proves that
this earth 'is uot irretrievably bud when
you Hnd how often her views are correct,
even when opposed to the calculating long
slghtedness of more material minds.
Thu liest adviser u man can possess Isthu
onu he so frequently thinks It unnecessary
to consult namely, his wife and hu can
never appreciate the surprise lu store- for
him until lie listens to thu words of wl
results from a low condition of tho system
j and is really a slight chill. If you have
such attacks often, It would be wlseit for
you to consult a physician,
For neuralgia make a small muslin bag
and till it with salt, heat It hot nud place
It against tho aching spot; it will retain,
thu heat for n long time and will greatly
relieve.
Old pots nud kettles that have become
stained or have an odor may lm Immersed
in cold suds and Isilled, when they will
come out us good as new.
In cooking tough meat or an old fowl
add u pinch of sisla to thu water to make
thu fowl or meat tender.
Nellie's Vliltor.
Wedding Invitations,
May 1 oiler you some -tea?
Coinu mm, have n cup with me!
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