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CAPITAL CITY COIUIER SATURDAY JULY 23, 189: t! FOK JEALOUS WIVES. THEY SHOLJLD LEAHN TO CONTROL OR CONCEAL THE FEELING. Mr. Kiln Wherlrr Wllcni Mnkr Hoina tlrtiiitrk for the llrnt-flt nf Very Unforlmiiite Klnil of HrlpuiiMit 8imi Hage Ailvlro from n Woumii. TI10 following tnlsMvo Muttered Into me recently nml h-uiiir deserving of an open reply, slncu tlio writer Is one of a large clnnn: DcAiiKiiiE.Nit.Miis. Wilcox tarn nRtrntiKvr to)uu, liut )i0 nro a friend to all omen, I fee), ami It seems to me you can help nm liy advice. I am a newly married wife. I adore my luiftlmnd and tie Is devoted td me, but I suffer the. hkouIi-s of death dally throiiKh Jealousy. I am Jealotin of every woman lie looks nt. In my heart I know hu cares for no one hut me, and I want to be a kikmI wlfo nni make him linlipy, but the. lenst nttt-atlim lit pays to any woman sends me Into a fovcr of jealousy. I wnsqultoa hello when slnule, and learned In society how false many men were to their wives. It made tnu suspicious of all men, an 1 now that I am a wife I am full of fear that my husband will bo false, to tne. Mo Is so good to me I am ashamed of lheo thoughts. Tell mc what to do to euro mjself of my Jealousy. It Isnotono woman.lt Is all women I am Jeal ous of. In the first place, my dear young woman, you want to realize tlio great truth that thoughts are things nml that by dwelling on any one Idea you can product) a condi tion to correspond with It. Spacti 1 lllleil with influence and forces ready torepond to your thought. Kvery tlino you think JealouH thoughts you attract jealous forces that will In time, If you continue in this idea, cause your husband to bo untrue to you. On the contrary, if you think and say, "Ho Is true, ho Is loyal, hu loves mu and t worthy of my love." you attract forces of love and truth which strengthen him to resist every temptation life may offer. In the next place you want to cultivate that rarest of all plants in the garden of love common sense. Sit down and consider the situation. Why did your husband select you of all women to become his wife? Probably bo cause he loved you more than all othern. Well, then, with his love and his dally companionship to start with you have n great advantage over all rivals. You have the power In your hands to fan this flame of love Into a steady flro or to quench It forever. However much a man may be imbued with sentiment, ho likes comfort and peace of mind as a steady home diet. If you de prive him of these'sentimental'ldeas love Is of very little value to him. Every time you allow your unreasonable Jealousy to make him uncomfortable you lose ground with him and make It more possible for him to turn elsewhere for dis traction. Added to this, you show yourself In an unbecoming mood and he will be inclined to contrast a sullen, tearful wlfo with more agreeable women ho meets else where. Whatever you may feel, you ought to be able to control yourself for the sake of your appearance In the eyes of the man you love. A perpetually Jealous wife, remember, Is tbo most unlovable object possible, and if you feel your emotions getting lieyond con trol manage to seclude yourself and cry It out alone. A good cry Is often a great re lief to a woman. Hut it would be well to steam and bathe your face well before you allow your husband to see you. Make your mind that nowhere else on earth shall your husband II ml such com fort, such affection, sucli cheerfulness, such agreeable iniuinersns he Muds with you. Unless ho is the trashiest sort of character less being ho is not going to be disloyal to the woman who exhibits all these qualities. Try and become a good comrade to your husband. Make him feel that hecan speak his opinions- freely to you, that you" under- stand him fully, and when he expresses admiration of other women brace yourself up and agree with him. Bruce yourself still further and show polite attention to the women he admires. Nothing will more fully convince him that you respect his tastes and that you have confidence in your own position suffi cient to admit his friends to your regard. Since you love him so devotedly and arc so morbidly jealous this will be a difficult task for you. Dut love is full of hard ships and the effort is worth making. Aside from this it Is a wise thing to study carefully and closely the women whom you fear as rivals. Like a shying horse when driven close to the piece o' fluttering paper which has caused him to snort und quiver with terror, you will lie come culm-and self possessed when you discover on close- acquaintance how harm less are the women you have considered dangerous rivals. On the contrary, if you avoid them aud disparage them you will foster your jealous imagination and figure your husband into a chivalric defense of them, which will be maddening to your jealous heart, and you will lower yourself In your husband's esteem, while If you are ugreeahle and attentivo to his friends he will admire and respect you. Talk to him of your pride In' his loyalty, tell him thr.t you realize the temptations with which a man's life is surrounded i ud praise him for giving you rettsou to ripett him. If he is a manly man he will llud greater happiness in being worthy of your praise and pride than in yielding to any passing temptation other women may offer. If you accuso him of neulect aud In fidelity aud nag him with jour jealous fears you will drive him to others forto.n fort and distraction. Avoid talking with other women hbout faithless husbands who deceive trusting wives. Many women have a mania to ie late cases of infidelity, and jealous wives seem fascinated with the subject. Avoid it as you would infection. If obliged tolisten to such recitals, make a mental comment that you have henrd only one side of the story. You do not yet know what cause the wives gave these husbands to liecomo faithless. Many a seemingly "devoted and trusting wife" lias nagged her husband into infidelity by hei narrow, petty spirit of fault lludiuc In small matters as one insistent intwiulto has driven sleep from a luxuiious pillow. Think of this when you hear of dierted or neglectul v.ies, iusttad of becoming excited and morbid on the subject. Almost all jealous people au selllsh aud unwilling to iitcnrd the liberty they take No doubt jou receiu iimipliliieuts from gentlemen with very good giiuc, and quite likely you express adnilintioii nf some gen tleman's appeal mice, conversation or man ners now and then. Why should Jon ol iect to your husband haxiim the same freedom r Tiy to bo reasonable, my dear woman. I assure j,nu eeii a jealous woman can be reasonable If she tuhts her self iu hand. If you do nut take jour.-elf iu hand you will alienate jour husband, ruin your own life and make .wmrselfu subject of ridicule to all jour friends save a few, who wjfl "sympathize.'' und the sympathy if fileuds iu the plate of the love and admiration of a husband is like sawdust In plat e of honey on our bread. Klla Wheeler Wilcox In New York Wtnld. Ilttil thine III 1'itrt. Scnio years ago there lived In the wrst rrti part of Pennsylvania an old circuit preacher known as Put her West. Ills good humor and great kindlieartedties hail made him it siK-elalfiiNOrlte with the young people of his dlstilet auillilsserv Ices iu "tying the knot" were In request On one oetaslou, mi the story ges, upon his arrival at a certain town lifter a long journey he found several couples awaiting his blessing The poor old man was tired aud wished to make the ceremony as short as possible; so hu said, with the prompt ness for which ho was noted, "Stand up aud jine hands!" This request having been compiled with, hu went rapidly through a marriage service which was the product of his own orlgl nallty and had at least the advantage of brevity. "There," ho salt), when he had finished the ceremony, "ye can go nows je're man and wife, every one o' ye!" Two of the couples did not once aval' themselves of this permission, aud pres t-iit ly Itcamuout that the sudden com maud to "Jlue" had confused them and they had taken the hands of the wrong persons. Thoold preacher's eyes twinkled with amusement as he took in the situation Hut ho recollected himself aud dispersed tlio company with n gracious wave of III; hands. "I married ye all," said he reassuringly I "now soit yourselves." Youth's Com pan- 'UII. A Hoy's Ky on Cats. A small boy Iu one of the Detroit school recently handed In this composition: ON CATS. Cats lutvo four legs ami nine, lives. Why the) arullw) legs short 1 do not kno at this lime. 1 gess I can llud out tlio when I die I think cats wood be a koiiIiI deel fumi)er If they hail iiluo legs ami llo lives, don't )ou? Cats have tales whltch they rap round thnrv feat when they set down so as to hold them to gether I kno a hohtali-d cat Unit Is ashamed I to sit ilou n In publlu a tall. I Kes It Is afriidn Its feat will skitttur. TharuaruTom cats and pus cuts, whlltii tho Tom cat Is more mas sive and has a more sounding voice In tho mid I nlht darkly when all cits Is si' Cats cries I like babies sometimes, hut cannot l them parr) k'orlck to qulvt tin . nerwis sis. terns like )ou can babies. Wo have a baby at our house Hint I truest has drluked about four quarts of purr) wrick ami every nlto It cries Just tlio sulm for more. 1 guess that baby must liuvu tho purr)Korlck hulihlt. Young cuts tiro very frisky ami the) will play all day because they don't huvu no skool logo to. I guess I would like to be a )ouiu;cat till I was growed up to bo a man. Cats eat milk uml mice regular and the canary rorilezurt. Cuts nro very clean animals, but I never thought It wus very clean to spit on their hands and wush tburo fates in the man ner In which they do. I guess I have, wrote, all I kno nbuut cals. 1'. S. Cats bus cleclrlslty In tburo backs and they can bio up thuru tales us big us a 111 brusji when they are froslius. Detroit Free Press. What He Tin. light It Was. A well known naturalist spent last sum mer at a farmhouse iu Berkshire, and one evening, witli soinu idea of popularizing science, undertook to explain to the old granger who was his host somu of the peculiarities of the common caterpillar. He described Its habits of life, enlarged upon its methods of respiring through Its sides and dwelt at length upon other de tails of equal interest. To all the granger listened Imperturb ably. "Well," said the professor at last, paus iug for breath, "don't you find It won derfulf Did you ever suppose that there was anything so remarkable about it cater pillar" "Waal, no," s.iid the farmer slowly; "I supposed they was mostly skin au sqush!" New York Recorder. The Ititiigliter of an Killtor. M 4 "Why did you reject him'" "He was not accompanied by stamps." Life. A Wajslile Conundrum. When Mr. Frederick Law Olmsted was traveling in North Carolina many jenrs ago he cumu to a signboard bearing this inscription: 10EIII0M. He knew that Kllrnbuthto'vn lay in that direction, and so was able to make out the meaning of the legend: To Kli.a-Heth town, ten miles Youth's Companion. Kept II tin fp. Mrs. liltigo What made you stay out so late last night Bingo I went to a christening with 111) Mv Bingo Why, be hasn't any cbil tlreii that want christening. Blngv meekly) No. But ho has a new suit. Ntr York Herald. Waiting to See, Toto Iiim been seriously ill nml is still couliml lo his bed. His uncle goes up to see tlii; l.ttlu fellow. ' Ilou are jou this morning" Don't know, uncle. The doctor hasn't I bet'ii lure yet." Figaro. A Hark Seeiet. "Oh, Wadsleigh, which way" "Going tlow u to have u pair of trousers pressed." "Trousers pressed? Where are they' "Shi Got 'em on,"-Chlcago Tribune 1'ouud Out. Mamma Which of the children hid my slippers? Nurse Little Johnny hid Yin, ma'am Mamma Then Johnny is the one who upset the ,1am down stairs. Good News. Tut lo lletter I'se. Cohwigger 1 haven't an) change this munilng.. Just chalk it up Milkman That's too much to ask. 1 .can't alloid to waste my bulk th.it way. ew ork l.v tiling huu. Two (iuines. Upon tlio litinla i tan t she'll pla) In llutiuel shlrl uml hlu7cr, Ami when lie ( rhs tin moic Is laxo The fact will artel) phase her. Dut later, on lliu evening sands, Ob, Cupid's tool, the sinturl She'll phi) another game of lovu Aud thin he'll not hu wluutr. Cloak He view. PAPA WAS THERE. tntl When Itegliiulil Came He Was ll trlvsd with (Iprii .trim, Mr, Daniel dilutes Is one of the best farmers In Ksex. He Is a good father, and since a recent episode lie lias been ree oguired as a clever amateur detective. For some reason or other h's fair ounf daughter favored the alteiitlousof a ) tiling man, and she chose to keep the fact a se cret. Her papa, In Ids quiet way, allowed the usual auiuunt of hayseed lo remain iu his hair while be got all the fuels Iu the case of his daughter's secret love affair. Then he kept a secret eye on her, aud thus tlls rovYred that they were to elope una cer tain night Accordingly, as darkness came on, h took a seat at the window just under that of his daughter's room. She had been par ticularly lively that day, and so had her father, She laughed and Joked with him a gtKid deal, and he In turn laughed and joked with her The shades of evening came and the moonbeams fell athwart the potato patch. Afar In the woods the owi hooted and across the sky Mime tlark clouds scooted. L'p the lane came Reginald Vane, and Im paused at midnight beneath the window of his rural sweetheart. The old man reclined on the Moor near the window under which the eloper was crouching While In the state of crouch the ) ouug man was seized with fear and u horny hand, which shut off his breath. Then the gallant Moated in at the window head Mrst, accompanied by a few moths and a hand firmly attached to the upper story back of his trousers. The fanner then gave the joung man into the charge of his son and got outsldu the window. He had just got outside, and crouched well down, when he heard his daughter's window' gently open. Then lie heard her say "Reginald, dear, is that youf" "Yes, darling, Reggie Is here. Hasten iM'fore the old man wakes aud catches us," replied her papa, in a hoarse whisper. "Well, here, catch this." said tliu daugh ter, casting out a bag "All right," said her papa, catching it. "Now what shall I dor" "Just hang by your arm and drop. It won't hurt jou, dear." "Yes, I will But you must look tho other way." "All right, I will." She dropped into her father's arms, screamed and then they went Into the house. The father asked for an Intro duction to the prisoner, and then fixed hint so llrmly In a rain barrel full of water that he remained there the rest of the night and a portion of the next day. Neighbors were brought over to look at him while he was on exhibition In tho rain hand, and at noon a photographer appeared and took his photograph. Tin eloper was then released and allowid to leave the farm Iu peace. The daughter Is still on the farm mak ing cheese. Yankee Blade. A Mistake sioinewlii're. "Miss Grade," he said, with an engag ing smile, "did jou ever try your hand at one of these progressive conundrums?" "What is a progressive conundrum, Mr. Spooniimore?" Inquired theoung lady. "Haven't you heard of them? Heroin one: Why Isu ball of jam like the lettei 't?' Because a ball of yarn Is circular, u circular is a sheet, a sheet is Hat, a Mat is forty-live dollars n month, fortv-llvedollais a month is dear, a titer is swift, a swift Ih a swallow, a swallow Is a taste, a taste is an Inclination, an inclination is au angle, au angle is a point, a point Is a u object nimetl at, an object aimed at is a target, u target is a mark, a mark is an impression, an impression is a stamp, a stamp is a thing stuck on, u thing stuck on is a young man iu love, and a joung man In love Is like the letter 'I' because he stands before 'u,' Miss Grade." "1 don't think you have the answer quite right," said the joung lady. "A ball of yarn is round, a round is a steak, a stako is a wooden thing, a wooden thing is a young man iu love, aud u joung man in love is like the letter 't' because, Mr. Spoonamore" and she spoke clearly anil distinctly "because he Is often crossed." The young man understood. He took hlu hut anil his progressive conundrums and vanished from Miss Grade darling house's alphabet forever. Chicago Trlb uue. Two Letters. To Mr. 8. Tudor Tuild. Di:aii Siu-Kimlly attept Inclosed check for tM, Iu pa)iiient of jour poem, "A Water Lily," which upptartd iu No. !I,IM1 of fudge. With thunks for jour contribution, Eiiitok Kllliuc Fudge. sjtlts-l'leute llud inclosed I. O. note for two dollars, for whit b send mu to addrtss below twenty copies of Fudge No. ilJIM. Yours, etc., sj. Tuiioit Tumi. UrookhuUfe. Nip und Turk. Wife Why don't jou hurry and get through shaving. Gtorge? It's almost church time Husband I can't, Sarah. You'll have to go to chinch without me. You see, I've been using some of that new hair tonic on til) fate, ami before 1 git one side Mulshed the whiskers have grow u out on the other side. Pharmaceutical Kru. A Juvenile I'liinger. "J w! fcVnfYw 1Kb' s 'iifci Siruir,jl Heller Still. Proud Father We've had twins in our family on two occasions You can't beat that, sir? Little Man (who hadn't spoken before I Well. I don't know about that. My wife presented mo the other day with triplets, ami three ot a kind heat two pair, don't tueyr-Life l8Q2 After Easter Comes House Cleaning. A. M. Davis & Co. Sell Carpets You Know the Place. This famous mountain resort", situated at tho summit of tlio Allegbatilesaiid dlreetly upon the main lino ol the lliiltlmore nod Ohio Itallroud, iiavo tho advantage of Ps splendid vesllbuled express Iriiln serv lee IkiIIi east and west, und are therefore readily aeeensltdo from all parts of tlio country All llultliiioru and Ohio Iriilus stop at Deer l'urk and Oak land during Hit eusou, Kates, Jul. 7.i and nt) a month, according lo location. t'oinmiiiilcHtlons should be nil-ilresM-il toOCultdi; I). llKSHILMiS, Mali nger llalllliioro and Ohio Hotels, ('iinilierhinil Mil., up to .Iiiiio 10; after that dale, elthtr Deer Park or Oakland, (lurretl County, Md. .Vll-ilt LINCOLN c&idaumbomptf AMI ISSTITITK OK I SMAVHIIir, Shorthand, nml T)K'wrltlng, Is the Ixnt uml Innicst College In the WYst I'll htmlciits In nlli mlma i- hut )c.ir. Sin li im iri-niirisl mr lailmi In from I lo u iiiiintlK Krl-iii'-i faenlly 1'iruuml lii.lriictlon. Ibniitlftil llliistrai. il fiiiihigiir, rollrKi, Jinirnnl. mid tnts.-lmiis of h niMiihlili, Kent fret- hy mlitn Ming Un.lllitlliUK & UooSK. Lincoln, Nib 4A0QUAINHD WITH 1HC OlOOMAHMy Of TH COUNTRY Will OBTAIN MUCH mrOflMATtON MOM A ITUOV Of THIt MAP Of 1HC it-5uv nC'&Stl?' rtfe DEER PRK ND OKLAND, On The Crest Of The Allegiianles, 3,000 Feet Above Tide-Water. SEASON OPENS JUNE 22d,I802 Chicago.Rock Island & Paciflc Ru The DIRECT BOUTK to and from CHICAGO. BOCK ISLAND. DAVZNPOBT. DES MOINES, COUNCIL BLOTTO. WATEBTOWN, SIOUX FALLS. MINNEAPOLIS. BT. PAUL, ST. JOS EPH, ATCHISON. LEAVENWORTH. KANSAS CITY, TOPEKA, DENVEB, COLORADO SP'NOS nod PUEBLO. SOLID VESTIBULE EXPRESS TRAINS cf Through Coaches, Sleepers. Free Reclining Chair Cnrs unci Dining Cars dally between CHI CIAOO. DES MOINES, COUNCIL BLUFFS and OMAHA, and between CIIICAOO nml UKNVJ.K, COLORADO SPRINOS and PUEBLO via St. Joseph, or Kansas City and Topeka. Via The Albert Lea Route. Fast Express Trains daily between Chlcrgc und Minneapolis and St. Paul, with THROUOH Reclining Chair Cars (FREE) to and from tho points and Knnsas City. Through Chair Car and Sleeper between Peoria, Spirit Lnke and Bloux Falls via Rock Islnnd. For Tickets. Maps, Folders, or desired Informa tion, apply at any Coupon Ticket Ottlce, or addresr E. ST. JOHN, JOHN SEBASTIAN, Oen'l Manager, Oen'l TUt. Pass. Agt,, CHICAGO ILL VIGOR, OF MEN Katllr, Quickly, Permanently Restored. Weakness, Scrvonniru, Ilrhltlly. nnd all the train of evils from esrlr emus or Inter cicee. the remits of overwork, slikm-d, worry, etc ruJ strength, development, and tone irtren u ever organ and (xirtliai of the body Simple, rmtura rnethcxlt Immediate liuprnvemrn Men. rslluif luipcMltilp. Kin references, ll.xik eiulaualloiit and priii's mailed nu-nled) free. Ad,1rets nit miuiust. ww., aurrsku, n. t. -pUOGREBIIVI! liVCIIRE. .. . fend I'oiisl Sutu to Joilt Siiuillin, O.T. A, O.H I. ,vl K It. Chlrago ami receln-, puitsee lld, tae slloknt ilrck nf rsrdt you rvrry hamllrd. Tea Ocale eer sack, uuv vr uisnj $50,000.00 TO LOAN At six per coin, per nnnuin and a cash commission or at oi'lit per cent, no commission, for periods of three or live years on well located improved real es tate in Lincoln or Lancaster c jun y. INTIJUKST ALLOWKIl ON SAVINGS DIJI'OSITS DKl'OSITOKS IIAVIC AllSOWmj SiCCUMTY. Union Savings Bank, i 1 1 South Tenth Street. 1 ndustrialSavingsBank ISuiVUNTII AND N STklCKTS. Ca pital t ock, $2150,000. Liability of Stoc khol ers$5oo ooo INTI-RIiST PAID N MU'OSII'S, W.m. Stull, Pres. J. I:. IIimm Vice-Pres, Loins Stui.l, Cashier. Diuki'Tous. I) ID Thompson, C E Montgomery, Geo II. Hasting, 1111 Shaberj,', V 11 Mercery, J C Allen, T i San ders, J E Hill, Win Stull, Louis Stnll, (Jeo A Mohrenstecher FULL SET OF TEETH $5. TEETH EXTRACTED WITHOUT PAIN. NO CHLOROFORM I NO ETHER I N'O GASI All Fillings at Lowest Rates. Dr. H. K. KKRMAN, Surgeon Dentist, Rooms 94, 95 and 96, Burr Oik. G. A. RAYMER &CO. COM CANON, ROCK SPRINGS, PERFECTION, IOWA, COLORADO NKWCASTLfts DUQUOIN, JACKSON, HICKORY BLOCK, BEST GRADE OF HARD COAL. Telephone 390. Office 1 134 O StfMt, "Where to Go" AND How to Go. THESE WARM SUMMER DAYS Already ylvc notice that city life will hooii become .1 burden to lie borne only when stern necchslty offers no other course. The tired clerk, the ktuilent, the profes sional mini, nntl thoe whoe occupation coiilinc. exist ence to the dally routine of counting ro,)in, otl'ice denk, bar or pulpit, find iIIl'IiI from these buoy linuntH a comfort and relief. A deep longing comes for the nuiklc of ruxlilng water, a plunge In the briny deep, or a frolic in the rt'ktlcmi surf for a stroll on the wet sands, where the salt breezes of old ocean kiss away the Hues of cine and toll ami where nature's voice sings .1 lullaby of gentlest rulim. One wants to get away from brick walls, street cars anil cabs, out of sight of thr "peripatetic boot black anil newsboy, far from the hand organ, the peanut stantl and the itlncant peddler and lUe In the country, which nature ha garnished with bounti ful hand. The mere thought of mountain streams, a camp in the woods, deep pools anil shady nooks, a moonlight sail on placid lake and however great the imagination, actually fit in,' tliere is a thousand times better. The question Is, "wlieie to go" and "how to go." You can find out bv consulting our agent at II. .V M depot or clt olike, corner O anil Tenth streets The Following Cities Are ALL on the Burlington. DENVER ST. I'ATL JVIINNEAI'OLI. DEAHWOOD CHICAGO M' l.Ot'l lEORIA "CHEYENNE Can our favorite resort b reached without passing through at least ONE of them 3TA WiiRiiToriu Wist is -En iciknt " J. FRANCIS, Gen Passenger Agent, OMAHA. A. C. ZIEMER, City Passenger Agent, LINCOLN. Telephone 176f "Wliut'H the matter, my ptir lioyf" "Ho lio-o' I jest lorst tnppenu''" 'Tliere, there-, uon't ny, my little man Ste, liere i tlirten-nte for you How did you lose jour 11101117" 'I ItirHt It toTouiui) .links, tlure, -pluy I ultt.li an tois"'-.!udj 1 OFFICE 1001 0 Street Moving Household Goods and Pianos a Specialty