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About Omaha daily bee. (Omaha [Neb.]) 187?-1922 | View Entire Issue (Feb. 24, 1916)
Till; MM: OMAHA, TUl'KXDAY, FKlilJl'AKY J4, lUlli. 'VX TT7 J TT7 7. 777 7. ' . TT 7i7. TT TT 7 7 7 m , .&. ' - 1 i i r i i n r i r 1 ir i n r "lfn "irri'T i i ' n i - i m - i i - - . The Letter Writing Vice ' Br AD 1 PATTFRS05I. In Brooklyn a married pair h separ ated and an en-ajred on nan developed a frigidity that Is first cousin to the mid weather (January weather) that swept this country. Because a fool girl wrote a fool letter. There wan a Ms behind the Irtter. But the kiss would have heen harmless despite the spread and acceptance of the perm theory, had It not heen for the let ter that was aa an echo ot the kins. The wife of a muslo teacher. rlihllnc: his pocket of their Impodmlcnts while lie did the family mrndlnK, found, rend and placed In a look box In a safety de posit vault, this letter: "I m surprised how wllllnnly I Kve my lips to you. If I continue to do so will not your wife be?omn a ninnlne I thought of all these things while the wind howled." Tho Mtor set the domestic wind howl Ins;. The muslo master's wife con fronted him with a copy of tho letter ml vim naran nmH I i r.iiii. I nun i know what made her write it. What sl e refers to Is a harmless Utile kiss of friendship." But the music master's wife refused to ; understand. Nor did the .ludp.o un derstand." Whn he rnst Ills epoctnrled Rlsnce over that letter he granted (in order of separation with nllmnny. The music teacher will have to give more music lessons thsn bi fore to pay the alimony. The girl's family censured the musie muster's wife and the Jiidore. It -om-plnlned that she wns 111. "All this non sense has prostrated her. There Is ab solutely nothlnK in It." Hut the girl's fiance ceased Tallinn. The girl Is re f lectins; upon the Tolly of sentimental letter writing. The kiss was n mistake. Tlie letter was a greater one. Some things are bet ter forgotten, the sooner the better. And there is nothing that so emphasise a mistake as a letter dwelling upon n- n is casting the die. It Is nn Impression; made In what Is otherwise soft uiuinnco and might remain pulpy and unim pressed. "Most of the foolish letters to which impatient Judges arc forced to listen are written by women and begin with "I have Just left you. but 1 inunt Men have more Of restrain, mere m , worldlv wisdom, in altairs 01 Fcmininu or of business: They are careful w.'at they pen. A woman Is as careless of j what she writes as though some con venient wind would whTSt it away to tut known quarters of the globe, instead of peaching a man's easily accessible pocket. A girl told me of a sentimental socio with a man who professed ardent nd miratlon for her. Tot the next day. hav ing occasion to write her, he began tUe letter with "Dear Mlaa Blank ' and ended It with, "Tours truly. William Brown." -Fortunately she waa a girl who thought her way through things. That letter checked her inclination to ruslt headlong ' Into an Ill-considered and dangerous lovo affair. The next time the man called she was .out." And the next and the tiext 'LTyhon h telephoned she gave htra .the absent' treatment. . She has married worthily and Is glad that the ihilllng letter checked a slroocco lovo affalf In Its beginning. But aha was wiser than most girls. Most of them would have attributed that srlaclal letter to the business ' habit. I know a gtrt who accepted a flirtatious man's excuse ''that he didn't write her because ha la so used to dictating that ha could not write letters. Some girls would have besieged "Tours truly. Wil liam Brown." with tear wet epistle ask ing him why he was no coldl A girl who allows discretion In buying a gown shows indiscretion in settlne , down her threat throbs In pen and Ink for a careless or scornful man to reaa. a -trt hn stands at the head of her Oass In school may he at the foot In com mon sense conduct of everyday affairs. Consider this Brooklyn girl. If she had told her 'mother cf the music master's kiss her mother would have discharged the teacher and the silly affair would have ended. But she must write a letter! Beware the letter-writing vlcel No. the term is not too harsh. A vice may be a defect, a blemish, a fault. Indis creet letter writing is all these. Her Likeness t'opyrlht. 1!M. Intem'1 News Pen I - ; By Nell Brinkley Girls Who Make Mistake May ott a :t mj tt n kjuuL sinew ij l ncy nave vouraye Advice to Lovelorn By Beatrice Fairfax Von May Accept Her Invltatio). Iicnr Miss .Fairfax: Two years ' while visiting a girl friends in the co-in-try I met a voiing man. lie was vci attentive to me and we corresponded after my return home. Kaeh wlui'-r since then he has pent one week-end a month at mv home, l-tttcly ho has been urging me to vMt hia home, and snys be will have bis sister write and Inviie ine if I do not care to go on his Invita tion. Now the last time I isltfd (lie friend through whom 1 met him. hi" sis ter Hked me to come and see her this winter. The man has never apoken ol marriage to me. and though l would like to take the trip to visit his people. J do not want to do anything that wouhl i-Aiise a-ntisliv cspeclallv in view of the fact that our friendship may come to thing. M. l- Tha young man's attituile seems to In- , dicate that lie Is deeplv Interested In i you. it would be almost caddish of hint j to make so many advances unless he was very sure of his feelings. If his sis- j ter writes ami extends the Invitation for you to visit them. I think It would be In ' perfectly good taste for you to go. if the Invitation cotues from her no one . will be able to discuss you In any way except a kindly one. After all. you sre j almost more open to criticism through i having this man so frequent a visitor at , your own home than you would be If ' you made a single visit to his sister. Way Try to Karget Hlmf I Hesr Miss Fairfax: I am II years of nge and about a vear ago met a young man two years my senior, to whom I took a great liking. He showed me In every way that he liked my company, hut never led me to believe that he had mre than a friendship for me. To put him out of my mind I left the city for four weeks, but during that time thought of hun more than ever, it Is now about seven months since I last saw him, but it seems Impossible to for get, is this Infatuation or love Being an orphan and not having any one to go to, I will be governed by your advice. AKXIOtJc. I think yon are making a tragedy out of nothing. If there is no barrier b- .een you. why do you not enjoy this man's friendship and wait to sea Into what It will develop? If there la some reason why be ran never ba anything to you. yen must simply determine to forget him. The whole thing Is probably neither Infatuation nor love, but tha Jure of the forbidden. Contrary human na ture haa an unfortunate way of wanting what It can't have. A girl who has bo man? wilful ways Sbe would have cauMd Job's patience to foresake him, Yet Is bo rich la all that's girlhood's praise, Did Job himself upon her goodness gaze, A. little better she would surely make him. Tet is this girl I sing In naught uncommon. And very far from angel yet, I trow; Her faults, her swoetnesiies, are purely human, Tet she's more lovable as simple woman Than anyone diviner that I know. From the poem by Dinah Mulock. r F.I.I. w m i i nn wil.tot. t'oprlaM HI. Star Osmnanv. A well behaved and Industrious ynung woman vanished from home, and after a week's absence wrote to her fsmlly saying. "Forget me " Those two words told the whole terrlb'e story. Hut they told something else besides -they told the unjust altitude of human brings who compose society toward an erring woman. Had this young woman been a oun man and conun tied the same sins, ran w for one litoinrnt suppose thai a letler would have been sent heme to t'n- wait ing relatives? Indeed, no. The young man would have gone back and his family would have fallen upon his nc k with "no ijui etluua naked." Just as this silent attltud" toward the son Is wions. so Is the cruelly seven altitude toward an minis girl a slum bllng block In the way of humanity's evolution. I wish every weak and foolish girl who hn taken one wn.ng step nivl believes she must go on to the end of the blah way, although site l.im to turn hm-u. would take co-irate mill make the at tempt right iiKW before she passes an other milestone. Tha moreiiiv and the potter's field and Ihe Island'' are filled with tl:ose who dared not turn back. In the porks and on the streets you may meet blear eved old women In rugs, begging eniile. u." pass. r.-h. I In rune of these faces res's the I nn ring rem nant of wl-at once wns beauty 1h beauty which opened ;ue d.air to tempi, tlon, perhapa. And after they had started on the path they believed it wa Impossible 1o turn bark. Tet had they Irlert. what fate could hava been more terrible than the one they found a they pnssed nlons; the highway of folly? A few years of fine apparel, and car riages, and wine suppers, and travel, and sxcJtoment, at the very best. Always the need of hiding Ihe source of these lux uries from the world, alwava the peed of lies, and pretence, and secrecy, or else the titter sinking of Ihe whole moral nature In a brsxen dlsrecard of public opinion. And each year seeing- the physical charms fading, euch enr realising the rearer approach of that awful time when neglect and insult must take the place of pursuit and flattery. And then the depths of degradation with premature eld age and poverty and loneliness and the fictitious excitement of drink as the only relief from despair. There are hundreds of such old women In our great citlea today women who mad one false step, perhapa with the Idea of escaping drudgory; perhaps through lack of will power, and per haps because of a misplaced trust. But whatever . the cause, there must have been hours In the early part of the Jpur ncy when each on of these women longed to turn back Into the straight path and begin over. And because she had been taught that nothing bu death could remedy a , wo man's fall -and that no amount of re pentance or Christianity could, gain her the respect of her fellow men, she dared not try. ' Tet In our great cities, too, and In high places. In the church and In so ciety, women walk who have turned baok and cast their follies behind them. There are good mothers and good wives who have built their own ladder upon which they climbed from error. The world offers better opportunities to women who reform In this age than ever befor. ' All occupations are open to them, and In distant state and far from old as sociations the woman who ha the will and the desire strong enough may and can start on a new upward path. Belf- ontiol, tears, sorrow, loneliness, hard ships and reinorae will all be 'hers, yet re not these better companions for a rw years than the Inevitable results of i life of Immorality and folly? The .veild Is sure to drspls her and shim her if she kcca on. .i she turns b.-iek now she can compel It after a time li rrspect the nobility of her life. I'o you want to begin anew? If ou cannot f'.nj the way bak alons there atn awect aoeis under Hulvaton Arm uniform ready In help y n, a el t ho i are good woiuu In silks and Unci ho will answer If you rail. And after you have mule up your in nd to begin n new bfe, he i arrf..l ami avoid confession and confidence. Your past belongs to ynuraclf and your iloj, your future to humanity, W k an asccniilMK path and keep alienee. You have as good a right to a future us a wife and mother as men have tu be hue bunds and fathers, onr yrtu reform. It Is not an e-tsy thing to do. but the life jhvii are living la not an easy one and the future holds the certain dr. fling from boudoir t street, from fine apparel and carrlagea to rags and the bevslng of car fares and night loria :nci, or th niorgus and pauper's bur'ah Not on woman In JiVWO In your posi tion ever savca a dollar of her Ill earned money for the certain day that she loses the physical charm that are her only hold on fortune. Better face a few year of hardship now. In an effort to begin life anew, than to go on to hardship and horror Indescribable, Ho you think of yourself a hope less, blackened sinner? Think of your self na a foolish, weak and mlataken woman, no more lost to hona than tha in.mo men who are received by tha world and society In spite of past error far deeper and darker than your own. The hip of one virtue does not mean the extinction of all. The possession of one virtu dee not inan the poeilon of all. If you have fallen througtt on man' rcifllv, or Ihrotfih an excee of love or Ij, tensity, or treat, you are almply a human -being who has gona wrong through misdirected virtues. Ton are like a plant that ha become a weed through neglect of proper cul ture and care. NYu are not a wicked In Ood' sight sa the lenlon. bark-bltttns and mis rhleNmaklng woman who ruins the hap piness of all her associate by her evll speaklng tongue. You are not aa wtcked tn Ood a sight as the woman of fashion who marrlea a man she deaplsea for th wealth he can give her and who hates her unborn child. But your future will be more fffaastroua than that or either of these bemuse of the rules of society, and you Jlave no time to waate If you would start on the wy of reform. rut loos from all th association which yon are compelled to hide from th world. Reek som nw place and scene nd go to work and build up a goAd life for yourself. Wi can be what we will to be. In-Shoots The stool pigeon Is the cheapest of al' conscienceless crooks. The morning after Is also prolific with good resolutions. It Is not good for man to live alone, but It I less expensive, anyhow. The man who Is entirely satisfied l.i usually a tiresome compsnlon. The promoter often part with money a rapidly he accumulates It. As a rule th people who suffer In silence have but. light attacks of trouble. It Is better to hit th bull's-eye In s short sermon than to tire the ataner Into repentance with a long one. If you love music, Aeire slaoiuild joe a Vict rola in jom home February Victor Records include "Mother, a Word That Means the World to Me," and M'CORMACK'S rendi tion of "A Little Bit of Heaven." These are far and away the best issued in some time. Hear them at any of the Victor dealers mentioned in this advertisement. All the world's best music to entertain you whenever and as often as you wish. There are Victors and Victrolas in great variety of styles from $10 to $400 at all Victor dealers. Victor Talking Machine Co. Camden, N. J. it MICKEL'S NORASKA CYCLE CO. 15th and Harney Sts. Omaha, Nab. 334 Broadway, Council Bluff, Iowa B randeis Stores Victrola Department in the Pompeian Room A. Hospe Co, 151315 Douglas St., OMAHA And 407 West Broadwayj COUNCIL BLUFFS 1 Victrola XI, $100 Mahogany or oak