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Wpmag'TyorA; -.'- Fashions -:- ffeaftft ffiwte -:- Household Topics
Dealing With
the Outlawed
Grudge
Br ADA PATTKRSOV.
"I've Just had a new experience." said
ft woman I know. "I have forgiven
somebody."
Shs didn't mean it quite literally. Few
weigh their statements aa carefully aa
they do their sugar or coffee or flour.
If they did there would be fewer troubles
In the world, fewer heart aches. The
number of tragedies would be reduced.
What she meant, aa I waa later to learn,
was this. She had been summoned to
the eldt bed of a woman whom for years
ahe had disliked. The woman had been
unfair to her, had been unkind. It we
are ever warranted In departing so far
from the doctrine of our Sunday school
days aa to hold resentments, the woman
who told me of her "novel" experience,
had reason for her resentment.
But the years had rone In their steady,
relentless march. They had done their
inevitable work. They had wrought
change. The woman who had been un
fair, unkind, met one reverse after an
other. Poor, crippled. Ill, she sent for
the woman whom In prosperous times
she had wronged and asked her to for
give her.
"Bhe waa ' so helpless and wretched
that . I said to her, 'Let us forgive all
but the present," " said the woman who
told me the story, which was a degreo
of forgiveness all, perhsps, that we
might expect from the circumstances.
Then she spoke a big truth. "After alt.
It waa fifteen years ago that she served
me that mean trick. Even grudges are
outlawed by time."
True, mightily true, that Is.
To be outlawed. In legal sense, is to be
deprived of the benefit or protection of
the law. Debts are outlawed after a
period,. In New Tork state that debt
upon which no payment has been made
In six years is no longer a dobt. It haa
been cancelled by time. The law as
suraea that If anyone owed you a debt
and you had been a creditor so lan
guished that you had secured no part of
It In six years, you didn't deserve to be
paid.
Marriage can he outlawed by time. If
John Smith vanished in !!. it Is ae
mimed m -- mat. unincs irom
him being- lacking, he Is dead. And Mfc-s.
John Smith has a rlgh to marry again.
if Enoch Arden was gone for ten years
it would do him no good whatever to
come snooping around his successor's
nome. lie was an outlawed spouse:
Matrimony,' speaking the law, had slain
him.
If time outlaws debts and husbands, it
should outlaw grudges. The affront of
fered ua six years ago is no longer- a liv
ing thing. . It is 'dead, slain By time.
That wrong of ten year. ago Is dead, as
dead as the vanished husband who ha,
no right-to maintain against his suc
cessor! Prudence says:
"But character repeats Itself'. A man'a
acts show the trend of Ms character.
What he has done at one time he may
repeat. . Beware! That worldly wisdom.
It Is common sense! Nevertheless, char
actor can iha'nge 'Often under" the dlr
rectlon of" . strong will and of' altered
standard., tl does,. . We may review the
follies of btheir years with shanie, recall
its sins with, disgust and repentance!
t ui h change may be taking place in. your
enemy. May' have taken place! While
It is the part of prudence to remember
that a wrong' was done, and guard
against Ua repetition', there la a time, too,
to aay ua the woman did, to her pros
trate, perhaps, dying enemy:
"Time- iutlaws .grudge. I,et us forget
everything, but the present."
Caution is: a godly, nnallty In the
warfare of life. But it Is well. too. ti
remtmeer inai mere cornea a Biaie cu
utter helplessness, or the veriest poverty.
to our enemy, to ourselves, u ts ueatn
nd the - preparation for that tinio is
peace!
Above my desk are the words -of oif
who haa gone: "There ln't time enough
for bitterness. The end comes too soon."
And one still wiser wrote: "In a world
where death is, there Is no room for
hate!" ' ' .'
Advice to. Lovelorn
By Beatrice. Fairfax
Von Mo-t Be Brave.
Pear Miss Fairfax: I am 2. and was
married when !. My huptmiid hns proved
most contemptible. He Is now in a for
eign land, has not conrriblted to my sup
port for three years and only OLv-aHionall V
writes. Despite this fact, I am daily writ
ing him letters, appealing to him to re
turn. My letters are either unanswered
or else my pleas ignored. Hlnce he has
gone my life has been dreary. I cannot
concentrate my mind on my work. I bo
came so discouraged that 1 was compelled
to give it up. I am at a loss to know
what to do. I am attractive ami have
done everything in my power to hold him.
I cannot understand his indifference.
My dear Miaa Fnirfax. I toel that there
are other women In my terrible position.
Won't, you kindly advlve me what to do?
A . DHSPONDKXT OIRU
I am sure your own Inner consciousness
siting and striving to win back the love
VI HI. ,, mi, -nil hub ufiwrifu UU will
wreck your health and happiness. You
nv.v-1 hiu ma.!. iuur nusuauu is ine most
contemptible of men." The fact that you
can call him so bitter a name proves that
your love for him is waning. Evidently
your respect for him is gone, and so will
your own self-respect unluss you make a
definite stand against the cruel fascina
tion that still holds you to an undeserv
ing wretch. Your sterngth of will must
determine your salvation. Make up your
mind to take a definite stand and put thl
man out of your life. Write and tell him
that your patience is at an end and then
force yourself Into work and use equal
strength to hold your mind centered
absolutely on success . In the line you
choose.
It Shaala tup Iniaaedlatlr.
Dear Miss Fairfax: Do vou believe a
married man 9s n 1-e slncore in his love
for a woman not his wife? A divorce
oannot be obtained, as he hasn't any
? round. Phou'd an offair this flop'
am still young. We both love earn
other dearly, -end to or.-uk our friend
ship would make us both very un
happy. . . C.
A man who sincerely loves a girl will
not put , her In a p.- sltion where the
world can ludtfe her harshly. And when
married man la seen about with
oung girl constantly her reputation suf
fers cruelly. An affair like thl. should
top t once. You will get over Ions-
In fnr fha mn mith mrhtm thlnb
you are On love far more quickly than-
you ajt recover from the harm that will
tee dona your repuUUlon ff you continue
foiny ebeut with bun.
Narcisse!
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Hy KELT, BMNKLEY
Copyright. WIS, Intern'!. News Service
... That Isn't her name a girl I know who li
very like other girls In that she does tot go by '
her real name; it is never to herself or the peo-,
pie who know her Narcisse, the feminine of '
Narcissus. But I and Jack and Jill' know that
her secret name is really that! ' Narcissus was
the lovely boy the Young Greek God . who
found his face one day by chance reflected in a
still woodland pool, and, enamored of Its sur
prising beauty, bung all day and many days
after above the image In the water, worshipping,
dreaming, lost in his own beauty, until one day
he drooped and died he had been there so
long; and some one remembered the story' and'
told it to some one else and It is Just as plain
as the nose on your face clear down to us!
Well this 1s Narcisse! Are you maybe pos-,
sensed of the secret name Narcisse? Do you
dream all day on your own face and the wonders
that you are made of? Do you dream on you'
yourself and the perfect arch of brows that de-
scended from your great-grandmother, and the
white breadth of your forehead and the gold of
the curls that lie on it? Sometimes It is good
to remember that we "are fearfully and wonder
fully made" (how much more if we are beauti
ful!) .. ' ' ,
It is good sometimes to search your face
closely for the soul lies behind but that's not
lingering above your image until for lack of ths
bread of. self-forgetful ness, like the beautiful
Greek boy, you droop and die. Dend above your
mirror, all you will, Narcisse , bat keep the
dreams out of youY eyes while you gaze search
your eyes for things'other than color ask the
pretty face that looks back a few alert, plain
questions, and beg that it answer back in truth.
"Have I good stuff behind my curls?
"Do my eyes lie or look straight and true?
"Do L 'cut dates' one for another that
'comes later and is more fun and fib with a
deft tongue?
1 "Do I smile at strangers and go softly- and
shout at ray own mother at home?
. "Do I borrow small bits from my friends and
forget to pay back?
, "Do I see lovely things around me often
enough and- forget to snort and snarl?" You
didn't knbw a pretty girl could snort and snarl,
did you? but she can!
' Put your face close, Narcisse, alias Babetts,
' and cross-queetlon the eyes that look so bluely
back. It's good for the sould.
.', T: Y '. NELL BMNKLEY.
The Treatment ot Cancer
The Baby
and
Its Relatives
"How beautiful for you to have your
mother with you now that you have two
babies!" I remember saying once to a
young married friend of mine. Fhe stared
t me curiously and did not reply. I
had a feeling that somehow I had said
the wrong thing, though for years I did
not find out why.
Presumably, at the advent of the first
new baby, the parents' relatives are In
valuable assistants, whether they live In
the house or merely eome to dinner on
Sundays. In plain, cold fact they are
often the greatest hindrance a young
mother haa to contend with in the proper
adjustment of her home to the new
baby.
The dullest Imagination can picture the
Inevitable conflict of opinion and prac
tice between the daughter or daughter-in-law
and the woman whose family haa
reached maturity. The methods of the
latter appear to be fully Justified by
results. The former has no speclflo war
rant for the stand she endeavors to take.
except the printed book of rules which
have been urged upon her by doctor and
nurse. She has to grope her way toward
skillful baby management, watching
anxiously, trying each step of the way.
buoyed up only by the conviction that
science snd hospital regime advocate the
newer way. Physically she Is not quite
herself for some months. No matter
how strong her will or how unshakable
her determination, a persistant mnther-In-law
will either ultimately succeed In
Interfering with her schedule or cause
her untold Irritation and agony of mind
In the meantime, I use "mother-in-law"
advisedly. A daughter with her own
parent has more chance of carrying her
point than with her husband's mother.
In the first place she has been used to
managing mother;" In the second, a
slight element Of placating, or deferring
to, one's husband's mother, Is unavoid
able. Ena It. Wharton In Mother's Ma
gaslne. . .
An Editorial for Women
An Agreeable Personality
Mr nonoTiiY ii.
' If I could give Just one piece of advli
to any boy or girl starting out In life It
would be this:
t'ultlvate a pleasing personality. Avoid
acquiring tecullarltles and prejudices.
Learn how to innke yourself agreeable to
thosn with whom you are thrown In con
tact. Believe me. the gentle are of knowing
how to rub the fur the right way, so
that people will purr under your hand
Instead ot wanting to scratch and bite
you, is an accomplishment that Is like
money In tho bank to any young person,
and that will carry him or her farther
toward success than any other one
quality. For people will do things for
us because they like us that they will
not do for us because It Is our right.
Success or failure In life, happiness or
misery. Is determined by an agreeable
personality far ofteher than we realise.
I know a woman who Is a cracker
jack stenographer. She la highly edu
cated, her spelling Is always above re
proach, her punctuation perfect. In addi
tion she Is faithful, reliable and indus
trious, but she's eternally out of a Job
because she ts about aa pleasant to have
around an office as a porcupine.
She cannot refrain from correcting her
employer's every slip of granimer, and
from making all aorta of sharp, cutting,
sarcastic speeches, and as the result
any man would rather put up with less
competent work from some girl who was
amiable and agreeablo to have about.
Nor is thin tn Isolated case, cr a pe
culiarity confined to the feminine sex.
Every day you will hear employers say
ing, "Oh, Jona ia a good worker, and
fine bookkeeper, or clerk, or salesman,
but he's so orouchy,' or high-tempered,
or quarrelsome that I Just would n t worry
with him any longer, and I let him go," '
And on the other hand the ability to
get along with people, and to make one
self agreeable keops many an Indifferent
man and woman In their Jobs, The thing
that sends the figures up on a pay en
velope Is the nonuiarlty of the clerk. It's
when Mrs. Smith and Mr. Jones asked to
be waited on by some particular sales
man or woman that the salespeople heglSi
to be of value to their employers.
The thing that makes matrimony a eu
cefs or failure Is also an agreeable per
sonallty.
A man may have a thousand weak
nesses, but If he Is tender and affection
ate, and bright and cheery, his wife and
children will love him and he hsppy, and
a woman may be as full of faults as an
egg Is of meat, and If she la sweet tem
pered and warm-hearted, and gay und
tender, her family will adore her.
Whenever you tee Old people who are
kindly and gentle and tolerant you will
find that youth Is only too glad to pay
reverenre and ettrntlon to them. Tea
most popular person that I know, the nns
most deluged with Invitations, Is an od
man who has nothing to give to those he
visits but the charm of hla aoctety snd
the garnered wladcm of his many yesrs.
And so I would say to every girl snd
boy starting out In life that the most Im
portant lesson liiey can possibly learn Is
how to get along with people, how to soy
and do the agreenlle and tactful things,
how to acquire the fine art of making
friends Instead of enemies. And the se
cret of It all Is to treat other people es
you would like to he treated yourself, to
say to other people the kind of things
you would enj.iv hearing yourself, and
to follow the photographer's rule, "tn
look pleasant."
Household Suggestions
Steep used tea leaves for "twenty min
utes Jn a pail, then strain and use tho
liquid for cleaning paint, oilcloth, mirrors
and similar things.
If new boots or shoes will nut polish,
rub over with half a lemon, and leave ,
till thoroughly dry. Apply this once or
twloe If necessary.
When a wax candle Is too large large
for the holder, the end should be held
In hot water until It la soft. It ran then '
be pressed Into ahape to fit the hole and
there will be no waste of wax, aa In the
case of shaving slices off the end of a '
candle.
Grand Priie, Panama-Pacific Exposition, Stn Francisco, 1915
Grand Prize, Panama-California Exposition, San Diego, 1915
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a... u. s. rr. off. Established 1780
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(OUR FOUR STORES ARE MEDICAL AMMUNITION DEPOTS)
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Hr WOOD III T ll0, M. II.
PART I.
For the fure of citnotr, :ikh has
scaped early litrrlion and ivachd n
:alrly advamed development there Is still
hope. l?ut here, as elsewhere, srx-od, i i
the sense of sr road. Is the essence of con
tract. The main question to be conslderrd ia
not ao much the slae, or palnfulness, or
even the extent of the 1,-rowth except In
ihe most deplorably advanced states hut
how many of the seed or .pore cells hnve
been formed and how far they have
traveled lr, the body along tho 11 hp. of
the lymphatics and of the bloud vessels.
This Is what makes some of our great
est puszles and our most pitiful dmni
polmnents. One comparatively smill and
almost painless growth may have run to
seed early and scattred Its spores half
ever' the body, and Its removal will do
no good whatever in the log run.
While another huge, ragged, ulcerated
mass, causing agonies of pain, may have,
so to speak, turned Its clawa Inward, dis
charging Us snores Into Its own Interior,
i.nd Its removal with an Inch or two of
sound tissue on all aides and a careful
cleaning up of the lymphatic chains in
the neighborhood may result in a perma
nent cure.
However, these Incalculable cases are
lh the minority. And while, of course,
there Is no dlsesse In which mors de
pends upon the Individual circumstances
of the particular growth. It may be said
very crudely and broadly that If the
growth Is no more than two Inches In
diameter, ai.d has not caused enlarge
ment or thickening of the lymphatic
chains for more than two or three Inches
beyond Its border, and the latter are
readily accessible for removal, the
chanrea are decidedly favorable for a
successful operation.
' It Is of course obvious that the removal
of a clear and well developed cancer
mut Include not merely the tumor Inself,
but a sufficiently large margin of healthy
tissue upon all three sides of It to Include
any seed cells which may have migrated
out Into the tissues around; and also
a careful examination and. If neceexary.
removal of the lymphatic chains and
lymph glands which surround It, or
drain the area.
The propects of successful removal, of
courae, vary conaiderable with the poai
t'on and the kind of cancrr. Rpeaking
agsin broadly and on an average, cancer
of the Hp and tongue. If the fissure or
ulcer be leex than an Inch In extent, and
Ihe glands of the floor of the mouth and
of the neck are not Involved, has about
75 per cent prospects of success that Is.
about three to one.
Cancer of the breast, wher the lump
In-Shoots
And whiskers cover a . multitude of
sloping chins.
And distance lends enchantment to love
at first alght.
When work seems like play It Is s
sham to take the money.
. To win applause a good actor must
have an Intelligent audience.
la the matter' of rapid increase, graft
germs have aU ether breads beaten to a
standstill.
Is ho bigger than a pigeon's egg, haa a
slightly better prospect, running as high
as 0 to 86 per cent, or nearly five to one
in fnvor of no return.
Cancer of the uterus or rectum, both
of mhlch escape early detection and
spread up the lymphatics mors easily,
has a leas encouraging prospect, scarcely
more than 30 per rent, or one chano
In three, while cancer of the stomach.
Intestines or liver haa not much more
than a 10 to 20 per cent chance of suc
cessful removal.
It. Miould. however, he borne In mind
that operations sre often Justifiable even
In well advanced cases of cancer, not
merely as taking the only chano for
aavlnu the puttent's life, even though
th.it tie a slender one, but also for the
sake of relieving pain snd making tha
future cotirse of the dlsesse more tolera
ble. The reason for this Is that cancers on
or near the surface of the body, where
most primary cancers begin, are usually
painful, often excruciatingly so. In the
earlier stages; while, on the other hand,
secondary or daughter cancers, forming
from seed cells floated Into the Interne i
organs, such as the liver, the lung, t'.i
kidney, or even the heart and th bnin,
are, for the most part, comparatively
painless, certainly much less painful
than the original or aurface growth.
Of course, there are many exceptions
to the rule, but, broadly speaking, com
pute removal of the original growth Is
likely to greatly reduce the later suffer
ings of ths patient, even If It should not
provs a cure.
Bo that, broadly speaking, every can
cer, except those not found until tbe
last snd most desperate stages, should
t given ths benefit of removal by opera
tion at least one.
Shoulder Braces
snd Trusses
For Dors and Girls
and
Men and Women.
We sell one-half loxn
kinds Shoulder Braces
and 40 or 60 kinds of
Trusses and Supporters.
W have experienced men
and women fitters, some
of whom have done this
work for us for 16 years.
Private Fitting Room.
Standard Medicines
' At Deeply Cut Prices
79c
12c
19c
34c
34c
84c
69c
59c
29c
14c
64c
64c
;34c
Dromo BelUer,
10. 30e "d
25c Carter's Lit
tle Liver Pills. .
Genuine Castoria,
35c kind
60c Doan's
Kidney Pills
Father John's
Medicine
Fellow's Syrup
for
Horllck's Malted
'Milk, 30t and.
Llsterlne. 12f
lOt. 39 and
60c Pape's
Dlapepuln
26c Packer's
Tar Soap
$1 Pinkham's
Compound ....
Bal Hepatlra,
10c. 34 and
60c 8cott's Emul
slon
Fio8 -Toilet Supplies
At Sharply Reduced
Prices.
14c
Br Girl
29c
Talcum,
12c
ouraud's
98c
s u r e a
69c
29c
29c
6c
15c
15c
25c Danderine we
sell for
60c Lee's Flower
Perfume, per
ounce ,
25c Mennen's
4 kinds, per
can
$1.60 Felix Gouraud's
Oriental Cream
for
PI vers-French A i u r a
Extract, per
ounce
50c Rlcksocker's
Toilet Cream . . .
60c Yale's Hair
Tonic for
Red CroHS Hand Cleanor,
large can Satur
day for ,
Witch Haxel,
large bottle . . .
Wood Alcohol,
large bottle . . .
Hair and Cork Insoles, per pair, 10c
Hlnkle Tablets,
100 for
100 Blaud's Iron
Tonic Pills
2 doren Aspirin
or Capsules,
for
100 2-graln Pure Quinine
,T: 39 c
Crude Carbolic Acid, for
disinfectant; QC
large bottle .... e3C
19c
29c
Tablets
35c
Mr. Smoker!
How Do Yon Ukt This?
9 Bannerette
Cigars for
15c Club Extra
Holtan for .
10c Ia Marca
for
The above, prices for Sat
urday only.
25c
9c
5c
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Medicines - N r ly
S.OOO Items In this line'
alone.
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COc size, Saturday
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