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About Omaha daily bee. (Omaha [Neb.]) 187?-1922 | View Entire Issue (Nov. 22, 1915)
TIIE BEE: OMATTA, MONDAY, NOVEMBER 22, 1915. Maga JlJoe Bees zitte Pa ome Iffiici Girl IftmM You Choose? An Eaty Amwer to a Difficult Que il ion Hy DOROTHY DW. A young msn write me thnt he In In a terrible d!!cmm , He dc enn't kno. which cf two girls so ak to marry. Itnih are tile, sweet, pretty girl, but ono of the girl 1 J Jut a doll baby, while the other la a hustler. He say that If you'll g ve one of the girl a few yards or cloth ehe can make the pret- tiest t r I m m e t dress you ever raw, and that ehe ran go Into the kitchen and before you can nay Jack Ilol lnsm the can cork a delicious dlnnnr, while the other girl can't sew on a button, or bolt water without a ort lilng I - ,p It. And yet he doesn't know which one of theae girls to pick out for a wife. It doesn't seem to me that any man, above the (trade $f an imbecile, would have any difficulty in deciding between three ladle. It's the difference between helplessness and helpfulness, between a live wire and a dead weight; between a booster and a m'ltatone about your Grey Satin Coat with Taupe v Wolf 4 . YOMwV.I J- Taupe wolf trims a coat of dull gray satin, aultable for day or evening- wear. From Stern brothers, West , Forty second street v The separate coat of satin blda fair to supersede, the velvet model. Ita spon sor claim that le ha more distinction, velvet having been very generally pressed Into service for all manner of garment etnc the beginning of the season. On of the latest Idea Indicates th aatln coat made In three-quarter length, the akirt very wide through the hem and bordered with taupe wolf an Imita tion fox pelt sometime masquerading a such. Nevertheless. It la sufficiently beautiful In Itself to sail under It own colors, sinr worthy Imitations are now preferred to Inferior original. A feature of the' model Is the seml fiited waistline- and the strap-belt of the satin. Collar and cuff are or the fur. , I neck; between comfort and discomfort; . between succor in IKe and failure. ' That' the difference between marrying a girl who I ame account and one who 1 no account. 'and Its up to every ma.i to take his rh, Ice. Consider It n this way, son. If you, were going Info a buMness In which you had every do lar you had In the world nveited, snd In wMch your every hop and ambition were hound up. and you wem going to take a partner In under r. nlract that would last as long as you lived, what sort or a partner would ou select Would you pick out a msn whom yon knew to he cncrsetl . and Industrliua, and capable, and perfectly competent to carry on his department of the bn!na without hot hiring you about It? Or would you choose a good looking chap who rnmheJ I Is hair the way you liked, but wh-j had never done a day' work In Ms life, and who waa absolutely shift less and Irresponsible, and who didn't know the first blessed thing about the work you would have a right to expect him to perform? We all know, without waiting for your ansaer, wMch of these two men you would grab as a partner. You would take the competent man every time. Well, son, all that marriage Is Is a partnership. It' a man and woman pooling their capi tal, and going Into business together, and whether the firm aucceed or fa Is arpenas just as much UDon tha wm.-. Industry and ability to do her part of me wont a it does upon th man. You never saw. a business succeed wne one or the partners waa ,sround all th tlmo and drawing out :ir. man hi shsre of the profits Neither did you ever see a marriage sue. iceed where th wife was Ml. i-. land extravagant, and where It took all ins man could make to pay other people to do the things sho should have done I f course, if man t. . ford to Indulge himself In a no-account wife, just as he can afford to keep a jsrht. or buy peachblow vase fr par. lor ornaments, but heaven help the poor man who Is fool enough to Invest his all In such a useless pj.ee of bric-a-brac Before marriage It may seem very cut and cunning to a man ,or . r, 0 t-norant that .he doe.n't know w he: her to order a whole lamb or a half - l ,L u ' r whih" " cook an egg three hour or three minute, but. m, n. won t anything cute or cunning after marriage in bill that bankrupt him. or meal that would give an ostrich chronlo dyspeprla. Also before marriage th. little, sofe. white hand that have never had a needle prick on their finger, or a callous place on their palms, may seem to a man to be the moat k Usable hand In th world, but he won't feel In a humor to kiss them after marriage when he has to live In a house like a pig sty. and work over hour, to pay seamstresses for uoing me lamiiy mending. None of us admlra lnrnmiuiu i... ' ..W I when It stand In the way 01 our own ' I'omiort ana prosperity. .nd tha rr..n ,, marries a woman who doesn't do her part of the work of making a thrifty and pleasant home pretty soon comes to th place where he entertains for her the same sort or contempt that he does for a business partner who lie down on hi end of the Job. Therefore. I say to any young man who Is thinking of aettlna- marriaut t choose hi wife by the same standard that he would choose a buslnesa partner. i ica out a girl who knows how to work, and who Isn't afraid to do It. Bhe will make you a wife who will boost you up the ladder of success. Bhe will con serve your health, your temper and your strength, and be a blessing to you all your days. On the other hand a laxy. Idle, shift less girl who allies at th sewing ma chine, and balk at the gss range, will handicap a a wife that will prevent you from ever winning the race. If you marry her you will spend your life toll ing to pay dressmakers and milliners. I you will come to haunt Intelligence of fice for servants, and you will waste your strength, that you should give to your business. In walking babies, and cooking meals, and making beds, and doing the household work that your wife should have done. Lack of energy In a woman Is Just as bad a lack of energy In a man, and It' Just a hameful a thing for a woman not to be competent In her business a It la for a man not to be competent In hi. Marry a girl who Is some account, son. and you'll get a some account wife. Take the girl who knows how to cook and sew If you want to be happy. Imitation Is the Sincerest Flattery By Neil Brinkiey Copyright. 1315, Intern! News Hervlco. The little cbap with the short legs stretches them mightily to match them to the length stride of his dad, whose hand he clutches in deep love and admiration. And he tucks in hlg small chin, puffs up his hard little chest and longs his face soberly In a pretty struggle to look as much as possible like the man of his heart' The poor girl offers tribute to the girl with the diamond and platinum purse that Is always fat when she wraps her small throat round with rabbi fur, striving to picture the ermine at the throat of the other! The little mother with the heart of gold puts in tiny stitches, and snips and plans cunnnlgly by night lamps to give her small girl In high school a humbler duplicate of the same frock her richer friend wears. The tiny ! with the old apron, the apple cheeks (there's some thing she has that you have not), and the raggedy dog, with the one ear in full soil and the long, swiping tail that no one had the fash ionable heart to bob, prances and minces with her brows up and her toes turned in behind the chic young person In the park, going abroad to chinchilla and velvet with her great Russian wolf-hound pacing beside and looks very much like her! Here Is tribute! Incense swung faithfully and with a worship ful heart to see that you appreciate It Daddy with the valiant trudger by your side girl with the unfailing purse and the ermine collar little maid in school who may have your frocks from the best shops and purply-born young woman whose dog and gown are a delight to the eye! NELL BRINKLEY. 'n. j I will The Greatest Gift in the World The Passing Hours, Which Are Either Slaves or Masters restore your skin Resinol Soap is not oniv cnusually cleansing- snd softening', but it rcR Klar use gives to the skin and hair that wrW beauty o( perfect health which even the lc&t of cot metks can only imitate. 1'implcs, redness and rnughjeM disappear, and in a very short time the complexion becomes Clear, ircsh and velvety. The -thinp; restoring Influence that makes this juitle it the Kittnol wtiK.h, tls soap Contains and wLich physicians have prescribed for years, in Ketirtul Ointment, in the care of skin and scalp troubles. If the skin is in bad condition through neglect or an unwise tise oi cosmetics, apply a little Ketiik-l Oint ment snd let it remain n ten minutes before washing with Kesinol Soap. Rcaiool Sea U sals tr all iifrua) ana' iU r la lutll oo4. For s Uul sua csk la auaianic aoi at Kawasl (kauaaat, wni bask 14-f, aia.il. HaluaaM. Md. By BEATRICE FAIRFAX. It Is with time that we buy all the good that eomes to us In the world! It Is by a wise use of time that we get wisdom and riches and happiness snd love and health. And the only reckless spendthrift In all the world is the man or woman who waste and auuander time. The only thing In- the world that 1 freely and without handicap the posses sion of ua all I time. Kvery day every one of ua has all there la. Every day each of us ha precious hour and min ute and seconds to spend and the free dom of choice as to how we will spend them. And if at the end of the day you meas ure nothing but waste on the credit side of your ledger that marks the one and only absolute waste. A broken friend ship may be renewed, a lost fortune may be retrieved, a wast city may be rebuilt. There la nothing final about moat loss In the world. Hut at .et of sun the day la gone It will never come asaln It I over. That la an ewe-inaplrtng thought and a true one. There la plenty or time In the wortd but none to throw away. Ufe la for work and patient attempt to understand and accomplish. Idleness, grieving, re gret, useless pleasure-seeking, gossip all these are Inefficient theft froin your own treasure ot hours. You deduct them from the grand total of your own life. The day la yours yours fully and freely. What will you do with It? Uf Is for work and growth, for kind ness and love. If at the end or every twenty-four hour you have actually done something on which you can luck and say. "It 1 mine, and It la good." you have made a worth-while ue of your time. Work doesn't necessarily marching along steadily at one' Job It takes In Interruptions and deviations from th course you have mapped out for yourself. It Isn't the plan that counts. It Is the effort and growth and ability. Suppose you start out one day with a definite Idea of cleaning your china closet and silverware. A message comes from a sick friend who longs to have you come and read to her. If you go with a feeling of irritation because your scheme fur the day haa been interfered with, you are wasting your time. But if you do th particular thing which lies before you cheerfully and amiably, your day la not wasted. The actual scheme of things Is much bigger than you and your personal designs. It takes In more than your little one woman per spective permit you to see. In reading to a sick friend there Is cheer and comfort for her and growth and unselfishness for you, and for both of you the chance of knowledge to be gained. Your time wasn't wasted at all It was simply spent differently from what you Intended. There lies the distinction and the difference. Bvery day a mental Inventory ought to be taken. At nightfall ask yourself ques tions like these: Have I grown today? Have I given something to life and learned something from It? nave I actually used my time to advantage? Have I the right to a warm feeling of contentment over my accomplishments for the day? Or have 1 frittered my time away Idly and uselessly, seeking amusement and diversion "killing time?" The thirst for amusement grows in pro portion to your placid Indulgence of It. If you get to a stste of feverish unrest, or your one desire Is to go dashing about madly aeeklng all sorts or forms of Idle amusement that appeal to the sur face of your consciousness only, you are wasting you time badly. - To be taken out or yourself at the end Storm Centers By JANE M'LEAX. A wide sea waste, with lowering clouds Sweeping above the roll ot foam Pale rain-clouds clad In misty shouds; A ship at sea, sails spread for home, And rain, wind-maddened, shivering by Till westward gleams the first clear sky. Long lashes cast discreetly low; The quivering of a tender chain; Rose-color in a wavering glow Glimpsing the tide that swells within Till, with the tears that quickly dry. Eyes misty still, the storm sweeps by. of a hard day's work through amusement Is a very sane proceeding. It you have been teaching a class or geometry all day long, and have arrived at the state or nervous tension where you are likely to lie all night on a aleepless couch, fig uring out squares or hypothenuses snd radii or circles, you are on your way to a scholarly waste of time which ought to be spent In the recuperation of slum ber. And so a little harmless diversion that will rest your tired mind Isn't a waste of time at all. It Is a prime neces sity of your being. Nothing constructive, nothing' that builds up your life snd that of those with whom you come In contact can be waste ful. Belie upon work, itiakc up your mind that It occupies your mind, your body, your heart and your soul. Be sure that It la individual and aultable. that It la legitimate and vital. Gather in all Ita opportunities with a feeling that It la an imperishable (art or life, do It thoroughly and well. Turn your attention to your family re lationships. Bee that you are being fair to them and In them. Make sure that your ambitions are not overshadowing your affectlona. Give your attention to the tenderness you owe to your friends and to all who love you. Bee to it that the common duties of your life are being attended to. Btudy your own talents and develop them to the utmost or your abil ity. Do your duty by your friends. Bear your sorrows bravely and unflinchingly and with a background of feeling that they will work out for your ultimate good. When to all theae things and the tasks and requirements they bring in their train you have given your attention, make sure your time will not be wasted. Your days will be full with constructive matter, and for the destructive fore of Idleness and grieving and unklndness snd malice and useless pleasures there 111 be neither thought nor opportunity. Advice to Lovelorn TIT BBATJUCa TAXaVTAX Itanrh of Uaeatlons. ienr Miss Fairfax: First As there In soon to be a baby shower perhaps you would s unrest some da.nty or preu. present to be given to the baby. Sec ondWill you plea.te tell me the best way to clean white furs? I have cleaned them several times with gasoline, but it is hard to duet out. Third Do you think, aa I am 19 years old, that I am old enough to marry. The condition and need of the family are Important factors In deciding ques tion No. 1. If poor or In moderate cir cumstance something useful, particularly a little nicer than the parties themselves, would be likely to buy, would be appro priate. Anything too expensive would be out of place, however, unless the family of the recipient was affluent. Htter consult others who are to contribute and not overload the little one with too many duplicates. Not able to answer No. 2. Many happy marriages have been con tracted at your age, but as a rule it Is far better to wait until the I ablts and Ideals of both parties have become a little more firmly fixed. Your True Happiness. Dear Mis Fairfax: When I was 17 I eloped, and after spending two ytara with my husband I became d acontented and returned home It was necessary for him to live In the country, an i ns I had been brought up In New York 1 missed the theaters and other places of amusement. I am now atudyinar for the stag?, it which work my teachers tell mo I will be successful. However, I often ieM that I snould give up work and return to my husband, although I am sure that I do not love him as a wtf thonld. He wishes me to come bnck and my parents wish It also. Should I return to him? DISCONTENTED. I believe you could find tho greater happiness at the side of the man you married. The loneliness you feel In the country Is by no mean so great as that you may know out In the world when you have only your work to consolo you and no one with whom you really s and first, as evidently you still do with tli man who cares for you even aTter your desertion ot him. Have n I nderatnnrtlna. Dear Ml MM F-nlrfav 1 have been goinir about with a youns man for six months. Before he met me he was engaged for nearly four years. xm uues noi aeen an appointment wun me and I know he goes to se h s former shall 1 give him up. ANNA V. Your situation la a sad ono and one that unfortunately Is not very unusual. lou would probably be happier if you could get up your courage to hv a Plain talk with the vouna mm. The un certainty of your situation U v. ht l.i-lses you unhappy. Once you knvr you had to give him up I am sine yiu wojtil find the courage to do so. Don't u. m t this situation to drug alcin:;. Vo . . is: either trust the mun absol . ... c.n.' to an understanding with li.ni. Don't Be llaaty. Dear Miss Fairfax: I am married tw.i years and have a baby bey 4 months old. My husband Is very Jealous, tie has no reason to be. however, because 1 don't give him reason to. He always quarrels with me, and I don't like to quarrel with him. He says he will do better, and Is better for a day or two and then It Is the same thing over again. I have folks, but I hate to leave because we have the baby, it's Just impossible to live with him. He will not let me go down town without him, and I don't go any place, not even to see my folks, who live Just about a couple of blocks from us. He says he can't trust me. I am 23 years old. Please tell me what to do. Thank ing you In advance. M. D. K. Possibly some things, innocent in them selves, cause his jealousy. Search your conduct for such and If found remove the cause. Breaking up a home Into which a little one has come I a serious matter and every possible means of re moving disagreements should be first tried, even though life is robbed or much of Its pleasure. Reparation should be a last resort and much borne with before It la resorted to in such a case. Yea, If tlaestloa Justifies. Dear Miss Fairfax: X would like to ask your advice on a certain matter, but d' not want my letter to appear in print Do you give such advice without printiuu the letter asking for it? ANXIOUS READER. REMARKABLE CASE of Mrs. HAM Declares Lydia Z. Pinkham'a Vegetable Compound Saved Her Life and Sanity. Shamrock, Mo. "I feel it my duty to tell the public the condition of my health before using your medicine. I had falling, inflamma tion and congestion, female weakness, pains in both sides, backaches and bear ing down pains, was short of memory, nervous. Impatient, passed sleepless Lnights, and had "neither strencrth nni energy. 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