THE BKE; OMAHA, TUESDAY. XOVKMHKK J, I9l.r. The Bees Hone Magazine Pa Virtues That Are Vices No. 2 Unselfishness. A Great New Series by Dorothy Dix. By DOROTHY DIX Unselfishness la another virtue that I popularly supposed to be tha brightest Jewel in tha crown that adorns the feminine brow. Never a preacher or A moralist who Joean't adjure wo men to cultivate unselfish ness Never a panegyric of wifehood or motherhood that ian't a rharsody over the woman who makes a door mat of herself for her children, and husband to wipe their feet upon. It is natural that this view of th subject should be popular with the little tin gods be fore whom a wo man offers herself np. The queer part of It is that women should have culti vated In themselves) the sacrificial spirit until they have coma to believe that the way for a woman to do her duty by her family Is to make herself miserable for It. They are like the fanatics who think they attain heaven by casting themselves under the wheels of the car of Jugger naut and letting it roll over them and crush the life out of them. Now there Is reason In all things. A certain amount of unselfishness Is ad mirable and desirable and even necessary In every relation of life. Live and let live is the motto of civilisation. Every decent human being must give way to the rights and convenience of others. Particularly every woman must And more especially must every wife and mother consider tha welfare, the tastes and whlma of her household. The unselfishness that raises us above the level of the swine, two and four footed, la worthy ef all admiration and emulation. That Is what might be called the masculine brand of unselfishness, and it is Innocuous. It Is the feminine brand of unselfishness that is a virtue gone wrong. It Is this particular kind of self abnegation that makes a devoted mother do her children a more deadly harm than their bitterest enemy could Invent. And that Is one of tha most pitiful and tragic facts in the world. It is the unselfish mothers who raise up the loafing hoodlums, who, like aa not, as circumstances depend, become white slavers, because they have always had a woman to work for them, and they see no shame In It. Mother couldn't bear to call Bobby in from the street and his play to split tha kindling, or bring up the water, or do any choree, so she did It herself. Mother was so unsel fish that she gave Bobby the money that An By ADA PATTERSON. It was one of those rare and blessed times when she was not "in a hurry." Events did not crowd upon her heels, driving her forward at rushing rate. For a little time events were at slack water. It was rain ing. No one would call. She might sit at peace, her hands resting in her lap. If she would. But Instead she locked the doors of her house and climbed the stairs to the second floor. Then, with a glance at the driv ing rain through the windows she sighed contentedly ' and climbed higher by a narrow closed-in flight of stairs to a pitch-roofed space from whence is sued a faint, delicious smell of cedar and lavender. "A splendid chance to look through these bags and boxes. I've been wanting to for a year." She sat on a low chair close to the window and drew one of the big, strong, shapeless linen bags to her knee, much as would a naughty child that resisted authority. She untied the heavy cords and thrust ! her hand into the bag and drew forth I two handfuls of scraps. Scraps of old muslin, bits of new linen, tiny squares of velvet and shreds of silk. She drew a sewing table beside her and began assort ing the bits. "That scarlet silk will line a collar and give a bright touch to Mollle's gown," she assured herself. "This piece of black velvet will cover moulds for buttons. Tes. I'll save It. This" she held up a stained and tattered piece of silk. "No possible use,'' she decided. The larger bits of linen and muslin she was sure could be woven , into rugs. The bits of wool Into carpet. But there were scraps that by no means she could utillxe. Nor would she get anything from the rag collector for them. "Why did I keep them?" she asked herself. "Nothing should be saved that cannot be used." Her voice, in the fragrant silence of the attic, with the obligate of rain beating outside, echoed in her brain as words hurriedly spoken by ourselves or others may. "Nothing would be kept that Is of no use. It merely takes the space that should be given to better things," she murmered, and presently she stopped her assorting. Her hands lay Idle in her lap, her figure was relaxed, she stared into the farthest, dimmest corner of the attic and thought. Thought of that earlier love affair of hers and the bitterness that remained in her heart about It. Why did she blame the relatives who bad. prevented her mar rlageT Why did she contrast her hus Mm iiipii j she was saving up to get her a new pair I t "hoes to buy a baseball mask. Mother always ate the neck of the , chicken or the scraps left on the dish. Mother stayed at home and cooked up a good surper for them against their re turn when the balance of the family went off on an excursion. Mother never had any decent clothes, nor any pleasure. No one considered her feelings In any way. and so Bobby growled at her when he was a child and cursed her whn he was a man because her unselfishness had raised his selfishness up to the nth de gree. It was mother's unselfishness that sent Bobby out Into the world to be culfed and buffeted and beaten until a little consideration for other people and their rights was hammered into him. And mother's unselfishness was directly re sponsible for the broken heart of the woman that Bobby married and treated like a brute. It Is the unselfish mothers who are at the bottom of the divorce courts, for they raise up the lasy, selfish, parasitic girls, who curse the men who are un lucky enough to get them for wives. Mother has a glow of self-righteousness when she thinks of how she is "sav ing" her daughters by bending over the washtub while they are getting exercise in a tennis court. She thinks she is doing the part of a noble, self-sacrt-flclng mother by working her fingers to the bone while her girl's hands are pink and manicured, and by wearing the cast off clothes of the family while her daughters are arrayed In the latest crea tion from Paris. In reality she Is making of them mon sters of cold-blooded selfishness, grafters who take what they want irrespective of whether they have a right to it or not. She .is making them greedy, and callous, and self-seeking, the type of women who regard matrimony as nothing but a meal ticket, and a shopping credit which they are ever ready to trade oft for a bet ter one. Nor la the unselfish wife the pearl without price that she is supposed to be. It Is not the self-abnegating woman who help men, but the ambitious ones who demand a place In the sun and force their husbands on to get it for them. Many a man has become a millionaire because he had to hustle to supply a selfish wife with gew-gaws. Moreover, the unselfish wife and mother have never the slightest Influ ence with either husband or children. We all take other people at their own value, and we accord to them the treat ment they demand of us. Hence, when a woman humbles herself before her family they treat her with trie contemp tuous Indifference due to her position. This is why the self-abnegating woman does more harm than good, and why un selfishness Is oftener a crime than a virtue. . Hour in the Attic band, plain, honest, faithful, with the man of her first love? He had married another, and his wife confided to her confidantes who confided to their as con fidantes will, that he was not In the A class of husbands. Why harbor the dregs of memory? Did they not take room that should be given to better things, say as to the resolution to be as good a wife as she could to her own good husband? The woman's relaxed muscles stiffened. She sat straight and in her eyes gleamed resolution. It were time long ago that the last vista ge of the last memory of that foolish first love should be cast out. And it was. The woman in the club whom she disliked so heartily. What of her? Hadn't she given enough thought of her? Too much indeed, for every destructive thought Is one too many. Why waste any time and energy and good looks they passed too fast, anyway, those good looks to a woman whose voice and dress and Ideas displeased her? The woman was a good one in her way. She was of kindly nature In an extremity. She had been the best of. friends to thai family in the next block, who had been quarantined. She had saved from star vation the ailing little seamstress in the lower part of the town. After all her faults were petty, not great ones. Her errors were those of taste, not of prin ciple. Tes, the active dislike for Mrs. Advice to Lovelorn Dos't Be Hasty. Dear Miss Fairfax: For the last six months we have been going to parties, church, etc., with two boys of our ne. quaintances and now a mutual friend ship (which I am afraid will be hard to break) has sprung up. Now, do you think it Is right that both of these boys call on us steadily and make use of our homes for their fun and still never take us out? What Is the best for us to do? O. E. These boys are not particularly gener ous in their attitude toward you, but that certainly need no cause you to give up your friendship for them. They may have good and sufficient reasons for wanting to save their money, or they may have obligations which take all their spare change for some such kindly thing as helping out at home. Friend ship Is not based on give and take, but on honest liking. So don't worry about their seeming lack of generosity. Veek I'ndrratasdliis, Dear Miss Fairfax: I am 20 years old snd hava been going with a girl one year During this time she has done a fw fa vers I requested her to do. she stop ped putting paint on her face for the last (7) seven months, as I asked her to. Now she has started to put it on again since last week, and when I asked her the reason for such happenings sue said she did not want to go around with a pale look on her face When I asked her to stop It she said she would not H. ii. a. Oo to the girl and tell her that while you still feel It is unfortunate that a Curiosities of Old Pewter Drinking Vessels One Common Now Sought by Collectors. To the left a half-mutchkin measure tinlidded, in the renter a measure of 1680 used as a communion flagon in Brechin cathedral, and on the right an imperial pint measure used in Glasgow. ii. V-: VJ ) i if " v f-'k ( ,-i A '.J o ' re-v--- t i L. . 1 1 -S hsm rr-T1 i'i iiiiiiiiiiiwiii iiiiiir-n-BT"r"-)tr 1,1 in in i ni iwriinj-Tiissi isismsj mmm snnjniiiiiin OA BRETT P. SKRVI8- p f , ( ' ' I" r1 -"'v'tfx' to be old-fashioned is at first a re proach and later a distinction. V hatever survives Ita age becomes a memorial of (ar-away times, and enables us. In a sense, to relieve the life of past genera tions ss history cannot so vividly do. as you look at an old piece of furniture you have a pleasurable vision of the so cial scenes that centered about It when it wrs the latest thing. You find In it beauties that Its original possessors may never have noticed. Part of the artistic superiority that we ascribe to such tilings resembles the super eminence which later times have recog nised In Shakespeare, who. In his own day, was not thought to be unrivalled. Who that drank his ale or claret one or two centuries ago from a pewter cup, which had been filled from a pewter fla gon. Imagined that those vessels, snaped out of a base alloy of tin and lead by artificers who certainly were not re garded aa ' artists," would, in a later age which could command much more ex pensive materials and work, be regarded as "object of vertu," L ., of rare and curious excellence? Tet today "old pewter" Is one of the favorite objects of collectors and the styles of Its makers are admired to a degree which would certainly first cause them to open their eyes and then to swell with pride In a genius which they had not known that they possessed. But, however they came by It, the old makers of pewter vessels, which seemed commonplace enough in their day, for every tavern had a plenty of them, had a knack of turning out very graceful and attractive products. Some of these are represented in the photographs on this Gringo Brown must give way to better things.' Her quarrel with life as it was? The woman's mouth took on the lines of a grieved child's for a second, then chiseled itself into determination. Ufe wan't quite all that she would have had It. But whose was quite what the one who lived It wtbhed? The colors of her life seemed to run pale? Yes, but what of her whose colors seemed more vivid? What did she really know of what that person wished compared with what she had? No, that old nurtured grudge against life must go. A wagon rattled .past. It bore the sign. "Burn your rubbish and save trouble" Fire Department. The woman smiled. When the family met about the supper table the children said: "Why are your cheeks so red?" "I've been making a bonfire of some rubbish," she answered. "You're looking well. You don't look tired," her husband, who was usually tired, said. "The storm gave me a chance to rest and think things over In the attic," she answered. He looked at her in faithful admira tion. His eyes reminded her of a St. Bernard's, patient, gentle, true. He did not understand the change in this wife who worried a great deal. But he was glad of the result. Which, after all. Is what matters. m Bj Beatrice Fairfax sweet, dignified girl such as she la shoul 1 give people the wrong Impression make up always produces, you do not want It. lose her friendship because of a dlf- rerenee or opinion on this subject. If she cares enough for you she may In time vir.rt . T ? m"y ri reading. In the peace of home and fam It 1. SJaibie th 'n " nui"'VurTlly. in the quiet of nature, In any en t is possible that you also may have Li . JL- , v,..i habits of which she does not a DDroi a and about which she would hesitate to criticise you. Don't Kllrt. Dear Miss Fairfax: I am a young girl or A) and am considered attractive ly many of my friends. Despite the fact, I have never had a man friend who really seemed to care much for ine. My Jlrl friends always seem to have many friendly acquaintances. t'pon Inquiring from one of them recently I learned that they spoke to men without having been Introduced, and was urged to do the same. It did not seem right to me, how ever, and since I have no mother I de cided to write to you. Won't you please tell me what Is right? I don't want to do anything Indiscreet, yet 1 do so wish to have friends like others have BLANK. Don't let your friends persuade you to make chance acquaintances. You will not make worth-while or lasting friendships that way. Since you are en attractive girl, you can rest assured that some day one of your men friends will feel real devotion for you. But If you cheapen yourself by flirtation you are not likely to win anything but a passing fancy and you rlsk making most dangerous acquaintances. f ..nnwwsn , ' V - - '-v"t ? - - v. w. fj -fl fe " T'h hfil Y,';;.":j --,. MftaAu e.tii Quarter gill, half gill pewter measure of thistlo shapo. page. The Scotch, always good drinkers, were particularly skillful In this kind of work. They had a vessel called, with a humor which could penetrate any skull, a "tappit hen" (you can notice the re seblance yourself when you know that the name was applied to a hen with a top-knot), and this vessel, possibly through another play of Scotch humor, was reckoned as a pint measure, al though it was half as big again s.s a quart! It was called the "Scots pint." The name tappit hen is sometlmee applied to smaller specimens of Scotch pewter ware, but It properly belongs only to stoups holding three pints, a UtUe projection In side the neck, called "the piook," err ing to Indicate . the level of the liquid when the vessel contained full measure. In many cases the makers lavished much decorative effect upon the tope of the lids and thumbplecea by which they Which Hour Is Your Happiest! An Interesting Question Which Opens Up A Wide Field of Discussion. By BEATRICE FAIRFAX. What means the Joy o' Ufa to youT What elves to your day the greatest measure of happiness? It is worth your while to stop and consider this question very seriously, for your enjoyments show a very definite phase of your char acter. A little thought will convince you of the truth of this. Consider the history of nations at periods when civilisation had not brought kindness and humane Instincts to be factors In feeling, enjoy ment came from the sufferings of others. A barbarous populace got Its gayety from gladiatorial combats, In whleh brother of conquered peoples might be compelled to slay brother. It found pleasure In watching humans mauled and torn to death by wild beasts In the arena. Today the barbarous Instincts of hu man nature are dying but not djead. What makes you laugh when you see a harmless old man slip on a banana peel and fall to experience Ignominy and perhaps pain? A sense of humor ought not to be so tremendously ap pealed to by this common enough spec tacle of a fellow mortal losing his foot ing. It Isn't sense of humor, but the excitement of the unexpected mingled with the old barbarous instinct to get fun out of other people's pain. Examine yourself rather carefully to see what gives you happiness. The knowledge will give you light on the profitable study of your own nature. Do you get your greatest Joy out of the excitement of a social "good time?" Then you are too much of a butterfly and must take yourself to task lest you slip Into the class or Idlers. Is your happiest time that spent In vironnient where you have only to bask in the pleasant surroundings that give you peace? Well enough so far as It goes you are probably a kindly, studious person but you lack Initiative. The healthiest form of enjoyment comes from work. Honestly It does! There is a glorious Joy In the feeling that cornea over you when you stop for a moment and look at what you have l accomplished and know It to be good. "I did Oils. 1 added this to the sum of humun achievements." No feeling, that eomes to you can be more fraught with real Joy than the peaceful satis faction of looking on your work and knowing it to be good. If effort and accomplishment as Its crown mean the greatest possible hap piness to you, you are one of those ener getic, ambitious, determined souls who will surely forge ahead In the world. If serving others and bringing hapiplness Into other lives is your Ideal of happi ness you are one of those noble souls born to make the world better because you have been In It If anything constructive anything that adds to the sum of human knowledge "3 ,vK. rfMt,if..f 1 were lifted. But In many other cases there were no lids, their absence being an effect of economy. In the course of time the forms of these essels underwent considerable damagea. From the "henshaped" they passed to the "potbclled." the "pear" and the "thistle" forms. There were also other smaller vessels of pewter which are now sought by collectors. Among these was the "mutchkln," sometlmee made In the form of a tappit hen, but holding only three gills,, and the "chopIn" holding a pint and a half. There were likewise half mutchklns and gills. When, as sometimes happens, any of these vessels are found bearing dates and maker's names, or lntlals and other designs, their value aa curiiosltles Is en hanced. 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Mew Vora Why We Quarreled No. 8 The Man's Side The Husband Who Tried to Reg ulate His Wife Wardrobe Tells of His Defeat. : : : : lis YIIUJIMA TKHHINK IK WATER. VAN (Copyright. 1!!S, by tar Company.) When we were young married my In come was small, and it was remarkable to see how well my wife dressed on It. She Is deft with her fingers, and she fashioned many of her own clilhe . Then, suddenly, I made a good sum of money and my fathor died and ;ef, me still more. This enabled us to alter our moils of life and no Into a more fashionable set of socle y. I was Kind, for I like society. Rut I had no Idea that the change in our fortunes was going ia mike surh a change in my wife's apparel. .1 under stood, of course, that the material of her costumes might now be handsomer than of old. hut It beats ine to under stand why she need have several gowns to take the plaue of every one that she used to have. And nowadays she "makes over" nothing. "Why should I?" she argues. I can't sew nearly aa well a.i the professional dressmakers do, and, besides, they need the very work that I used to do myself. ' "That's very true," 1 agreed, "and 1 am not objecting to your giving work to trained dressmakers or needy sewing women. Hut why have so many gowna for one season?" "Because," she replied, "I go to more functions than 1 once did." "But." I Insisted, "even then you do not wear out an evening gown In one season. It may get soiled, but you can have it cleaned. Aa you do not danoe, it certainly does not become worn or shabby." "You seem to forget," Elisabeth said, "that It makes a woman uncomfortable to wear the same costume In the same crowd again and again." Then she sighed In sheer despair ol making me understand. That was last fall. I had never seen her more engrossed In anything than she was In shopping and dressmaking all through the late autumn and early winter. I determined to keep count of her new clothes. One day when she was out I came home early and went through her closet I knew which were the even ing gowns, for they hung In light bags. Rach bag bad attached to It a smaller one which held the slippers to match the gown. I counted five evening dresses, three suits, three afternoon dresses and, three fluffy things that looked like wrappers only more elaborate. I think they were what my wife calls negligees. There were also several wraps, besides her long: fur coat I made a list of them all and handed It to my wife when she came In, "Well, what of III" she demanded, as I looked my disapproval. "We go out so much that I must have evening gowns a-plenty. Aa to the afternoon gowns, 1 wear them to teas In my own home and elsewhere. Then the suits I need for ohurch, calling or shopping. I ' could not wear a plain serge suit to call In, oould I? I tell you," she added defiantly, as I made no reply, "when a woman Is young she may look all tight In plain things, but when she Is n earing middle life she must dress handsomely or be a perfect frump." "I'd risk It," I muttered "What did you say?" she tsked. I repeated my remark, adding perhaps brutally that I would rather have my wife resemble a sober little domestlo bird than a vain and strutting peacock. I knew my words made Elisabeth very angry, and she looked at me stranely for a full minute before she spoke, I wondered what she was thinking. "Do you mean that?" she asked at last. "I dot" I returned savagely. "I would rather have you as plain as a nun than putting all my money Into peacock-Ilka gaudtneas." ' ' This was not true for I have enough money and to spare but I was Indignant nntrimont lor It strengthens and bitter. An beur later I had forgotten the remark.1 My wife had not. Two nlphta later Elisabeth and I went to a fashionable reception given by the wife of a wealthy business associate of mine. In the automobile my wife's fut coat hid her gown completely. j I could not repress a start of amaxe. ment when, as I waited for her at the head of the stairs outside of the men' d reusing room, she appeared In a plainly made black silk, one that had been a. second-best afternoon gown last year. Thi sleeves enme to the elbows nnd she wore long black gloves. The waist was ope a I ttle tie throat, and this srao wn filled with white lace. "B.'llxnbe'h!" I exclaimed. actually shocked. "What, in tho name of heaven. have yen worn that dress for sueh ii function as this? You know I clwiv wunt you to look your beet In th' house." She smiled Inscrutably. "You to'd me you would rather see me dree-d llko a nun than like a peacock," she reminded me. "So, aa all my evening gonna are rather gorgeous. I had to wear this td meet your views." I wns almost brsido myself with rare.' Other couples, passing us In the hall, looked at my wife In surprlro. "We'll go home!" I told her In an angry1 whisper. "Very well," she agreed, calmly.' We went home, and when we were once In our own house I turned on her authoritatively: j 'Now go nnd dress suitably!" I or dered. "Then we will go back to that reception." "Oh, no, we won't," she said. "You may go If you like but you'll go alone. I am not going to obey another of your whlma 1 dressed tonight ti please you, but I shall not repeat the process Just because you have changed your mind. But remember, after this, I mean, to dress to suit myself since I cannot suit you." That was all. From that time to this I have never Interfered In what Is, presum ably, my wife's own peculiar province. And when her friends declare In her presence and mine that she la the best gowned woman In our set I do not glance in her direction lest I see a gleam of malicious triumph In her eyes. In-Shoots No 'optimist was ever able to convert a pessimist. Family honor la. usually a Jokn to all save the relatives. Of course, the close friends Is a!wa liable to touch you. ; When a married man loses his temp r his wife gene'rallly finds It. It Is difficult to make a bard story, profitable In many cases. luck Complain that some one la doing yoU and you advertise yourself as an easy mark. . People who never travel always seem to have the best knowledge of the rail road time table. There im something the matter with the woman who does not like to linger at the telephones , Spading the garden will bring more muscle than playing golf; but not every fultow has a garden to spade. If a man turns over his pay envelope regularly It la not necessary for him to calj his wife "darling" all the time. During the-engagement a girl seldom sees but one man. But after marriage she has been known to look around and make comparisons. -