Omaha daily bee. (Omaha [Neb.]) 187?-1922, October 30, 1915, EDITORIAL, Page 15, Image 15

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The Gardener '
Shimmering Fabrics Fashion for Evening Garments
Attractive Effects in Black or Whito Are Covered with Beads and Crystals
The Seeker
The Woman Who IIa3
Not Found Herself.
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There was a magic garden; in It grew
Tall hollyhocks and pink phlox, dewy wet.
And canterbury bells of ature hue,
With clove carnations and some mignonette.
And In oneorner bloomed a splendid flower
A rose, with close, sweet petals folded In;
Like other flowers she had her short, sweet hour,
Asway upon, a green stem, long and thin.
A stooped old gardener came at early mors
To tend the flowers. He loved the rose the best.
And while he pruned he noticed not how worn
And pale and drooping faded all the rest.
One morning as he passe d on down the way
He saw the crusted earth, the flowers all dead,
And Autumn winds were rife, the skies were gray,
While clouds were scudding wildly overhead.
"But there's my rose," he said, "my favorite flower
111 tend her petals, prune her tender stalk."
But It was Fall the rose had lived her hour,
And fluttering petals strewed the garden walk.
Habit as a Deadly Drug
By DOROTHY DIX.
Millions of essays have been written
bout the force of habit. There la no
other fact of which we have such dally
and hourly proof as the power of habit.
We all know that
the chief guiding
Impulse In our
Uvea is habit '
We apeak about
being- the alavee of
habit, and It Is
true. The drugtaker
finds It aa easy to
break the fetters
that bind htm to
his drug; aa we do
to break the habit
that binds us to
out little "ways."
We get up and
lie down at certain
hours; we eat cer
tain food at cer
tain tlmea; we are
drunk or we are
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sober; we are Industrious or lasy Just
because of the habit we have formed.
Host of our affairs we do not even rea
son about. We act In the particular way
we do because of a habit which has be
come InatlDct with us.
This feeing the case, and these bromldtc
truths being matters of common knowl
edge and experience, It Is the strangest
thing In the world that parents do not
take the trouble to teacti their children
to form good habits, and thus turn the
mighty power to their advantage.
They . do not do It, however. They
think that It makes no difference If lit-
no jonnnie ana eusie rusn to the candy
enop wim every penny the minute theyt
ret It; or If they atart to build a block
house and stop thta In the midst of It
to blow soap bubbles, and stop that in an
Instant for roller skating, and fly from
one thing to another all day long; or If
they get a message twisted In carrying
It from one room to another; or it they
give way to violent bursts of temper
every time they are crossed.
These are small matters, think John
hie and Susie's parents, and they have
not vision enough to see that children are
men and women In the making, and that
before they are 10 year old they have
formed the habits that nine times out of
ten mold their character and decide their
destinies.
What a child docs with Its pennies is
failure. There are so many people who i
do things hilf-way and so few who do !
them the right way. There are so few
people who can be depended upon, from j
the highest to the lowest, to turn out a
real workman-Ike Job. !
The child that 1 allowed to leave lis j
playthings laying all over the floor, that '
Is permitted to alight ever little tasK
and abandon It unfinished, that Is never
taught to do things on the minute, forms
the habit of shlftlessness that will folio. v
It through life, whereas the child that j
la brought up to be prompt, accurate and i
efficient has those habits Inbred in him .
which carry him to the goal every ttme.
A little boy of eight bald to me not long
ago, "I'm going to be some account In the
world." "How do you know?" I bantered.
"Because," he answered, "I am particu
lar about everything I d. and 1 do it
right. When my mamma sends Billy to
the kitchen to tell the cook something,
he forgets It on the way. but I don't. 1
tell her Just the words my mamma
said."
That child was Justified In his boasting.
He will be some account lit the world,
and he will be a success because he has
already formed the habit of being eff'cl
ent It Is our habits that make us or break
us. Remember that, you fathers and
mothers, and give your children good
habits. They are the lever of Archimedes
with which they cat move the world.
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Bright green velvet composes an even
ing mantlo encruated with metallic thread
embroideries interspersed with rhlne-stones.
The pajama negllres Is Illustrated In a
two-piece model of yellow kabo crepe
elaborated with band embroideries.
Hy KKATKIOK FAIRFAX.
Very attractive Incite long-waist lines
' and Its subdued sparkle of Jetted net is a
frock exploiting a modish evening model.
Advice to Lovelorn
t BliniCa TaOTH
Tell Her the Trata.
Dear Miss Fairfax: I am 21 and have;
been going out for the last two months
with a lady of the same ajje. I vislied;
her house and her parents treated me as'
if I were one of the family. She asked
me whether I called out ot friendship or!
whether we were going to be married In .
the future. I do not think thai I can
support a wire, but In the course of a few '
years I think I could. This struck me
very funny aftor only going out two i
months. Do you think this girl waa a I
bit hasty In asking that question? I
JACK W.
By GKRMAIXK GAVTIER.
All manner of scintillating, shimmering
fabrics are In demand for evening gar
ments, and chief among these is the
dance frock and evening wraD, which
are, In many Instances, literally covered
with paillettes, bead embroideries, crystal
ornamenta and Jet bugles.
Speaking generally, the dresses are
most attractive either In all black
or all white. They lose some ot
the garlahness and theatric note one
associates with fish scale effects In
green, purple, rose and royal blue. Never
thelesa, such are to be found for those
who have a veritable passion for color
and whose personality becomes pale and
subdued when expreased through tho
medium of rich sombre black or cool
white
Many ot the fabrics employed for
evening dresses have a basic fabric of
fine net, chiffon cloth of moussellne,
and these are encrusted with floral or
other designs wrought In the besd. em
broideries. The marvel Is that the filmy
foundation can sustain the weight Im
posed upon It. It la necessary to mount
these besded tissues over satin or silk,
and It sometimes happens that between
the satin and the scintillating super
structure there may be three or four
layers of matlne. This treatment gives
a soft bouffant effect without adding
materially to the apparent width or bulk
of the garment.
This idea Is illustrated In an evening
gown cut en princess with a long bodice
line accentuating the slender contour of
the figure. The skirt Is composed of
triple flounces ot black mallne, each
Automobile Revolutionizing Farm
flounce edged with a narrow band of
Jet. Over the shoulder there are passed
three bands olt Jet In bretello sugges
tion. The entire bodice' from the decol
lete neck to the hip line Is ot sparklln
black Jet on net. At the sides, Just
below the hips, there Is a cascade ar
rangement of the beaded fabric.
Another use of beaded garniture la
found In a youthful model made on
Moyen Age lines, of rloth-of-ellver and
pearl embroideries. The shape of the
gown Is simplicity Itself, being cut In
unbroken line from shoulder to skirt
hem. About the waist. Just below the
hips, there Is a girdle of the pearl em
broidered tissue (Imply knotted In front
and with tannelcd ends hanging well to
the hem of the skirt.
The neck of this frock .a com
paratively high, being cut off In a
straight line from shoulder to shoulder,
both back and front, and then banded
with straps of the poarl. A feature of
the model, which is an adaptation of a
Jeanne Larvln original. Is the sleeteless
cat made of the rloth-of-sllver In three-
Quarter length and Is .bordered with
white fur. The upper garment la easily
slipped on or oft,' but It Is Intended to
be a worth-while accessory.
Naturally the evening wrens employ
heavier materials than those used for
drena composition. Chiffon velvet. Ore
satin, ribbed silks snd novelty brocades
all have a place In the coat scheme.
The application of tinsel embroideries Is
an Important part of the decorative
beauty. It takes a master designer to
know what to leave off In the ornamen
tation of this gala wrap. The great
trouble la that many designers think that
If a little trimming Is good a whole lot
is better, and the result Is disappointing.
If one wants to be ultra smart, the
correct sort of coat to wear la that made
of kid. Huch are to be had In pale gray,
dark blue, dull brown, white and tan.
They are lined with satin and trimmed
with fur.
'l am a woman of education, a coll .r
aradiiate and am now doing '.t rnry w. n
wM.-h I like. 1 Hiu Just an averse" f. r
with a reasonable amount of nt ! rr.c'.l m
and called good cnmpny I.'oufp 1 a.
full of hfo and ise my brniti.
thirty. Bo much for io imiiti. I m tu t
a freak nor a goiil is. Just nn axei
rnrson 1 like fine thlit'ts. cultured ; h!M ;
and I love to dance.
"IYrhnps the whole crux of ny pmli
lem la this. 1 come of a o. iit.,k-c;n-ventlonal.
hromkilc people. It Is e i.v
for me to hold the center, to ! e thi'
leader-but 1 am not nt'n'U med. 1 !..
to some ext. nl so out of m ci end
I don't belong. In any other -st !- I
don't meet imy of the people with who ,
I do belonn. Hcrently piv enrnteineiit
wns broKi n because my it itice fntH y.
tremeiid' ii. lv K'ad r.ml ponderous peon e
without a Kirn li of h'imor. iinii't ap
prove c f irt . n.it li e.
''What wo, il l you do If y, u v er. I?
Some win-1 in .,w itri t.,cre ivut lc
dtnei.s of nuoi and kouum in J st my
predli anient. Inn t theic any sed.it ion?"
This letter, whlr.i I have reprinted onlv
In part, came to nn recent, y iniu -r the
signature "Hecker." It oiiv.-i vt hi t eoui
to me to he the greater) Uneeriy cf m ul-
ern womanhood lotie'.lnii s. And lonol.-
ness haa In tho end to work out i's o.vn
problem.
A woman sa anno and strum and f.ne
as 1 Judge my unknown correspondent i j
le will of course work out her problem
In the end. hut first she must know
much uit happiness. Out of that unhap-
pmcsa new strength win come, and be
cause of It ahe will be the finer woman
some day, but today that doea not help
tier at all.
In the signature "Peeker" lies. I think.
the best answer to her problem. Women
who not only think and work, hut also
feel and long, must always seek, and
eventually the search la rewarded per
haps not Just ss they would hsve it re
warded. But fulfillment has to come.
That faith la the saving grace that gives
one courage to go on fighting.
Friends come unexpectedly Into one's
life. Through work, through chance In
troductions, through all aorta of seem
ingly unmomentous trifles one gains new
friends. The letter, which speaka with a
voice ot all womanhood, seems almost to
have brought me a new friend. I could
wish that I knew the woman who wrote
It. that I could go to her and aay, "I
am a woman, too. We are slaters. We
both understand. And the fight you are
making today la worth while. It la the
fight of a pioneer, and pioneers always
must suffer that those who ceme after
them may find the trail biased and the
settlement begun."
The problem for you la to keep your
sanity and poise, to go on believing in
yourself and In the Joy of working, to
make friends with the events of every
day life snd to truat that they are all
tending to carry you to some worthwhile
goal.
Not by a definite search, not by going
out and looking for friends, does a
woman like you make them. Phe has
rather to keep her lamp trimmed, to
keep herself In readiness, to be recep
tive for all Impressions and all friendly
advances.
I regard It aa distinctly forward tor a '
girl to take such a course as the one ycu
describe. The only thing for you to Co is
to be perfectly truthful In the matter.
Tell her of your affection for her and of '
trivial matter. Indeed, In Itself, but It yo"' Inability to marry for the present.
settles whether Johnnie Is going to be a 1 do not believe In long engagements, but
rich man or a poor man when he Is to. 'ou th Hrl you love may differ with
If he U given a toy bank and taught to me- J,1 the matter la personal to you,
save most of them. If he Is made to un- " " you want her to w,ut nd J
derstand how we must deny ourselves wlmn Yox neea no1 ,0Be Mr- nul "e
little things in order to get bigger things ou Ju,l ,ure that ru do wnt her t0
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-w n unv astasia aa t fc sss iii vosv va via
bis youthful mind that money In the
bank means Independence and freedom,
and the ability to command other people.
I'reaenta of C'lothlasr.
Dear Miss Fairfax: I have been going
steadily with a young lady for the last
Instead of being commanded by them, fourteen months and we both think the
whv vou have formed the habit of thrift world ot each other, bhe Is sn actress,
wny. you nave formed the naoit or thrift ftnd ww;k has deolnHd lo iake
In Johnnie, and never so long ss he lives partner In her act. In revising the act
will he be a waster and a pauper. it required several new costumes. There
On the other hand the child that la ,H on' dress ahe has to have made, and
un me otner nana, the cnna that la heT j,Brtnpr ,Uggested that his mother
permitted to BDend every cent that he make It for her. She accepted this ofi'er.
geta, and In whose pocket money burns About two months ago I said I would
vi, ti,m ,1.11,1 ,w i ...,, k, ,.n , buy her a shirt waist and she told me
a hole, the child who Is brought up to thr' wouidn t allow . Kindly advise me
gratify every fleeting dealre will be poor whether ahe wus right In aecenMnv hi
to the end ot the chapter. He will have offer. ANXIOCM.
formed extravagant habits that will be' Undoubtedly your friend paid for the
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materials for her own costume and
availed herself merely of the kind serv
ices of this young man's mother, to whom
she will probably make some gift in
token of appreciation. This is a very dif
ferent matter from accepting a gift of
his ruin.
Spendthrifts are made in the cradle and
you will never find a succeasful eelf
made man who will not tell you that he
learned the habit of saving w hllo he was
a child. i
A child's fickle fancy la Jumping to a clothes by a man.
dosen different things In half an hour in' '
Its play, seems also a very unimportant j Tell Your Fiance.
thing until you reflect that by so doing Dr Ml"s Fairfax: I am engaged to
i, i. kki - io . marry a young man within a month. He
it Is forming the habit of vacclllatlon and . I roJd p0tUon and ,tnf, prospect.
Irresolution, ot giving a thing up the; Last month I waa introduced to an
Jnstant It palls upon his tastes. xi?r young man, and since then have
x. .,,'.. ,. aa , .... I fallen in lave with him, and I know he
Now success is 9 per cent Just plain loves me in return.
perserverance and stlck-atltlveness. The Hia salary la much less than the first
people who arrive are not the brilliant y.oun: vf,9d. h1" prospects are not
. . . . . . verv bright. What would you advise me
mercurial geniuses who have flitted from to dot A NX lot.
profession to profession, and Job to Job, : i am gfmld you are a very fickle young
but the plodders who. having selected woman whose love Is not stable cnounh
their life work, have toiled on through to be worth having. Don't do any man
disappointments and discouragements, the grave Injustice of marrying him wlth-
learriing more and more about the one out love, particularly If you fancy your-
thlng they had elected to do, until finally self In love with somS one else. Tell your
they stood at the top of their class. I fiance the whole truth and come to a de-
"Most of the failures are the quitters," clsion sfter he has expressed himself in
a very successful man once said. "My
father realised that, and when we were
children tie never let ua atop anything
until we had finished It, If we started to
spin a top, we had to spin the top before
we could stop and play something else.
That formed in me the habit of going on
with whatever I undertake. No matter
how trivial it is, I have to bring It to a
conclusion. When other men get tired
and stop fighting, I've Just got roused up
to the fighting pitch."
Whether a child doea a thing rightly or
wrongly may also make little difference,
tipert that it is forming the habit of ac
curacy and efficiency, or of incompe
ts'scy. And that also means success or
the matter.
.No Harm at All.
Dear Miss Fairfax; I am 14 and fond
of dancing, so attend many dancoa given
by the Toung Women's Christian asso
ciation. Kindly advise rue if there is
sny harm in going to them if I am home
by 10. au p. m. My mother doea not ob
ject, but t have an aunt who la con
stantly telling ine that 1 will be sorry'
some day. MADGE.
U he Young Women's Christian asso
ciation Is a splendid Institution and can
hardly fall to be a splendd Influence In
a girl's life. With you mother's ap
proval you may surely go to esrly dances
snd if you want my hearty co-operation
in her sensible opinion, you have It.
By HARRIOTT I. BKHV1SS.
The automobile Is revolutionising farm
life, and putting new seat Into It. A few
years ago, on revisiting my boyhood
home In the Mohawk Valley, I was sur-
prised and delight
ed - to find tele
phones connecting
the farms on all
sides. This year, on
going sgaln, I
found the farmers
riding to church
with their families
In automobiles.
On one occasion
I saw a farmer-
chauffeur extricate
a half dozen tour
ing parties who
had got their cars
Into a hopeless
tangle at the bottom of a muddy hollow, '
and the manner In which he did it
' showed the value of his familiarity with
country roads and the potentialities of
wheeled vehicles. Ha drove wllh fear
less ease where nobody else had thought
it possible to go.
The cheapening of automobiles Is mak
ing travelers of the farmers. It Is open
ing their eyes to the charms of their
country. It Is vastly widening their
horizon, both as social beings and as
citizens of a great state. Their circles
i of personal acquaintance are Immenaely
expanded.
When they had only the old buggies,
1 buckboards and "democrat wagons,"
drawn by worked-down horses, their so
cial visits had to be confined to a radius
of from three to five miles. All beyond
that was foreign to their neighborhood.
People who ikved rarther away were
virtually strangers to them. To visit a
market town ten miles distant was an
event In the family life, looked forward
to and prepared for days In advance.
The man who took his faml'y to a
Thankaglvlng dinner, or a Fourth of July
celebration, fifteen mllea from home, was
regarded as "a great goer." He had to
atart at daybreak and was fortunate If
there was a. "good moon" to light him
through the thick woods on his way
i back. His caravan moved at a anail's
pace up the long atony hills, and tha
stumbling, perspiring horses stopped on
the upper aide of every "thank-you-ma'am"
tA ratch hreath tnd rliht flls
I Ills wife and children aurveved the
country through which they passed with
curious, wondering eyes, because, for
them. It was a ivkdt to foreign parts.
But the automobile Is fast changing
all that. Now any enterprising farmer
can take, his family on an afternoon's
visit to friends thirty or forty milts away
and get home for supper. He, or his
son or daughter, ran run 'to a market
town and back in an hour or so.
The automobile has at least quadrupled
his family's vlsi Jng list. It haa made
them feel that they are not Inhabitants
of a lonesome hollow In the hills,' or a
remote, Isolated patch of high land, Out
of alght and touch of the rest of man
kind, but that they are a part of the
great world. The wider contact stlmu- ,
Istes them, the broader acquaintance
ship cheers them, the opening of farther
horizons educates them, and thy all -become
better, wiser citizens snd happier
social beings.
' Without speaking of the Immense
achievements of automobile machines
snd engines in lightening the burdens
of farm work and Increasing the produc
tive capacity of the land. It can be said
thst the mere substitution of the auto
car for the horse-drawn carriage has
brought the greatest stimulus to farm
life that It haa ever experienced.
It has made the farmer a champion
of good roads, it has opened his eyes
to aspects of the country which be
never saw or appreciated before. It la
developing the sesthetlo side of his na
ture. It has brought to him the thrill
of scientific mastery over forces which
seem to transform human powers.
There Is another way In which the
automobile Is revolutionizing rural con
ditions, it Is the greatest force now In
Operation for the improvement ot Amer
ican cooking. There was a time not long
ago when the meals served In the ordi
nary American country hotels or tav
erns were abominable beyond descrip
tion. They are not by" any means what
they should be yet, but they are Improv
ing, anC it is the automobile that has
brought about such Improvements as
there is.
Good cooking la not a difficult sclenoe.
But, like all science. It Is baaed upon
criticism. The art of making food pala
table and digestible can be acquired by
an entire people. The proof of that
statement may be found In France. The
"Tench are not an extravagant people,
but ara notatly sparing In all that they
do. Their good cooking Is not .he re bit
of employing a gieat variety of cost.y
spires and condiments. A little salt ana
pepper, a few flavors from the garden
that constitutes the French cook's store
of munitions.
The use that he or s4ie mskes of them
Is the result of generstloi s of rrltloel
Judgment spilled to the prepara'.on of
nourishing, satisfying food. If you make
an automobile trip through Franca you
will find in the humblest vil age hos
telry a better meal than you can get In
Our most prrtenttoua hotels.
It did not need the automobile to de
velop good rooking there, but It . has
needed that influence here, aol fortu
nately the effect la promls.n. There
Is hope that before bng the eternal
choice tietwe.cn fried beefsteak and eggs-on-toaat
will do longer mark the limits
of supper at an American country hotel.
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Are Your Hands
TIED
By Rent Receipts?
Do your living expenses eat up your income! Do you feel
that, though you work hard and persistently, you do not have a
chance; can save nothing because there are always bills, bills, de
manding most every cent you bring int So that you feel as if you
are in a treadmill and forever doomed?
But there is hope! Even though your hands be tied by rent
receipts by rent, the greatest of living expenses there is hope
You can, in fact, turn this expense into a saving. But it requires
decision and action on your part. We of
The Omaha Bee
will help you, but, after all, success or failure in your fight for
freedom lies with you.
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you can buy real estate on reasonable terms,
and with comH?tent builders, who will help
you plan and erect the new home you have in
mind.
And, remember, always
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