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The Sixth
Commandment
Fifty-Fifty" with Spronne
Grafting WItm nod Selfish
neea of Hatbands Causes of
DIsmMt. i I i t I
"I Know a Girl There!
No. 3
Montreal
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By NELL BRINKLEY
Copyright, D1S, Intnrm'l News pervloe.
By DOROTHY DLX.
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m is the sixth commandment of
matrimony: -
Thau shalt apllt thy pleasures and thy
Shekels "fifty-fifty with the partner of
On of tha great
trouble of matri
mony la that few
ouplea ever have
tba honesty and
fairness to make a
fair divide ' of lta
reaponalblUtlea and
burden and p rese
ll rea ftnd perquis
ites. Sometimes It la
tba husband who
"welchee" on his
end of the bar
gain. Sometimes It
la tha wife who
docks out from
under her end of It.
Sometimes you sea
a husband who
thinks ha haa a right to ba a little tin
od In his house, while his wife should
ba contented to ba an adoring slave.
Sometimes it Is tha wife who feats
that she la entitled to all tha domestlo
sweets, while her husband is left only
tha hitter; but seldom do you see a nil
and woman working together and split
ting "firty-flrty" In domestic life. And
when you do sea this, you behold an In
spiring spectacle of connubial bliss.
There are women who look upon matri
mony aa graft, and at husbands aa easy
things that they work for their indi
vidual profit. These are the ladles that
wa see resplendent In the latest creations
from Paris. While their hllhaful.
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wBui ui wn iamy at me Mama ana
hats of last year's vintage. These are the
ladies who roll about In limousines whll4
their husbands hang on to trape In tha
atreet oars, and who go to Bar Harbor In
summer and Palm Beach in the winter,
while their husbands toll on through
heat and cold with never a vacation in
their hard-worked lives.
These women and their name la Mrs.
Legion do not make an even divide of
matrimony. They are grafters who grab
everything desirable that la In sight.
They shunt the whole family burden on
to their nusband's poor shoulders Instead
of bearing tbelr share.
Tou often hear a woman hypocritically
bemoaning the fact that her husband will
wear hand-me-down clothes, or that he
won't ever go oft on trips with her, or
that ha doesn't keep up with the new
books and new plays, when the truth la
that she worka tha poor fellow so hard
to pay for her finery and luxuries that
she doesn't leave him any time or
strength or money for himself. He'd like
to b well dressed and to amuse himself
if she'd only split "fifty-fifty" with him.
instead of leaving him only a Jitney out
of a dollar.
It la not always tha woman, however,
who la the family monopolist. Quite as
often It la the man who holds to the
cheerful theory that the husband, being
tha lead of tha house, is entitled to all
tha prerogatives thereof.
These are the men who think that
when they marry they have conferred
such an inestimable favor on a woman
that sha should never expect anything
mora to be done for her. They are strong
for tha contention that woman's place is
in tha home, and that aha should ask no
livelier amusement than taking care of
tha children and meeting her husband
with a glad, sweet smile.
These are the man who look about
twenty years younger than their wives,
and who are turned out by the beat
tailors, while their wives make their own
clothes and look it.
These are tha men who always hava
plenty of money to belong to fashion
able eluba, and to play golf, and to open
win In restaurants for chorus girls, but
who dole out car far to their wives by
tha nickel, and raise ructions over the
also of tha bills on tha first of the month,
and begrudge tha baby certified milk.
Now, no really happy horn was ever
founded on selfishness, and no egotist
was ever a successful home builder. No
man over loved a woman well enough to
enjoy being "worked" by her. No woman
waa aver self-abnegating enough to enjoy
being offered up as a daily sacrifice to
her husband. Patient Orlselda ia a my
thical character. Bha never existed in
real life.
Tha only way that any real happlneea
In married life la ever achieved la ' for
tha husband and wife to make aa equal
divide of everything, and this Is just as
much true of work, and cares, and re
sponsibilities, as It la of Joys and pleas
ures. No woman ever feels herself a real
wife to her husband until ha lata her In
on tha ground floor of his struggles and
his ambitions. No woman ever feels
that aha Is a real helpmeet to her hus
band until she has acutually helped
through some crisis.
It isn't enough for a real woman to be
a, (how window by which her husband
advertises his prosperity by hanging fine
clothes and Jewelry upon her. She
wants to be something mora to him to
enter his real life-end If men only under
stood this, and talked to their wives
about their business, and their hopes and
plana, fewer men would hare to complain
of woman's extravagance.
Woman would be satisfied with very
little If they knew that their husbands
were giving them a square deal. It's the
suspicion that they are being cheated of
their share of tha profits of tha domestic
partnership that makes the silent part
ner so often throw the firm into bank
ruptcy,
ad tha woman who realises that It s
up to her to give her husband a fair run
for his money, that her part Is to make
comfortable home, to be thrifty and
cheerful and contented, has grappled her
husband to her with hooks of steel. She
can laugh at sirens and map her fingers
at aga, for ahe haa built her house of
happiness upon the eternal rocks.
To make matrimony a success, forget
not tha slat commandment, which says:
Thou shalt apllt thy pleasures and thy
shekels fifty-five" with tha partner of
thy bosom.
Why We Quarreled
No. 5 The Man's Side The Man Who Liked an
Occasional Drink Telia His Story.
By VIIUUNIA TKRHTXB VAN
DH WATER.
(Copyright, WIS, by tho Star Company)
Persons knowing that my wife and I
have quarrelled ahont my drinking might
think that I am a drunkard. On the
contrary, I am fairly temperate. I am
not a total abstainer, though Susan's
father la. Htj ahe asked me before our
marriage If I drank, I would have told
her tha truth. But sha never asked ma.
When wa had been married for some
months sha amelled liquor on my breath
one evening and made a great fuss aver
It
I acknowledge that I had had one glass
of whisky. "There la no harm In that,"
1 affirmed.
"But there la," sha declared. "Drink
ruins mora homes than any other vice In
the world."
It la not ft vtoa. I Insisted, "unless
ona carries It too far. And when I am
tired or depressed X feel tha need of a
stimulant of some kind."
"Then Why not take a cup of tea, or
coffee V aha argued.
I oouM not help laughing aa I visual
ised myself taking such a bracer as this.
Then, as I saw that my wife was really
unhappy, I tried to soothe her.
"Dear Susan," I pleaded, "do ba rea
sonable. I hava never been drunk alnoe
my stfly freahman year ia oollega and
then only one."
"I tell you It ta wicked habit and a
annsefoas ona, sha reiterated, and in her
declaration I recognised her father's
teaching. "It makes me mlaerabk to
think of It. It leads to sorrow and dis
grace."
I appreciated that aha wis absolutely
unreasonable on this subject, so I tried,
without lying to hsr, to maks her think
that I would hereafter let drink alone,
In rny soul I determined to do aa I had
always dona. I certainly had enough self-
control not to go too far. Ignorance la
bllm. and ir a wife is foolish about a
matter It is wise and right for a husband
to avoid worrying her.
For a while Buran watched ma eloaely,
and aha often sniffed tha air about me
suspiciously as If to make sure that
It did not smell of liquor, I waa very
careful that It should not. I confined my
Advice to Lovelorn
:By BSATBioa Taxrai
lava-eat m Visit from Ulna.
Dear Miss Fairfax i I am a widow and
have a brother-in-law who Is a widower
and lives in another part of the state.
We correspond and he now and then
aends me money.
Sometimes I think his letters are tender
and affectionate. Would you please tell
me how I could find out his real feelings
toward met I could love him, for he Is
a fins man and I am quite alone In tho
world. ., ANXIOUS
Why not suggest to your brother-in-law
that it would bo a pleasant Idea for
him to pay New Tork visit T
Well Rid ( Sack friendship.
Pear Miss Fairfax i I am a young lady
Of 11 and deeply In love with a young
man four years my senior. I am em-
f toyed In an office and I met htm there,
ie took me out one evening and we had
a good time. When he took me home he
wanted to kiss me good-night, but I re
fused. Kver since that I have not en
him again. ESTEIXJ3 W.
Tou were quite right to refuse to kiss
a mere acquaintance. Such privileges
belong only to declared lovers. A man
who takes you out and then insists on
ths payment of a kiss Is not worth re
gretting when your refusal to comply
makes him lose Interest In you.
rna drink a day to tha noon hour when I
out at luncheon. By tha time I
reached home In tha evening thera wag
no odor on my breath.
I do not conskler that this was wicked
deceit. Had I ohjeotcd to Susan's taking
tea cream soda, had I scolded her when
ever she did take it, I would surely hava
expected her to keep silent with regard
to her frequent visits to tha soda fountain.
A year passed before tha final catas
trophe occurred. My wife had gone Up
town to spent the day with her slater. At:
noon It began to storm, snd at 4 o'clock'
Susan telephoned to my office that If tha
rain continued I must not be worried if
ahe did not return until morning.
"If It holds up enough for me to come).
Ithout getting very wet, I v. Ill adhere I
to my original plan and ba hark at din-. I
ner time," she said. "But If It storms!
heavily, I am afraid that slater will in-
sit on my stsylng where I am."
"I understand." I said, "and while Pi
ahall miss you, of course. I do not wan la,
you to risk catching cold."
Tha rain waa falling faster and mora
persistently at o'clock. This convinced
mo that my wife would not return to-,
night. So when a friend Invited ma tea
dine with him at hla club, I accepted. Sj
telephoned to the maid at my house that.
I would not ba In to dinner, and that!
her mistress would stay over night with I
her sister,
I had no umbrella and waa so wet by
tha time my friend and I reached tha
club that I Immediately took a glass ofl'
whisky.
My friend ordered more drinks with)
ths dinner. I suppose that aa I waa tired,
and my stomach waa very empty, I waa
more susceptible than usual to the effects
of the stlmulsnt. For the first time in
meny years I felt that my brain waa
clouded and befogged. I was secretly
glad that my host went as far as my
home with me. I waa still more glnd. as
I let myself in the house ssslHted by my
companion In Inserting the latchkey Into
tha hole Intended for It that Susan waa
absent.
Imagine my horror when she met me at
tha door of our bod room,
"Oh, my dear," aha began, "I'm so'
glad"
Then at sight of me, she stopped short,
her face turning deathly white. I at
tempted to laugh and kiss her. but sha
struck at me, beside herself with anger
and disgust.
"Tou'ra drunk!" aha exclaimed shrilly.
I tried to explain, but It waa usolesx.
I knsw ths. my tongue wss thick and
my words were not aa convincing aa I
wished to make them.
Tha next morning we "had It out."
Susan told ma that ahe had helped' me
Into bed last night that sha did this as
a duty, because she waa my wife. She
also remarked, shudderlngly, that I wss
loathsomely sick. Then she added that
she would never trust me again never. -
"Tou hava been drinking right along
ever since we were merrled," she ac
cusrd. "I know, because a man my sister
knows mentioned to her thst he takes
what ha calls his datly 'nip' with you
every noon." .
. I could not deny this, and did not try
to. "But there's no harm In It." I added.
"No harm!" she repeated, her eyes
wide and angry. "There Is harm enough
In It for me to determine that I will not
live with you any longer. No," aa I
tried to plesd with her, "until you prom
ise me, swearing It on the Bible, that
you 'Will never touch another drop of
liquor, I will not stsy under your roof."
Sha thinks aha la right, yet t am sura
that if sha really loved ma sha could
never hava reached this decision.
"Oh, I do know ft girl there. A Canadian
American girl ft gay, graceful creature and
1 wish I could see her now. The girl of snow
and the glelghbelli, with the cheeks as hard and
scarlet as apples, with the brilliant, liquid eyes
of ft French father and Ms black hair with the
coppery lights. Seems to me now, when I
think, that always she was laughing with a
glimmer of fine white teeth and ft tightening of
the soft, red lips, and a deeponlng of the dimple
In her slanting cheek. White and black and
red she la. Like Snow White In the Olen with
the Seven Little Men. The red of the scarlet
maple leaf that grows on her mountainsides, the
black of starlit night skies, the white of the
snow that froths around her skli and powders
in a glitter her furs and toque. Last I saw her
she stopped in a laughing trek up a steep slope
deep In snow, her moccasins layered In white,
her winged toboggan on her back, snow dia
monds on her lashes, a drift of snowflakes dim
ming her glory of black and scarlet, one cold
little band bare, the scarlet of her trappings of
tweater and mittens matching the blood in her
cheeks, the black of her furs the hair that
sprayed across her face; and, standing under
the black and silver birch and a show-blanketed
fir, she waved a debonair good-by.
Snow-white and rose-red and still-water
black the Monteral girl. NELL BRINK LET.
Tragedy of Loneliness
But Girls and Mien Must Meet in Conventional
Ways to Insure Respectful Friendship. : :
By BEATRICE! FAIRFAX.
I am twenty-five, good-looking, nice
appearance, athletic build, good dresser,
fairly eduoated. I am not so very welt
acquainted here. I have lots of oppor
tunities to flirt, but I lack ths nerve
to be too forward, although I am not
bashful in any way.
1 sure am lonesome, lonesome In this
big city, and I certainly would llks to
maks the acquaintance of soma nice
young ladies, but don't know how.
In response to this letter, which ap
neref In Tha Bee lass than a fortnight
ago, I hava received no leaa than a hun
dred Utters from girls who are lonely,
too. .
My sympathy U great for each of the
tonely Individuals who seeks congenial
companionship and who Is sufficiently
attracted by a printed letter to ask for
advlo. I know that in every large city
thera are dosena of girls and man who
want to knsw pleasant young folk of tha
opposite sexand who jump at every
straw that offers tnem tr.e opportunity.
And It la ona of tha trageaiea or urs
ia a city that thia grasping at straws
won't do.
Friendships between men and women
If they are to flourish and count for
anything worth while in life must ba
based on mutual faith and trust. Mutual
faith and trust do not come through
meeting people Irregularly. Suspicion Is
one of ths tragic charactertsUce of hu
man nature. And when men and girls
meat without ths formality of proper In
troduction of responsible Individuals who
more or less vouch for them to each
other they are all too likely to wonder
and doubt.
Loneliness Is a bitter tragedy and the
most tragio thing about It is that ons
who wants to help csnnot do so ' and
thst each of you must work out your
problem for yourself. Girls and men
must meet each other according to the
laws of society. Otherwise they are all
too likely to hava this suspicion.
Well, if she met ma through a flirta
tion, probably, she meets other men the
same way. I guess she Isn't a girt that
demands that highest respect," or: "Kince
he got acquainted with me without an
Introduction I guess he meets a lot of
girls that way and I guess he's a felloa
who hasn't much else to do and who
doesn't think any too much of women
either."
Lives in a big city are sadly circum
scribed. Getting Into a circle of congenial
friends, meeting an Individual to whom
one can talk freely and with whom one can
ba one's absolute self, are not easy things
to do. Church, social clubs and friends of
one's own sex offer tha most natural way
of making acquaintance In the opposite
sex. It does not pay to take desperate
chances or to gamble on the attractive
appearanoo of a stranger In order to end
loneliness.
Loneliness does not stop because you
know people. "I am never so lonely ss
when I sm with other poople," Is biterly
true when those other people are not oon
genlal and of your own sort.
The one great consolation about tha
tragedy of loneliness Is that It la m no
way final. It may alwaya ba overcome.
Perhaps tomorrow the sad litis girt who
goes from her hall bedroom to work and
comes drearily back to her hall bedroom
from work may quite simply and natur
ally moet some one through tha knowing
of whom her whole life's course may be
chsnged.
A girl I know went obligingly to look
for an apartment for a relative who waa
coming to her town. With her waa a girl
friend who waited In ths lobby for her.
When the home hunter came back from
her unrewarded search ahe found her
girl friend deep In conversation with a
man who happened to live in that bulld-Ina-
Though ha was a family connection of
this girl's they took no Interest In ona
another. The girl who chapced to ba In
troduced to him cams to be a very good
friend of his, and through him she be
came a menibCt of a thoroughly congenial
circle of charming men and woman. To
any lonely girl Just such a pleasant ex
perience may come any day.
Who of us knows what waits "Just
around the comerTT Who of us wants to
risk because of unpleasant present con
ditions the chance fully tq enjoy happy
experiences when they do corns T Loneli
ness must never tempt, us Into Indiscre
tion or danger. Life has to ba lived ac
cording to Its rules and friendships must
corns naturally, honestly and with digni
fied beginnings
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