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The
Selfishness
of
Men
The New Hats from the Fall Openings in Paris
Iki'publishcHl by Special Arrangement with Harper's Bazar.
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By DOROTHY DIX.
There la a lovely theory that every man
la a kind of guardian angel the little
cherub that sits up aloft and generously
protect and disinterestedly plays the
part of providence
to women.
In reality, from
the cradle to tha
grave man Is en
Based In a steady
Job of setting the
beat of her. Of
roursc, he doesn't
mean It. More, he
Is sublimely uncon
scious of this being;
the case. As he
rigures tt out, life
Is simply a case
where somebody
must get the hot
end of the bar
gain, and he is
convinced that
somebody ihbuld
wear petticoats. He even thinks woman
likes it, and takes credit to himself for
letting her live at all.
Tjook where you will, and you see man's
selfishness to woman illustrated at every 1
turn. i
Even in love man Is never satisfied
unless he geta back ten times as much
as he gives. Ills affection for a woman
may bo of the most milk-and-water cliar
acter, but she must hand him out a
double distilled essence of deathless de
votion, a hundred and fifty proof. More
over, she must back it up with a steady
flowing stream of gratitude because he
had ne goodness to notice her and ask
her to marry him.
Just watch tho next engaged couple
you meet. Isn't the girl doing all the
talking and looking pleased, and making
all the effort to be agreeable? And Isn't
the man sitting up with a complacent
and patronising air that says plainer
than words: "I permit this young person
to adore me, and for once In my life
I am aware that I have done a perfectly
altruistic and noble thing."
Observe the way a man acts when he
gets Into trouble. Doesn't ha rush to
some woman with his tale of woe? And
doesn't she have to listen to It day ai
day, and night after night, without ever
betraying a symptom of weariness, pr
daring to suggest that he's anything
but a persecuted martyr? Tea, verily.
But does any woman dare to tell any
man, except her doctor and preacher, who
are paid to listen, about her troubles?
Not one. For experience has taught her
that the minute she hoists tho rainy
weather signal every man in sight grabs
his hat and runs for shelter.
If a man has a headache, doesn't he
expect everybody In the bouse to be on
the Jump fetching camphor, and Ice, and
heaven knows what, and doesn't he make
his wife sit by hi side and bold his hand,
and pretend that she believes he's about
to die? But if the wife Is sick dear
me, he wonders what makes women have
so many confounded nerves, and he says
he never knows what to do around sick
folks, anyway. And then he goes com
fortably off to spend the evening at hi
club playing poker.
Which of the sexes has to do all of
the adapting of Itself to the other? The
feminine. When you listen to a man and'
a woman talking together, Isn't the
woman always trying to converse
about something that Interests the man?
Don't all the woman you know study
up on the stock reports, the base ball
score and politics. In order to be able
to talk to men intelligently? And did
you ever hear of a single man reading
up on the new style of halr-dresslng, or
the burning topic of the width of skirts.
In order to be able to entertain a woman?
Don't men demand that women must
be perfectly satisfied with nothing live
lier to do than keeping house, and rais
ing babies, and an uninterrupted contem
plation of their husband's charms? But
imagine what would happen If one single
woman demanded that a husband inter
est should be confined within those nar
row boundaries!
Think of the brutal selfishness of good
men who refuse to make their wives an
allowance, and for the pleasure of show
ing that they are masters, make high,
spirited women come to them for every
penny they spend.
The women give the loving, faithful
services of hearts and heads and hands,
such as no money can hire In the open
market, and yet there are men who are
never willing to give them anything for
it as their right. It is always bestowed
as a favor, that women are expected to
be grateful for, and men neither know,
nor care, that a favor is as bitter on tho
feminine palets as It is on the masculine.
Consider the selfish point of view of
man's adjudgment of rights and privi
leges. If a man goes out with the boys
and comes borne with the milkman In the
morning In such a state that his wlfo
has to get up and open the door for him,
he thinks himself a poor, henpecked
creature If she says a word.
Suppose, however, a wife should do the
same way even once. It would be the
divorce court for hers, for there Is
precious little a man will forgive a
woman, but all eternity is not broat
enough to bound what he expects her to
forgive him.
And what is It but the selfishness of
man that for so many years kept women
shut out from practically all educational
privileges and gainful occupations, and
that etUI keeps Ihem shut out of their
political rights?
Man had a good thing and he wanted
to keep it for himself, and this is at the
bottom of all the hue and cry about
woman getting out of her sacred sphere.
Man doesn't worry about woman's sphere
until she gets some Job that he wants
himself.
And the funny part of all of this Is that
rmui haven't any Idea that they are be'ng
selfish to wpmen. Trhapa because they
Mave been that way so lung Uu don't
know any bette
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v' the left are very chic. P) gS " at opposite extremes among the "m,
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ft I !' th familiar cocked Q. X. MUn monslet.r. with little lnS of f . v-jgSggaggJ
I, ,V ft bat, in dark blue, and jSflfZ n'fk brotdered in old gold
it V'fck I ' 4r the second is in Oari- AjTJL & p the brim. The f.,.J
t CVvf U baldl red. in velvet. ,f -1 Vjj model on the right is a more work-a- fer .-i
S. J's li A faille and ribbon. vV j dy bat. In tel. d negre velvet, with lArr'J
fK ri rM WiSL V W: y ban wide stiff bow in th WCLIte4f
"v4!.,.A tX sVJll f' back of black faille ribbon, the cords fivmftSW
n r.
Sometimes Virtue is Its Only Reward
Are You Fond of Yourself?
By ANN LJSLE.
There was once a pretty, young girl
whose employer was known as "Old
Skinflint." He paid his private secretary
pi a week for sitting at a stuffy little
desk In a dark corner and working from
9 till .
His own daughters got $S a day to ex
pend In bright corners of electrio-llghted
tea rooms or anywhere else they chose.
And it never occurred to Old Skinflint
to think of his private secretary as
exactly human and as full of the Joy of
living as were the butterfly young per
sons whose allowances were so much
more because private secretaries were so
much less.
The wrongs of the young woman who
earned $8 a week Instead of being
given that much a day Included the fact
that she had to hurry down a cold lunch
which the office boy brought her and to
stay at night frequently to get out let
ters of. which the boss bethought himself
at a quarter to six, and which he must
sign and get off the very first thing In
the morning. Tho year that our pretty,
young girl came to work for Old Skinflint
hut family decided to summer in Cali
fornia. And at the end of the month
he found himself very lonely Indeed.
Now the girl's name waa Dulole, and
she looked exactly as sweet and Inef
fectual as her name Indicated. She had
golden hair which actually did fall in
ringlets about a classlo white brow not
at all marred by the fact that it waa
distinctly low-brow. And her big, blue
eyes were as vacant as shallow pools.
Her nose waa little and pert, her mouth
soft and tender, and her chin and Jaw
suggested babyish beauty rather than
strength.
One afternoon at 5 Old Skinflint, who
waa lonely Indeed, leaned across his desk
I and asked, "What do you say, my dear,
to a little dinner with me this evening?"
Dulcle knew very well that a little illn
Jner with Old Skinflint would be likely to
I bear no relation to such salaries as IS
a week. Also she had read a great deal
of modern literature about Beauty and
the Beast, and Morals and the High Cost
of living. So she fixed her eyes
firmly on Old Skinflint, said a little
prayer for the Job she was quite sure she
waa losing and then recited her creed:
"I am engaged to a young man and t
am In love with him, and whenever X
get enough saved up out of my IS a
week to buy me 1100 worth of trousseau
I am going to marry him. So I don't
go out to dinner with any married men
see?"
Old Skinflint blinked and remembered
that his Annabel had presented him with
$1,500 worth of bills for her summer ward
robe and that Christine's hadn't cost
much less, and then made a very re
markable speech.
"Quite right, my dear. The world
would probably disapprove of your din
ing with an old man who might very
easily be your father but If you and
your young man wait for a hundred dol
lars to pile up you will probably know
many times as lonely as these I have
while my folks are In California.
''So from Monday on you get 110 a
week and maybe some time the young
folks will take your papa along to
Coney." And when Dulcle told her young
man about It,' he said, "Nuts! The sly
old dog Is probably crnry about you, kid.
You ought to be very careful, but play
the game right and you can probably get
papa to pay you 115 a week while be Is
feeling lonesome for his girls out In
' California."
I However, Dulcie's next pay envelope
contained the usual S, and when she
ventured a protest. Old Skinflint looked
at her with no glimmer of understanding
and informed her curtly that there were
plenty of young women with ability quite
equal to hers who would be glad to work
for IS a woe!c, and if the salary waa not
sufficient she was of cotirno free to seek
better pay.
Dulcle stayed and continued to save .
dollar a week out of her munificent
alary.
Moral: Sometimes virtue Is its only reward.
By UKATBICR FAIRFAX.
Pride Is generally considered as a rather
contemptible thing. It Is. unless It has
the right foundation. To be proud of the
circumstances Into which rhance hss
thrust you, to be proud of the beauty
with which a clean-living line of an
cestors has dowered you, or to be proud
of the wealth with which a hard-fisted
grandfather has Invested you any of
these Is Indeed a contemptible form of
pride.
But this pride I should scarcely call
Advice to Lovelorn
By Beatrice
FsJH&x
Don't Be Jealoaa.
Dear Mlse Fairfax: 1 am a boy IS
years old, and I go with a girl my ago; I
also have a friend who 1 think likes this
Kirl. She makes dates with mo and then
he makes dates with my friend. I have
asked her who she want-d to see, anl
she said me. lo you think that 1 should
get "sore" at her for making dates with
mv friend? HOY.
Your youth makes your attentions to
her anything but serious, thus giving her
the privilege of going with others If she
chooses.
Don't spoil her good times by assum
ing a gravity your years do not sanction.
It Is Hade .a rrvtest.
Dear Miss Fairfax: I am at a loss to
know whether It Is the proper thing
for a young lady to offer to pey her owu
fare when meeting a young man on her
way to business. 1 met a rusual ac
qalntance and he paid my fure; then,
when he entered the subway, he paid my
f fare again. I was afraid to offer to pay
my own. because on a similar occasion,
when with another young man, 1 offered
to pay my fare, he was Insulted. T. F.
When you meet a musoullne acquaint
ance and he pays your car fare, thank
his graciously. Do not belittle yourself
or him by discussing this little social
courtesy, which Is quite to be taken for
granted.
Itefnse Hint, by All Means.
Dear Miss Fairfax: I am V. and met
a man flltccn years my senior, but he
looks 60. I hnve only seen him twice,
and he has asked me tor my hand. 1
do not love him at all, but my people
want me to marry him because he Is
wealthy, while I am (oor. I thought If
I became engaged to him 1 could learn
to love him, but I find I can't What
shall I dot IN 1KHIU1.
There never was enough wealth in the
world to mean happiness to a marriage
without love. Refuse him, and make your
refusal final Don't let any one force
you Into a marriage like this.
worthy of the name it Is rather con
tempt Dbly stupid snobbery, and, heaven
help us, most of us are all too likely to
be snobs of Just this unintelligent sort.
That we are snobs of this sort some of
us calmly know, and some of ia stupidly
don't. Some of us find amusement In our
own Instinct of excluslveness, and others
take It so solemnly that we are hope
lessly Impeded by tt With a temperate
excluslveness tempered by a sense of
humor and based on a knowledge of
human frailty I have no fault to find.
It actually has an Instructive value to
the excluded and compels them to cul
tivate powers and manners thst will
take them Inside the paling of worth
while society. Excluslveness Implies the
survival of the fittest. It Is necessary to
human society. With the sort of pride
that makes one dainty and exclusive and
Insistent on good manners, one can find
no more fault than w'th that which makos
one insist on eating with a fork Instead
of with a knife, or on keeping one's
hands clean and smooth.
Being proud of yourself means first of
all not being ashamed of yourself. To
fall In having your soul and mind and
body as clean and well ordered as cir
cumstances will permit would be a mat
ter of which one should be horribly
ashamed. But in order to be proud of
yourself you must band circumstances
to your will and be a II tie cleaner, and
neater and finer and stronger than they
seem to permit
Making tho most of yourself is scarcely
a cause for pride you have to make a
bit more of yourself than the material
warrants. There Is no necessity for look
ing down on the people beneath you the
th'ng you have to do Is to look up, quite
unenvlously. at the people above you and
very calmly to proceed to reach and pass
them.
It Is very easy to make excuses for
yourself. But how can any Of vs be
proud of the person we have to explain
and mnke allowances for? Tou may
well be proud of yourself If at the end
of a day you know you have seised on
every opportunity that flitted across your
vision and If you know that you have
held yourself rigidly to a standard so
high that you had to strain every nerve
and muscle to reach tt
The very moment that you hsve Just
cause to bo proud of yourself you are
likely to bo most humble about what you
have Vet to accomplish. True pride Is
actually of royal lineage and Is quite
unashamed of failure, slnoe It means to
build on failure to success.
True prldo exacts everything of Itself
and nothing of the world; but It never
permits the world to drag It down or
soil it . It Is nvver ashamed of Its be
ginnings snd never falls to recognlso the
fact that whence you( come means noth-
thing. It Is quite ready to lend a hand
to fellow travelers and quite unwilling
to yield one Jot of Its staunch climb up
ward to any temptation.
You can t be proud of yourself unles
you are climbing, but that pride la a
purely personal matter between you and
your soul snd should be Inflicted on ni
one else. It should mean excluding no
human being from your sympathy,, but
every unworthy thing from . your plan
of life. When you can look yourself
straight In the eyes and tell yourself,
"I did my best and I criticised no one
Ise because his best did not happen to
be mine," then you may Indeed be proud
of yourflf. '
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