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Lavender and Dreams
By JANG HrLKAN.
This is my grandmother's old chest.
Where live the things she loved the bent.
And If I lift the lid I'll know
The world she lived In long ago.
First comes the scent of lavender,
A dear unspoken breath of her.
And then & tiny broken fsn.
And here the- picture of a man. .
My grandmother, did she coquet '
While stepping through the minuet?
Here Is a letter tracing faint,
And slipper buckles carved and quaint,
And here the yellow of old lace
That one time framed a girlish face.
O, grandmother of long ago.
The soul of you must surely know
That soul of me supremely blessed
That knows the things you loved the best.
An O.casional
By DOROTHY D1X.
I have received a letter from a dis
tressed and perplexed husband who arks
mr adTlce about how tl cure hts wife
of her on weakness.' He says that she'
Is a good woman.
really true ant loyal
and fond of him.
that aba's a devoted
mother, and a fru
gal and industrious
housekeeper.
But she has one
fault that Is grlev-
ami lit tils iwi fih
la fond of admira
tion. She likes to
be complimented
and have pretty
speeches made about
her, and her hur
band has watcheu
with stern disap
probation how her
face brightens up
when some man be
gins "jollying" her. So he wants to know
what to do about it.
The. answer to that question is dead
easy, Mr. Husband. Supply the wife with
all the admiration she craves. Instead of
leaving- other men to do it And make
the home brand of flattery so strong and
full of ginger and snap that any com
pliments she may receive on the outside
will seem as weak and tasteless as del
icatessen dishes do by the sMe of the
goodies that mother cooks. .
There are men and women with natures
. so Intricate and cranky that their wives
and husbands are not to be blamed for
never finding the keys to them and be
ing able to manage them. But a man or
a woman whose predominant charac
teristic! is the love of admiration is so
simple that there is no excuse for tluir
' wives and husbands not being able to
work them.
The wife who lets some slick-tongued
woman take her husband away from her
by means of flattery gets exactly what .
r""" , . J"" floe desk and asaue John of Mary's love
She had the Inside track1. She knew that j or to Mary that John is falth-
her husband simply purred under any.ful and oevoUd
hand that rubbed the fur the right way Th- WAy io bs ,ura ,ny on,,
with him. and that he beamed and gurgled' ,ova u to wJt unt h , ,ure of ,t
with delight when anyone told him how he te8 you pj
big snd brave and handsome he was, and nnv.nt,D- -,.,, - -omen from d.
yet. knowing this, she felt It her wifely
duty to continually remind him of his
faults instead of expatiating on his vir
tues, and so left the other woman a
chance to get In her deadly work.
Equally the man who has a wife who
loves admiration, and who1 is so dense
snd stingy and tight-lipped that he re
fuses to even pay her a compliment is
himself to blams If she packs her trunk
and hikes off to lieno with some mora
appreciative man. or if she becomes one
of those near-faithful wives who are the
rulnaUon of the happiness of sny
women who remain outwardly respect-(
able, but who indulge In cheap flirtations,
Of course, men who crave admiration
and appreciation, even If It is only lip
service, can always go out Into the world
and find It-or buy it. The average mar-
lad woman is not clrcumstsnced so she
can do this. She has to depend upon what
she can get from her husband, and this
is generally nil.
1 know of nothing else In the world
that- la at once so tragic and so pathetlo
aa the gnawing hunger for some word
of praise, some token of gratitude, some
sign that their husbands even think of
them otherwise than aa a domestic con-
venlence. that most wives suffer, snd
which their husbands are either too dull
to perceive or too e flah to make the
effort to appease. For it Is literally the
truth that after the loneymoon wanes
nine women out of tn never get a com-
pltment out of their husbands until It is
carved on their tombstone.
The lack of ad ra ration and apprecia
tion Is the main .hlng that makes mar
riage a failure to most women. It Isn't
poverty. Let a man tell his wife that ln
his eyes she grows more beautiful every
day and she will wear a $10 suit and
feel Itke a queen ln it. It Isn't hard 1
work. Let a man still show sn Interest
in holding his wife's hand and She'll con
sider It a privilege to work it to the bone
for him. It Isn't the monotony of domes
tic life. Let a man compliment his wife's
cooking snd she'U think housework the
most thrilling occupation' on earth. It
isn't anything that a man does, or leaves
undone, except handing out a few com
pliments that makes marriage heaven or
the other place to a woman.
Nor Is this quite ss foolish aa it sounds.
A woman's home is her world. Her bus
band Is her audience, and It's a dreary
thing to go on year after year doing
your level beat giving yourself body and
soul, without ever getting one ripple of
applause, or even knowing whether your
sfforts are even perceived or not.
No actor can play bis best to a cold
house. No clerk gives his best servtoe to
an employer who never oommenda Even
a horse will pull his load better for a
word of encouragement or praise.
But most married women have to live
their married lives without getting a
single glad hand from their husbands,
and It's pitiful to hear them beg for a
word of praise. I've heard of a woman
say as she tried te corkscrew- a compli
ment out cf her husband. "Hot tlo 1
Word of Praise
looitr- And without glancing up from
his paper, he would reply. "Oh, well
enough." Or she would say. "Mow do
you like this dress?" And' he would
answer that of all the darn fool fashions
he ever saw. It was the limit. And fall
ing other means, she would ask how he
liked a certain dish at dinner, and ha
would grunt as ha gobbled It down, that
It had a little - too much salt or sugar.
Never a word of praise or appreciation.
The strange thtng about this withhold
ing of a little flattery from their wives
is that men, for the most part, do admire
their wives. Their own egotism makes
them think that the women they picked
' out are the headllners of their sex, but
they would die rather than tell them so.
! To know that her husband still thought
; that she was pretty, to know that .he
thought her a second edition of Holomon.
to knew that he blessed her in his heart
for all her years of loyaJt and devotion,
would make the average woman su
premely happy, and pay her for every
sacrifice she has ever made. But her
husband will never say it to her.
The cure for a discontented wife, and
for a flirtatious wife. Is flattery ad lib
applied by the husband. It Is a remedy
that never falls.
How to Keep
Your True Love
By BEATRICE FAIRFAX.
Every day dosens of letters come to
me asking for same Infallible teat where
by some uncertain youth or girl may
make sure of the love of his or her be
loved. Symptoms and actions are related
to me galore and "what she means by
this" or "what he Intends by that" axe
marshalled before my critical Judgment.
But so long as human nature Is human
nature nnA nlunn Is nn nf It m mtmnrMt
charmctorteth!Bi B0 0ne c.n sit at an of-
clftrinc her a,ctlon but h,r preference
must show itself and she sacrifices all
the Joys for the supreme one of being
with her beloved snd trying to make
him happy.
The illusisn of youth often makes us
mistake fancy or Infatuation for real
love. The great danger of life Ilea not
In knowing whether or not your beloved
loves you. but In being sure whether or
not you really love your beloved!
There Is nothing In all the world to
whlch ..make bast, Blowly.. w M directly
homw-;appHctDla M to lovs affairs. It only
youlh woui,i rtop to weigh and analyse
j th gttraction It feels for other youth
, ln8tead of yielding to the supreme urge
of emotion uist has no real basisl
: t John know, guboonsctoualy that
Mary. eye, re blue and tender and
Mary-, mouth Is sweet and red. And
John out Mary ;conglomera-
tlon o( hls a reams and aspirations and
desires and ambitions.
J An1 jry knows thst John Is tall and
; strong and handsome, and so she listens
j wlth ner beart ln her ayes. And, fancy,
j mg; that they understand one another
an(j ar madly In love, they plunge Into
an engagement or Into matrimony Itself,
, p0or Johnl Poor Mary! They knew
DO single true test for true love,
The most efficient test for love that I
t gnow ia two-fold. Ask yourself not "Can
: 1 uVs with this man or woman." but
-gii I face life without hlmr The ln-
dividual with whom you want to share
your dreams may be very dear to you,
but more honestly dear Is the one Into
whose dreams you want to fit yourself.
Not In a willingness weakly to sub
merge yourself, but In a supreme desire
for co-operation snd understanding He
the honesty of a big love. The lover
whose life you complete and who com
pletes yours mentally and spiritually ss
well as emotionally Is your true love.
The one you would defend against the
world la your true love.
But the final great teat of love Is this:
Does your love mean to you life's great
immortality? Do you want It to bring to
you as a result of ths perfect partnership
of your two lives little children who shall
be like the one for whom you careT Are
you willing to aend down to posterity the
traits snd characteristics of your be
loved T Do they seem to you fine enough
and splendid enough to go on down
through the generations as a result of
your will to Immortalise them and your
lovet
Children mean Immortality and the
great crown of your love. Marriage
without them Is 'selfish. If marriage
means to you the shirking of life's great
est responsibility If It brings to you no
longing for little baby faces, you do not
know true love.
Infatuation may be for the day. Fancy
may be for emotional outlet and even
atfeotlon may yearn but for the comfort
of home and refuge from loaeiuieas, but
love la so sure of Itself and of its per
manent admiration and adoration that it
longs for Immortality.
Learn How to Relax to Be
Graceful, Says Ziegfield Girl
Miss Sybtl Carman illus
trates her acofompojiying' ar
ticle by two poses of relaxa
tion which she finds bene
ficial in her daily exercise.
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Sorrow One Vanity
Common to Humanity
1 By ELLA WHEELER WILCOX.
(Copyright, 1S15. Bur Company.)
There Is a certain universal vanity In
all human beings the vanity of sorrow.
! Ask any one of your acquaintances If
he has had trouble In life, and, almost
nan. ths reply
will be to the effect
that his sorrows and
u., until been un
usual; that be has
bad his share,
which will mean that
be leeis he has more
than his share.
In country places,
In large cities, ln
villages, It 1 the
same.
mi to be a
part of human con
' sclousness this be
lief that each one
of vs has been
11 f-r a spe
m
J
cial dispensation of sorrow
j Only a small percentage of human
I beings place the true estimate on the
j value of trouble, or know that it has its
lace, aa machinery, in the spiritual
gymnasium, and that by our ability to
use It we may develop character-the
purpose, aim and end of existence.
Only one Individual do I recall hav
j Ing met In all my experience who made
1 no claim of sorrow.
It was a woman who had counted at
least four decades on the dial of life,
and she told me she had never known
a disappointment or a sorrow; since her
-birth she had Indulged all her wishes;
she had never lost a near relative or
friend, and had never known a grief
worthy of the name.
A shallow woman she seem1 to me
ss I studied her one who enjoyed her
morning coffee and her dinner at night;
who was pleased with a new guwn and
brooch, and who felt no strong affec
tions and was Incapable of deep emotion.
Perhaps she had passed through experi
ences which might have meant sorrow to
others without feeling them, and. hav
ing missed sorrow, so, ton, st.e must have
ifilsred great Joy.
Today Miss Aybftl Carman, charm
ing momlMT of the Zlegfleld Midnight
Frollo ceat, flnixhes her article on the
way to gain grace through strength
ening the feet. The simple exercises
that Miss Carman has Nltiitrated
take only a few minutes each day,
and will prove Invaluable assets to
the woman seriously Intent on gain
ing a lithe and graceful figure.
By KYBEL CARMAN.
Yesterday I spoke' of strengthening the
feet. Today's exercises simply carry on
this Idea. I am a firm believer In the
truth of the statement that prelty feet
do much toward making pretty women
Awkward feet make a women so clumsy.
That It why strong, supple feet and
ankles mean mora to a woman's grace
fulness than many people suppose. Thick
ankles see unnecessary If a woman will
bath and massage her feet frequently
and learn how to wear sensible heels on
her shoes. .
I would add one other caution to the
woman seeking the beauty of feminine
gracefulness. Isui how to relax. to
not be afraid to let yourself go. Relaxa
tion will help you to stand and walk well.
Surely swe was no personage to hold
as sn ideal, snd those who believe they
could have attained large successes of
great heights, if they had not known
sorrow, would have found In her refuta
tion of their theories.
The mortal must feel In order to
develop.
He must know the strong emotions of
life; he must use hts mental qualities In
thinking he was out of trouble; he must
be anxious at times ln order to learn
patience; he must pass through the .win
ter of sorrow in order to .enjoy the
springtime of Joy.
In visiting tropical countries It has al
ways seemed that; ths natives who dwell
there miss a great Joy In having an
eternal summer.
There are no emotions sweeter than
those which are produced by the sudden
dswnlng of the spring in sky snd trees,
snd ln bearing the first sounds of the
returned birds.
To gase always upon summer' skies,
summer foliage and to hear ever the
songs cf birds oan never repay for the
loss of that peculiar happiness which
comes In early spring days.
And so the heart that has never knownJ
anyming uui yieasiirKDie sensations musi
lack the keen Joys which come to those
who have experienced lack and loaa of
blessings, and to whom they are re
storedas life always restores In some
measure that which It takes from
us-
But the real value of sorrow snd trial
lies In the strengthening of courage, the
Increaae of faith, the growth of character
and the development of the higher at
tributes of the mind.
Unless we are more sympathetic, mora
tolerant more patient and kinder after
each trouble, we have missed a great op
portunity which life has offered us. and
we must suffer again and again until ws
recognize the hand of love beneath the
glove of patn until we experience the
resurrection.
Pausing a moment, ere the day was done,
Vv'blie yet the ear lb. was sclutlUaut
with light.
I backward gianeJ. I Vora valley,
plain awl height.
At Intervals hr 111 v lift path hud run,
I'.oae uriiM uu rem and nalloU upun
each on '
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There must be a certain freedom and
lurk of stiffness apparent in every move
a woman makes if she would be thought
truly graceful.
It In Imports nt, too, to learn to sit
well. This means straight shoulders and
a high chest. Kelax, but train your
muscles so that they do not sag. Forget
yourself and learn to be natural. No truly
graceful woman was ever self-conscious.
80 many women do not know how to
stand when they appear In publlo. They
are conspicuous at a social function,
oftentimes, simply because they rail at
tention by conscious awkwardness to their
ungraceful hands and feet.
Why not stand as though you took a
real pride In yourenlfT You are an In
dividual with a character unlike any one
else In the world. Why not Man I as
though you really amounted to some
thing? Stand so that a line dropped
from the center of your head would fall
between the arches of your feet Distri
bute your weight evenly on both feat
And, above all, do not allow yourself to
get lop-sided.
Was my Aend self. And yet thst grue-
some sight
Lent sudden splendor to the falling
night,
Htiowing the conquests thst my soul had
won.
Up to the rising stars I looked snd cried:
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A Lost Paradise
Ry KRETT I. 8KKV18S.
The legend of an original Paradise on
this earth, from which man got himself
excluded by his own greediness, turns up
in a new and extremely charming form
In the stories collected by Dr, W. C.
Fwrabee, of the
t'nlvcratty of Penn
sylvania, among the
Wal-WaJ Indians,
whom he found
dwelling In the
T u m a e-H u m a o
range of moun
tains, on tha border
between Bretll and
the Uulanaa, and
so remote from
civilisation that
they knew nothing
of white men.
Dr. rarahee be
lieves that these
Indians are the
descendants of the Caiibs and Arowaks
whom the Spaniards encountered along
the roast 400 years ago. They are ex
ceedingly simple In their ways and tastes,
snd physically very handsome representa
tives of tha human sperlos, almost good
enough In that regard, according to Dr.
Ferabee'e description, to InhaMt a new
Garden of Bden.
They have no jewelry and no metala
and wear no mora clothes than neces
sary. But they do made cloaks, aprons,
"There Is no death; for, each now dlty
reborn.
I wake to larger life, to toy more great
Bo many times have I been crucified,
B often seen the resurrection mom,
I go triumphant, though new Calvaries
wait."
AfWssM Oftw Srtm
t bs (if tod writer, slstost
"Nothing thst I hs
tstso lor rears bs gisa
u seek a senes el vigor
ss banstogsn."
Jim Cm m lassie's fM-
ei MssMsa.
Dr. Ferchoua. writes:
"Mr daughter, who was
vet y nervous and aaismic.
h it been msllr benefited
br lbs orolorifed use oi
Sanstnteo. Her appetite
iwiroi. hr weight in'
creased and ths color
ol her skis becaste
b-alihur"
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aa sstw v viirarai'ataisiA,iui';';
heAddrsasee, etc, of home-woven cloth.
Intertwined with the blight-colored feath
ars of gotfraoua tnscaw blrda, which ax
rite the admiration of the civilised visitor
by their novelty and beauty. The women
are desrribed as resembling statues of
polished bronae of magnificent propor
tions, while the men are well mads and
IntrlllKnnt looklna.
If. as Dr. rarabee thinks, these Wat
Wat Indians, with the surrounding
tribes, who resemble them In manners
and appeatunce, represent a union of the
remains of the ancient Carlos and
Arowaks, then the peaneaNe eharaoter
of the latter, who, before the oomlng of
the Spaniards, had been sadly harassed
by the war-like Carina, has prevailed In
the blending. There ere no wars among
then now. They live on vegetabiea. fruit
and game; grind ceeaevs with roughly
hewed granite holders and obtain fire
with sparks from str'oken stones.
Pprlng Is their mating tlms, aa with
birds, snd then they put en their bril
liant garments, gleaming with the moat
exquisite hues of scarlet, yellow and
blue, and dance the "masheka," or "pea
nut vlna dance." An Imitation of this
dance was long sso produced In Brasll,
being picked up from the Indian tribes
and carried down the Amason, and this
wss the origin of tha "Ma-slxe," a danoe
which came to America through Parts.
Tn the place where It was Invented this
dance Is a rite of tha mating season, as
symbolical as tha bsochlo da noes of the
ancient Greeks.
Those great mystery stories of unl-
ersal humanity, ths legends of a para
dise and a deluge, have been found again
by Dr. Farabee in this almost Inacces
sible part of the world. The paradise
story, as told by the Wal-Wals U In
some respects more pleasing than the
Hebrew aocount used by Milton In his
"Paradise Lost." In the beginning. It
ssys. the god Duwld, having mads men
and women, continued to feed them with
his own hands, bringing them every dsy .
abundance of fruit and vegetables.
In their idleness, the men and women
found nothing more Interesting to da
than to watch tha other animals. Thus
they discovered that thess animals want
off somewhere every morning and re
turned st night. Led by curiosity, they
followed, snd found a great tree which
shed every day from Its bran ah as both
fruits and vegetables, on which ths ani
mals fed.
"Here," they said, 'Is whera Duwld
geta our food. Henceforth - let us corns
and help ourselves. Then we shall not
hsvs to thank him for It"
Accordingly, they told Duwld that he
need not take ths trouble to bring them
food any longer, for they had found
out where to get It for themselves,
"Very well," said the god. "but here
after you will have to work for It To
morrow the tree shall be cut down, but,
to save. you from starvation, I will give,
you a hint. Break off branohss bearing '
each kind of fruit and plant them in the
ground. Wster and tend them carefully -and
they will flourish and Continue to
bear abundantly as long ss you continue
to labor."
They began to obey Duwid's Instruc
tions, but, becoming wearied left off be-'
fore they had taken from the tree more
than a email number of ths Infinite va
riety of fruits that It bora. Fortunately
they got the cassava, but they have to
work hard, not only to raise It but to fit
It for eating. Ths snormous stump of
the great tree, they say, still exists In the
midst of thslr country, In ths form of a
hugs steep-sided rock, rising high above
the root of the forest
The Wal-Wals are described as a very
childlike race, but this legend of theirs -Is
full of sdult wisdom snd a keen knowl
edgs of human nature. It depicts the
consequence of Idleness snd too indul.
gent paternalism far more pointedly than
ths story in Genesis does, while alto
gether avoiding ths unnecessary Inven
tion of ths serpent as a tempter. The
absence of vlndictlveness tn ths god
Duwtd's sentence Is also a notsble
feature, 1
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