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The Tyranny
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By DOROTHY DIX.
It i one of the Inexplicable tragedies
of family life that the strong are always
governed by the weak. It la irrational
and illotfeal, but It la the short-sighted
person whose vision
seta the bound to
the doroeatlo horW
ion; It ia the haJt
and the lame who
are the pacemak
ers of family prog
ma; It U the per
on of weak and
hysterical judgment
who derides the
way the family
bark shall b e
steered. It la never
the strong, wise,
tolerant, far-see-tng
member of the
household who
rules it.
No other thing on
earth so serves to
put the brakes on
human endeavor, tir brings about so
many avoidable calamine as the sub
servience 61 the Strang to the weak, the
subordination of the wise t the foolish.
It is a great misfortune to humanity,
but it is one of the noblest mistakes that
mankind has ever made,' and there are
many exeusea to be offered for it.
Indeed the very qualities that make a
man or woman strong the wide com
prehension, the ability to endure, the di
vine patience and pity make them the
inevitable victims of the little sou led and
the weak. Juat as an honest man is no
match for a thief In a trade because he
will not descend to offsetting trick by
trick, so the strong and noblo cannot con
tend with the weak and pusillanimous,
because they scorn to use the only
weapon that would avail.
Tou may see this Illustrated In a
dozen households of your acquaintance
where there Is an Inequality between hus
band and wife. Invariably the weak one
rules. If the man is wise, generous,
broad, tolerant and the woman Is ellly,
narrow, high-tempered and querulous. It
Is not he, but she who is the autocrat
Such a woman never gives up her own
wilt, because there are no such egotists
as fools. She never suffers herself to
be led up to a higher life, because she
is too dull to have any aspirations. But
the man, lust because he Is broad and
wise, and because he sees, as she does
not. that In order to have any peace In
family life, somebody must give in, some
body must use tact and discretion, he
ascrlflces himself to his weak wife.
There are thousands of noble end
sptendid men that are chained to women
without brains or hearts, and the nobler
thesemen are the leas fitted ..they aro
to deal with such wires. Thar is no
argument that thle type of woman can
understand, except brute force, and as
a gentleman cannot beat his wife, no
matter how much she needa it, these
men are the helpless victims of the
tyranny of the weak.
How Is a man to deal with a woman
who has hysterica every time he tries
to reason with her about her extrava
gance, which la ruining him? What can
he do if she meets every suggestion with
floods of tears? How can he stop her
If she makes Jealous scenes every time
Jo speaks to another woman? He's
helpless to change her. All that he can
do ia Just to meekly submit and keep
from stirring her np.
Or the case may be reversed, as ft
very often la. and It Is the woman with
great Intelligence and wide understand
ing and sympathy who is married to a
bigoted and prejudiced man with violent
passions. Then.lt Is he who rules the
family, and It is she who seeing his lit
tleness and realising that there Is noth
ing so unehangeaWe as Ignorant stupidity,
sets herself the task of adjusting her
nature to his. Instead of trying- to ad
Just his to hers. Let a man have a
temper like a train of fireworks, he does
not try to control It. It Is hla wife who
spends her like walking on eggs for fear
she will rouse the devil In him. tryin
to keep thlnga hidden and out of algtit
that will vex him.
As between husband and wife. It la
always and . Invariably the noble who
gives way to the Ignoble, the strong
that surrenders to the weak, which is
a disastrous thing for the children.
Another pitiful Illustration of this is
the young man or woman who Is bound
like a slave at the chariot wheels of
his or her parents, and who Is crushed
In the dust and ground' to powder under
the weight of an old man or woman's
moss-grown theories.. Not every father 1
have borne or are fitted to decide ita
destiny. Many an old hen hatches out
a swan, and gpends her life In trying to
keep It from the water that is the habitat
for which nature Intended it. simply and
solely because she haa a dlallke for
wster herself.
All of us have known girls whose
r-a rente have broken off good matches
"hecavse the faUier or mother didn't haP
oen to like the way the man combed his
hs'r. or had an aversion to hla rel'glon
e race, or for some other reason equallv
foolish. We have known talented
fr's who might have made fame and
fortune on the stage but for some senle
r-rent who had a prejudice against
-'re.
vi hsve known boys who were pre
vented from going where fortune called
m by anme eM'v and eel'lsh eld mother
who wept when her Johnnie talked about
leaving home. We hsve known other
men whose lives were ruined because an
onmlonated father, who thought he knew
what waa better for them than they d'd
themselves, forced them Into snme oeru
natlon for whch thev were unfitted, end
kept them from doing the thing thev
wanted to do and could have done with
profit.
It's the old story, the strong yielding
to tha weak, the wise ruled by the font
's'', the swift, young feet slowing them
selves down to the tottering gait of as.
Tt is whst 's divlneet In s tn Its most
Mi'-t'r ssoect. and it explains as noth
ing eVe Hoes te reason why the world's
r -ro , o slow.
For K famHv life we have a remark
ed fmpl of r.e survival of the fittest
' f-e one who s'irvtves Is the one
v - throws fl ''Kcifr h's or her
svrelgn will is crossed.
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When a girl-person's pet sport Is
chasing rare butterflies that gold
and pink variety with the velvet from
a faery's coat from Love-Iand on his
wing-tips, and the color of the girl's
first blush tinting their roots when,
I say, she'd rather rout out after this
splendid fellow with her net, than to
eat strawberries frozen In marsh
mallows and whipped cream (what is
It folks call her?) a trlfler and a
coquette.
Life Partners and Dance Crazes
Another Fictionless Fable for the Fair About a Theory We All Know
By ANN LISLE.
There was once a Young Husband who
had the dance craxe. Apart from that he
was a very clever business man who
thought that a husband's first duty was
to make money and a wife's first re
sponsibility waa to have beautiful chil
dren and to bring them up well.
The Wife subscribed to his theories, so.
of course there was no friction in their
home. Khe was much too busy with the
cares of the household to learn to dance
at all. and she waa generally too tired
from those "cares of the household" to
go along with her husband when he went
to these dansanta. Of course, no man
can dance without a partner, and ao the
young husband found a Partner.
The Partner waa a beautiful young
woman who had neither household oares,
husband nor theory. She liked to dance
preferably with someone who danced
well, but necessarily with someone who
would pay the check. Unless one has a
dinner invitation or a certain means of
support It grows rather important for
a cabaret tea to offer enough nourish
ment to last until some chap buys an
after-theater supper.
The Young Husband and his Partner
danced merely all through the winter.
And the Young Wife stayed at home and
took care of the babies and provided
auch very good dinners that the Husband
always came home to them. Out he
generally went out agin si'Mhout pi
01 lock - to the cluli,'' lie I J. ui "to
And when a man is an ardent col
lector of specimens of the Danny va
rinty the call him susceptible.
Girls don't mind being called a co
quette. If they're sure you don't
mean that when they catch their but
terfly they pin him to a card!
But a trlfler, who captures her but
terfly, is careful of his frail .gause
wings, admires and prises him, and
then holds him aloft and frees hlra
see someone on business." Of course,
the club was a dance club and the busi
ness was learning the latest atep.
The Young Wife ate her very good
dinners and went to bed early and waxed
unfashlonably fat. And the Husband, se
cure In the Partner's ability and bis
Wife's docility, danced more and more
and enjoyed It better and better and
was Increasingly certain that a Wlfe'e
place waa in the home.
And everybody in the city where they
lived knew ail about It and wondered
whether they ought to tell the Young
Wife or whether what aha didn't know
wouldn't hurt her. Before aaybody
could come to a paluful decision or gossip
could . settle the matter, the , Husband
brasenly entered a dancing contest with
his Partner and won a oup.
And a little paragraph in the city's
best scandal-mongerlng sheet recorded
the fact And the Wife read the little
paragraph. What she thought about It
nobody knew.
Suddenly the dinners which were so
very good contained mora and mors po
tatoes and soups and gravies and rich
puddings which the Husband ate un
suspectingly, while the Wife managed
nicely on tha lean parta of the meat and
salad and a bit of toast. The Husband
began tsking on weight and the Wife,
I aldea by a masseuse ami long wslks,
! taken wl.ile the I In -bund buiv
cabaret lng In stuffy restaurants. Ixgsn '
, lot-ing her extiu pounds And th- u a
; mj.iu.luus ojh msu ai-nsnJ at her
again Into the blue air ah! That
haa a better sound.
It means skill and Boundlessness
and magnetism. And no maid minds
being a collector of butterflies when
a smile goes with It.
But a man biases and then goes
black with anger and wrath If sua-
ceptiblo la whispered after hin name.
For susceptible means heart of but
ter that melts In the glow of any
girl's smile.
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house every morning at 11. The Young I
Wife said her children were taking mualc
lessons for she held firmly to the theory
that whst you don't know won't hurt
you.
When the Wife weighed only 1U and
the mysterious young man had taught
her all the extremely graceful dancing
ttepa of which he waa master, she ap
peared one day with this youth at one
of the cabaret tea places In town.
Somehow or other every one else in the
city met the Wife at the danaant long
before her Husband did and they shook
their heads gravely and came to the con
clusion that now It was a case where
what he didn't know wouldn't hurt him.
Then one day the Wife and her 19-year-old
dancing partner met the Hus
band and his ls-year-old dancing partner
In a contest and won a cup from them.
The two is-year-olds now form a clever
dancing team and the Husband and Wife
are devoting themselves to bringing up
tbelr children. The wife keeps slender
and the Husband grows fat. And they
do not discuss their affairs. Nebody
knows quite positively whether the
woman planned it ail or it Just hsppened.
And since the Husband ia no mora car
ls in than is any one else, he Is spared
the indignity of feeling that his Wife
beat him at his own game.
Moral: What You Don't Know
Won't Hurt You but the Crate for
t'anclnj Partners Should Never .be Pei
nilticil to KnuaiiKer a l.lfe-PsMncuhlp
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By C'HARLF.fl II. IWUKHl U8T.
Much Is being wisely sn 1,1 in these days
regarding the responsibility of mothers
for the upbringing of their children,
while comparatively little account Is
made of the pa
rental responsibil
ity of fathers. The
word father Is said
to be another form
of the word feeder,
aa though the func
tion of the male
Purent waa origin
ally conceived to
be to meet the phv
steal necessities of
the child In the
way of nourish
ment, what might
be railed the dom
estic commissariat.
Whether that Is
the accurate ac
count of the word
(Till
such an explana
tion la rather closely in keeping' with
the idea somewhat generally entertained
as to the father's relation 1o the domes
tic economy the mother to administer
the household and the father to furnish
the funds.
Such nn arrangement of the division of
labor could have nothing said against It,
provided It be conceded that woman Is
man's female equivalent, and that dis
tinction of sex extends no farther than
to the physical Ingredient.
Some of ua, however, have been led
by our studies, and by our own experi
ence of domestic Influences, to hold to
the Idea that sex Is a quality which per
vades tho entire being of human exis
tence, male and female, and that It la
not a question of the equality of the
sexes, but of the essential and pervasive
differentiation of the sexes which Is
equivalent to saying that men ami
women were made to differ from each
other for reasons additional to that of
enabling them to beget and bear chil
dren. This evidently bears with It the Idea
that differences, other than physical, be
tween the father and mother are to be
maximised rather than minimised, and
that the special qualities of each ought
to be made effectual In tha upbringing of
the children.
This, to a very great extent, la hardly
the case at present. It Is commonly the
fact that children are mothered rather
than fathered. Not only among what
we can tha working classes, but also In
families that are in a condition of af
fluence, the pressure exerted upon faths
era outside of the home Is of a kind to
prevent more than a casual acquaintance
with their own offspring, or at any rate
to prevent that closeness of relation and
intensity of Intimacy necessary to the
exertion upon their children of a dis
tinctly fatherly Influence.
While It may not be easy to define
sharply the Influence In the quality of
influence produced upon the child by
It was
Tut?
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the fnther nd mother respectively, yet
no one who hss been brought tip In a
home In whli l) ihe father whs deflnlto'y
masculine anil Hm mother definitely femi
nine, questions the exltenco of such a
difference or would lie disposed to ques
tion its significance and valu as con
tributing to the forming of child character.
lliimnn haractor like the human hotly
Is a dexterous composition of 1wne and
'tissue. Hone secures lo the My Ita ele--!
ment of fixedness and stability and serves
as guarantee and support of the more
delicate, plnstlc and productive Ingre
dients. Ami ns different material Is re
quired in order to nourish the osseous
basis of the body from what Is needed
to construct Its tissues, so other Influ
ences from those that give texture and
foini tt the affections and Impulses of
, our nature, are required In order to ami-
In-Shoots
The older we grow the more foolish
our foolishness seems.
There I no aliost more troublesome j
than the campaign promise.
Insomnia Is often piouf thai a man haa
a conscience.
Better not marry In haste, yet long
engsgements are risky.
Lax morals are Just aa apt lo go with
a long face as any other.
Organised charity Is always prompt
about collecting the commissions.
In loosening the heart strings love
sometimes seems to soften the skull.
The most exasperating thing sbnut a
bom Is his evident enjoyment In the role
of a nuisance.
Household Hints
Puedo shoes can be freshened by being
ruhbed with sandpaper.
Brown boot polish Is excellent for
polishing dark varnished doors.
Tou can clean ruaty Irons beautifully
by rubbing them when hot upon a pleoe
of beeswax tlod on a cloth dipped In salt.
When you are laying away your allver
In the drawer or case don't forget to
pluce therein a piece of gum camphor. It
keeps the goods bright a long time.
To clean a linen sunshade, open It wide
ard scrub it with a small scrubbing
brush and good sjds msde of white
soap and lukewarm water. After It is
well cleaned, potr several buckets of
clean water over It; add a little bluing
water poured from a watering pot; then
leave It to bleach and dry In the open
air.
made especially to please you and
refresh you and to quench your thirst
That it "was made for j?ou Is proved by
the fact that each of some ninety million
Americans claim it was made especially
for their delight. .
Delicious and Refreshing
Demand tha genuine by full name .
nicsnamea encourage substitution. -
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ply the exercise of those affections and
Impulses Mahle foundation.
In the formation of character, as In
the structure of a building, somethtng
has to be placed at bottom that will stsv
where It Is put. People are constantly
breaking clown amid the difficulties and
templntlona of life, not because they aro
deficient In fine taste and aweet and
laiulful Impulses, but because deep down
In their nature there Is not enough struc
tural stiffening to keep them erect when
the blow comes and the storm buffets.
Now. In the economy of the home It Is
the peculiar function of the father to sup
ply that special ingredient of steadfast
ness. The feature of masterliness Is the
property of the male. A masterful
woman is a Contradiction in terms, and
Is an offense to correct moral taste. A
certain touch of authority sovereignty,
If you plense-ls a perquisite of mascu
linity, and by Its Just exercise upon the
child works within It that basal solidity
for which we are pleading.
What Is called a "mother-boy" may be
an exceedingly aweet and lovable speci
men of humanity, but we should not
Want to take many chances on what will
happen to him when he gets out Into the
rough and tumble of life. This Is no
criticism on woman any more than It Is
a criticism upon a flower to say of It that
it la not all stalk and root.
What thla article Is Intended to urge la
not the harsh exercise of parental
authority, but only such exercise of It aa
results in the kind of filial devotion
evinced In the boy whose story U told in
the following stansaa:
"What would you be, mv precious lad?"
I asked of my curly-lucked four-year-old.
As he played with his red toy engine
there,
Hafo from the wintry blast and cold;
And a look of love came Into hla eyes.
While he ceased a moment and gaaed
at me.
And 1 saw he knew, and I understood
The depth of his childish simplicity;
'I Just want to be like my daddy."
"What would you do, my precious lad?"
Again Interrupting the boy at play.
1I hMd loaded hla train with wonderful
blocks.
And the restless engine was tugging
sway;
Cut he atopped and smiled, as a child
ran do.
And dimples adorned htm with roguish
grace,
While quick from the heart his brief an
swer came,
And longing shone forth In hla hand
some face:
"t just want to do like my daddy." '
"Where would you go, my precious lad?" .
Third time and last I detained him
there;
For childish hearts have their yearnings
dear
And dreams of the future for which
they care.
The boy so busy about hla play
Must have ambition beyond out ken;
And yet from hla Hps I heard once more
The words of confidence uttered then:
"I juat want to go with my daddy." .
Back of the brighter eye la on little
lira
Bweet, tender heritage left In your care:
Blessed the task to prepare him for
strife
Glorious chance which la given you
there.
Do you want him to be like von. daddy?
LON A. WARNER.
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