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Saturday in Loveland
Wash-Day
By NELL BRINKLEY
Copyright, 1918, Intern! News Service.
Reaching the
Child Heart
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By Virginia Terfaune Van Jo Water.
Oopyrlght. 191B, by th Star Company.
f-o much la Mid and written nowaday
on the training; of th ymmg that It
eema almost presumptuous for any on
to attemr to add to tb mas of ad viae
to parent to the auxveitlona aa to how
and when one ahould punish. If at all
to the counsel aa to vartoua modal of
restraining the child, of making as
obedient creature of him or allowing fclin
to "exerclee hla own Individuality."
We all recall the paraphrase of Solo
mon' direction: "Chain up a child and
away he will at." Though it la supposed
to be only a humorous paraphrase, it
sometimes prove sadly true.
The fart rematns that parent have
lived to little purpose If they are not
more capable of guiding the youngsters
than are the youngsters themaeivaa. Btlll
th unending and everburning question,
1 how to do It?
It is, of course, uaeleaa to attempt to
inak any one rule to fit every case. In
one family the first child needed atern
discipline, while th second was hard
ened by the very process that had suc
ceeded admirably with her sister. To
atudy the character of the little one, and
to decide what course to pursue In each
ease. Is the by no moan easy task laid
out for the parent.
And aa th parent wjo to most with
the little boy or girl and upoa whom
devolve most of the training la the
mother, I would tell her of what one
mother declares has been an Invaluable
aid In the management of her children.
It 1 elmply this: Tak th child Into
your confidence.
To explain: On lfttl girl had & vio
lent temper which punishments of
various kind failed to subdue or con
trol. Th loving mother prayed about It,
thought about It. asked ad vie cf her
family, co-operated with her husband In
hi efforts to find . a way to teach tb
littl one that ab- must not fly Into a
rag and kick and scream. Then, when
almost discouraged, the mrrther hit upon
the happy Idea of asking th advio of
the girl herself.
8 he waited until the little girt was In
a unny mood. Taking her upon her lap
aha began by explaining to hr that God
had placed upon every mother the duty
of making the beat of th character of
tne child entrusted to her care, of keep
ing the body and oul of th! child In a
condition aa near perfection a possible.
All thl waa told In short, easily oompre
hended word.
The mother called the ttttl one' at
tention to the fact that she, th child,
waa very truthful, and that therefor th
mother would. not be blamed for produe
Ing a decettfuPwotnan. Bh pialsod other
(.nod qualities,, euch a- neatness, prompt
obedience, etc Lastly, h reminded her
gently that there waa on thing In which
aha, as a mother, had failed, and that
wa In teaching her little girt aelf-coTrtTnl.
She warned tfr listener that this tamper
would grow wtth her growth until at
last It woutdCbecom her masten, not her
servant.
"And now, the wis pasent said. "I ant
going to akyou to help me act th tat
of Uits fault. When you war a baby
you were notwtae enough to 'help me In
thla work that Ood ha given na to do.
But now If vaunts you and m to e
Junt how good a child we can make of
you, just what we can do with that
temper of your. Will you help me, dar
ling f
Th email girl promised and kept the
promise. Thla compact was a little sec
ret between the bwo. Of course there
were times when .anger would gat the
beat of good rrsoaillon, but a loving
reminder from the mother would abate
the storm of passion. The scream would
ceate suddenly as the worda, "Please
help me. darling!" were spoken. And In
a few years the vlatory waa won. not
that th temper was banished. One
' would not want to do away with It. But
it waa controlled.
The same plan proved suoceaaf ul la the
case of a cnlld who found It difficult to
tell the truth. Punishments of various
kinds availed nothing. At last, on day,
when he was defected In a falsehood, his
mother did not even scold him. II looked
at her surprised.
"Aren't you going to punish mar he
asked.
"No, deax." she sail, sadly. "Tod are
old enough now to know that I cannot
conquer this evil without your help.
When you were Utile the blame for your
naughtiness rented with me. Now you
have sense enough to know that a lie Is
s sin, and that It la a aln that Injures
your own souL All the punishments In
tlie world won't ' break you of the habit
of untruthfulness- unless you are willing
to help Ood and me In our aim to make
a xx1. honoraile man of you."
"I will halo Ood and you, mother," the
boy dnclared.
A new snse of responsibility for the
formation of hi own character had been
born In the lad's mind. He appreciated,
thnuich only very dimly at first, that he
was "thinking God thoughts after
Him." and be won hi fight for truth.
After all. children are reasonable be
iis elthotgh we do not always give
thm credit for it And If treated hon
estly and squarely, they will uaually r
werd us with honesty and squareness.
Of course such a plan as has been sug
fctsted must be consbWred confidential
t.-twen mother and child while the little
one is younit. The knowledge that the
rarent has trusted htm enough to confide
to lam the secret of the great work en-trunit-d
to her Impresses the Child an J
brings out nil that Is best In him. .
One cunnct expect any sudden change
In the development of the normal boy or
K.rl. and cne must not despise the daya
tf the small beginnings or be discouraged
at numy "lapses from gran" But If
th dt tr is present U assist In The lofty
purpose of forming a noble, self-oon-i"
he1. honuraMe nun or woman, the
chi d will no hit or her share In a way
tl.at aill mas tbe mother thank God and
e eouraga
tmmrtiM ki'MH rWw iiRBL V&Fy) fii tern (A Ww9llfitlKM . .
They don't Ilka their neckt waahed, or behind thalr earg,. any more
than other babies do. And all wek long they're in deep, dark mtechlef,
through the atreeta of the gplendld, the streets of the weary, the streets
of the drab-colored, the lanes of tbe lucky In the country and so their
mother puts It off until Saturday "country style!" And then they
Read
By Gotrvcrneur Morris
and
Charles W. Ooddard
ewsrfgkt MO. Oenaaay.
Synopsis of Pevlous Chapters.
After th tragi death of John Ainaa
bury, hi prostrated wife, one of Auier
iua'a graateat beautlos, dies. At her dsalU
frvf. MtuUier, au asunt of the lutor.su
klduapa the beautiful J-ysar-old baby
Slil and brings liar up In a paradise
where she no man, but thinks sue
la taught by augels who Instruct bar fur
ber u Isslou to isforni the world. At the
age of IK she is suuuonly thrust Into the
world wlio re atceuts of the interest ate
ready to prsleud to find ber.
Th un to tsel the loss of the little
Auieebury alrl most, after she had ben
siiinivd away by tbe Interests, waa
lummy barulay.
fifteen yeais later Tommy gees to the
Aiilruult.k. The interests are responsi
ble fur Ui trip, liy aocldsnt he 1 the Hist
to meat the lutle Aiuesbuiy glrU as she
voiiw tortn truiu her varadlse as Cvleatla
tbe alii from hewveit. Neltner Toinuiy uor
Coiustia recoAuiae eauh other. Toiiuny
(liitia 11 an aay uiattar to reaou C'alesUa
(rum rrvf. ttilllter and tbsy hlo In
the uiouutalus; later they are purauad
by Sliillter aitd escape to aa Island wber
touy sxend tbe nlgiit.
'lhat night. siUuitsr. following his In
dian gulJs, reai-hre the talaud. found
Culastia eud Tuiuiuy, but did not disturb
thaiii. la tb iiiuitiliig Tommy goes for a
awlui. Uuruig his abuce sUiillier at
tempts to ai.ua! Ceivetla. wbu runs to
Tummy lor help, followed by MUllWr.
The laltwr at vitut rsallsos Touliuy s pie
dlcaiiMiit. lie takes aavautage of It by
takli.g not only Celeatla a. but Touliuy a
Civtnes. bdl.iisr rvaultss sour Coruera
with Ct:lsiia lust in Uin to oalch a
eipreaa tor New York, there he plaoee
Cvivstia lu livltuvue iwapiuil, where her
sanity Is proven by the autburitlw.
Tommy rsachos Uollsvue Just before bUI-llta-r's
di'fcrtuie.
Tommy s first aim was to get Celeetle
ay from n:iht-r. After ttiey leave
bflisvue Tonmi) la unabia to got any
liottd to Inks t.Vlwlla in owing to ber
costume, hut later be persuades hi
latliar to kei b. r U ben be (um out
to tbe tuxt I n finds her goue. ai:e fall
Into the hands of wlihs slavers, but
es-er and aoes to live with a poor fam
ily by the luiure of lioualas. When tholr
son Kreddls returns home he finds rlhl
In bis own hotia. Olesiu. the girl for
wl;bU the underworld hs ofiartxl a re
rd that hs huped to a-t.
Onlestla s-. ores work In a large gar
niaiii fuctory, wrire a great many girls
are eruoluyfed. liure aha shows her pe
culiar powar, and maJwe trienda with all
ber girl companions By ber talks to the
girls she la able to calm a threatened
strike, and the boss" overhearing ber la
luovtd to grant ttte relief tbe (Iris wuiied
and also to riKht a great wrong he bad
done one of thaiu. Just at this point the
factory cau-hes on ftre, and the work
rovui la aoon a biasing furnace. Celealie
rstuees to escspe with Uie other girls,
and Tommy tiarolay ruata In and car
rlrs ber out, wrapped in a big roU of
Uoth.
After reecubig Celeetle from the fire,
lunuiiy U sought by H&uaer bnr.lay,
who uudrrtakns to persuade him to give
up tbe gii-L Toamiy refura. and CeU-sila
want I.lm to wed hr dirtily, lie tea
Dot do thla, as he baa bo fumli. tililllisr
and riarvlay lntrodute cVbietui to a co
tvrle of wolihy niiiiiug niwu. who agree
to aend C't (turtle to tlis -iMll .rt-a
Aflrr being diidiiiierited, Toiiuny sought
work In the ennl nuiu-s. tie tna to bnad
off a threHi.-iibJ alrlke hv taking the
miners' traders to s Hnrrlsy, who re-fuM-s
to llMrn to thrm. T!ia strlk is on,
snd Tuirirny discovers a pinn of the own
ers to turn a u.erh!ne gun looet no I lie
It Here See It at the Movies
men when they attack the stookade. Thla
sets the mine owners busr to set rid of
Tommy.
The wife or the miner reader Involve
Tommy In an escapade that leads the
mlnere to lynch him. Celeetla swves ikm
from the mob, but turn from bint and
gov to see Kehr.
TENTH EPISODE.
Although Khr had been Inatruotad to
Rlv Celeatia every chance to settle th
strike, and to hinder her In nothing, he
waa atlll determined n ttrirtr mtm Mm
own kind of a settlement If possible.
i loee-nsted and narrow, he waa never
theleee a man with beliefs and principle
for which be wa not only willing to ao
rUloe hla fortune, but hi Ufa If necessary.
To Kehr a man who agreed to work
certain hour for certain wage and then
wnt back on his agreement wa no more
to be considered or treated with than a
mad dog. To hla finger tips he was cap
italistic anil believed In property. At hla
finger tip he had innumerable Hmnl
of contented laborers who had become
affluent and of dlaoontented laborers who
naa un is tied up In jail.
""onoe." he would say. 'labor did th
Meet work possible for the muIM.
pay. but nowaday labor wlahe to do th
east amount or work possible (and the
worst kind of work), and to receive there
for so much pay that there can be no
return en the capital which employ
labor. Where are we drifting n te . -
eight-hour day with a raise, why not six
wim a raiser why not four Two! Nonet
My men want to breakru r
receive their pay envelopes at th same
nme. i wasn't Ilk that I went to work
for wage that a dog could hardly have
lived on. Hut 1 saved and waited, and I
worked a hard a I could without com
plaining. And now look at met
"Any healthy-minded. able-bodied
young American can get rich In lee than
no time If he will work aa ham v.
n. save a portion of what he earn and
seep ms ear cloeed to th fool and
devil who preach laslneea and Hv.
tent."
CtondtUon at Bitumen had eom to
rdrh a pass that Kehr could see no pos
sibility of compromise. Th country was
suffering from what amounted to a ooej
famine, and the fault lay. so Kehr hon
estly felt, wtth a group of two-legged
anlmala who didn't know anough to com
In out of the rain.
All over the country. o Kehr honestly
thought, labor was rearing- ha head like
that of venomous rtaka, Already It
had bitten many Innocent people, and
sum were dead and some war ruined
for life. Now you don't argue with a
venemoua snake. Tou either kitl It or
you run f rotn II Kehr was sot th kind
of man who run from anythm;. H
had a big stick, and If h poeatbty onuld.
he waa going to hit labor on good crack
over the head. Anyway, his plans, were
all In order. He had goaded the Strike
leader unt'l they were ready to order
an attack on hie stockade, and he was
grimly rtedy and even eager for that
attack to begin. Tommy had thwarted
put the kettle on, till It simmers gently, and the lady who came out of
the sea, the mother of all the little Loves that ever were, "who has so
many children she doesn't know what to do," Venus of the white arms
and the amber hair, she souses 'em In one by one with a sound like a
shoe full of rain water plopnh! In. And sh-h-h? out again! And up
him once. Now they had sent Celeatia
to thwart hint again,
Btlll he received her with politeness,
and told her that he was glad ahe had
come.
"I'm glad you've como, young lndy, be
cause I know your theories, andTm gla-1
to have the chanoa of showing you how
Impractical they are In th face of an
actual condition. Tou want labor and
capital to be friends and to work hand In
hand. Can a gunman be frtenda wtth a
Wahopf-
"Why, yea- said Celeatia, "when they
get so they underatand each other. But
a day will come when there won't be any
gun men."
"Nor any walking delegates, nor any
fool who spend more than they can earn
and then bexin to holler murder and act
off dynamite. Now, you Jus aft down
In that chair, and I'U teU you. In a nut
shell, the history of the last few years
that ha led tip to th present situation.
To begin with I was a day laborer myself
In these coal fields"
Calestla raised her hand la protest.
"Don't tell me your aide of the quar
rel," ahe said; "tell ma that re. When
your heart I very hard against a man.
th best way to soften It 1 to say all
the favorable thlnga you can think of
about him. rd like you to tell me all
th goad things you can think of about
Ounsdorf and then I shall S to him and
ask him to tell m all the good thing
he can think of about you."
"From neither of us." said Kehr grimly;
"will you hear any good of the other."
Tnn," said Celestla, smiling gently;
"I shall hav to do th talking for you
both."
"You can chart ire m Into a breakfast
food as easily as you can change Quns
dorf Into a human bring."
"Home day you and Ounsdorf wilt shak
hands and you'll both admit that you
ware both wrong."
"Tou admit that hs'a wrong?"
"Tsa, Mr. Kehr. and you too."
Bh roe and smiled upon him.
"I am to com and go aa 1 ptease?"
"If you go among those devils over
there la th town 1 won't be responsible
for th conaequenoes."
"But I've been among there already.
They were going to hang a mas, but
they listened to reason."
What menT"
A vision of Mrs. Ounsdorf fac floated
through Celestla's mind, and caused e'er
ye to narrow a Uttl. and look quite
atoosy.
"A man of no importance." ahe said
lightly. "But I shan't to back to the
town tonight. .What la the pass word?"
II told her.
"I shall talk with soma of your men
tonight. And tomorrow I hop you will
hav a rhang cf heart"
Bh snillod so aweetly at hint that hi
crabbed eld heart actually warmed to
ward her. and then ah set out alone In
th electric-lighted darkness to explor
the strong place which capital had set up
against rebellious labor.
(Ta Be Continued Tomorrow.)
m 9 a esW i r - '
By BEATRICE FAIRFAX.
Bom folk think conversation cornea
by th grace of heaven but nothing Is
further from th truth. One might as
well say playing the violin come by na
ture. No human being do matter how
musical could play a simple lullaby on
the violin without first learning. Of
course a maestro might play by ear with
out lessons but not without practice.
And moat mortals need all th aid good
Instruction can give them.
Well, by the same token of practical
common sense, although a favored few
talk glibly and even pleasantly by In
stinct, even they do not get far without
study, without practice and without tak
ing Infinite pains.
Of course the obvious way to improve
In conversation la to talk provided on
talka as well as one Is able. But It
would be hard to force any man or
woman to take a tonth as much pains to
learn th game of conversation as to
master the latest fox trot step or to
learn the game of golf. And yet conver
sation la a gam that can never go out
of atyle and that wUl be Important aa
long aa mortals have ears and tongues.
Here are a few rule of practlc for
learning the gentle art of conversation:
Talk aa well aa possible to all sorts of
people. Adapt yourself to moods, to
character and to varying age.
Mak It your business to aay what you
want to convey ao you shall be thoroughly
understood by the Individual you address
Be cteer and simple.
When you are thrown wtth an unutter
ably dull person who asem almost dumb
prid yourself on finding out something
about which he can talk. Any one can
talk about something. Even an utter
fool can tell you about himself. Oet Into
,the habit of drawing out the silent and
taciturn. A they expand Into conversa
tion you will got a sort of perspective on
your own leaser difficulties in finding
conversational material.
The very beet school for conversation
la of course, good reading. The classical
novels will accustom you to English used
with charm and certainty and exactness
Advice to Lovelorn
Yea Did Vni,
Dear Visa Fairfax. Iast week I met a
young soy by flirtation. He waa going
by on a buggy and aaKd ma to go for
a ride, and 1 accepted. I have met him a
t w times since then snd he asked me to
go to the theater with I lm. 1 an K
BLUE
To accept such an Invitation was worse
than alllnvesa: It was da-tgeroua Tou
must discontinue an association begun In
aucb circumstance.
He,
Dear Mis Fairfax: Would It be proper
'or a young girl to go traveling wun a
young man with whom ahe is very well
acquainted I mean going away tor a few
aeeka at a time? B. P. B.
It would be against all th rules of
Society for a young girl to take such a
trip aa you suggest. There Is ao season
for auch a trip and It would be vary
and down he goes, black hair and goldy, until his eyes are tight shutten
and his body glistens and the dust of the wayside is worn off, and he
screams aloud that he is dying and has no more ekin on 'lm and then
she hangs them up to dry by their once more heavenly white wings. So
guvs oaiuruay in uove-Jana! IN1LLi
The right word In the right place will
come, through good reading, to have a
meaning all Ita own to you. Don't read
to quote don't read to talk with "hlgh
falutln' " and literary elegance. Read to
aee how words can be molded Into a
living mass to express Just th mean
ing in the modeller' mind.
After you have read a bit don't get to
thinking you are all wlae the field of
claaslo lor in Just the English language
I wide Indeed. Don't be pedantic about
what you know don't try to make It
seem overwhelming. Be overwhelmed
yourself by all there la left for you to
read.
Shakespear and Goethe will prove In
teresting after you hav accustomed
yourself to school cf reading In which,
"Said ah languidly" and "He exclaimed
with flashing ayes" do not mak up for
nlceness for exactness In modeling
worda Into a breathing expression of
thought.
It I obvlou that all knowledge will
help ywu In conversation. A IHtle anec
dote about your washerwoman' boy may
tighten a dull moment. It Is well to
keep up with the time. The editorial
page of the newspaper In themselves
offer a training for Interesting talk,
whether you agree or intelligently differ
with what you hav read. If you have
read good book review and criticism of
popular play you can talk about the
original with those who have first-hand
knowledge.
There are two olaealr about boredom
which you must avoid If you want to be
known aa a good conversationalist. A
bore has been defined as "a person who
talks about himself." Don't let yourself
be so defined. Talk about tbe other
chap; let him fall Into the category, of
bores, but avoid that slough of despond,
for your own social reputation.
Then a bore has been called "a per
son who, when you ask him how he
feels tells you!" Don't, don't, a you
value your friendly, place In the minds
of men. tell them all about your last
headache, nor how you can't sleep in
hot weather, nor how you have all the
symptom of appendicitis. Rather than
that, use even th stupid old expression.
By Beatrice
Fairfax
foolish to risk aa lrreparahl hurt to a
girl's reputation.
He is Probably Selfish.
Dear Mlae Fairfax: I am XI veers of
age and have known a vuung man five
yeara niv senior for the last four years,
lie never take ni to any places of
amusement, but whenever he meeta me
on the street he tekes me home. My sis
ter laughs at me because he doesn't take
me out. D you think I should allow him
to take me home If he douan't take dm
out. I love him "vary much.
BVELTN R.
In these day of moving picture and
Inexpensive mean of amusement, there
la no reason why the man for whom you
care should not show you some slight at
tention. He Is probably selfish and pre
fer to spend hla money on his own en
joyments and to eecert you home as an
Learning How to Talk
Inexpensive mesne of showing his later- j
eeU I
'hi, . .rl,fn.;1a m
mm
UKIInK-LEY.
"Fin and dandy!" when aaked how you
feel. But don't go Into a clinical and
medical mass of detail. Save your symp
toms for the doctor. Tou will pay him
to listen to tbe story thereof.
And finally to talk well, broaden your
horizon. Everything In the world about
you be It a crying baby In the aubway
or th latest war bulletin haa possibili
ties of Interest and Interesting possibili
ties. Observe consider comment. Don't
turn your mind 'in n yourself, but ex
pansively offer It to the world, for Im
pressions. And then exchange opinion
with the people you meet.
Boon giggling and Idle chatter wilt be
as unnatural as dumbness. Tou will have
acquired for yourself the supreme gift
of charm that of being 'a pleasant an!
Interesting conversationist.
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