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T1ITC BEE: OMAHA, MV)tt)AY, DECEMBER 28, 1914.
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Mothers Should Bring
Up Their Own Children
(Copyright, 1914. BUr Company.)
By ELLA WHEELER WILCOX.
A most earnest letter from a mother
makes an appeal for more consideration
to to given Jo growing boys in this day
of wide interest to the growing girl. The
writer of the letter
sys: "My own
dear mother, who
has passed over,
mad the very se
rious mistake of
leaving her chil
dren too long and
too often with her
servants. I am
working at preaent
in a small way for
children, and It Is
through the love I
bear them that I
write you thla let
trr. "Please open the
ryes of mothers
and be them not
to leave their children for others to bring
tip. Let It be the mother's hand that
leads them step by step. Let the mother
rive them good books to read; let the
boy be educated by the family physician
on delicate subjects; let them see helpful
plays; next to the church the theaters
are he greatest factors In- education."
The writer of the above extract sends
plea by Dr. O. Frank Lydaton, for the
boya, Dr. Lydeton wondera why all the
laws are designed to protect the female,
lie wonders If we are to brand the
human male as hopelessly depraved and
vicious at birth.; If he la a sex predatory
animal always on the sex-offensive. Are
there, he asks, no vicious females to prey
upon him. and from whom he should be
protected T '".
Is he lees susceptible than the young
girl to moral wreckage. Then In very
plain language Dr. Lydston asserts that
young boys are frequently endangered by
their association with unprincipled women
and other associates, and are mentally,
morally and physically injured for life,
and be adds:
"I demand the establishment of an age
Of consent for boys.
"I demand laws providing for the pun
ishment of those who lead boys astray.
-" shall go on domandtng these things
tmtll we ge them and child betterment
ahall claim the glory of the achieve
ment" It has frequently been remarked by me
that "devoted and loving mothers" are
as plenty aa blades of grass on a meadow,
but that really good and wise mothers are
rarer than white blackbirds.
The really good and wise mother per
sonally superintends the education of her
children while tholr young minds are
growing and developing, and personally
j answers the questions which Invariably
I are propounded' by elders by the curious
j young regarding the problems of life. The
wire inmnrr ones not xeii ner cnna 10
"shut up-' and "atop asking questions,"
aa the loving and devoted mother la prone
to do.
The y1ae mother does not believe that
her child Is Incapable of curiosity on for
bidden topics and, in some miraculous
way, It will be Instructed when the right
time comes and will grow up good and
moral, without any effort on her part to
guide It sacly over dangerous path
ways. That Is why the loving and de
voted mother believes. But the wise
mother knows that human nature is sus
ceptible to great dangers and great
temptations through Ignorance, and she
proceeds to make her child her con
fidant She talka to her little boy of the saored
nena and beauty of mental and physical
cleanliness; she teaches him to respect
his body and to take great care or It as
the temple of his soul; aa he approaches
manhod she tells him of the dangers
which will awaken In the outer world,
and helps him to think of all woman
kind aa worthy of either respect or sym
pathy. The fallen and the unfortunate,
she tells him. are only to be looked upon
aa possible sisters and mothers of some
other boy, and to be pitied for having
taken the wrong path In life.
A few such mothers It has been the
writer's good fortune to know, and the
children of those few have lived to grow
up and call their mother's name blessed,
and to Illustrate by their lives the success
of their mother' effort to produce worth
while men and women.
Children reared by such mothers would
never become criminals. The boys will
never become debased, and the girls will
never become victim to the white slave
industry. Give u bettej mothers, wiser
mother, more sensible mothers, and the
world will become benefited thereby.
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"What Happens in Love-Land1
- ---When Lovers Make-Up;
By Nell Brinkley
Copyright. 1914,' Intern'l News Service.
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Little Mary's Essay
A Boy's Future
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By DOROTHY DIX.
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Cat are animal when they aren't
folk. eat ha four legs, one on each
corner, and a fur coat that It wear
both winter and summer, and a noise la
old of H that '
ounds Ilka a dollar
-.watch.
Cat have almost
buman Intelligence,
for they purr when
you rub their fur
the right way, Just
Ilk people do when
you Jolly them and
tell them how won
derful they are.
Also they hang
around a place a
long a you will
make them warm
and comfortable
and give them
orftethlng good to
drink, and "in this
aiteo they resemble
man.
Cat are very useful for carrying about
diphtheria, scarlet fever and tuberouloal
germ from house to house. These they
aecrete in their fur, o that the baby can
easily find them when it play with
Xltty.
There are a great many different kinds
of eat. There ars Augur a cat, and
Slanx cat, and Maltese cats, and Tabby
cats, and Thomas cats, and ths cat o'
nine tails, and the woman next door, who j
Is the biggest cat of all. I
Angora cats are large, fat, white cata,
that look like a set of fur that somebody
gives you for Christmas, and hone you j
will think It Is fox. Angora cats have
million and billion of hair which they
bed continually, and after you have
visited a place where they have a pet
Angora you spend. the balance of your
life picking the hair off of you. People
who have Angora cat are hated by their
fellow creature.
I do not know anything about the other
kind of cats, because our cat Is Just plain
tray cat.
Mostly old malda keep' cats, and they
to this for purposes of defense so they
can talk about the smart things their
cat do when mothers begin to tell about
the cunning thing their children say.
Cats have very 'musical disposition.
They love to get out on the back fence
at eight And sing, and if you had paid
w a seat for it you would think you
were at the opera at a Wagner perform
ani. When a Jady says to another lady,
"How young you look for your ago ' or,
'Mow splendidly you are looking this
winter; you mutt have gained twenty
five pounds during the summer, didn't
your or. "What a beautiful new brooch
you have. I always think those little
inexpensive diamonds are so refined," she
t a cat 1 know this, because that's what
my mamma said when ths woman next
door said those things to her, and then
my father said, ('What did you dor' And
ny mother said, "I clawed back," and
my father said, "Mewl"
A lady does not like to be called a
tut,' but ahe smiles all over when you
call her a kitten, and it mokes a roan
angry ty call fclia a puppy, but he Is
please Vlf you call Mm a sly dog. 1 do
Hut know why this is so.
My mother says that no woman can
make good act lug kittenish after she
begins to wear a hand painted com
- jlxlon. and to hunt fur a good stralght
Jrunt curx,-t. My mother says that when
fm fat, n.'ijdie-agrd woman trie to art
cute, ahe looks like a performing ele
jl.uiit Instead of a playful kitten.
i .o I slinU not be a cat when I
By MHS. FRANK LEARNED.
Author of "Etiquette In New Tork Today."
In th choice of a career hnva ahnuM
nave the Intelligent srmnathv of thei
parents; and girts, too. If It 1 necessary
for them to have a "career."
But this I a mahy-aldod question to
D discussed in another talk.
A truly disinterested and Intelligent
father, who studies hi boy from aarly
childhood, with a view to giving him the
right training, will find, uually, sign
u gume him, and If a boy la brought up
with some special vocation in view there
win oe a hopeful. Joyous concentration
of mind on that definite object
Although h should not be burdened
with a sens of responsibility about it,
he may be encouraged to think about th
matter and to learn to understand him.
elf and what ha I fitted to do.
It la th plain duty of his parent to
aid him In th development of all of hi
abilities, so that anr definite k.
show may serve aa an Indication as to
ni education and training.
The mistake that a father mMniimu
make I in urging a boy to take up some
business or profession in which he is
himself engaged, while a hn m.. v,..,.
directly opposite tastes and inclinations.
This perfunctory way of settling a boy
career I a positive Injustice to the son.
8ora children show at an . .
definite Inclination toward a certain
work, some talent In a special line, which
is a clu to what their vocation m.
others are undecided In their tastes, slow
in ueveioprnent, and need to have sugges
tion made to them In order to guide
them toward a useful life.
Boys need helo and niMnnu.i
chooslng what they have a bent for. or
what thev can tt An. I. I
- mij uu ll
take love, patience, wisdom and unsel- '
nsriness on ths part of parents to help .
i.r uoye v oeeiae and not let them
drift Into occupations an anit -
' iiwr
live by haphazard method.
A great mlateks is to ur . i.a -
work or In a business form mere mo
tives of expediency, or because more
money may be earned quickly. It U here
that the selrlshness of parent I seen
sometimes In shortening a boy' year at
noo. ana persuading him to enter some
employment so that he may become an
Immediate wage-earnen
If parents analyse in themselves their
own motives. It by honest and conscien
tious scrutiny they look deeply Into their
own hearts, they mar discover th. v,.
are led to urge things on a boy because
ii moans less sacrifice Tor themselves, or
because more prompt benefit will come
to themselves than if thev did somathtn.
else.
Instead of bendlug their energies to
ward what will be boneficlal to a boy
nnoo ne comes lo manhood they force
their own wishes and preference upon
him.
It Is only fair to a worker, that he
should have th work that he naturally
likes, lie will have pleasure la It Not
oniy wui it be better done, but It will
help to mould character.
In work that la rfi.t.Vt.f.,1 k- .n v..
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doomed to a certain nort ni mi--
appolntment. even bitterness. Happiness
fursuius a congenial occupation is so
great that even a partial success in U.
with less money and lees distinction,
give more contentment than prosperity
won at the cost of a long, dull grind in
an occupation entered Si.to with a view
to monetary success.
Boys with fine, manly character will not
fall in love and gratitude toward par
ents who hsve faithfully helped them to
choose careers and have given, them, as
far as poasihle, opportunities to prere
for chosen pursuits.
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Every day'g Vmkinf-np" day. It's a grand holiday to attend
to! Why don't you? Does It make your heart Blng to hold back
wrath in It all day long and clear past eunset? Dinner stick In your
throat when there's a lump swelling in It, and breakfast when, the
great seas of anger and hurt are breaking in your breast makes the
tears Btand in your eyes at the thought of eating it.
And sorrow sits fat ind heavy on the outdoor world! It gets a
gray look on its gTeen and gold and blue; and the gilt that we're al
ways able to find it, no matter what a mist we're looking through,
somehow gets-tarnished when we've quarreled with the people we
love, our friend or our lover. Where are you getting with it this
carrying a bitter load about with you and never Betting it down?
Spread your hand and show me what you've won with it. . You can't
-for there's nothing in it and your eye's are miserable!
Didn't you know this was '.'making-up" day? It doesn't matter
whose fault It is so very much. For you see no matter how sore
your heart is the other one's is, too and perhaps that one is think
ing Just as hard aa you "It wasn't my fault!" Tor everybody's.,
pretty "sot" when yon come to that. It would be a grand fine thing
to hurry up before the world Is older and before you have time to stir
up your own, particular little tempest again and "make it up!"
And IH bet a new frock that I've got with a wh'te velvet
bodice, you know, and white ruffles like mist all the way down
and I'd hate to lose it I'd even bet you that the other fellow with,
the heartache, too, and the longing to laugh with you again and
touch your hand, will be right there at the half-way place to meet
you! . ' '
Do you know what happens in Love-land when friends, and
lovers bury the hatchet? They light the sun and give a dance!
They fox-trot and they aero-plane and they Congo-trot and polka .
and all the little Loves that are the spirits, of the loving that's done
on earth kick up their heels In ecstasy 'til mornln For the thrill
that shakes you when you've held out your hand and said as big and
atron? as you are able. "I'm sorry," travels and throbs all the way
to Love-land and strikes fire there! NELL BRINKLEY. f
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j ' Women with Empty Eyes y ; " 'SSSSSST
We Are What
We Make
Ourselves
By MAURICE MAETERLINCK.
It Is well that men should be reminded
that the very humblest of them has the
power to fashion, after a dlvne model
thnt he chooses not, a great moral per
sonality composed In equat part of him
self and the Ideal.
It Is only In the depth of life that this
"great moral personality" can be carved
out, and only by means of Incessant reve
lation of the divine can we add to the
stores of the ideal we requVe.
To every man it is given to attain in
spirit to the heights of virtuous life and
to know at all times what hi conduct
should be, would he act like a hero or a
saint
But more than this is needed. It I es
sential that the ' spiritual atmosphere
about Us should be transformed to such
a degree that It ends by resembling the
atmosphere of Swedenborg'a beautiful
countries of the age of gold, wherein the
air permitted not a falsehood to leave the
lip.
i An Instant comes then, when the small
est evil we eel like committing fall at
our feet like a leaden ball upon a disc of
bronxe when everything change, though
w know it not, into beauty, love or
truth.
But this atmosphere enwraps only those
who have been heedful to ventilate their
life sufficiently by at times flinging open
the gate of the other world. It Is when
we are near those gates that we see; It
Is when we are near those gates that we
love. For to love ono' neighbor does
not mean only to give one's self to him,
to serve him and sustain other. We,
may possibly be neither good nor noble.
nor beautiful even In the midst of the
greatest sacrifice, and the Sister of Char
ity who die at the bdslde of a typhoid
patient may perhapshave a mean, ran
corous,, miserable soul.
To love one's neighbor in the unmov
able depths means to love In other that
which is eternal, for one's neighbors In
the truest sense of the term Is that which
approaches the nearest to God In other
words, all that la best and purest In man
and It is only . by ever lingering near
the gates I spoke of that you can dis
cover the divine In the soul.
Then 'you will be able to say with the
Jean Paul: "When I desire to . love
most tenderly one who la dear to me,
and wish to forgive him everything, I
have but to look at him a few moments
In eflonce."
To learn to love one most learn to see.
"I lived twenty year by my later'
side," said a frtend to me, "and I saw
her for the first time at th moment of
our mother's death. ,
Here, too. It had been necessary that
death should violently fling open an
eternal gate, so that the two souls might
behold each other In a ray of the .
primeval light. Is there one among pa
who has not near him sisters be has
never seen? (
Happily, even in those whose vision is
most limited, there is always something
that acts in silence as though they had
seen. It I possible, perhaps, that to be
in a little light when all are in dark
ness. Therefore, doubtless. It is well that
we should endeavor to raise our live
and shsuld strive toward summits where
evil-doing is impossible. And, therefore,
too. it is well to accustom the eye to be
hold events and men In a divine atmos
phere. But even that I not Indispensable, and
how small must the difference seem to
the eye of God? We are In a world
where truth" reign at th bottom of
thing and where It 1 not truth but
falsehood that need to be explained.
If the happiness of your brother sad
dens you, do not despise yourself; you
will not have to travel far along the
road before you will com across some
thing in yourself that will not be sad
dened. And even though you do not
travel the road, It matter llttle-aome-thlng
there wa that was not sad.
By BEATRICE FAIRFAX.
Of course, we all know the old truism
that nature abhors a vacuum and we
dismiss the Idea without applying It In
any personal way to our own lives. But
If a vacuum Is abhorrent In science and
all the "olggtes" and "lams" of. book
and laboratory life It la equally so In
th vast field of .humanity. There la
nothing that la more unnatural and
harder to endure than a life that Is
based on nothing and filled with nothing.
The hard-working folk who must grub
for their very needs have no right to be
half as sorry tor themselves as they are
tor the poor creatures who have to strug
gle to fill their empty Uvea Even If all
one' work . doe not bring in enough
money to buy warm clothing and good
food and proper clothing and good food
and proper housing, there is a certain
aloment of fight and planning and Inter
esting, "gambling chanoe" to make the
life of a worker varied . and free from
monotony. And In the monotony of an
"empty life" there Is a very painful kind
of misery, of which life's busy worker
are mercifully Ignorant. '
The aufferer from "empty lives" may
be divided Into evera classes. ' First of
all, on thinks of the society woman
who, having no main Interest, TlUa up
her existence with all sorts of fad and
fancies. The worker envies th Idler
whea ah see her lolling In her limousine
on the avenue. It' true that the "but
terfly" I probably sheltered and pro
tected from all of life's realities, but how.
is a grown-up woinaqto content herself
with f:oth snd f river-astdtoy when lite
In the very nature of things Is filled with
big primal facts snd neoesaitlcs?
Beside the society woman there are
other sufferers from a vacuum in life.
There is the gtri of the middle classes,
who sits quietly at home and permits her
father to do, the wage-earning and her
mother to do ' the housework. It never
occurs to her that the days she "gets
through somehow" might be far mors in
teresting if they were filled quite .full of
real - things Instead of treated so that
they are like boxes with a few trifles
rattling around Inside.
' Then there Is the wife who delegate all
Advice to Lovelorn
By Beatrice
Fairfax
Aa UaMlftah Love.
rtear Mlea Fairfax: I am X. years old.
About a year ago I met wltb a young
lady In the country. She was out riding
and her hone bolted. 1 saved her from
a serious accident. She Insisted on me
going to her houae, where I met her peo
ple. Now I find it linpoaatlble to get away
from her. rihe tells me how much ahe
love me and I certainly love her but I
caunot tell her because I will never be in
a posltiun to marry her. She Is above
my standard and my poartlan 41t Its best
could never give her half what she is
used to. Therefore, I think she would be
sacrificing herself for me. 1 would like
her to hare everything she is used to,
although she would not care, I'm sure,
but It wuuld always worry me. POOK.
A woman vsho loves is happy to help
her husband make his way In the world.
I am sure you have energy and ambi
tion enough to forge ahead. And the
girl you love can be deprived of but one
thing that will bring her happiness her
right to love. Tou are kind, thoughtful
and unselfmh and a woman will feel
that you are very rich it you continue
dowering her with these quelltlea.
Try te Be Mar Seaalbl.
Dear Miss Fairfax' I am a stenog
rapher In an Omaha office, and as much
In love my employer, who refuaoe it
have anything to do with m. k.vry
day I bring him some little preaent, lay
ing It on t.M dei'k. hut he evldaiiUy does
noi see it. for he never mentions It. Do
you titles. It wuuld b jMmr for in la
tell Mm of my love, and see what he will
do about it, or do you think I should
leave my position? , JESSIE. -
My dear girl, cease persecuting your
employes' with your (evidently) unwel
come attentions. Do not leave your posi
tion because good positions are hard to
obtain, but do not make yourself ridicu
lous by making offerings of love to a
man who in all probability regards you
as part of his office fore and not at all
as a woman. I ugh at your own foolish
Infatuation and that healthy laughter
will cure it.
A Bad Case.
Des'r Ulss Flrfax. I am a girl of it
and llvs in a small town. But 1 am un
happy because my mother always picks
at me. What would you advise me to
dot Shall I leave home, although I have
ne place to go? I am afraid I couldn't
get along In the city. Kindly advise me
what to do. AN CN HAPPY GIRL.
Jiy dear child, don't leave home, for
the city offers danger and peril and
orruw that wui be harder to bear than
any hard words. Are you sure you are
la no way to blame that you do not
worry or vex her or treat her with in
olenoeT Can't yon have a talk with your
father and tell him that your mother is
making yon deaperat and will drive you
from horn unless ha can find a way of I
helping you to atop it? 1
the real work of her life to paid help
and never tests her thinking and work
ing powers to the utmost; the young man
who prefers to be a waster instead of a
worker; the boy who never puts his mind
to his tasks, but says ' Instead, "Tou
ought (o have fun when you're young."
and the middle-aged man who lets him
self go to seed and prefers a game of
golf to a worth-while day in the office.
All of these people and many more,
whom you can easily name and classify
for yourself, are discontented If not ac
tually unhappy. Life seems to them to be
making no real demands on them. They
suffer because they feel thst there is no
Place in life .that would be empty If
they failed to fill It.
It would be simple enough for them to
fill a real place In life If they In turn
let . the demands of life fill their own
existences; but Instead they put a few
trifles, a little work, a little pleasure, a
little whining and a little Impotent strug
gle into live that actually crave to hold
some big necessities. And In much the
same way that an empty shell of a tooth
Isuseless for work and active for pain,
a life that I not brimful of real Inter
eat either decay or stands, an idle, un
beautirul shell. Such a life offends the
observer and hurts th owner.
The only cur for a sufferer from empti
ness In life Is to search tor on big thing
to do regardless as to sHtether that big
thing is ths absolute congenial choice of
his nature.. Out of one big Interest will
spring many little Intercuts. One of these
la bound to lead to congenial work, and
all of the ennui, an of the boredom, all
of the misery and of ths railing against
fate that beset a person who feels he has
no place 'in tha scheme of thing will
slink away before the fullness of life that
is devoted to actually accomplishing
something In th world.
Wouldn't
Wash IVith
cut SIvlTCU
And Way Should Inst Think of Bobbing
and Subbing on Dirty Cloths Whea
ihtch wui aava, n.
"Please sens him 8K1TCH to my gro
cer," write Mr. F. K. Lewi, IT Forti
eth St., Milwaukee. "I have no more
and won't wash this week till I get It."
That' the spirit, women. Away with
tha pesky .washboard. SKITCH clean
clothe better than you can do it by
rubbing.
A l-cent package of 8KI.TCH) doe
even washing and save enough soap
on each' of the seven to pay for the
whole package. Three teaspoonfuis takes
ths dirt right out of a boilerful of dirty
clothes while you sit and rest. RwiTrn
can't hurt .the finest garment ever woven.
Qet a 10-ci package of SKITCH and
throw your wih board away. Get it of
any grocer or aend for free aample to
Hans Fichtenberg. Ill Grand At. ny.
Kaukee, "VS'lv
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