TJIK 11 KK: OMAHA. FRIDAY, NOVKMHKll 27. 1914.
Mother and
the Job
Modern Economic Con
ditions Have Brought
Up the Vital Question
of Whether Woman
Must Choose Between
Motherhood and Her
Job.
These Dutch Caps Are So Attractive They're Really a Dutch Treat
A Study in Smiles as Posed for by a Quartet of "Chin-Chin" Deauties
By DOROTHY DIX.
In dJacuaiilnj the question of whether
tho PonrJ of Education should dlsmlts
women teachers from Its force when they
become mother. It seems to me that the
only real point st
Issue Is how
motherhood affects
the teacher's ef
ficiency. If motherhood, os
most of us believe
broadens a wo
man's sympathy,
toaohes her more
patience and for
bearance with chil
dren, and gives her
an lnslsht Into
child nature that
no young girl or
old maid can pos
sibly have If, In a
word, motherhood
gives a woman the
touch of nature
that makes her kin to every Inarticulate,
stumbling, groping little soul In her
charge, then let the mother teacher be
reinstated In her old job.
Hut If tho mother teacher's thoughts
and Interests are centered on her own'
baby in her own home, so that she does
her work half-heartedly and perfunc
torily, and If she rushes through her;
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her own cradls, then let her be dis
missed. The whole question Is a question of
efficiency that the school board should
be able to settle on that basis. It s a
case where the good of the greatest num
ber must be considered, and the fate of
the woman teacher should depend on her
record.
The question that has been raised In
this controversy Is a most Interesting
one, for it involves a big economic prob
lem that we have got to face in the near
future, and that is whether children are
to be a luxury confined to the very rich
or the desperately poor. This would be
a bad thing for the world, for It Is the
children who are reared In middle-class
homes that are the salvation of society.
Many thoughtful people who believe
that motherhood should disbar a woman
from teaching take theTrround that the
best interests of the home and the rights
of the baby to be born are best served
thereoy.
They say that when the time comes
that a baby is expected the husband
should be able to allow his wife to leave
her profession of teaching and take up
the profession of motherhood in its full
est, finest and most comprehensive form.
The man of the family should be able
to support the home In comfort and give
the woman the time and opportunity to
devote her whole undivided interest, at
tention and cars to her child.
Undoubtedly this is the ideal situation.
The only difficulty la that it is .impossi
ble to always achieve the ideal, and to
those who have the oourage to look llf
In the eye as it Is, instead of as It ought
to be. it is perfectly apparent that the
time Is fast going by. If It has not al
ready passed, when many men will be
able to provide In such manner for their
wives and children.
Already the marriage rate has been
cut down enormously because men can
not afford to marry. It will go lower;
still unless we break away from the silly j
old convention that the only respectable 1
way in Which a woman run hnln h.r hum- i
band is by being a domestic servant to
him.
Hundreds of thousands of young girls
are fitting themselves to fill iX)d paying
situations in ths commercial world.. They
want to marry and they want chlldi-en,
hut the only way In which they can do
this is by keeping on with their Jobs
after they are innrried, and helping to
support ss wall as create a family. To
forbid this is to doom them to oelibacy
or childlessness.
That a man Is r.st able to rooks
enough money to support a wife sd chil
dren in idleness and luxury does not
nooeasarily indicate that he Is unfit to
bo a huoband and father. Some of the
finest, noblest, most Intellectual men !n
tho world lack the talent for moncv
grubbing. These men have brains and
brawn and high Ideals to bequeath to
to their children and It will be a dis
tinct loss to society If they are doomed
to remain childless because they can't
alone and unaided support a family.
1 Jim for a woman continuing at work
after she is married and after she has
children, doubtless that la also a problem
that will solve itself when we reach It.
Possibly the advantages of mother doing
everything with her own heand for her
own child Is as much of a myth as the
superiority of mother's bread, which we
have found is not half as good or whole
some as the baker's.
At any rate, most women have mothers
or other female relatives who are amply
able to care for a child competently,
and such things exist as trained nurses
and kindergartens and Creeches. Also,
the average professional woman would
not be away from her child more hours
a day than the ordinary mother Is
away from hers In shopping and going
to clubs and bridge whist parties and
matinees.
The added comfort in living and the
advantages that the wage-earning
mother could give her children must
likewise be taken into consideration.
Certainly of two evils it Is better that
the mother should continue In her pro
fession than that the children should be
tent into the factory.
Modern economlo conditions have
-ught strange new problems for us
t solve, and none of them is more
vital than this question of whether a
woman must choose between mother
hood and ber Jeu.
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Ily JANE M'LEAX.
You've heard of roguish lips and eyes, In every lino there is a lur
Of dimpled smiles that hypnotize,
Of maid's device hearts to entrap
Behold the picturesque Dutch cap.
It suits a smile or face demure;
And, fashioned of a bit of lace,
It adds a charm to any face.
So, would you add to features fair
A charm to make a man beware;
The newest thing in Fashion's wiles
Just make your own and lead tho styles.
Boy and Girl Love Affairs
By BEATRICE FAIRFAX.
"In spring the young man's fancy
lightly turns to thoughts of love." And
in the springtime of life fancy turns with
more and more lightness to thoughts of
love. But 'this young love is like tender
springtime flowers like the anemone and
the arbutus In that It does not wear well.
Several letters have come from very,
very young lovers asking for advice.
"Discouraged" writes that he is 19 years
old and very much in love with a girl of
17 years who refuses to take his love
seriously.
And she is quite right, for five years
from now when he Is coming to man's
estate he may want In a wife far dif
ferent qualities from those that not at
tract him in childhood sweetheart.
M. P. Is 15 years old and declares her
self "madly in love" with a lad of 20
years. "Anxious" says that her 20-year-old
beloved is very cordial when she sees
him, but that she fears he forgets her
very existence as soon as she Is out of
his presence. She adds, "I suppose he
thinks I am a child not worthy of his
thoughts, but I have no peace for think
ing of him. What shall I do?"
M. E. A. r. writes to know if It would
be right to elope with her 18-year-old
lover, since her mother thinks that 16
years is too young for marriage.
In each and every case the same rule
applies. What shall you do, my dear
boys and girls? Study, work, fill your
minds so full of activity and ambition
that love will tako a secondary place un
til ycu are old enough to understand what
love really Is.
What you are craving now Is excite
ment and emotion. You are at a period
of growth when you are changing In
every way. What you care most for
now will probably not appeal to you two
years or one year or perhaps six months
f ron now. . - . .. .-..
Do the things you enjoyed most two
years ago seem -ery worth while now?
Wouldn't you hate to be doomed to
spend the rest of your life with the boy
you admired five years ago when he lot
you have a bite of his red apple at re
cess? The 17-year-old girl who refuses to take
her boy lover seriously Is wise. Ro Is
the lad who Is polite to Miss Fifteen
when he sees her, hut devotes himself to
foot ball, or rowing, or history, or bus
iness, or whatever wholesome interest in
life and progress he is following when
ever she Is not around to challenge his
admiration.
Ilttle Miss Fifteen, what do you know
about the business of being a wife? Can
you keep house, cook, mend, sweep,
bring up a family, soqthe a tired man
when he comes home from work at night
and think unselfishly of the happiness or
those who depend upon the woman of the
household? Or do you think marriage
means someone to make love to you,
buy you clothes and escort you to
dances?
Devote yourself to the serious problem
of growing up to be a fine, sane, capable
woman. Then you will attract love, for
it wll) be your due.
The mother who thinks 16 is too young
for marriage has experienced marriage
and loves her daughter too well to let
her go Into it unprepared.
Boys and girls In their teens should
not go a-sweetheartlng. They should try
being friends and should save up ro
mance for a time when they have ma
tured enough to get the full flavor of It
Don't mortgage your mature love to a
passing fancy of your youth. If your
boyhood love lasts for three or four
years, then you are safe to trust It for
a lifetime. Marry your child sweetheart.
But test your youthful love before you
risk your whole future on It.
Advice to Lovelorn f
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Ton Most Hare a f'hnpexnsi.
Pear Wins Fairfax: I was IK last Jme.
and I was keeping company with a young
man two months. There is a two days'
excursion going to Washington by train
and he aske.l ine If t would like to K.
Do you think it would be proper for mo
to go with him, or must I hsve a chap
eron? HAZBL. M.
Tou must not dream of taking this
overnight trip without a chaperon. It
would do great harm to your reputation,
to say the least, and It would undoubtedly
cause you to forfeit ths respect of the
man you accompanied.
Sosceattons for a Party.
Dear Miss Fairfax: I am a young lady
of 18, and go out a good deal. 1 would
like to have the young folks come to my
house, but do not know how to entertain
them, as I haven't a piano. Would you
kindly advise me how I could give my
guests a good time?
. ANXIOUS.
Why not hire a Vlctrola with a number
of records and allow your guests to dance
Informally and to listen to the selec
tions To vary the evening have a pea
nut hunt or a spider web with the threads
leading all over the house and ending
with a young man and young woman at
opposite ends of the various strings, and
one prise for a partnerless young woman
and the same for a young man who after
ward will console her.
Economy and Thritt in the Home
By MRS. FRANK LEARNED. .
Thrift and economy are of serious Im
portance In the dsys when Incomes are
uncertain and wage-earning Is a problem.
Psrt of the education of every woman. In
times gone by, was to be skilful In needle
work. It Is to be regretted that modern girls
have not been taught sewing, as a rule.
Hut this old-fashioned accomplishment is
becoming a new-faahlened one. Olrls
and women are taking It up In earnest.
The girl who understands how to plan,
cut and make her own gowns, or how to
make them over, learns how to be self
reliant. Independent and how to save
money.
She can take pleasure In making a
waist or a gown for her mother or sister.
She msy learn how to be an Instructor
In sewing. If she has talent and business
ability she may, with careful training,
start a smsll business of her own.
All varieties of hand and machine sew
ing are taught, ss well as methods of
drafting, cutting and fitting. Hygienic
rules as to the position of the body when
sewing, the correct way to sit as regards
light, sre explained.
From the preliminary mysteries of
systematls sowing the student advances
to the study of all the details of dress
making. A girl who has not taken the
school course In sewing may prove her
ability to erter the dressmaking class by
presenting for examination a garment
made by herself and passing entrance
examination.
Olrls of 17 years old may enter the
trade sowing or dressmaking classes,
girls of IS years old are eligible for the
simpler course of home dressmaking.
A student has the opportunity to make
two gowns for herself during the term.
The material she supplies herself, with
the approval of the Instructor. The per
sonal Interest thus given In making
dressne for herself Is stimulating to a
pupil. ,
The aim throughout the course ef
study Is that students shall acquire skill,
develop Initiative and ambition and learn
a sense of responsibility and have a
broadened view of the general Industrial
conditions in) the community.
Whether a girl Intends to use her train
ing In a s(olal branch of work, or for
her own peraonal education, she wilt have
learned system, perseverenoe and accutv.
acy. Her faculties for observation and
her Inventive and artistic sense will have
been developed. She will have the power
to be of use to herself and to others, and
will be more Interesting from having cul
tivated her talents.
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The following Omaha and Council
Bluffs dealers carry complete lines
of Victor Victrolas, and all the late
Victor Records as fast as issued.
You are cordially invited to inspect
the stocks at any of these establishments.
chmoDer & Medler
PIANO COMPANY
1311-1313 Farnam St Omaha, Neb.
Victor Department on Main Floor
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The Fox Trot and all
the other new dances all
played loud and clear and
in perfect time.
There are Victors and
Victrolas in great variety
of styles from $10 to $200
at all Victor dealers.
Victor Talking Machine Co.
Camden, N. J.
Branch at
334 BROADWAY
Council Bluffs
Corner 15th and Ptt tII P
Harney, Omaha. OfM5
Geo. E. Mlckel. Mgr. (J v
Victrolas Sold by
A. HOSPE CO.,
1513-15 Douglas Street. Omaha, and
407 West Broadway, - Council Bluffs, la.
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Iraileis Stores
Talking Machine Department
in tho Pompeian Room
Mr. and Mrs.
Vernon Cattle,
teachers and
greatest expo
nents of the
modern dances,
use tho Victor
exclusively and
superintend the
making of their
Victor Dance
Records.
Mr. ne1 Mrs.
Verooa Castas
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