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Worry as a Wrinkle Maker
Charming YA Ferguson Thinks Modern Womrn DelUMrately Kacriflre Their Beauty
By ELSIE FERGUSON.
(Tho Brcutiful Star Now Playing la
"Outcast.")
What U beauty without success and a
instant feeling that one la of ur In the
world? After all. life ia what we make
II, and worth cornea essentially from
within, but It la what we take from our
environment that really makea the big
are at difference. Women of today are for
getting that of all thing In the world
that ahouid be lightly put aside, the little
thin, the petty wort-lea, are the troubles
that ahouid he dealt with aa trivial mat
ter, and of course theae are Juat the
very things nat must be greatly exag
gerated. Modern women arc e'ly and fretful;
they have the countless tiny wrlnklea of
worrlea that might have been avoided
engraved upon their countenances. They
are email In their conception of life, the
bigger finer possibilities have no Interest
for them. They fritter their Uvea and
their looks away In a vain worry about
things that freiuently never happen at
all. and In consequence miss the oppor
tunity to recognise worth of any kind In
other people.
We have heard of people who have ao
small an opinion of themselves that they
cannot conceive of anything noble In an
other. Many women of today are that
way; they Judge everybody by the nar
row standard they have laid out for them
aelves, and It la really not ; their fault
when after a time la becomca ImpoflMlble
for them to see beyond a certain limit
I don't think that people' realize bow
much harm a thing like thla can mean
to people at large. Kvcrybody auffers
from It, and Ihla email conception of
life la much more prevalent among women .
than among men.
Ona runs up agalnat women of this type
everywhere. They come to the theater
expecting to be amuaed: they never taka
Into account the fact that the actor or .
aetreas upon the stage haa a certain
amount of nervoua strain, and that many
of us do our beat work when we are -cure
In the knowledge that we have a
sympathetic audience. Instead, they coma
and sit In the rnnt rows and boxes arfil
make almost audible comments on what
Is going on. I say that there should be
oo-oporation; the world of women should
be run on thla baala: women ahouid be
leas petty, less self-centered, mora self
eenlrollod, as most of our men are.
TT.are are countless women made un
happy simply through the selfishness of
Anr women who will not stop to think;
(hart, ars .hundreds of women today ruin
ing net only their chances of happiness)
but thslr chances of good looks.' Thera
should be a balance, so that every person
way have a fair chance, a word of en
sewragemant occasionally, rather than a
feeling that thera Is no room on the earth
fes any say the wealthy and Influential.
Tad Is a Cynic
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He admired Nell Itrlnklcy's beautiful picture. But, he says,
sending in thin:
"The Brinkley picture, for the protection of men, should be ;
followed up. This is the follow up." i
More Horse Sense and Some Success
By ELBERT HUUB1RD.
Sophistication in Women
V
u By DOROTHY BIX.
.' It general thing1, the sophisticated
a-ttAM appeals to a man as more enjoy
HUi r,s a eompa'nton than deetrable as a
1 if 4, 1"k overage man's Ideal of woman
n still Ovs before she ate the apple, not
(;! tive who re
frain- from eating
appWa because tho
fruit Is bad ' for
tlioir digestions.'
T h e r eupon tho
avrate man mar-'
r:cs a, young girl
during' ' her first
a an in society, '
firmly convinced
that because he Is
the first and only
man who has ever
made lovo to her
tie will bo the last
and only. This de
jane a on ctrcum
tUnea. The girl
ri' be auffiolently
in love wuh him to
liever crave the
admiration of any other man. or she
may be so situated ao to be rut off from
It, "and so safe, out the path to tho
divorce court Is kept hot by wives who
were married when they were mere
t httdren. and before they found out how
intoxicating Is the draught of flattery
and admiration and love-making that
man offers to woman's lips.
If a woman acquires a taste for this
after marriage, Ood help her huaband.
for there Is no euro for the married flirt.
Kho may not be a bad woman, or an
uetually Immoral one, but her craving
for admiration la Ilka the hunger for
upturn. It grows by what it feeds on. and
there Is no limit to the depth of imbecility
Into which It leads Its vie U ins.
If yon will trsce Wk the stories of
the Infidelity of wives half of tho time
you will find that the woman was tnar
rled when she was very young, before sho
had experienced the thrilling delight of
Utentng to a man's vows . of desthess
devotion, or had known tbe subtle sense
La.Grippe and Colds
I : aQiippe and Colds, AnU-kamnla(A K
faoleia are uneioelled, aa they stop the
palne, aooire the nerves, and bring the real
ao areatly needed by nature to re mora the
yalem to health. ibyelclaiis bare used,
thete tablets lor oyer twenty years, la tbe
treatment of eolda, levers and la grippe, and
have found no other remedy more uaetul In
tueae conditions. AcU-kamnla Tablets aro
so Inexpensive, sc pleasant to take, ao sat-
lafsotory in tfcelr results, and so useful la sit
fioumuoui where there is pain, that A-VL
I unlets abould always bs kept In tbe home
lor tbe time ot need, alaoy of our ablecs
pay aiclans obtain perfect reaulla In la grlppo
sad eolda, by cleaualng the ay ateu wlib
lorn salts cr "Actolda". a very good cathar-
t.'o. put tin tbe patient on a limited diet, au4
eluiUuoUTiug on A-it tablet every two it
three hours. It is treatment will usually
breaJt up tns wurst case In a day or two.
wtiUe in liiildt-r euea, ease and coinlurt iul
low aauol tiumtiat!y, 1'heae tablets are
alto uuoKceUed lor Janaraasia, Khaumstla
S-aSna, 1 he tlin of Women, lortlg,uoa
sud liisoiuuta. All druaslaui have Uieaa.
CmkJm A-K tmkUf tW (AS fX ssar,
of power with which a woman flnda out .
that sho can sway men by her beauty of
her charm. Few hunbanda ever make
love to their wives, and so It la the
woman's natural denlre for this court
ship and this adulation that alio has
missed - that leads her Into seeking It
away from home and in forbidden patha.
For otherwlae la It with the womun who
has been a hello before her marriage.
Bhe has had her fill of admiration from
men, and It poaaesacs none of tho charm
of novelty to her. Bhe haa heard the
verb of love conjugated In all Its moods
and tenses until It is ss wearla'ime aa a
school exercise. Bhe has played at the
game of flirtation until It has palled upon
her, and as a married woman she would
he more think of finding amusement In
carrying on a surreptitious love affair
, than a Padercwekl would think of grind
ing out ragxime irom a uurni urivn.
Another mistake that men make Is In
thinking that the beat way to aaaure
themselves of getting a domestic wife ts
to marry a woman who has never been
In society. Men marry to get a home far
oftener than women do. The oily man.
at least, aeldom commits matrimony until
he Is utterly weary of the deadly round
ol social g a yet tea. The mere thought ot
being dragged about in a wife's wake to
balls, and parties, and first nights fills
him. with such terror that he feels his
only safety lies In marrying some woman
who knows nothing of them. .
Never was a more fatal error. There
la no other woman In the world who Is
so absolutely crasy for every form ot
amusement as the woman who has never
known any gayety, and who all ot her
life has been starving for it. She Is Ilk
a man dying of thirst, who Is suddenly
plunged Into a river where he can steep
himself to the Hps. l'erhsps ahe haa
never been to a ball before, and the In
toxication of dancing becomes a frenay
with her that makes her mad to go to
every party to which shs Is Invited. Per
haps shs has never been to a restaursnt
before; and the golden streets of the new
Jerusalem do not appAr so desirable to
her eyes as to eat In a gilded publlo
dining room.
Here, too, it Is the woman who has
had who la the safe matrimonial chanua
for a man. The girl who haa been in
society all her .life, who has been to
parties and ball and theaters until
they have lost all their charm of novelty
la glad enough to settle down to domes
ticity, and to find her pleasure inside of
her home Instead of without It. To the
girl who knows her Europe as aha does
her native town, every excursion does
not offer a temptation, having seen the
best ths stage affords, she does not yearn
to see every gllly play that Is put oo the
boards; having wearied of balls and
parties, shs Is glad to turn from them to
the abiding pleasures of old books and
old friends.
Pretty much tho same rule will be
found to apply to women anl economy.
Moat men are afraid to marry a girl who
has been raised rich, lest she ha extrava
gant, and thera Is a theory that If a
inaa wants a saving and helpful wlfs
he should marry a poor girl, tulte tha
reveres of this Is generally true. To the
selves
tare."
find that when
J go Into partner
ship with a good
horse I keep my
nerves from get
ting outside of my
clothes.
A horse helps
you to "forget it."
r 11 1 whn Vina nav V..H mnx,' - A horse has nO
To take care of myself, and then pro
duce a little surplus for the benefit ot
tho world Is my ambition.
"We are strong," says Emerson, "only
aa we ally our-
with na-f
Men Usually Marry Girls Free from Admiration from
Other Men, and Acquire It's Taste After Marriage
all to spend ths 13,000 or t.1.000 that her
hunband earns seems as unending as the
wealth ot a Rockefeller, and she Is gen
erally reekleHs In throwing It away,
whereas to the girl . who has been ueed
to thouaan'.s limtead ot hundreds the
husband's small" Income soeins ao "little
that ahe feels that she must save every
cent. .....
lit ths and the question of a choice be
Iween the girl who has had the things
shs dealrnd and the girl who has never
had Ihom narrows Itself down to the old
one of human experience, and ths reason
that men make so many mistakes In de
filling this Important question Is because
they have never yt loarned that a
woman Is a human being.
troubles of his
own. He does not
pour Into your ear
a sad tale of woe.
Says Walt Whit
man: "I think I
could turn and
live with animals."
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I have ridden horseback almost daily
for the last forty yeara. And I enjoy
horseback riding today more than ever
before.
I have never been sick a day in my
life; and I have never lost a meal ex
cept through Inability of access.
Any man who keeos his strength sid
good cheer in this country will never be
out of a Job. And of work I have always
had plenty. ..... ,
God certainly has been good, to .me, I
think I have had as much fun and as
many laughs as any man of my years in
the wide world.
I know what pleasure is, for I have
done good work," said Robert Louis
Stevenson, the well beloved.
One of tho principal reasons why I have
been able to do good work is because I
havH nlways kept n close, churmiy,
terms 'with at least one good horse.
Alfred RusscI Wallaco says that civili
sation had its rise In the domestication
of animals; that where men domesticated
the horse, the ox, the camel, the elephant,
civilisation thrived and men evolved; but
that in countries where man had nothing
In the way of domestic animals-except a
tamo wolf that Is. tha dog there, was no
evolution. ' ,y
The centaur, that fabled combination of
a man and a horse, had Its rise In tho
dim ages when man first tamed a wild
horse. ...
Home boobfor boobs have . always
abounded saw a man on horseback, and
he was so amased that he told the whole
boob family that he seen a man with the
body of a horse, And,, being boobs, they
believed it. .',"-, ' '
A man on horseback was ' JJretty nearly
invincible, until the. invention: of gun
towder; and the first use-of gunpowder
was to scare horses. The Idea oMh ex
plosion heaving a rock of an Iron 'ball
was' a later Ides.:" 'V "'"I-S'-X
My opinion now Is that If we are going horse was Leonardo da Vinci.
to reserve our vigor,, our courage, our en
joyment, we will have to be on good terms
with Mother Earth and close up to equus
caballus.
The two greatest men the world has
ever seen were horsemen, both. Aristotle
was the - world's first schoolmaster and
the world's first scientist. He taught
school out of doors, and all of his pupils
were taught to ride horBcback.
Aristotle was the tutor of Alexander the
Oreat. He taught Alexander to ride the
wild horse Bucephalus, and Aristotle sat
on the top rail of the corral and watched
his pupil turn tha trick.
Aristotle wrote a book of a thousand
pages on the horse. He said all there
was to say on the subject, and no man
can ever write at length, about the horse
without quoting? Aristotle. "
Aristotle dissected the dead body of the
horse. He, then fastened the skeleton to
gether, preserving all of Its articulations.
The native villagers stood around and
watched him; and when the skeleton was
,all fastened together with the aid of
thongs the villagers chuckled and gur
gled In glee and said: "Wo knew they
could never do .it".-...
The merry villagers thought that Aris
totle and Alexander were endeavoring to
make a horse, and they were overjoyed
to see that Aristotle was unable to clothe
the bones with flesh, put the akin on the
horse, saddle him and ride him down tho
street. That was one on Aristotle.
The next man to write a book on the
How to Make a Man Feel Happy
The Devil-in Fatherly Disguise
Among other things Leonardo did wns
to paint a picture of his lady' love,, the
Mona Lisa, which picture was stolen
from tho Louvre. Leonardo got the
trifling sum of 180,000 for the picture. It
Is now worth a million. ,
But tho fellow who stole It offered It
for 1100 and got "pinched" for attempt
ing to sell a "snide" painting.
Leonardo attributed much of his bub
bling, perennial Joy In life to his close
association with tho horse. He was a
horseback rider from childhood until his
eighty-fourth year, when death, .through
accident claimed him, and he went out
with a smile and a wave of the hand,
first Intimating, with broken breath, that
If there were no horRoi In paradise ho
did not care to go there.
Some one asked Henry Thoreau what
he did when he wanted to turn his canoe,
and Henry replied:
"I Just carry the Idea In my mind that
I wish to turn, and the canoe goes Just
where I want It to."
Tho fellow tried the trick and, very
naturally, upset in some very damp water
-this because ho did not have the canoe
instinct
Any man with the horse Instinct soon
comes to a perfect understanding with
one of these high-bred horses, and the
horse knows where to go and how fast.
It Ib a great thing io feel that you are
bigger than the elements. And a horse
of the ligh kind helps you to hypnotize
yourself into the belief that you are part
of all you see and hear and feel.
No man can have melancholia who
loves, a. horse, and is. .understood by one.
Vpu shake off your troubles and send
your cares flying. Into the wanton winds
when you ride horseback. - ,
- By LAURA KINGSTON.
. Woman's natural mission In thla world
la to make one 'or more men happy. In
this she generally defeats her object
because she does not understand that
man Is naturally a happy animal, who
only becomes unhappy when he feels that
some one is doing their utmost to make
him happy. - - ; .
He wants to be left alone. That Is all.
There are few women who are naturally
competent ' to make a man happy. The
average girl who gets married Is about
as fit to be trusted with the car of a
husband as the care of a giraffe.
That is why the first year or so of
married life la so trying to those con
cerned. .
On the face of them the wife's loving
Inquiries and advice are perfectly harm'
leas, and even calculated to send the man
Into the seventh heaven of delight to
think ' that there should be anyone la
the world to care so much about his un
worthy person as to worry so much con
cerning the details of his clothing.
. Women who are learned In the handling
of men never dream ot reminding him
several tlmea that dinner la on the table
when he la absorbed In soma work or oc
cupation. lie may be, planning out a vast business
scheme, or he may be merely painting his
dog kennel. In either case he will prefer
to eat his dinner cold rather tha Inter
rupt his work.
Mr. Punch's advice. "Feed the brut,1
Is good, but there is nothing that takes
awsy tha appetite of the average ma a
more than worrying him aa to what h
would lik for dinner. To know what he
la going to eat roba bis dinner of all Us
novelty and halt Its charm.
Like the warriors, sniffing tha battle
from afar, hungry man likas to gueas
from tha delightful aromas and spicy
galea that reach his Inquiring noee from
the kitchen, what he la going to eat to
day. It Is wall for housekeepers to preserve
an air ot mystery untU the cover Is lifted
from the dish with a conjurer's flourish.
Then If th roaa had goassed boiled rab
bit and tftgeovers Irish stew he halla the I .'. , gy BEATRICE FAIRFAX. :
Irish stew a a novelty. . . ' '' ' ,. , , -, t
It he has guessed rabbit and the lifted, " ,, Z1 Z '
, .. . . . , . . privileged to impress on the brains of my
cover reveals that his surmise has been . . " " , ' . . ... . . .. .
. , -.. , . ,.,w , girls that would be Indelible to the end
correct, he Is equally -pleased with him- " ... . . . ... . j
self and with hi. dinner, of, ,m- 11 'd th,"i . , . .
Never tell man that a certain - article . "Beware of the wan who say. hi. ln
of food I. "delldou.." He Is a shy anl- teBt ' yu arty.
mal and will, at once regard the dish , Tha "fatherly Interest ' is the devil .
1. ii ..... . , favorite and most effective weapon. Ho
a sa teas jiv sviif vu w saiga, ttiai , j . a a xj
trying to work off on him some item
of the pantry which has been hanging
fir for a week. ......
Then he will probably elect to make his
meal off bread and cheese, and you
(young housekeeper that you are) will
retire to the pantry, to weep salt tears
over your rejected dainty.
Above all things, beware of tidying. a
man's personal belongings, and more,
especially his papers for the duster has'
ruined the happiness ot as many homea
as drink.
terest ' In her was ' brotherly, she would
doubt the ' sincerity of his motives, for
brothers, alas,' are selfish and make their
own interests paramount to the welfare
of a slater.
But father never did. -From the time
a girl .could, toddle her recollection haa
always been of a father's arm held open
to shield her from every harm and to
catch her. If . she fell. . Father was al
ways good, always patient always self-
(denying, always kind and she is predls-
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women's Ideas, but there Is method in '
his madness and order In the chaoa of
articles that litter his tables. I
Leave his belongtngs In a heap, as he
has left them, and he will be able ' to
wife, and sometlmes.erivi.es the woman
so fortunate as to hav such a .perfect
being for her husband.', She- Is poisoned
so slowly she does. "hot. kno'wjwhen the
first dose was taken, nor when the. first
dose was given, nor 'how much she has
taken, and can't -recall .afterward Just
when or how she learned' that the wife is
"cold and unappreclatlv.e." and that the
man Is lonely for the companionship of
one who "understands' him." " "
The sentiment of pity is awakened In
her breast; she finds; she loves him, and
learns through his teaching that the dlf
ference In their years and the existence
of a wife count as nothing where two
congenial sot'ls meet. -' , .
What happens later need .not be re
lated further than that It causes the devil
to laugh. He has used again his favorite
weapon of "fatherly interest" and found
It still keen and sharp.
lay his hand at once upon any single
article he requires.
Tidy him up and he is lost.
Above at) thlnga, beware ot disposing
of his old clothes and his old pipes.
Just as a woman loves new clothes and
Jewels, a man clings to ths old raiment
which has shaped itself to his form, and
tha pipes which have sweetened in his
service. An old coat which haa worn
through at tbe elbows, a pair of slippers
which ara yawning at the toes for very
plicit trust in any man who asks to tem
porarily take his place.
Every man of ..years knows thla Th
j fact that he has daughters seldom mili
l tates agalnBt his designs on the peace
j and good. name ot a girl who Is father
less. He, Is the h,unter and she Is the
prey. Bewildered, not knowing whom to
trust, nor which way to turn, she feels
like a wanderer In. sight of home when
come smooth-voiced old man calls to
her, "Let me be a father to you, my
dear," and she flies straightway to his
embraces. t
It Is the "fatherly" Interest th em
ployer shows to a girl in his etrlploy
that is responsible for 60 per cent ot the
weariness, and a straw hat which has ! t'rie wtl wrong.
parted at the crown and at ths brim are i Sh h" ben warned against young
often esteemed by a mww-abo & rubies m" 'l her out n0 ev,r tol(1 ner
and pearls. They are to his body what that men were worse. She doubts the
an easy conscience Is to his souL I iord of a young man: she believes lin-
All young wives who are entrusted ' PHcltly the word of the man whose hair
with th happiness of a husband, will ; ! turning gray. In. her relations with
ao well to remember, when they are ', him she regards herself as a child, and
tempted to exchange their husband's old I htm aa a dear old man,, and pours out
raiment for an enticing pot of ferns, that to him all her worries and trouble, aad
old story of the princeas who exchanged Is guided by him in all ahe does and
Aladdin's wonderful .lamp for a cheap, saya.
sparkling, specious hew burner, , . sh vetnajubars at drat that h has a
Advice to the Lovelorn
By BEATRICE FAIRFAX.
Tel Htna What Haa Happened.
Dear Mlas Fairfax. Four or five
months ago a young man, with whom I
have been going for tne last twelve years.
left the city on a business trip, and ho
ler he left he told me to look after hts
srlrl friend that la take ner out, etc-
ehe wouldn't be lonesome. 1 have done
thla not wlaely, but too well, and the
consequences are that a mutual affection
haa eprung up between us.
My friend Is now giving up his posi
tion on the road, and I am at a loss aa
to what course to pursue. If I go out
with the Ctrl I will loae a friendship of
twelve years' standing. If I act other
wise It will be unfair to all concerned.
READKK.
Th only course for you to pursue is
that of entire honesty. Tslk the matter
over with your friend tell him of the
love you have come to feel for the girl
he trusted to your care and that you feel
that ah should b given the opportunity
of choosing th man for whom she really
cares. It your friend la a manly fellow.
I think thla course will save th friend
ship of lone years' standing.
I have ridden horses since I wore
trousers buttoned to n calico waist
In my childhood I .r.oqld go out to the
bam In the night - and flndt. saddle and
bridle anyf particular v horse that my
father wanted.'-, ' '.
My 'father was. a1 country 'doctor and
used to - ride.'iriuchv nights. , Sometimes I
rbde' with 'him first ochtnd horn, then in
front of him and then . I got a horse of
my own. ' . ,
The other day a man came along here
from New York City r.nd aaked All Babl
this question: "Is Mr,' Hubbard giving
many , lectures this year?"
And the old. man replied. "Good Lord!
How can he go off giving lectures? Don't
you know that his best saddle mare has
a colt 7
And It Is so I have to stay home and
look afur the baby.
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Kccp tho nanda
coftyandgwhite
The soothing, healing Resinot
balsams in Reeiaol Soap, ootnbinad
with its freedom from harsh, irri
tating alkali, giY to red, roach
hands that whiteness and Tehretj
softne&a for which women yearn.
Hands washed only with Reainoi
Soap are usually hands to be proal
of. Try it for a week aod see.
Wish- ilSuaals said ar al anl is aa
Wajrwwaaa0a.