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TJW Reasons Why Majority of
Married Men Will Flirt
By DOHOTHY I!..
A man who knows mankind ,and the
world well, writes:
"I know, from observation and experi
ence that the vat majority of married
men will not hesitate
to flirt, or even enter
Into a closer relation
with any comely
woman who fives
t h m en eourase
ment, and this des
pite the fart that
they love their
jvlvce.
' "I know that many
good men aro di
vorced on statutory
grounds while still
loving their wives.
Rut a good woman,
married to a man
she loves, will re
main faithful to him
and never even
think of anpther
man with unlawful
thoughts, A good man, on the contrary,
will 'site up' every pretty and attractive
woman he sees with undisguised ad
miration, and will often enter Into an
Affair with her, taking a chance of being
found out, even though he knows the dis
covery may break up his home and ruin
his life.
"What Is the 'why of this difference
between the sexes?"
I think that there are three answers to
thin question.
The first Is sentimental.
No man ever loves a woman with the
complete and absorbing passion with
which a woman loves a man. No woman
ever takes possession of the heart and
soul and imagination of a man as a man
often does of a woman. No wife Is
ever literally all the world to her hus
band, as many a man is the whole uni
verse to his wife.
There are plenty of women who never
think a single thought tliat does not cen
ter around their husbands; who begin
every sentence with "John says," and
who have not an Interest, an aspiration
or an Idea that does not focus on him.
There are no such men. Even the most
devoted husband must think about his
business and Ms ambitions.
He dare not bore other men talking
about his wlfo as she bores other women
talking about' her husband. He has
amusement and Interests In which she
has no part. All the circumstances of
life tend to concentrate a woman's gase
on her hUBband, while his eyes are left
free to roam.
T begin with, then, men are less faith
ful to their wives than their wives are to
them because they are less capable of a
luprcme devotion; and also, to be per
fectly truthful, because they sre more
subjected to temptation.
The second reason why men who really
love their wives are still ever ready to
follow any fluttering petticoat, however
great the risk, is, as William Dean
Howells once aptly said. "Because, after
6,000 years of civilisation, men are still
imperfectly monogomous."
No woman is unfaithful to her hus
band as long iik she has one particle of
affection for him in her heart. When
she breaks her marriage vow there is
treachery In her soul against her hus
hand: but a man may be faithless in the
flesh to his wife, and yet hold her In his
heart as in a rhrlne, and be strain ng
every nerve and muscle to surround her
safe and sheltered from the hardships of
life.
In n way, wemen do sense this dimly.
That is why they forgive so often when
their husbands stray off of the straight
and narrow path, and why they shut
their eyes to so many things that they
do not want to see. As long as a man Is
kind and tender to his wife and agree
able at home, his wife recognises that
he is true to her in spirit. however his
feet may wander, and she seldom feels
called upon to take her troubles to the
divorce court.
The third reason why men are less
faithful to thlr wives than their wive
are to them may be found in the simple
fact that wives condone their husbands'
Immorality, while husbands do not con
done their wives. Men have done their
moral duty by women far better than
women have done their moral duty by
men. A girl knows that before a man
marries her he Is going to look Into her
record, and that It must be spotless, or
he will not have her for his wife. A
wife know that she must walk as
straight as a string, else her husband
will divorce her and take her children
from her. Therefore women as a sex are
virtuous.
On the other hand, no girl dares look
Into her prospective husband's record.
Few wives but find it the part of wisdom
to be blind, and convention permits a
man to indulgo his Impulses unrebuked
and do the things that he would divorce
and disgrace his wife for doing.
What Is the remedy for this? Almighty
wisdom alone knows. The growing num
ber of self-supporting women Is going to
help some, because the' woman who -does
not need to marry for a home can afford
to be much more particular about the
morals of a man she marries than oould
the girl to whom any sort of a husband
who has a meal ticket was a godsend.
Nor will the wife who has a good trade
to which she ran turn stand for the phil
andering on her. husband's part that the
helpless and rV pendent wife has had to
stand for the sake of food and shelter.
The real refrrm. however, rfnust come
among men themselves In their growing
sense of the sscredness of the marriage
relationship and of an equal loyalty be
tween the sexes, and tn the struggle of
the man himself to hold In leash the
brute that Is within him.
How to Make Friends
By ANN L1SLK.
Here to a little letter from "A Lonly
Girl." I think she voices the sorrow of
many many lonely girls from sea to sea
and from continent to continent. "I am
steadily employed In a department store.
Business acquaintances seem to like me,
but after business hours my ability I to
make friends seems to be lacking. This
makes tno feel blue. In fact, it makes mo
so Interfere with her efficiency as a
business woman.
. But docs she bring any of this same
warmth of manner, alert Interest and
tvldcnt desire to pleas into her dally
human social contracts?
Many girls ar afraid of being thought
'pushing," of forcing themselves where
they are not wanted and of making un
welcome advances to people who do not
care for them. Women have a way of
dreading to give more of friendship than
"a7-'th""u"'; they receive: They measure It off in
tesrs. I have tried reading to divert my ' ,
' being calculating when they are only
thoughts and to gain knowledge. But
whut I need la the knowledge to gain I
happiness and friendship.?
The ability to make friends cornea In
two ways: as a natural gift In the power
ihys
Bring warmth of manner to your social
life, little lonely girls. Never be afraid
of a fine. rare, magnetic personality that handc,aap of exprelng a dMlre to
makes Itself felt wherever It may be, or
as the result of honest effort to under
ttand people and to . be necessary to
them.
Now very often the magnetic person
meet again the people who attract you.
Be simple and natural In your manner.
Don't giggle and pom and try to create aa
; Impression of being something other than
i vnll r
who attracts easily has rot enough; Everyono 1ke() ,nteUgent response,
power to hold;-while, on the other hand. Evyon9 crave understanding. And
the fine, rare personality that would eVery p,r,onalJty i,vo, on a lltUa ,iand
be worthy of true friendship is too shy of ,oneneM ,nd ,on t0 iltcov
and modest to project Itself upon the ered
attention of those with whom It chances . gtudy tn p,. you mMtnot
to come In contact 'and analytically, but with warm human
What the little lonely girls need la the k,ng wUn a feellns tnat ,hty ar.
warmth of manner that will thaw the lco dlatU)Ctly woltn wh!e. oive then) to un
of "getting acquainted," and the loyal derBtanJ thBt you llko ,nera. Tel them
finesse and understanding that hold the you want to know them Wouldn't treat
affection It has attracted. I ment as cordlsl as this win your Inter-
"To have a friend," said a sage, "you st
must first be one." Tne golden rule for making friends Is
And that Is the simple first rule aa to ! aa simple aa this: Tr.at people with the
how to make friends. It applies alike to ,arm, warmth of human kindness and
holding and keeping.
The girl who Is liked by her business
acquaintances probably meets them on
the ground of common Interests. Mle Is
not thinking of herself and of I he Im
pression she Is making so much as of
the fact that there are certain r.'.attera
to 5 e discussed, arranged and adjusted
as well aa possible. ?he meets people with
a cordial spirit lest coldness or the fear
of seeming to canter to them keeps her
from making a favorable impression and
intercut and understanding that
would like them to how you.
you
"A Concealed Weapon"
By Nell Brinkley
Copyright. 1H, Intern'! News Serrlr.
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Nil-: W$ ' W$WV & A
Wary and determined bachelor-man, if you would keep the
smoking jacket of your splnsterhtiod, the pipe of your heart, your
lonely dinners, your gay, purple, city "even-time" when you may
gad about till your hunger for roving Is full-fed, your boast that
your rough terrier's head Is the only one that lies on your heart by
the fireside, your wildly ordered desk where there Is a place for
everything and It Is not In It, so there is one place you need not look,
your heart that pumps away even and true and never skips, or
races, or aches, or grows cold in your chest like a stone in sea water
(and that's what It does when the flat of Love closes on it); your
hesd, which Is level and doesn't go off Into making poetry at the
least Jog, your bowl of life that is filled with clear, still, common
place "Adam's ale" Instead of tempestuous, ruby wine, you who
treasure all thls don't think that you only fall Into the clutches of
Eroa when he comes out In his true colors, plays the part, waylays
you on a road that you knew was dangerous, and rifles you of your
peace! He doesn't always fly the "Jolly Roger" to show you he's
a pirate! He doesn't always bind a black rag across his eyes and
screw the cold ring of a pistol into your hair to show you what
you're fighting. And don't forget that a maid's limpid, blank, sweet
eyes never hint that here, this day you're looking Into 'em, Is your
last with your heart in one piece! For love stoops to hide about a
lady's skirt, to put bis double image In her eyes and maids, though
It's against the law, carry "concealed weapons!"
NELL BRINKLEY.
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Neutrality Does Not
Imply Timid Silence
By ELBERT IITBBUin.
About this time tho word "neutrality"
seems to be much In exldence.
It Is well to remember that there aro
three kinds of neutrality.
There Is the neutrality of thought, the
!;; of ex
pression and the
t utrulity of action.
For Instance, we
have spoken of the
violation of Bel
gium's neutrality.
And by this no one
ever had In mind
the thoughts or
opinions, spoken or
written. by the
people of Oermany.
France or England
concerning Belgulm.
The violation of
Belgium's neutral
ity could only pos
sibly proceed front
one thing, and that
was the Invasion of
the country by nn
armed force.
Thomas Jefferson once and forever ,
settled, aa far as America Is concerned.
the question of what constitutes treason.
Treason does not consist In what you
think, or what you say, or what you
write, or what you print.
Treason consists In taking up arms
against your country or In giving tangible
aid' to the enemy.
It Is right and proper that all of thn
people should be allowed to think for
themselves.
If for diplomatic reasons an editor does
not rare to express his full opinion, he
certainly Is not obllgid to.
It Is eminently right and proper that '
the people of America should have
thoughts concerning the war situation
In Europe. And thoughts of sane men and
wemen are bound to form in opinions.
Also It is cmlnentty right and proper
that the . people should express them
selves In reference to the situation.
When a newspaper or magaslna criti
cises either one aide or the other it la
not guilty of a breach of neutrality. A
violation of neutrality could only occur
when the editor proceeds to supply arms
to his favorite side or lead aa armed
force against the other.
Through the expression of our Ideas
and through mutual discussion we vill
arrive at the truth, If ever.
Eternal vigilance Is the price of lib
arty.
And it is the privilege as well aa the
duty of a tree people to mentally take
Bids In any great struggle.
Unless we have this privilege, liberty
is a by-word and freedom a pleasantry.
One reason especially why - we should
have full, free and open discussion of tho
war proposition In America is because
publlo opinion will finally, fix the ad
justment when this war is ended.
It will then be neoessary to establish,
new boundary lines, and power must
flow to those who will not misuse it
The interests of all the people involved
-f the women, the children, the old aa
well aa the strong and valiant must be
Conserved, preserved and protected as
much as possible against a reoccurrence
of this rightful tragedy.
If the Zeitgeist of the world decides
that militarism is a menace, then inter
national disarmament must come.
No such thing as a. world federation or
a United Ptsles of tlie World can ever
be brought about save through the free
and full and frank discussion by the peo
ple of all political problems.
Therefore we do well to allow every
one In America to state the case as he
sees It, without let or hindrance. '
This was the spirit or 1770. And 1776
really had Its rise In England In the
days of the Pitts, Edmund Burke and
Charles Fox.
The spirit of Benjamin Franklin, Bam
Adams, Thomas Jefferson, Thomas Palne,
John Randolph and Patrick Henry still
abides, and their souls go marching on.
Does Time Really Pass Away?
LOVE, HAIR AND MARRIAGE
By EDOAK L'JCIEN LARKIN.
Q A Insists that Irtir.ito time Itself
never passes away Th term 'pasaliig
the time" Is commonly used, but really
time always remains stationary, ii main
j tains that the tlmo pa.'jies away. Please
settle this dispute .ncorJIng to science.
From the beginning of romantic his-jli. L. G.
tory down to the present day, every I A. The first line of this article con
story of love has spoken of the maiden's tains the words. Man msy dls-over a
hair aa one of her chief charms. Fair! cause; not one la known at this time,
locks amply pay for the care und time All that science Is now able to do Is to
used In keeping them beautiful and tare watch by night and by day without
1. JI that I. neressarv for develon'njr 1 ceajtlng. and high-grado humans are now
and retaining hair beauty. In washing i doing this very thing each hour uf each
the hair it Is not advisable to use yer
makeshift but always use a preparation
made for shampooing only. You can en
Joy the best that Is known for about
three cents a shampoo by getting a park
age of canthrox from your druggist; dis
solve a teespoonful In a cup of hot water
m v,A rm i v hc.mrwsi fa rniK After ItS
use the hair dries rapidly with uniform ach will not asree wit all the others It
color. Dandruff, oxces. rtl and dirt are j Is not called a law but a theory,
dissolve.! and entirely diianpe.r. Your I A d'.scoverey must run fierce gantlet,
hair will be so fluffy that It will looked attacked on aJ sides, and by
in the laboratories around the
world watching the exact operation of
the lawa of nature.
Every law discovered Is Instantly given
to the world and recorded In books. Sev
eral hundrld rigid laws have been dis
covered. These are cam a,red with all of
the others in every oonceivable v. ay. If
much heavier than It is. Its luster and
softness will also delight you, while the
stimulated scalp gains the health which
Insure hair growth. Advertisement.
mathematics, before it can be printed In
the list of lawa With til of the research,
made by telescope, tele-camera, lale
peotrusoupe, blolometer, thermopile, their
momcter, pyrometer, ultra-ultra, muho
scopes. ultra-micro-photography, photo
graphing the Invisible. Roentgen ray
analisla, researches In ladlaiit. energy,
and higher researches within th inlnJ
maze, laws have been dtrcovtred; but aa
yet no hint, suggestion, or trace nf any
cause has been detected
My own pet theory that I am row ad
vocating throughout the world is that
mind Is the only causo In existence. I
cannot prove it to others, hence I am
careful not to suy Unit it Is a luw that
mind is the sole causo. Personally, the
theory to me Is so flrn.ly Ingrained into
my being that It comes near to King a
law.
But I was reading a treatise on the
differential calculus ,u.- the calculus of
variations, and the author was e.xpluln-
! Ing the set of lawa of variations and
rates of change, and values o! Infln
I itestmal differences of consecutive status
of moving entities. Ho was within a
' wilderness nf changing things In nature.
Suddenly this mighty sei tenoe appeared:
"Time la the only constant."
A thunderbolt from tluo sky could not
have startled roe more.
But the author did not say a word aa
to what time la. lie was certain that he
did not know. The meaning of the word
time Is u sensut on due to the dotation or
the earth on Its axis r.nd to Its revolu
tion around thnteun. Should both motions
stop, we would Ve without anything to
detect time.
Msny curious essays have been written
on tliia obscuru subject. Thus men could
make clocks with murks u round the
dial arrl start th') l.emltiluin. Hut the
muttons of the hands would not corres
pond with anything In nature.
I cannot answer Mr. It. U U. I do not
I. now what time or any other entity is.
He will have to send this question to a
l.lKli-halurlt J metaihy!cln, not a sc.cn
tlflo man. For If that great writer on
tulculus did not know, who is able to
rise and explain? iiut the calculus may
yet discover a caure for It Is now known
to be Infinite.
Well Itecoroinendrd.
The wife of a wealthy manufacturer
had occasion to call In the help of a new
l.onr polisher.
"Io you understand your business thor
oughly ?"
"All I ask, iniidam, Is that you shall
lnuulre fur yourself at my last sil na
tion. On the floor of the large drawliiK
room alone fite persons broke their
limlis during the winter, artd a lady
slipped down the grand staircase. It
was I who polished the flour and the
stairs." Chicago News.
Advice to Lovelorn
By SKATmiOB 7 AIXTAX I
The (lrl Who I.oves a Married Man.
I Mar Miss Fairfax: My dear Iltllo sis
ter is get ling so talked of 1 lar shu will
hevtr live It down, hecuuso of a married
man who works where she dues, lliey go
and come together, waiting If one hap
pens to be lut, and even lunch together,
but shn always pays for her own. He
tells her how unliappy he Is with his
wife, and so fortn the same old story
1 have iooktd him up, and everyone has
words of praise for the wife; how she
works early and late to dress herself and
the children. 1 have heard that he tells
Ills wtftj lots of their talk, and laughs at
It, but alio raves about ptatunlu lrlend
ship and cheering a fellow worker.
Thanking you, i am. MAKY A. L.
Your poor, silly little sister is laying up
for herself unliapplness and disgrace un
less she gives up this absurd Infatua
tion fur a married man. No good ever
comes from such an affair, and In this
case tho chances are particularly poor
for her to come out with an unscathed
reputation. The fact that the man rid'
cules her and talks it over with his wife
proves that he thinks very lightly of the
girl who Is as lightly tossing her reputa
tion away for' nothing The world Is full
of scanduls that come when girls become
the sweetheaits of married men. Huch
a step always means disgrace. It fre
quently means death. The men your lit
tle sister wants to know will taunt and
despise her If she continues In tier foolish
Household Hints
Kettles may be thoroughly cleansed
by boiling a few potato peelings in them.
To clean French kid gloves draw them
on your hands and wash them in some
spirits of turpentine until olean, then
hang them where there is a current of
air, and the smell will disappear.
To keep steel bright dip a piece of rag
la a little oil, then In very fine ashes,
and rub the steel briskly with It after
ward; then polish with a clean cloth and
dry.
To clear glased tiles when spotted wash
them with lemon Juice, leave for a quar
ter of aa hour and then polish with a soft
cloth.
Itn Pay Homago
to Mother's Friend
course. She has nothing to gala and
everything to lose. Work unoeaslngly
to convince her of the horrible fate she
Is Inviting the death of reputation ani
happiness and of Innocent youthfulness.
This Mast Go to Coart.
Dear Miss Fairfax: In 106 I ran away
and was married. I was only 16; my hus
band whs only Is. A year later a son was
born. Then he ran away. The baby died,
and I have not lived with him slnee. I
had him arrested, and he only paid me
a oouple f months and ran away. Now,
I would like to know If I could have my
marriage annulled, aa you see I have not
seen hiin In five years. Can you tell, me
if I can secure my freedom under this
condition? IIEAHT-BKOKEN.
There Is a Legal Aid society In New
York for Just such cases as yours. Prob
ably if your parents or guardians will
appear In court and testify to your age
at the time of your marriage It can be
annulled. '
Uos't Talk Abset Otseora.
Dear Miss Fairfax: Do you think it
advisable to brag about the different men
that come up to your house and take you
nut, to a fellow you rare very much fort
1 don't like him to think that he Is the
only one I go out with, as I know that
he goes out with other girls. TEASE.
A girl who la really charming and at
tractive need not tell of her conquests
in order to have one man realise that
others like her- Do not talk to one roan
about others. In the first place, It dies
not Interest him; In the second, It ia not
in good taste, and In the third It la per
fectly obvious to him why you do it.
"I am not surprised to observe t'da
number of men who come Into the store
to purchase 'Mother's Friend,' " remarked
a leading druggist.
i The expectant mother If she hasn't
heard of this splendid embrocation la
' probably not reading the papers to much
1 extent And If aha does It Is a happy
thought te send hubby to the drug store.
"Mother s Friend" U applied external!
ever the abdominal muscles.
It la a gentle, soothing lubricant, pene
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I strain so often Involved during the period
M eipectstloa. Aad particularly to young
mothers la this remedial application of
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them to go through the ordeal without
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arnen tbls gentle attratl is Deflected.
"Mother's Friend" Is highly recom
mended by a host of women. Write
Jiradneld Regulator Co., tog leaner Bids.,
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iable UtUt byok tu expectant mothers, j
