THE BE&: OMAHA, TillTRSDAV, NOVEMBER 13, 1013.
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Tti Girl ill Lmt Willi
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a Carried' Man
The Gold Witch
Tho AdvontUros 6f a Goldeii'Hairod HoirossA Charmingly
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From tke Quiet of the Convent to; the First Perplexities of Life
By Stella Flores
By MiiMntOE Fairfax.
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Dear Mss Faxltttiave com tx you
for some of "our'EXjod advice -which -1
think wllf'iiel'pme great deal. 1 am a
l outi girl who -will be 17 In, a few months
and I am meeting a man wlio is eighteen
years my senior. Ho Is a Wrried man
and has 'two children; but he says he Is
going to ret a-separation from his wife
within a few" months. I lo'o him" deaxlv
and Know that' my .love- Is reciprocated,
and It would break my heart to give him
up. Do you' advise me to continue my
acquaintance wltlThlm? " BEUE BYES.
What a foolish letter, Blue Byes; what
a foolish, torching, ridiculous, pathetic
letter, to Bo sure.
In iove with a married man, and think
that you're going to bo happy?
It.wllLbreak your heart to give him up,
you, .say. Well, I doubt It. Perhaps it
will; but I doubt It
And even If your heart is broken: It's
. a kind, of break that is very easily
mended. But, oh,- the broken heart that
comes If you do not give him up that
can never, never in all the world be cured
again. -
Tou're 17 and the man Is S3; hs has
two children and he says he's going to
get a separation Just for you.
What about tho wife? What about tho
children? How can you care anything
for a man who will throw aside a, woman
who has borne him children, Just as If
she- was some poor, worn-out old shoe
. Just .because he happens to take a fanoy
to a Pretty, new face?
Do sou suppose you are the first, ono
this man has told that fairy tale, to?
Da you think for one minute that you
will be'the last one?
What is there about you so wonderful
. u.ai one-iooK inio your eyes cuum cuiumo
a decent mart into a cowardly sneak alt
of a sudden?
'"For- that Is what this man you're so
dead In love with Is a coward and n
sr.eak.
- You don't believe It of course not poor
little foolish thing you don't want to be
lieve It.
But some day you will some day you'll
come to It, and then
foro It ruins your -life?-
' I'll tell you how.'
"-Is there a- man In your family a
"brother, & father, or even' a brother-ln-
''laW? ' '
'' Well', then, you begin to talk about him
toHhls man you think Is so deed in love
wltit'you. Teirhlm' you want him to meet
your brothfcr. Tell him your brother
' loves' you and is proud of you and wants
to know every ono that you know.- Make
an engagement to Introduce the two men,
and'' watch 'your' romantic sweetheart
sneak. out of It, like the toward and -thief
ine he! is. '
Why. he'll turn white at the very men-
. tton of your brothers name, anu n won i
be two weeks till you see him making
(lqve to some Blrl. who has no man in
tlij family to project her.
, jFrjr It and see, Blue Eyes try It and see.
.'fomo day you'll shudder to remember
'how. cruel and selfish knd wicked and
foolish' you came so near to being.
Flnk LtKhta.
i.r Some- men prefer to be cheap than to
sell out at any price.
-There are conceited men who even brag
about the bigness of their troubles.
A, cheerful disposition also covers a mut
' tltude of faults.
Every layman sooner or Wtcr discovers
that the possession of a Stllson wrench
doe isn't make a plumber.
Neither do a hammer and saw make a
; carpenter.
Often the best way to do your own
work Is to have the other fellow do It.
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By KMjA WHEELER WILCOX.
Copyright, 1913, by Star Company.
. What are you dolng-1n the line of mak
ing a success of -yourself as a husband
and father?
Accumulating a fortune, perhaps,
But just how far
dops that go to
ward making a
satisfactory home
HfeT -.iv. - ,
In this material
age and plane of
existence, flris-n"
clal independence
Is necessary for a
foundation of a
home.
' ',Thra can" be llt-
tUC happlnessv" or
contentment - where
there is, worry over
debt, and where
;petty iccon'omles
idrlye ;OUt VverS'-
3mi5ulse toward' 'be'
But thTstalkMs-'ii
auty and growth.
not. meant for the men
-burdied"' with: .such 'ajjNl'eUes.
It Is meant for the myriads" of menln
comfortable homec, whose wives move
In cultured circles and whose children
attend good schools arid colleges.'
You who know that 'these1 words, apply
to you are on the witness stand. (Tomor
row your wives take the stand,)
Just what are you doing to make your
home life a success?
Are you giving any time to becoming
acquainted with your wlfo or children?
What do Vou know about your chil
dren's thqughts, and Ideaj, and' occupa
tions, aside from the report of teachers?
What do you really know about your
wife?
If you are leaving her to find pleasure
with her friends, providing her with a
motor car, and freedom to come and go
as she pleases, perhaps It might be well
for you to Investigate a little further.
.Motor cars and freedom some times
lead to "Joy riding" with men whose
occUpatlon lies In this line'. It Is all very
Innocerit at first: but famlltarity-.breeds
contempt of conventions; and the Wlfo
twhoso husband ts too busy to take a few'
I, 1. 1. . ,
season to accompany her on ht'r drives,
and' who feels he Is quite liberal' trid'
kind. In allowing her to take her car and
go where 'she chooses, some times lives
to flndhe is walking under the shadow
of an ugly scandal.
Are you giving -your wife an .Independent-purse
or' check book?
Or ar you making her ask for every
jcent ahe receive and expecting, her to
.accent fob It- afterward,?, . if, f
k No' woman can be happy umjer such
conditions. ; r ' r"
They -are the conditions of a slave.
Evry wife should have her 6Wn purse
for her personal uses for dress; for En
Live a Home
tertaining friends; for charities; however
small the sum agreed upon, she should
train herself to livo accordingly and she
should no more feel called upon to render
un'exact account of Its use than should
the husband to account for his dally ex
penditures. Many men of wealth are generous In
allowing their wives to run large bills;
to dress well; to entertain woll; to travel,
and buy - expensive things) yet theae
wives aro not allowed, to have a check
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Men jof this .type have produced the
suffragettes and militants.
The ropmcnt-.there is any haggling or
arguing over m6ney In a home love dies.
It cannot live In such a sordid atmos
phere., Aro Vou amiable ivjioh at home, and
do youriooly,for-thJbgs to praise jln your
amtly? Or aro you sifent abpu eyerf-
ining -wmcn pieases you, only mention
ing matters which are not satisfactory,?
mo you maxo tie arpe effurt to be
agreeable to your wife and children, that
ypu make to the' guests' you entertain?- 4
Or are your best manners all for the'
translerft comer?,
liave.GtKetoppd to.consIderHhat there
1h nothing opthls parth p(ane so Im
portant;. matting your home the "very
brightest a"ptP- liiost agreeable spot on
earth, andtlut by conserving! att; your
best hualltlerXof ibcTi a.Durtbs"you wuf
Jnsplre 'yob'f j1fe' and ' c,lil!ren ' with a
Do We Sufficiently
From EDWIN MAHKQAM.
"Young Working Girls," a vdlurr.e sent
out by the National Federation of Settle
ments, la Introduced by Jane Addams and
issued by Houghton Mifflin company, of
Boston. Many auestlonsre here opened
up from a practical point of S-iew:
"Women In particular have npt.only
had to meet the general moral uncer
tainty of the age; but, In, addition, have
had to face the serious moral problems
forced upon thm'.by the rttbrganl'tatlon
jof their sphere, ot. life through ita'Jnva-
slon by modern Industry.
. t"ChIef among, -such Is the pronounced
deficiency ahd' weakness ot family life.
The average work (ngi class home In the
city Is so physically Inadequate that It
automatically produces ill health, nervous
tension, and a dealre to escape', all of
which ara predisposing causes of moral
laxness. Even more serious Is the fact
that mothers and fathers often fall In
appreciation ot their larger responsibili
ties.
1 "industry, too, in requisitioning the
.young life of the nation to Its service,
and in failing to safeguard It properly
while so engaged, its at fault Young girls
are herded Jnto overcrowded. Inadequately
llghUd and badly ventilated workrooms
Witch," as he is called, because of
Indifferent.
On Being: a Success as a Husband Know
Wife and Children Make Place Where You
Don't Haggle Over Money
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desire for co-operation?
It Is not necessary for you to give all
your leisure time to your homo; you can
have your club life, and your outdoor
sports, and still bo king of "home circle."
When you are at home, be all' there;
In mind and heart and body.
Enter Inio whatever Interests your wife
and children; and let them enter into
your outside pleasures by talking about
them.
Husbands and wives may be very happy
with separate tasteai and- Interests oft
ttmf s, so long as they keep - olose In
heart and. do not show a bored or Jealous
spirit regarding these matters.
You may be devoted to gpjf and your
wife to' music, but you can take pleasure
In her j)leasure'ahd'she in yours if you'
know how to use tact, tho tact which'
cdmcs from unselfishness and love.
Is the hour when you reach home the
best hour, for your family or the worst?
. Do they anticipate your coming or
dread, it?
Is ..you conversation pleasant and en
tertaining and agreeable at the table?
Would your children seek you for n
confldont or would they hide their
troubles from you. fearing your lack of
sytppathy?
What sort of a husband and father do
"tyou think you are?
j And what Is the use of life anyhow If
you are not making every effort to suc
ceed In those Important roles?
Guard Young Girls?
and stores, made to assume taxing mus
cular positions, forced to spend their
strength beyond reason.
"The Intensity of desire with which the
adolescent girl craves pleasure, and the
conditions under which It is gratified,
are further potent causes for confusion
of standards. The working glri neces
sarily seeks her recreation in the evening
and thus unduly prolongs the hours dur
ing which strain Is placed on muscles and
nerves; contracts bad emotional habits,
and weakens body and spirit alike.
"The widespread commercialization o(
every form of recreation, and Its trans
ference from the restraints and guar
dianship of the home and neighborhood
(to that no-man's land which In every
city Is devoted to commercialized plea
sure resorts, further emphasize the evil
results of Ineffective home life and
badly organised Industry.
"The purveyors of recreation exhaust
all means of awakening the desire for
tbelr warest'and the young girl naturally
craves a share In the profusion ot plea
sure which ste see's everywhere on sale;
and, as such participation only too often
calls for the more ample resources of
some man. the way Is opened for moral
compromise. "
(Hut in her Tirs experience, tyhen
disconcertingly interesting, and
Seven Deadly Mistakes of
No. 5 For Husbands and Wives Not to
By DOHOTIIY DIX.
Tho fifth deadly mistake of matrimony
: . .
For husbands and wives not to be com
panionable. Outside of the
countries in which
women are shut up
in harems, there is
no placo where
husbands and wives
have so little In
common as in
America.
And America
leads the world In
divorces,
In this country It
Is hardly too much
to say that trie
separation of hus
band and wlfo be
gins on their wed
ding day. He goes
one way. She goes
another. He ab
sorbs himself in
business . Bhe absorbs herself In her
housekeeping or society, or her clubs.
He entertains his friends, as a general
thing, downtown, and she doesn't even
know the names of his masculine cronies.
She gives hen parties to women that he
docs not know by sight. Each has a life
distinct and separate from the other.
You "will see the Englishman and his
wife playing golf together, or riding to
hounds together, or tramping together in
long walks over the country. You will
see the thrifty French bourgeois and his
wife keeping the store together during
the week, and thrn off together on Sun
day on some little excursion, or to make
a little feast. You will see the German
and his wife spending their evenings to
gether, happily and placidly, In some
German beer garden, but the American
husband and wife nearly always take
their pleasure singly.
It ts a distinctively American Joke In
which, when a man says that he is going
to Paris, his friend asks him:
"Are you going to take your wife along
with you?"
"Why, no," exclaimed the man In sur
prise, "of course not. Didn't I tell you
I was going on a pleasure trip?"
One of the main reasons why marriage
Is a failure. Is because both husband and
wife are bored stiff. The atmosphere ol
the average home Is as heavy as lead,
and the conversational range better fitted
for the Inmates of a feeble minded Insti
tution than for Intelligent and cultivated
men and women.
It Is literally true that unlets a couple
have children they have nothing what
ever to talk - about, no subjeot In which
they are mutually Interested, and so they
sit up and yawn In each other's faces,
and take to quarreling as a kind of life
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changing, late at night, to n crowded sleeper, she finds it la soraetltnes
well, Hot at all cold. A young man with nice ejes gave wp hla berth to her
saving station to prevent them from per
liiilng of ennut.
This seems an exaggeration, but Just
note the domestlo conversation- at any
breakfast table you know. Isn't It about
Johnnie's new shoes, or Mary's going to"
school? Then about the cat? Then about
ths servant? Then a request for money?
And when there are -no children therepec-.
tolre is cut down by one topic- Thrill..
Ingly interesting, madly exciting, Isn't
It?
Yet, what else Have ths husband and
wife to say to each other? What else
have they got in common except the chil
dren, and the pug dog, and the cook, and
the household expenses? Nothing. .The
husband's work ' necessarily takes him
Into an environment of which his wife
can know nothing, and when he Isn't at
work he goes off with other men to enjoy
himself, for It Is not the custom for
American men and women to play to
gether. To give us due credit, we have blun
dered Into this state ot affairs through
blindly following the line of least reals
ance. Men have taken their pleasures
In the way they liked best. So have
women, and It must be confessed- the
Ideal of a good time differs In the sexes.
There are a very few American' women
who really enjoy athletic sports, white
the average American married man only
attains, through fasting and prayer, to
the pinnacle where he can endure teas
and receptions with an expression that
Indicates Joy.
Nevertheless, It a husband and wife
mean to make a success of their lite to
gether they must learn to play together,
for there are no ties stronger than those
that bind us to the comrades of our
happy hours, no society so dear as tht
wh)ch we can fill In with a succession ot
"Do you remembers?"
That this Is true needs no better proof
than the fact that we never question the
domestlo felicity ot that couple that we
sea setting out on their holidaying to-
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Matrimony
Be Companionable
gether. When we observe the Smiths
packing their camp kit for a run down to
Florida for tarpon fishing, or meet the
Jonses at a suffrage. meeting, we know
that all ,1s well In those two households.
' But when we hear that Mrs. Smith haa
had 'forty new dresses made for Palm
'Keach,. arid', that Mr. Smith haa gone to-
Montreal i tor the tobogganing, or we meet
Mrs. Jones at a -hen club-and Mr. Jeae
at; a poker club", we -aren't la the least
surprised, when, we pick" up the paper
some morning and read that these cou
ples, who didn't know how ts play to
gether anyway, have decided to break
away from each" other and try playing la
somebody ease's .backyard.
The moral of all "this Is that If hus
bands -and. wlrfi would be happy though
married, they must cultivate an latereet
in each other's pursuits. They must
have friends- In common,7 "atnueementa in
commoni hobbles In common,- Ad espe
cially , they should not be kllljWs for
each .other. The woman whose narrow
prejudice and bosslness forces, .Iter hus
band gives his stag parties at his club In
stead of in his home, or' the man who
never goes out to a party '"witH' his wife
without looking like an arl Shtrstlan
martyr and being sogrumpyv that ha
destroys all of her pleasures., ihave laid
the axe at the root of their family happi
ness. For it is the beginning of the" end when
either husband or wife finds out that he.
or she, can have a better tlmewhen the
other one is absent. The only really
married people are those who nVr truly
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