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About Omaha daily bee. (Omaha [Neb.]) 187?-1922 | View Entire Issue (March 14, 1912)
THE BEE: OilAIIA. THURSDAY. MARCH 14, 1912. 11 f e SILK HAT HARRY'S DIVORCE SUIT His Honor Remembers Faces Well Copyright. 1M National New Asea. Drawn for The Bee by Tad mvji-jome ) , uo.y Liv pouc u v-v .y v-- ry .Qfrii . . i r Some of the Trifles in Marriages that Go Toward Making Tragedies By VIRGIMA TERHVKE VAJf DE WATEIt The tiny rift in th lute, th poet tell os, will make th music mute. And the teemingly tiny lift In th peace ot mar ried life . will change the harmony of hone Into Jangling, discord. Then be nri of the seemingly-little breaks! 'The small things In marriage, and home-making are what wear me out." exclaimed a housewife. "I can atand komethlnt that la-bis enough to lay huld on, bat the trlflea cet on my nerves." , She voiced a common experience one that le ao universal that the heart Aches.ln thinking of It- Somehow when the big 'crUea eotne., moat people bring to l4r upon them all their strength of character and win out." or die-and that la the. end of the rat .trouble. But with the trlflea, especially In mar i Uge. one flnda that the laat atraw breal the back of one' patience. The woman who could forgive a wrong of which her hueband repented would find heiseir out of temper with hlra It he forgot to wipe hi feet before .he came Into the hone from the muddy street. Were he ill, ahe could do all klnda of thing for him, but ahe I Irritated be yond, relief when he leave hie cigar ashes and "old aoldlera" In the drawing room for her to throw away. The noise that he make when he alp hi eoup. hi way of putting the wet end of hi Mustache la ihla mouth after taking liquid, exasperate her to the verge of madnets. At least eh think they do when ahe let heraelf eoiulder them. Tfcot I where the mistsk cornea, In letting; one' self consider them. .And that 1 where women make their fatal error. Their life, their training In the little duties of the home, which are quite Important after all, had taught them to notice detail, to place great significance upon them. And the woman, whose duty it is, to see that every bit of sliver Is properly polished, who most be careful to notlc whether or not the rungs of the chair are dusted, who I responsible for the unrepaired tip In the family wardrobe and must plan for the use of very;' particle . ot food In th cupboard, 'cannot fall to place too much stress on smalt nutters. It require heroic ef fort on her part to get away from the tyrrany of trifle. But If she would be a happy wife ah must do It. When the husband drink his coffee with a round that I neither pleasant nor appetizing sbe cannot help hearing It. but fhe can help speaking of It then and there. That Is where her wisdom should manifest Itself In waiting for the right time to apeak of thlnga. For the right time will come, th time when the Irian is not tired, or In a hurry, or cross. Then she may suggest tactfully and Kintly that there to a little habit that he ha acquired, and that ahe (eel It only fair to mention It to him. as she Woujd .want hm lo mention to her any unfortunate trick of manner of which she wa unconscious, but which an noyed him. Then she may tell him of the disagreeable habit he baa formed. Me may take It gently; he may laugh, and say It la her Imagination; or he may even be vexed and recent It. Bot ahe will have done her best. and. In any case, the man will probably remember th ug. gestion sb has made and break himself of the habit In question. If only to prov to his wife that he hasn't got It. If be doe not, then let the wife pay no more attention to It. After all. she is nut responsible for bl bad manners,, al-th,,ugh-poor soul-eho (eel that she I. We women, need to look at thlnga to tlioir right perspective.- I hare said this to often that I fear my reader will think that 1 am a bit "touched" on that subject. Perhaps. I am. At all events, I fel and believe that much of our happiness or misery depend opon our aeeme things In the proper propor U ,ns- A young wife told me of a quarrel with t.cr husband that ended to bitterness ad misery for both, "And it all began with such a little thing," she confessed. "Don't laugh at me when I tell you that what started It all was because Ned would smoke In th tathroom every morning when he went In for hi bath. I dislike th smell of smoke before breakfast. I told him so and for several days he stopped, then started again, lighting his cigar In there eacb morning." "And what did you dor' I asked. I spoke of It and he remembered just one day, and then smoked again in there. Ton see he had done It ever since he took his first cigar in his college days, for his mother did not mind It. But I hate It." "And the ir' I queried, Interested. , "And the-., when I spok to him mer about It and told him that If he loved me be would do a I asked him. and that wade him angry, and from that Urn on we began to quarrel. Oh, life and mar riage are not a bit what I thought when I wa engaged they were going to be." She (topped and looked at me curi ously. "You," she said, "hav such queer and unoonventlonal view and theories about marriage I wonder what you would hav done." I did not wish to advance my "queer views," aa ahe termed, them, unless urged, so I only ' smiled and held my r ; nimsicai u Dservauons ' -i eye doctor cannot eurv egotism. - Icelanders, w presume, are people . ., i .Te. is better to mend your waya than to .r.u your luck. he only man w can ataad hot-air :: n Is the Janitor. t doesn't take a fast man long to ver- t misfortune. It U not flattering to find that a man w'.-.o does nothing baa done you. The trouble with the airship Is that It is o apt to bs out of Its element. The man who quarrel with hi bread and fcurtee ts r.kely to nave a scrawl newL;-satea TraucrUt. Please,", aha begged, tH me what you would hav done if you had been t. and married to Ned who will amok In th bath room every morning. I am un happy, and I want another person' Idea on th subject." And then I spok th truth. 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"But suppose be took his bath before you took your every day," she urged, "and smoked the bath room up so that when you entered an hour later It gave you th qualm and nausea r' "Then," I (aid, "I alo hop that I would have arisen five minute earlier than wa my habit, or as soon aa he had vacated th bath room, and opened the window long enough for the room to be well aired before I went In I. myself, returning meanwhile to my comfortable bed until th desired Mat of freshnesa In the room wa reached. That would have been a simple solution of th prob lem." "But It would hav been such a nuis ance to do their she protested, but with signs of yielding In fact and voice. "Not nearly a much of a aulsano." I reminded her, "a quarreling and heart ache are , Child, don't you see that It is all a matter of proper perspective and proportion?" ' ; And I wondered If. when she wa first married, her of proportion had been right, ah and Ned might not today be as happy aa they once expected to be 7 The Coquette Copyright, UU, National New By Nell Brinkley sasmasflaastaaaassaal la"1 r i T'L Sue holds up a "phony bear! for poor litUe Daa to shoot' at whilo fbe claspa ber owa loving heart safe ia be bosom, Failure to Provide Against Want in Old Age as Dishonest as Purse Stealing, Bjr DOHOTHV D1X Th other day, In this city, a man com mitted suicide because be had lost his Job. he was out of money, and had passed that dead line In life after which a man flnda It practically Impoeslble to get a good new sllustlon In bust A sad rase, truly. but In thl par ticular incident th pal hoe Ilea In th tragedy wa wholly unnecessary, nd that th man brought bl mlf for tunes on hi own head by hi own lack of providence. For thl man waa not on of thoe plteou one who are forced to work tor a little wage. and wke atrlv a I hey may, can never do mer than keep th wolf a lew Inch away from their door. He had been tor many year a travel ing salesman for a big concern, and had drawn a tarta salary, enough. If bs had used even reasonable economy, to have provided luxuriously for hi old age. and ts hav mad him Independent of em ployera. Instead of looking ut, however, for a rainy day he and hi wife had occupied aa expensive apartment In a faehlonabla street; they dress; d handsomely; they entertained lavishly, and Indulged them eelvea In (very amusement they fancied. They lived up to th last cent of their Income, and when the Irtcom suddenly stopped they found themselves pauper. and were plunged In uch despair that th man killed himeslf rather than endure It I wonder how many hundred of thou sands of people who read the newspaper account of this suicide saw In it the hand writing on th wall for themselves, and who will b warned by ltf How many other married couple are spending every cent they make, and who would be left In a similar plight as this man and hi wlf war, If solas teturday night the husband should get th blue envelop that told him that hi service wore no longer needed T It I appalling te think of the) number of people who sport with such dissster for the sake of gratifying .their vanity or their tov of pleasure. The woman like clothe and th man lovea drink; they both lev th theater, and they want lo go with people who are better off than they are, and so they live up to the last cent of their Income and generally a lit tle beyond lu They shut their eyes to the future. They refua to consider the haxarda of buslnes. They Ignore the cer tainty of ag and sickness. Hut the catastrophlrs of life come to them, aa they com to other, and be cause tbey hav not hd the prudence and th foresight to prepare for them, they are annihilated. The Improvident always flatter themselves that they ax th darling of th gods, and that some miracle will be worked by which they will be preserved from misfortune, but It never happens- Tbey reap aa they sow. and they go down Into the deepest slough of poverty and dependence. I confess that 1 have scant sympathy for th waster and the apeader who come to went through their own ex travagence. It seem lo m nothing short of dishonesty for people not to provide for their old age, or for sickness, or for lack of employment, site If tbey are not able to supply their own needs, somebody els ha to do It for them. Old ag I not an accident thai may op may not befall one. It I a certainty. Illness la not a chance. It Is also a aura thing. No man la so stupid as not to know that In thl day of strenuous competition every year put an added handicap upon him and Increases hi chance of losing hla lob. Ala be know that employers. Justly or unjustly, hsv fixed a definite ag limit for employee, and that after a man has croeetd that fatal boundary th day of fat aalarle are over for him, and he I lucky If b I nut turned out Ilk an old work bora to sUrve. Old age, sickness, th uncertainty at being able to get a new iltuatloa ehould h lose th old one after he le H or at year old, the are the fact that con front every man who works aa a salary. On would think that they were grim enough to make th most brainiest Idiot on earth stop and aak himself what la to become of htm If be doe not lay up something In the summer time of hla IK for that winter that ia bound ts soma to him, as It doe to every other bumaa be ing. But ther are multitude of men that go blithely along, spending every cent that they mike, and then when disaster overtake them somebody els has ts support them and their Wa are for ever being called upon to chip la and bury some good fellow who should have a tack of government bonds, but who baa died without a penny to hla name, or to contribute to the rapport of hi widow who has been accustomed to spend tort thousand a year and is left without M oents; or te- pay for th hospital ex penses of com man whose cJgara bar cost half aa much aa our living, or ta tak car or a bunch of poor relative) who hav lived up to a fortune. These people, who could hav provided for themselves it tbey hadn't been too self-indulgent to do so, ar just as much robber a If they put their hands In our pocket and stole our purses. They hav no right to our hard earned money, the fruit of our labor and self-denial, and Instead of regarding them with pity tbey should bs held up a subject of acom and contempt. The man and woman who ar living up to every cent of their Income, do well to consider this case of th man who committed euicUIe because he had penb everything he made as he went along and had nothing with which to face th rainy da)-. Their hour of misfortune will also come, and then their fata will depend on whether they hav aom money In bank or not. The difference between a happy, Inde pendent old age, or one of miserable sycophantic hanging on to other and aa acceptance of grudgingly given ajma, de pends on how much you have saved out of your Income. Costly Veils and Vestments i When, early In Kit, the baby Lord Jdilton. th heir to an Income of S1.SW.0M a year 4f rumor speaks true was chris tened, among other Infantile habilmenta the heir of th Fltxwllliam wss wrapped In a veil, or scarf, which belonged to William the Conqueror. It was given by him as a speck-a of Guillaume cross to an ancestor of the family for conspicuous bravery at the battle of Hastings. Every male member of the house is In turn wrapped In the famous veil. The charming custom of using th bridal veil of th child' mother, ao frequently adopted In distinguished families. Is not followed in thl family, saving perhaps ia tb case of baby girl who flsst see th light at the largest pilvate residence In the kingdom, Wentworth Wooihouse, near Rotherham. Yorkshire, where a large number of the Fltxwllliam acre lli.3 acre ta number ar situated. . When Mia Shonts married the Due do Chaulne early la IM. the veil she wore, and waa almost lost in. of Brussels pulnf d'algullle. wa worn In the first place by Princes Stephanie, daughter o' th late king of th Belgiana, cn the oc casloa of ber marriag to tb Crown Prince Rudolph of Austria. To be mar ried In a royal veil Is a distinction that doe not often fall ts the lot of a com moner., for the simple but sufftcent rea son that it la very unusual tor the same to leave the possession of their original owners, saving in the ease of presentation, to the church. When, a few years ago. Colonel Noye died suddenly on his honeymoon, his grief-stricken widow sent her bridal robes to the nuns of St. Katharine's convent. Bloomsbury, to be converted Into an altar frontal for tb Church of St. John'a. Norwich. For, many month tour skilled embroiderers were engaged on the work, and in due course they evolved from th materials sent a magnificent frontal 8 feet in length and 4 feet in depth, th design InctudtnK a number of furores th features of Colonel Noyes, whose anna and motto were also Included In th scheme. Mrs. Noye Is not the only widow who har presenteu her wedd.n, drea to th church to be converted Into vestment. She had a very illustrious precedent la the Empress Eugenie, who had ar wed ding robes converted Into white vest ments, which ar used on the occasion of . the great festivals at the Church and ' Abbey of St Michael, Fam borough. Th piety of the empress baa also caused her to embroider a fine chasuble of red wa tered itlk for the same order of brothers, wbiie the magnificent purple vestments they sometimes don originally formed iha famous pall which covered the late em peror's coffln. . , '."'. f - ' 5-