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About Omaha daily bee. (Omaha [Neb.]) 187?-1922 | View Entire Issue (May 21, 1905)
cyxQYr '1; 551 ra Jk iA' T.s1 . n !! I i i Sisa"4 P'-, mad, I'l.KldiVM.W has compiled a tahlcof the pre- I vailing motives for marriage which might well f I mike the marrying maiden pause and con j I slder. His list Includes all'tho things forgot ten and unforeseen In the wondering " Why else?" of Parthenla, when 'lngomar questions her: "Then do you tell me that no maiden In your country marries except for love?" This clergyman, who, for reasons bearing upon the di vorce question, tias made a sociological study of -the (ims tkn. baa had wide opportunities for observation. Ho has been In a position for many years to marry over a hundred couples a year, lie has hnd charge of n fashionable flock, from which he could study the conventional side of marriage. At the same time he Is situated near enough the downtown district to catch the bohetnlan element, the people from the theaters, and the matrimonially Inclined flotsam that drifts upon the midnight currents of large cities.' Before this he was located In Hermuda, whtwe dark eyed aeflorltas are hedged about by a municipal marriage code which Is the strictest ln the world and where divorce Is unknown. In the Interval he officiated In a part of the far west, In which mar riage and love are equally haphazard. The record of the marriages he has solemnized classifies them as to the probable motive In each case In so far as it has been apparent or suggested. In the marriage of con venience he Includes the alliances mads through the matri monial Inireaus and newspaper advertisements, and all' such as are based solely upon some mutual occupation or upon the desire of a man for n housekeeper or nurse for his chil dren or upon, the need of a woman for a support and also those of the home. This class of marrlag he points out are ilmost entirely by the mkldle aged. Phases of the Ideal Marriage. The ideal marriage, to which he apportions only ." per cent of the couples, he conceives of as having the following l'l:l ses : First A spiritual ntllnily. Second A conviction of lifelong loyalty. Third The selection of a home. Fourth Parenthood. Fifth A regard for the third generation. With more optimism he places fifteen out of every lm marriages as having the " grande passion " as the romp, Uing power on both sides. At this point he shows that It Is also the controlling spirit of 40 per cent of the men who marry and that the desire to be loved and the love of a home of her own nre the feminine substitutes in most of the remain ing 2"i per cent. At this point, also, the table resolves Itself Into motiv,s which possess the two sexes differently and which can only be regarded from a masculine and feminine standpoint. Thus there are two lists head,-d by a half dozen motives, which are artlke In both sexes, ami ending with exceptional reasons for marriage, which are usually peculiar, and In most casi a possible only to women. J Why Men and Women Wed. The two lists he divides as follows: MEN. Ideal marriage Marriage of convenience For money or Influenced by money Influence of friends Ulrpie and disappointment I.ove nf domesticity The grand e passion Sense of chivalry or pressure from relative of girl to whom h has been attentive 1.1. II. 1... 10. epldi r ....111 . . . .10 mic ii . . . .10 ....15 VJ MUM K N. The Ideal marriage The marriage of convenience For money ami brilliant position ... Influence of friend and marriage In own set. . Pique and disappointment Longing for a home of her own The gratul'e passion The desire to be loved Desire for a change from the monotony of life. .1 Pressure from mother and family m To get away from working for money il To acquire freedom to do as she phases J Capitulates to persistent wooing , '' To reform the man 1 Fear of being an old maid 1 llerause she ha.s been taught that it Is tin thing to do 'J . J Weds for Artistic Effect. The Incidents of which this clergyman Is reminded by the data. In his table htc even more convincing than his estimate. One pretty Canadian French girl was of the last type men tioned. She apparently considered the mun she was marry ing as the least part of the affair, while to planning the de tails and the effect of her wedding she had devoted the greater part of her life. She finally decided to have the cere mony, which was In June, at a quarter to ." In the morning. She studied the effects of the light as It fell through the church windows until she found that exactly at thJs minute the sun came in at an angle through the high roof so as to envelop her In a flood of golden light as she stood before the altar. The effect was artistic and beautiful, but there was every cvideni-e that on the girl's part the ceremony was but till' climax of the prettily FinUmental Ideas of her wedding day. which she had dreamed over for years. This clergyman, who regards many of his marriages from a humorous point of view, tells of a recent easv In which his bell was rung at 12 o'clock Saturday night ufti r lie had gone to lied. " My housekeeper came and woke me up." ho said, "with the explanation that the call was urgent. 'Tell him to get out, I won't be bothered at this time of night.' I answered. ' I wouldn't get a wink of sleep until morning.' It did not hove any effect, however, as the fellow lugged so hard that in a moment she was back. "'Well, send the idiot up.' and up he came two steps at a time, with the result that 1 found his license was dated two months Kick. " ' Look here, young man, what docs this mean?' I asked. ' Can't you Hnd any more convenient time to get married when you've had this lying around for two months?" '""Well, the truth Is I hat wo were ready before, but we quarrel, d. and now after all tills time I have Just got her per suaded again ami she says she will go with me tonight. There is a train at l!:.' and I am afraid If I let her go this time ' 1 married him" then and there, though 1 had to get my wife and my housekeeper both up as witnesses. This cjise 1 put down to persistent wooing on the part of the man, which Is a subdivision which does not have us many entries as for tnorly." Refuses to Take a Dare. Another motive wluch the compiler of this table has not put down seriously, but which he declares If It were known Is all the reason then" is for some of the marriages the re fusal to take a dare. A young woman came to him for advice about obtaining a divorce. She had been married to the young man for three mouths and had never lived with him, not hav ing left her father's house. Why did you marry him?" from the minister brought out the Invariable reiteration from the bride that " sho did not know." It turned out, however, that It was a St. Joe marriage, planned on the boat, with the fact that their friends hud dared them to take the step seemed to be the only compelling motive. "These marriages." sold the minister) " can't 'be digiwtleil with a motive on the part of the girl, but are solely the result of young girls not being properly taken care of. Another girl came to no lately with a story which he had told for the first time. She had been married three months before secretly, hav ing staid at home since with the exceptron of a few occasional nl.s, lie, s In which she had been with her husband when her tnoilnr supposed she was visiting friend. Cue day. not long ago. sin discovered that he had Just married somelody else. On the other hand. 1 married n young couple whose friends on both sides had evidently made the lunitch. They went Into A little flat n nd the rel.il.1ves on both sides were constantly at me to be sure to call upon tin in, but bofore I could get there 1 heard that tin y were divorced. Reasons for Marriage Changed. " The reasons for marriage have uinb rgone a great change In liie thirty yiars in which 1 have hem In the min istry. Those governing women have bcvoine more complex, and the wot Idly point of iew from w hich a constantly In creasing number of both sexes view matrimony throws mora and more of the weight of desirability upon the woman's side. Wonu n working as wage earners Is a new factor which lias entered Into the causes. While this condition has saved many Women from marriug for a home, there are numhern of girls who are working for small wages who grow to haito the grind an.l contact with commercial life and who Jump u. the chance of matrimony to get away from it. 1 refused to marry one case in which It accidentally came to my .ars thai the girl had remarked: 'Well. I don't care anything about him. but 1 am going to marry Win to get a. rest ami tin n I'll h ave him and go back to work.' line of the. causes which used to figure frequently was that of marrying a man to reform him. Now It Is more tn. The saerillce of oneself upon the altar Horn inn . s or pique is a custom also which is dropping Into dls- .' Ii pule. "Another motive on the part of men which will hardly nwage one in a hundred Is tin- chivalry which allows them to be drawn into marriage against their will, while tMs was nol an uncommon occtirrmee twenty years ago. Tile num ber of men. aj.su. w ho do not marry unless there ih enough in. ney on the girl's side to make It a prudent ootisidc, ra'tiou at, also constantly Increasing." .A,:: y KwYiNX n esse: MJ- -.-.in I..I-.......IT 1 iii i I rWiTTT, ial .Ear nil -mi ' .hi i Mini .i i n .p. i HUXtAN GYROSCOPE. CLEVER BULL. KNOTTED FLAG. CYCLING EE A T. PIN UP THE STARS. 4 tit' - This trained bull, which Is owned at Grand Itapids. Mich., will climb the steps to the platform, and then mount a tub turntd'bot tom side up a must unusual feat for a bull to perform. Visitors to any of the big seaports may iften have seen a vessel flying a Hag with a knot tied In one corner of it. It is not gen erally known that tills sign is used to at tract the customs' officer, w ho knws when he sees It that the vessel wishes to ship or con sume a quantity of bondtd stores I. e : to bacco, spirits, etc. ids presence being neces sary to break the seal before such stores may be consumed. UNDER SIDE. TROUT BEING HATCHED I ROM EGGS. The appetite of the Parisian public for dangerous spectacles never seems to be satis fled. The latest " attraction " Is the " gyro scope." In which a bicyclist travels round the Inner side of moving track or wheel. IN SIVEDEN. V (V'-v. i 'if i i i 4 The lower surface of the brain louks like this. mr f TAKING OPEN AIR TREATMENT IN A CITY FLAT. Stick six pine Into the stars In the diagram below, so that no two pins appear In the same stright line. TENNYSON S. 7 i !P I ""S This was Tennyon'B favorite signature CANADIAN LOG TRAIN. Hy means of this bed-tent sufferers from tuberculosis who are too poor to go away car take the fresh air treatment at home. The patient, whose knees are drawn up under the bed oovers, has his head under the tent. Fresh air pours into the tent from open window FLIRTS WITH EYES. The enormous pouches of the ncw.y hutched Huh enable them to acquire the nutrition they lived. II., rntiH nrtwtiiira fin Ills wtiel A ml ttipn drops to the ground without injuring the cycle. BABY CZAROVlT:S FIRST TOY. OLDEST BELFRY. Now here In the world has the telephone be come so a bsolutely a pari of dally life as in Sweden. . , i ll King t is 11 s kingdom can boaht of being bei it r pii.vul. d with t U piiones than any other country. A strlklnj; leaturo is the tMrect ti l. pin, i- pavilions, which are In great iiumln r. They are to be fmind ln every thoroughfare, close to every restaurant, cab stand and thrutir. mid they open automat ically bi; dropping: a coin Into a slot. . IV The ciarimi has Just presented her little son with his first toys, a couple of little man Ikins possessing the properties of th multiplying eggs and the nests of boxes long fa miliar to American children, one of tries,- figures represents a Russian peasant woman of the middle ilk-,- and it contains seven others. The companion Is similar In construe Hon, but is made in the semblance of a man. .''aT'V The oliN st belfry In America Is the sVf-n century old Mr tre. fight f'et thick, that I ' o ins the tpnv of St. Piter's church, Tu. t I - - e'e. .. . , 3 4-. V .... r-'-..'"3W V- Vt...lV,,1f5.' :::Mm n .. 1 I i no rtrau itt'tiuiy mij ui ih wii n in r yK ft 8 A typlrul train vf northwestern Canada. The timber Industry Ih gruwiiitf rupnJIy skillfully an In r Spanish tnu.in of (jrunuda in Cunad.t. aiid Kt ville ioiilu Im with hir luvt t nllt lng lun.l