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About Omaha daily bee. (Omaha [Neb.]) 187?-1922 | View Entire Issue (Oct. 4, 1903)
r The 1 Omaha Bee. PART III. ! PAGES 21 TO 30. Sunday i:STATLISIIi:n JUNE 19, 1871. OMAHA, SUNDAY MOKNINO, OCTOBEK 4, PI MILK COPY riVK CENTS. Mark the Date oooo Omaha, Oct. 1 to 10, Inclusive THE KNIGHTS of AK BEN Parades and - Carnival C fYX TC Open every day (except Sunday) from Vai lAiV,aA 10 a. m. to 12 p. m. 30 Refined Attractions. 4 Big Free Shows- Grand Mercantile Display. Fun Every Minute You are on the Grounds. MM Automobile Flower Parade, Oct. 7. Grand Electrical Pageant, Oct. 8, 30 Bonds, 150 Horsemen, the Greatest FREE Display Ever Seen Anywhere. COURT BALL, OCTOBER 9. Tickets on sale One fare for the round trin within 200 mil&s of Omaha. Oct 2, 5, 6, 7 and 8, good for return October 12. BRING YOUR FAMILY WITH YOU-AMPLE ACCOMMODATIONS. nnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnDn'nnDnDDDDDDDDDDDD BLAMES ALL ON THE WOMAN One Man Who Doesn't Agree with Mr, r Belle Aldrich. VAIN, FRIVOLOUS AND WHOLLY SELFISH Ilasnands Toll to Provide Hon( and Comforts (or Wives nnd Receive Indifference and Deceit In Return. PAWNER CTTT. Neb., Sept .-To the Editor of The Bee: Mr.. Belle Aldrich take, a very roseate vtaw of women, espe cially married women of this day and feneration. I tin 45 years old, have been married almost twenty years and from my personal experience and observation I can ay that of the married unhapplneas the woman Is to blame In nine rases out of ten. I have found that the a vera re woman Is thoughtless, selfish, self-indulgent, in considerate and cruel. Host women with any pretensions to looks and hope for ad miration (that bane and ruin of so many bright lives) think more of a picture hat than a southern politician thinks of a nomination fur some coveted office, and that is as strong a comparison as I can make. I hare found, thanks to the all Merciful God, some exception to tlibt rule I have known a few women so pure, so lovely, that the very presence of one In a roomful of women talking about hatti. dress and lover would so clear and elevate the moral atmosphere that the subjects even would change and more nnjila thoughts take possession of the shallow minds that before she ram In were given up to the contemplation and ' discussion of vanity. My mother and my aunt were both noble, unselilHh women, who worked hard, un complainingly; loving their husbands, father and children devotedly. They never called working for their loved ones drudgery, as you do, and their husbands and fathers repaid them with love, respect and ad miration, and their children think of them now with a tear in the oldest and most world-hardened eye. They left plaoea In the world that could not be tilled and 1 pray every day that I may be helped to leud such a life as will lit me In some measure to meet them In the hereafter. Woman. Whisky aad Divorce. A certain clergyman, a bitter enemy of alcohol In every form, recently started out to gather facta from the rocordj of the divorce court that would prove his ps.-t theory that W r cent of the divorces granted were traceable to alcoholic excesses on th part of the men. lie tuck 1U0 cases from April 1, 1S0J, tried In a district court In New York state. He found that nine divorces were traceable to alcohol and liar, cot Irs and that five of those guilty ones were Wumfu He found that tlxty-threo divorce were directly traceable to extrava gance and to per cent of those were caused by the extravagance' of the woman. He wrote his article confessing that the dram shop was not so dangerous to home bappl. nss as the millinery or dressmaking es tablishment. T Hunk that our kindest, most Indulgent Judge are our mothers and our hardest, bitterest critics are our wlvea A great writer once said: "No man could be con ceited If he only knew the private opinion or ma wire regarding him." All the great wruers or this d every age were ared about women: This saying shall forever stand. Vtuoiaa, Ui vows aie writ oa saaA, "Marriage Is woman's opportunity and man's tragedy." "I have lived many years and known many women, yet never knew I one woman." I could quote volumes In the same sad strain. Shakespeare, David, Solomon, St. Paul, Byron, Bacon, all the great minds rf the ages, say the same. St. Paul advises that "It Is better to marry than to long for marriage, but bet ter' not to marry." I have quoted this "freely" for obvious reasons. I knew hun dreds of faithful hard-working men who admired, loved and respected their wives, and who were repaid for their devotion by indifference, If not contempt. Chapter of Personal Experience. I belonged to a little whist club a few winters ago, made up of four couples rang ing In age from 25 to 45, all the men earn ng fair to fine salaries, good providers, affec tionate husbands, kind fathera We met once a month at each other's houses; we played cards, then danced a little and ended the evening by a little supper. One night we tired of dancing and some one proposed round games. We played several different ones and then one propoaed "Truth." Each man was to write his pri vate opinion of his wife and put It In a hat unsigned, the women to do the same of their husbands and place them In another hat. A woman took the hat containing the men's efforts. The first read: "My wife, i the angel of my home, tho lovely reward for toll, the sweet companion of my life." I The next us follows: "How did an 'ornory I cuss like me ever get such a treasure as I married?". The third was In the samo strain and so were all. Everyone was an j honest, beautiful thought of an idolised ( companion. The women's contributions were as follows. First: "My husband Is Just as stingy as he can be;" the second: "Well, there la no use ever faying anything. My husband is not like all the men;" the third: "How I wish my husband was like other men, but ho is so odd, expects to be always tirst In my thoughts, never to be too tired to smile on htm, to prefer to dance with him than any other man. In fact, he is a nuisance with his love and devotion." All were the same. No. one ex perienced a kindly thought of the mail who gave his life of rest and independence up to toil to supply them with a home and comforts. A hush fell, a depression, on the com pany, and one woman said: "Girls, I think we have acted pretty mean. I-et'a all go homo." This was the lust meeting of our club. Traveling; Man's Troable. I know well a gentlonian who lives next to a childless couple. He is a traveling man,, is out eight weeks and then home 1 two week. When he I expected home his wife waits his coming on the front porch, and as he comes around the corner runs like a fawn to meet him. He always his two grips and she tries to tuke b th and always gels one, so that "Darling, hard working, unselllsh husband shall not bs tired as long aa wide Is at hand to help." (These were her own words.) They come to the house, enter snd never during his two weeks' stay do they go out except lit each other's company. They walk, drive, ! car-ride together, go to the theater, sup afterward In an exclusive expensive res- taurant, visit together and In fact appear the moat devoted couple on earth. ' A year ago last August my friend was lying In a hammock on his porcn, screened fro in observation by a net work of vine from the neighboring plaza, when the couple came out; he waa Just leaving fur tils two months' trip. She said: "Darling, you failed one day to wiite ran on your last trip and I worried all day and did nut sleep a win at night and my Bil low next morning waa so wet you oould wring it I keep your dear letter next my heart until a new one comes to replace It, and then I put the old one away and put the new one In that warm, soft place. I read and reread .very letter fifty times a day. Now, dear, to punish you for your neglect, you must write two letters every Sunday, one In the morning and one Just before you go to bed." The poor fellow was moved even to tears and the lost view my friend bad of him as he went up the street, a heavy grip In each hand, he waa trying to wipe his eyes on the sleeve of his coat and carry the grip, too. As he turned the corner the woman commenced to dance and said: "Now, th. son-of-a-gun Is gone. Now I will have a good time." Every woman seems eaten up by pride and ambition. She wants her husband to be some official In the lower walks of lite, a policeman or a militia officer; In the higher, a Judge, etc. If the poor man can add each year to his Income and lavishes It all on her, she Is pretty well contented, but let reverses come, her contentment vanishes, frowns take the place of smiles, her husband Is a failure and therefore not to be loved and admired any further. He Is "N. G." and she wiBhea she had mar. rled "Tom Brown," who Is now a rising lawyer, la on the council and making worlds of money selling franchises to cor porations. That her husband is faithful, kind, loving, good to the children, counts for naught; even the fact ihat his mis fortunes were brought about by her ex travagance cuts no figure. Well, I have aald enough, too much, per haps. No one can admire, revere and lov. a good, pure, noble woman more than T, but they are rarely met and tho world Is full of vain, selfish flippant females who do not know that their actions Inspire con tempt even If they do attract attention. ONE OF THE SUFFERERS. INSURING THE APPENDIX Favorite of the surgeon's Knife an Object of Insurance Solicitude. Insurance against appendicitis has been undertaken by the Royal Exchange Assur ance company of England, which will issue policies at the rate of tl.ffi a year for every Xutf). The bolder Is guaranteed all th. med ical, surgical and nurtlng expenses up to the amount insured. In commenting upon this lmpo.lt lc policy, .Lancet wonders how the applicant can answer the question, "Have you or any of your family ever suffered trom appendicitis or from any of the symptoms iiertclnlng to it?" What Is meant by "family," and la a pain In the belly a symptom of this disease only? Moreover, has tho patient the requisite medical knowledge either of himself or his family to give a discriminating answer? The Insurance company's leaflet Bays that during 19o0 16.000 operations were performed in the United Kingdom for appendlclt'a. Were there so many In the whole world? The company estimates that about one In 400 per annum will be attacked by the dis ease. But would the rate be the same in the United States, with its appendiceal be liefs, ss In conservative England? And then how about all tho other ailments and accidents which may happen to one? There are a Uiousaud ways in which one may be sick or die. Should the prudent muu not secure a policy for each one of them? This would In time result In a distinct form of monomania, a niorbophobta which might bo called Insurance disease. Could the com panies devise a policy for tbeae emitted onaaT AjBerlcan Medicine. WOMEN AT ST. LOUIS FAIR 8cope ud Character of the Work Under taken bj Board of Managers. SPHERE OF ACTIVITY MUCH RESTRICTED Pars. Strings Held by th. Kaposi. Mom Company and th. National Commission Refusal t. Pus th. Hat for Pwnds. If the scope and character of th. par ticipation by women in the universal ex position at St Louis In 11)04 were deter mined by the law under which the Board of Lady Managers waa created; write. Mrs, James L. Blair, president Board of Lady Manager. In th. - Criterion, there would be little to be said on the subject. Fortunately such Is not th. fact. I am glad to avail myself of this opportunity to inform the public that the work of woman at the fair, though somewhat seriously affected by th. act creating the board, will be by no means eliminated. In order that the situation may be under stood, I deem it advisable to give, in some detail, the facts relating to the creation and powers of the board. The board came Into existence by virtue of th. provisions of section t of the act of congress of March 3, 1901, whereby the Louisiana Purchase Exposition commission Is "Authorised to appoint a Board of Lady Managers of such number and to perforin such duties as may be prescribed by said commission, subject, however, to the ap proval of said company. Said Board of Lady Managers may. In the discretion of said commission and corporation, appoint one member of all committees authorized to award prizes for such exhibits as may have been produced In whole or In part by femU labor." From this It will be seen that the only power distinctly conferred upon th. board waa that of appointing a juror on the com mittees of award, as above stated, and this waa only to be done "In the discretion of the commission and the company." No appropriation was made for the use of the board, nor did congress seem to think the subject was of enough consequence to de serve further consideration. Restrictions Imposed. When th. national commission and the local company came to frame rules and regulations for the conduct of the affair ' of the board, they Kerned to take much tha same view. These rules and rtigulu- 1 tions touch upon five points only, and may j be summarised as follows: ) riMl Tk. t,,. .vl .l.ntl - ) the members of the committee on awards, as set forth In the art of congrouK., Second The board shall exercise general supervisory control of such features of the exposition aa may be specially devoted to woman's work. Third The board shall participate In such ceremonies as th. comDanv and tha com. mluulnn muw r.n n..l ' Fourth The board may adopt such rules and regulation, for Its own organisation and the conduct of Hs affairs as it may deem necessary. Fifth Under no circumstance. sluUI the board Incur any expense wit-bout the ex press authority of the exposition company and I he national commission. These powers, all of which are to be exercised subject to the approval of the commission and the company, embrace the satire sphere of activity permit ud to the board, and it will readily be seen that this sphere Is so contracted as to prac tically eliminate participation by the board, at least In the preparatory work of the exposition. The national commission, during the year 1901 and th. early part of 1902, fixed the number of th. board at twenty-one; appointments were made by several mem bers of th. commission of twenty-four members In all, with tha understanding that when the number shall, by resigna tion or otherwise, be reduced, no appoint ments can be made In excess of twenty one members. At Its first session the board unanimously agreed to perform whatever duties might be asslgnod to. It without compensation, the commission and th. company having mad. provision for th. expenses of the members and mileage to and from places of meeting whenever engaged In official duty. Organisation Effected. The members appointed met for organiza tion In September, 1902, pursuant to a call of the commission. Prior to that time they had been at all times ready and anxious to enter upon their duties, but the commission, in Its wisdom, deferred the call for the first meeting until the date last named. ' An organisation waa effected, rules and regulations adopted, and under th. stimulus of many suggestions muda to the various members of tho board by the national commissioners, ta the effect; thut the functions of the board should be I va.'led and Important, the members were I inspired with enthusiasm and became do- j riroua of throwing themselves, heart and soul. Into the work of preparation for tha great exposition. It was early determined that it would not be advisable to have any separate building In the exposition for tho exclusive exhibition of women's work. It being conceded on all hands that It waa far more consistent with the dig nity of women exhibitors that their work should be in competition with that of men. It was also determine!, at an early stage, tlirtt there oiiR-ht to be a building of some kind distinctively set apart for the use of women s a club house or a place of gen eral rendezvous during the periad of the fair, and thut this building should be of a permanent character, to-be used subse quently for some purpose which would be bc-th commemorative of the great event celebrated by the exposition and of the part taken therein by women. Various suggestions were mado, but the plan Into wlilch they all finally crystallized waa that which contemplated a building adapted for temporary use during the exposition, ns above Bugsyuted, but planned to be per manent and suitable for a museum to con tain models and appliances Illustrating tho present state and development of the science of philanthropy; an endowment was alrto contemplated such as' would muln tnin this permanent museum for all time lit such fashion as to constitute a perma nent Institution for the dissemination of all the facta and literature relating to philan thropic science, the theory of Its founda tion being similar to that of the Muse. Social In Paris.. Thus, for Illustration, models of Jails, poor houses. Insane syslums and other eleemosynary institutions, with all modern Inventions of science, for tho alleviation of human Buffering and the care and cure of physical, mental and moral derelicts were to be maintained, to gether with all reltted literature, so that from It should radiate, through ail lands and through all axes, the most advanced knowledge along all linos of applied philan thropy, emphasising the great truth that h. hlgnest acl levcnient of human ethlea Is "man's humanity to man." The city of fit. Louis had, by ordinance, set aside portion of Forest park (within the limits of the exposition) for tho per manent location of this institution by th. nam. of th. "JJall of Philanthropy." The subject was first presented by the Board of Lady Managers to th. national commis sion, with request that they submit it to the congress of th. United States as a most proper subject for a national ap proprlatlon, because of tts educational value along lines of the highest national character. This th. commission declined to do. The matter was then suggested to the ! Exposition company, but It was thought by I Its management that the utmost limit of , appropriation which could be made for I such purpose waa 150,000, and that only upon condition that an additional sum of $150,000 be provided by the Board of Lady , Managers for the completion and endow j ment of the Institution. Feeling that It ' was no part of Its function or province to ' enKag. In the solicitation of funds for this ! or any other purpose, the board was re- grctfully obliged to abandon the matter altogether. There can be no doubt that this result Is moat unfortunate. The time 1 was moat propitious; the subject one which appealed to all persons pf high thinking, , Its value along the contemplated lines not j only to the people of the United States, ' but the world at large would have been Incalculable. The unique character of the institution waa such that it would have added a distinctive value to tho fair as an educational factor of supremo importance. Up to the present time the bourd has, by putting itself In touch with the various organizations of women throughout the country, brought directly to their attention the importance and valuo of the participa tion of women, both In organized bodies and aa individuals In the great educational work of wht'h this exposition la to bo the Instrumentality. Already much work of this character lias been accomplished. Pre ceding the exposition the various commit tees of the board, together with auxiliary committees to be appointed by them In the various states, will undoubtedly perform a valuublo work In the way of exploitation. During tho period of the exposition mem bers of the board will be in attendance from opening to the close, and will doubt less participate In all Important ceremonial functions. It Is Important that the public should understand that, except for the appoint ment of one member on each commiuve of awards, aa provided by law, the board has no patronage whatever at Its dli.poi.al, nor is it in a position to make recom mendations for appointments to the com pany. Woman's Uolliliaic. The company ha set apurt, for the ex clusive use of women during the exposition one of the building ,of tha Washington university group, a substantial atone struc ture of umplo dimensions. This building will bo used in various ways, not yet fully determined, for the accommodation of women's organizations and for congresses. In addition, the UoSrd of I.uuy Managers has a handsome office, in the Administra tion building, where its business will be transacted before and during the expo sition. Notwithstanding the exclusion of the board from the formative and executive work of the enterprise, its members are profoundly interested in, and will con tribute largely to Its success. Tl.ey na turally feel the unwisdom of a policy so narrow aa to ignore so valuable an adjunct us the board could have been made If equlpied wit It adequate pow ers and given a share in the rlo.i work of this great enterprise. In view of the advanced and progressive position of women In the mod ern world, all thoughtful persons lecognlze the shortsightedness of a plan which ex clude so iiotuut a factor from th. ma chinery of Its organisation. But th. woman of this board entertain no fcenllment of personal pique; though disappointed, their feeling is one of regret only that they hav. been denied greater opportunities for use fulness. Every one of them reUUes th. importance of the event as a tttlng oc casion for women to exhibit to the world the record of her prodigious progress. Looking backward to the benighted period, when her sphere In society was truly stated In the old couplet to be: To eat strawberries sugnx and cream. Sit on a cushion and sew up In a seam. W. can congratulate ourselves upon th. attainment of a status characterized by th. dignity of noble achievement. In the broader view, which Ignores the Idea of competition between the sexes nnd places woman as a roclal unit In competition with every other social unit, we may well re joice at this splendid chance for a new summing-up of her work In every field of human endeavor. No woman need fear th. result. As In the past, so at this vast con course of the people of the earth. It will b. found that In all that makes for the useful. the good and the beautiful, woman has vin dicated her right to social and Intellectual freedom and contributed her full share to the progress of civilization and the up lifting of mankind. PRATTLE OK THE YOl.NGSTKR . "What la the difference between one yard and two fards?" asked the teacher. "A fence," promptly replied the boy at the pedal extremity of the Juvenile class. "Rainwater." said the teacher, "is always aoft. Is It not?" "Not always." replied the bright scholar. "Sometimes it's soft, but very often It comes down hard. "But don't you want to go to heaven?" asked the Sunday school teacher, shocked and grieved. "Nope." said the bad boy of the class. "There won't le nobody there but women and preachers." Mamma What la the matter, children? What are you crying for? Little Clara Oh, mamma, Tve dot such a pnln in my 'tumach! Mamma That's too bud. And what's the mutter with you, Hobby? Small Bobby Nothing; only you didn't hear Clara at first, so I Just pitched In and helped her cry. President K. A. Alderman of Tulane unl vevsity tcll.i how one of his acquaintance hud suffered a shock from a precocious 4-) ear-old son's untimely remark. The man waa one day telling another child of hs of the evils of tolacco and that he mtiyt never contract the smoking habit. "lint didn't you tit-gin to smoke when you wi re little?" asked the boy. The father of the family waa a llttli nettled at this, and before hs thought that his language was not such as he ought lo be using before his son he blurted out: "Hut I waa a darned fool then." About a week after, at the midday meal, when a couple of business men had come In with his father, little 4-year-old David was seated at one corner of the table In n Mgit chair next to liU mother. Somehow the conversation turned to cigars and smok ing in general, and the paterf tmlllna said: "That was the cigar I liked when I was a boy." The young hopeful of the family thought it waa time for him to Join the conversation then, for he shot bin ipnon in the sir and cried to his failnr: "Hut, i.u k' w you was a darned fool then."