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A SUPPLEMENT TO THE DAILY NEBRASKAN
TUESDAY, FEBRUARY 7,1934
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Wedding traditions. Breaking a wine
glass. Kissing the brida Sharing com
munion. "
Tradition creeps into ceremonies but
"the traditional' Jewish, Protestant or
Catholic wedding now is nearly extinct.
Couples arrange ceremonies based on
traditions that have meaning to them.
Rabbi Ian Jacknis, from the TLfereth
Israel Synagogue, said the Jewish wed
ding ceremony "takes normal evcry
day things and puts it cn a higher
level" He said weddings sanctify a rela
tionship and are away of saying'You're
special to me,"
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Jewish couples can base their wed
ding celebrations cn services from the
Orthodox, Conservative cr Reform
movements. These three branches of
Jadiasm vary in their ties to tradition.
Elements in the Orthodox tradition
based on superstition or the business
aspect of marriage are absent from
most Reform marrie.je ceremonies. :
The rabbi, who recent! moved to
Lincoln from New York, said many
couples have tradition-based weddings
because they think "It's a custom, it
should be done." Some think there's -something
wrong with them if they
dent follow the customs.
There is rrom for originality, though.
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Many couplc3 involve their families
and friends in the service, he said.
Sometimes they read scripture or sing.
Hebrew music is normally sung, but
Jackals said the theme from Tuoisie
was used in one wedding. :
Jscknissaid contemporary weddings
depend on how innovative the couple
is and what the rabbi allows.
"The rabbi may say 'Don't mess
around with this part, " Jacknis said.
Judaism borrows customs from non
Jewish traditions, he said. One such
tradition is the ring and its "formula, a
wedding vow. Jewish women tradition
ally have received wedding bands and
formulas" but now they also give them
to their husbands.
When giving the ring, men tradition
ally 2". "You are hereby consecrated
unto me with this ring in accordance
with the law of Moses and the faith of
Israel"
Sometimes women say thb phrase,
but many quote a passage from the
Song of Solomon: "I am to my husband
and my beloved is mine."
One traditional aspect of the Jewish
wedding is the feat after the ceremony.
Jacknis said they are very popular in
large Jewish communities.
People dance, blow horns and juggle.
Sometimes the crowd sets the bride
and groom in chair and dances while
holding them in the air.
Huge family parties with rock bands
or music are popular alter Christian
weddings, said the Rev. Dr. William
Deahl minister at Grace United Meth
odist Church.
The pastor said these get-togethers '
are most popular in rural communi-
ties where couples tend to have large
support structures. Sometimes 200 to
500 people attend. - : - ; . -:
Deahl said the city weddings he's
performed are "fairly small" Most peo
ple are 17 to 33 years old when they
marry. If they attend UNL, they proba
bly will go home for their service.
Most of the wedding ceremonies
" Deahl hai performed at Grace United
Methodist are "transient weddings," he
said. He said people will walk in and
want a wedding done in t wo days. They
come to the church because "that's
where weddings are done, not neces
sarily out of a commitment" to the
church, he said. .
Deahl said the United Methodist
Book of Discipline requires ministers
to hold sessions with the couple before
they are married
"Usually, by the time anybody comes
in, there's very little that a minister can
do to change the decision," Deahl said.
Meeting with the couple does give
the minister a chance to make the ser
vice "as friendly as you can get it."
Family members sometimes sing or
read scriptures, prayers or poems.
Younger relatives become ring bearers
or flower girls.
"I'm not sure if there is a typical
marriage service," Deahl said.
Music is an clement that makes
weddings different Deahl said there
are two varieties. The first, basic style
includes classical music sometimes
played by professional musicians.
Modern music is the second variety.
Deahl said one couple he married used
Country-Western music in their ser
vice. Writing your own wedding vows also
makes a service distinctive, Deahl said.
Some people are concerned about sex
ist language and are sensitive to the
language of traditional vows. However,
the minister said, he's seeing less inno
vation in this area.
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