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4l On The Interfering Husband. A Indy writes: I would like to sny n word or two about the husband who goes beyond his sphere; mnny murrled Indies will know him too well, lie nmy be cnlletl "the interfering hus bnnd," the one who will poke his nose into household and domestic mutters AMilrh in no way concern him. tin 1h n kind of lrenernl wulklm: r- "X . V. .. . twvcyciopeum on an mnucrs connected with housework; thinks nothing of in structing his wife as to how sho should perform her duties; he frequently goes the length of lecturing tho "general" on the most trivial points of house wifery. No true wife cares for a hus band going about the kitchen; in fact, it is no plnco for a man. Vet the kitchen Is a kind of happy hunting ground for the Interfering husbnnd. lie drops In of an afternoon why on earth is the tioor not scrubbed yet 7 lie demands an explanation and is told that the "missus" said It wasn't to be scrubbed that day. . This won't do for tho Interfering man, however, lie hunts out his wife and Informs her that the kitchen looks like an old clothes shop. Can she not keep his house In a cleanly state? Is he to pay for a servnnt standing about doing nothing when she might be well employed scrubbing floors? And so ho goes on. Such a man Is more than a nuisance, he Is an Infliction, and the household over which he presides Is rarely a hap py one; It cannot be when the man goes on lllce this. But tho same Individual won't only meddle with household affairs; he will also dictate concerning the children, nnd this no true mother will tolerate. Suppose the month of May comes in and Is raw and cold. Have the chil dren stopped wearing their winter flannels? No? Well, they must must do so at once. So orders the Interfer ing husband, heedless of the fact that the mother ought to be the Judge as to when children should put off or on certain articles of clothing. And thus ho dictates, always Interfering with the wife's duties. Naturally trouble Is ever to the fore: it could not be otherwise. Suppose bucIi a man gives his wife a certain um monthly as a private allowance. Why, It isn't private at all; she really lias to account for every penny spent, and a woman of spirit will not meek ly stand this sort of thing long; open rupture follows almost as a matter of course. I wonder If the interfering man Is aware of the fact that he Is known all over his neighborhood as such? If there happens to be a serv ant In the house It won't be kept dark; nil his little peculiarities will be dis cussed with Mary next door, and Mary, if she happens to be on free terms with her mistress, will not hesitate to speak of "that man" up the street, mentioning a few facts concerning him. Her mistress will. If she be of tho average female type, most cer tainly hint to some of the ladles of the neighborhood about Mr. So-und-ho and his goings on, and thus his name is handled about till he Is well known In his real colors half a dozen streets away. The Interfering husbnnd, however, takes up other duties. For instance, lie act as a kind of censor over his wife's f: lends and acquaintances; he lays down the law as to who shall or shall not visit tho house, and. in very truth, his wlfo Is sorely tied down. The interfering husband, in short, ,1s a wife's sorest trial. A woman cannot respect n man like that. Hut then lie Is no man, and the woman who has such a husband deserves our pity. Knoxvllle Sentinel. A Gentlewoman. Never Indulges In Ill-natured gossip. Never forgets the respects due to nge. ' Thinks of others before she thinks cf herself. Does not mensnre her civility by poeplo's bank nccounts. Docs not forget engagements, prom ises or obligations of any kind. Is never argumentative or contra dictory in conversation. Never makes fun or ridicules the idlosyneraeles of others. Docs not bore people by talking constantly of herself nnd her affairs. ( Is always ns ngreenble to her social Inferiors ns her equnls nnd superiors. Hns not two sets of mnnners one for "coinpnny" nnd one for homo use. Will never nttrnct attention by loud tnlk or laughter or show her egotism my monopolizing the conservation. New York American. How Society l)iBCOiiraeB Matrimony. "One Is sometimes led to speculate upon the very apparent subsidence of the sentimental relationship of the sexes In our age," snys Mrs. Burton Harrison In Everybody's Mngnzlne. "Certnln Jt Is Unit the young man who dnres not, nnd the girl who cares not, to achieve matrimony, are n frequent 'spectaclo. In tho man's ense, who lean blnme him, acquainted as he gen erally Is with the stress of money getting, and Informed on every side of tho c.vpectnUons nnd tho necessities of n wife Mu society?' As for tho girl, It Is tho hnblt of well-to-do Amer ican parents so to equip nnd prepare their daughters for life among tho highest: they so commonly provide her with luxuries unknown to their own youth, with suites of rooms, maids, horses, vehicles of her own; they carry her so much abroad that sho cannot And herself tempted to give up this ease and variety for tho humdrum es tate of marriage nnd n husband who must dally work down town. Such n stnte of things seems nbnormul, but Is not unusual. And while I am qulto unprepared to accept. II. B. Marriott Watson's declaration In the Nineteenth Century, that the American woman Is anarchial; that she is undermining tho sociological foundations of the state I think In this matter of wanting to remain single because she Is better off than If married, there Is n mennco of grave Import to the nation." 4 inions of Great Papers on important Subjects. p r-v w a ui y" In artificially fed children the bot tles should be boiled dally, and tho tubes and other rubber pnrts should be soaked for one hour, in water con taining 1!.") per cent of pure gycerlne. Oil stoves should be banished from the nursery. They foul tho air to such an extent as to render them unfit for use in any room not provided with a free current from open door to open window, or ventilator. Watch the babe's position; should be rest with face downward or repeat edly bend the thighs on the abdomen there is some intestinal disorder. It Is a bad sign for the child when lying on his side to have the head greatly drawn back. When In this position, and the breathing Is hoarse something ails the throat. If the breathing is normal the mischief is In the brain. When your babe Is asleep watch his face. If the eyelids are not perfectly closed suspect weakness. If you see a furrow passing from either side of the nose round the mouth there Is prob ably something the matter with stom ach or Intestines. A furrow from either mouth corner, passing outward, may Indicate something wrong with the throat or lungs. None of these signs is conclusive; but they are In finitely valuable In causing the careful parent to investigate the state of the child's health. What Noted Men I rave Written. If woman lost us Paradise, she alone can restore it. J. C!. Whittier. What Is woman? Only one of na ture's agreeable blunders. Bulwer. AH women are good good for some thing, or good for nothing. Cervantes. A curious fact Satan deprived Job of everything except his wife. Ob server. A beautiful woman is the only tyrant man is not authorized to re sist. Victor Hugo. Unhappy is the man to whom his own mother has not made all other mothers venerable. Rich tor. They say man was created first. Well, suppose he was ain't first ex periments always failure? Anon. Tho best thing 1 know ov is a fust rate wife. And the next best thing is a second rate one. Josh Billings. A innn never so beautifully shows his own strength as when he respects a woman's weakness. Douglas Jer rold. A beautiful woman is a practical poem, planting tenderness, hope and eloquence In all whom she approaches. Emerson. One can-, to almost a lnughnblo ex tent, Infer what a man's wife Is like from his opinion about women In gen eral. A. It. II. They govern the world, these sweet voiced women, because beauty and hnrmony are tho index of a larger fact than wisdom. 0. W. Holmes. A good book and a good woman are excellent things for those who know how to appreciate their value. There are men, however, who Judge of boUi by the beauty of the covering. Dr. Johnson. Ago of Retirement. WE live rapidly In the telephonic nge. It has been truthfully said that we cun crowd much more work Into the day than our most Industrious forbears did. invention hns given us many hands. Time and space have been conquered, so Unit the modern man of 00 has accomplished Infinitely more than tho man who lived to the patriarchal age, and, from this point of view, has earned the rest which his grnnd futlvor would not have dreamed of enjoying at threescore. Whether this be so or not, many of the finest achieve ments In business, statesmanship, literature, In all ac tivities, have been wrought by men long pust (10. No strong man will accept 00 as the arbitrary limit of his ambi tion and working ability. Writers who have discoursed most knowingly on the nbligution of the aged to leave the active sccno have not Undertaken to tlx the year for retirement. The youth who Is anxious to push his way Into the working world thinks Hint a man Is old at '10 and should be preparing to go on Ihe retired list. In the tierce competitions of modern life it Is probnble that the age of retirement is gradually fall ing. The theory Is worth the Investigation of the curious Matistieinn. Asked when he considered a man to bo In the prime of life, Pahnerston replied: "Seventy-nine, but as 3 have entered my eighty-third year, perhaps 1 am myself It little past It." Such Is the view of old men on this deli cate subject. Many men retire too early, and, like the old wnr horse, yearn for the march and the battle. Tho habit of work holds us to the accustomed cares and tasks. This ex plains why the great lawyer or the multi-millionaire mer chant remains at his post long after his prime. The powers of men whose lives hnve been very active are llkoly to de cline rapidly in retirement, the result of Idleness and ennui. "Nothing is so injurious ns unoccupied time. The hu man heart is like a millstone; If you put whent under It, it grinds the wheat Into flour; If you put no wheat It grinds on. but then 'tis itself it wears away." Philadelphia Ledger. constantly apt to attribute a state of things to one pnn tlcular condition or mischance, which, sooner or later, must have happened from some Inherent weakness and opennesi to attack. It may bo noted that, where men thomsclvoi attribute III success or mischance to separate distinct miff takes as, for Instance, to the choice of a certain adviser) or tho engaging In some special speculation those who have to observe them trace all to character. They see that If failure had not come at such a Juncture, It must hnv come at some other from certain llnws In the man's n.i ture Hint mistakes simply murk occasions when ho wat teste'd. We see In a career a hundred chances thrown away and wasted, not all from accident, though the actor, looking back, doos not know why he chose the wrong h being the lust to remember. thnt n crisis Is the occnsloq for hidden faults and predominating Influences to declnn themselves, so that his mistakes were, In a manner, lncv Itnble. William Mnthews, In Success. T.Ufe a Bargain "Well, anyway," ho said, during their little spat, "when I proposed to you you took me promptly enough." "Yes," she replied, "I was only a woman and you did look so cheap." Philadelphia Ledger. Mistakes in Life. ONE of the most unprofitable ways of spending time is the practice, to which many persons are ad dicted, of brooding over the mistakes one has made in life, and thinking what he might have been or achieved if he had not done, at certain times, Just whut he did do. Almost every unsuccessful man, in looking over his past career, is inclined to think Unit It would have been who'lly different but for certain slips nnd blunders certain hasty, Ill-considered acts Into which he was betrayed al most unconsciously nnd without n suspicion of their conse quences. As he thinks of nil the good things of this world honor, position, power nnd influence of which he hns been de prived in some mysterious, inexplicable, way, he haH no patience with himself; and, ns it Is painful and humlllutlng to dwell long upon one's own follies, it is fortunate If he does not Implicnte others friends and relatives In his disappointments. Perhaps, us education has never been free from mistakes mistakes, Indeed, of every kind he Imputes the blame to his curly training, in which habits of thoroughness and accuracy, or, again, of self-reliance nnd independence of thought, may ucjfcuvc been Implanted. Perhaps a calling was chosen for him ny his parents, with out regard to his peculiar talents or tastes nnd preferences; or, if lie was allowed to choose for himself, it was when his Judgment was Immnture nnd unlit for the responsibility. The result was that the square man got Into the round hole, or the triangular, man Into the square hole, or Un round mun squeezed himself Into the triangiilur hole. Now, tiie fact is that, In nil these mishaps, there is nothing exceptional. They are just what befall all. or In part every man who is born in a civilized country. No circumstances under which any mun has been born and fitted for a career have been entirely happy. . . . lu view of these considerations, it hns been Justly said thnt to see a man, poker lu luind. on a wet day. dashing at the coals, and moodily counting the world's mistakes against b.m. Is neither h dignified nor engaging spectacle; and our tyrnpnthy flags with the growing conviction thnt people nre On the Use of tho Imagination, IN a prnctlcnl ago tho imagination Is apt to get less than Its due. Wo want nnked facts, or we think we do, ami Im aginative people, Insist upon clothing them lu gay ap parel; consequently whenever we lose sight of a fuel wo suspect the Imagination of having run off with It, and raise tho hue and cry with a flue indignation against tin deceiver. Yet. to the art of living, as to every subordinate art, Imagination is the one Indispensable quality. Foi lack of it wo fall not merely in sympathy nnd courtesy, In toleration, in nil the minor graces, but even In actual truthfulness of thought and demeanor. So far Is It from reality to consider Imagination as the enemy of fnct, thai without It no fact can be properly apprehended, much lesi shared with our neighbors. The greatest fact of social llf Is the fact that we ore nil different, and It follows from this that without the power to picture a different mind from our own we are incapable of communicating tho simplest feeling. ... If you define Imagination as tX facility of seeing whut Is not there, you may take away its character without contradiction; but this Is the perversa description of statisticians; the poet that lives In ouch ot us knows better. . . . And if we como down to tin amenities, the small chnngc of life, the imagination cnlls to us ccnselcsflly for employment. Formnl courtesies nra baso money, passed about among stupid people only until they nre found out; the courtesies that will stand every test, and pass current In nil emergencies, must, be tlij fruits of a genuine traffic between mind and mind, In which every Interest Is active and every want Is taken Into account. And this can only he got by sending tin Imagination on Its travels for us. London (Juurdlun. The Chief Language. WITH the Increasing Intercourse of the nations the old question of a universal language cornea up ut least In tho German mind affording a topic of discussion. The tendency toward a common tongue Is nnd has been for years most strongly marked by the spread of the English language. Mulliall's statistics of a dozen years old (being the latest available) show the spread of languages for the first ninety years of! the last century. At the beginning of (lie century tho languages of Europe were spoken by 101,000,000 people. In 1800 they were spoken by -101,000,000, an Increase of! nearly 100 per cent. The four principal languages In 1801, were French, Russian, (icrmnn nnd Spanish. The French amounted to ISM per cent nnd the Spanish to Ili.'J. Eng llsh-spenkiug peoples amounted to only li!.7. But In I8.rU the standing was: English, 27.7 per cent; Russian and Ciormnn, each 18.7 per cent; French, l'J.7 percent; Spanish, 10.7 per cent, nnd the remainder divided between Italian nnd Portuguese, Tiie number or English-speaking people had grown from ItO.o'JO.OOO to 111,100,000, CJornuin and Russlnn-spenklng peoJ pie from about tlO.OOO.OOO to 7n.000.000 each, nnd French spenklng people from tU.'inO.OOO to filJOO.OOO. The English language had risen from fifth to first place, and was spoken by at least 50 per cent more people than any other European tongue. Of the Increase of about 1)1, 000,000 English-speaking people, about 70,000.000 were lri the United States. Indianapolis News. 5 -J- f--525- -I- -Sl--I- -5 -I--J--J -5- 5--J -J I EXPLORING TIIE NIGER. f -h-:--:--j--:--ji--i..j.-:Hj' In connection with certain French Military maneuvers In the Sudan the question was raised not long ago of tlj tmicUcability of rcvlctuullng mi urinj n the region south of t lie Suhuru by nouns of the Niger. Theorists disa greed. Lieutenant Hourst, who hud tome down the river, said it could not it done. Captain Ton tee, who hud gone up, suid it could. There wus but no way to settle tho dispute. Cap tain Lcnfnnt wus ordered to tnke ten thousand boxes of provisions and two thousand of equipment to the mouth of tho Niger, loud tho material Into bateaux, deliver sev enty tons of supplies on tho bunk nt Nlniue. whence It would be borne over laud to Colonel Pcroz at Luke Tchad, and with tho remainder to revictual all posts along tho river from Sny to As ongo, the latter about two thousand miles up nnd above the lust Important rapid. For this tremendous task Captain Lcfant was assigned two lieutenants and about forty negroes, but was ublo to liiro natives at necessary points en route. Ho wus required to fortify u base of operations nt Arenberg. What the Intrepid soldier undertook when, with twenty bateaux, ho begun the ascent of tho river, can best bo un derstood when one renllzes thnt the Niger for a thousand miles fulls over rapid after rapid. Its waters nre torn to seas of foam by innumerable rocks, and the channel is often lost among dividing Islands. Many of these rap ids are in dee)) gorges, and in some of them the river falls one hundred limes us rapidly us the Mississippi In Its usual How. Starting up stream at low water, when tin; rapids nre nt their worst, Cuptnin Lenfant urged his bouts for wurd witli ours nnd sails nnd setting poll's, (lidded by negroes who proved themselves trustworthy, competent, nnd at times even heroic, and aided by numbers of friendly blacks pulling on long tow lines, lie conquered tho ob stacles without uu accident. All the way up he sounded, chnrted nnd'photo grnphed the dangerous places, and made u report which would enable an army to follow where ho hud gone. At Arenberg he divided his stores, nnd having unsigned his white nids their tusks, went on against the rising flood to Ninme, put tho seventy tons ashore, and then, with his chart to guide him, shot the rapids down stream to his baso. At the falls of Patassl, where his colored guide, Lnnclne, took the boats through In turn, they were carried seventy-three hundred feet In three minutes and twenty seconds, nnd accomplished In a few hours what had tuken a month In ascending. On the second trip Captain Lcnfunt was seriously 111; but although there was a hospital only u few hours down stream, and tho nearest up-stream doctor was sixty days ahead, he fought off the fever and accomplished his mission. On his route and in a canoe trip oil the upper river he collected a muss oj valuable Information, charting tin floods and examining soils nnd crops, He visited cities thnt were populout three centuries ago, and are Just recov eriug from the prostration which fol lowed when tiie sluve trnde swepl away their people. He found them Sny, C'uoCuo, and many others eugei for commerce with the outside world How h Cliinuiiiuu MiiUoh Popovers. Tho value of a recipe lies partly in Its being accurately set down nnd fol lowed. Here nre the directions foi making a breakfast delicacy called popovers, us they were imparted by the Chinese servant to u lndy visiting In the family: "Von tukee him one egg," said tin muster of the kitchen, "one lit' cun milk; you flxeo him one cup Hon' op slove, tnke plnchce suit you not pul him in lump. You move him egg lit? bit slow, you put him milk in, all tim movee. You make him flou' go In, nol moveo fast, so have no spots. Makei but'led pan all same wa'm, not too hot. Putleo him In oven. Now yon mind you bllsness. No llkeo wormu run look at him nil time. Him done at samco tlmo biscuit." Literally Truo. "Why, she told mo sho had n goo Job In a enndy store." "So she did, but she literally ate net head off," "How. was that?" "She ato bo much candy the bost fired her." Philadelphia Press.